Social services due to partner

[Bluesmum98]

I have social services involved due to my partner I also have had anxiety I saw my midwife today and she said I would need to be in the hospital longer as I'm under social services I'm petrified they will take baby as way from me it's my worst fear does what one have any experience with them

@iwishitwassummer tbh I think your aggressive and negative attitude is not wanted here . I'm 8 months pregnant and don't really need to hear someone say they think my child should be taken away from me . I have left the relationship and won't be returning , but how dare you think your input is either wanted or even valid I would NEVER say that to anyone disgusting

If you work with ss and do what they need to see then you won’t lose your baby. Have you ended your relationship with him?

Yes iv been very pro active with them . I have even enrolled myself in a freedom course for domestic violence and asked for help with them putting me in touch with organsizations that can help me all without being promted to do so :

Op, it sounds like you have cooperated well. If you are no longer with him or having contact then you have done your bit, you have safeguarded your child.

What is making you worried? They don't just take babies for fun or on a whim. Have you got support for your mental health?

Op I think because you are calling him your partner people have assumed you are staying with him.

Until your updates

I'm 8 months pregnant and don't really need to hear someone say they think my child should be taken away from me . I have left the relationship and won't be returning , but how dare you think your input is either wanted or even valid I would NEVER say that to anyone disgusting

I don’t think I’m the aggressive one here. If people choose to remain in an abusive relationship then yes, a child should be taken from the mother. No child deserves to brought up in that environment. That’s good you have left the relationship though and I’m glad SW are still involved to ensure the safety of the child.

It sounds like your doing everything right ! I would be extremely suprised if social services removed your baby when your making such an effort ! Try not to worry mumma its not good for you both xx

Partner says he’s still with you not an ex
So that’s why people were confused and rightly so, bringing a baby knowingly into a violent relationship will trigger some people tbh.

But as you’ve left him etc and cooperating with ss then I think they’ll just monitor you and baby to make sure you’re coping/safe. It’s not uncommon for women to return to Abusive partners so they will want to make sure this is the case for a while I would think. But ask them, continue being honest and keep things open. I had something horrendous happen to me whilst very pregnant with my youngest to do with an ex and ss were involved I know how stressful it can be, but I was upfront and they dropped any concerns about me (I didn’t do anything)
But the stress and worry isn’t nice. I hope you can have a stress free pregnancy from now on, sounds like you’ve had a rough time so far. Good luck with your baby when it comes along

I really don’t think @IWishItWasSummer was being either aggressive or disgusting. She just put succinctly the facts. It’s good that you are no longer with your partner. Being around domestic violence is extremely damaging to a child. In most cases the children would be better away from the parents if the parents cannot put them first. It’s very positive that you understand this. If you are able to protect your child then they won’t be removed from you so try not to worry and keep doing the right things. The Freedom program is a great start. Social workers can support you and are not out to take your baby. I wish you well.

@Bluesmum98 that’s not what @IWishItWasSummer said. She said that if an abused woman chose to stay with her abusive partner then SS are right to remove the child to protect it.
She DID NOT say that she hoped SS removes your baby.
She’s not trolling or being aggressive towards you.
You, however, are projecting your anxiety towards her.

@candymay no I think she was being aggressive and externally judgemental I have clearly written something as I'm in distress and a comment like that isn't helpful it's a triggering comment for me I need advice not to be slandered by someone and tell me my child's better of without me what planet does this person live on

Your posts yesterday indicate that you are still with him. He spends all his money on drugs.
That is why ss are involved with you. They want to ensure that your baby will be safe. If you can’t ensue that by leaving him then the will have to take action.

@iwishitwasummer I'm not insane and I'm not projecting my anxiety on to her at all I just wouldn't see a post like this and think I have the right to say I'm glad social services are involved with someone it's just not the right thing to say I didn't ask for opinions I asked if anyone had had similar experiences or advice not to be judged

OP I think you're overreacting here and it's probably your anxiety causing it. No one is trolling you or being rude or aggressive, just giving you their opinion. It IS good that SS involve themselves where vulnerable children are concerned and you did make it sound like you were still with your ex.
It's great you have taken the steps you have but if you're not prepared or ready to hear other people's opinions maybe you shouldn't ask for them on a public platform.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

You have already posted about this waste of space of a baby daddy. It sounds like you are indeed with him. SS are not fools, you can't pull a fast one on them because they know every trick in the book and have heard it all before. This is why you still have so much involvement with SS and yes, they will do what needs to be done to keep the baby safe, their duty of care is to the child.

Op if social services werent involved theres a good chance you would still be with him.

It's a good thing they are involved. It may not feel like that at that moment, but is a good thing and I believe that's all that summer was saying

You call him your partner, doesn't sound like he's an ex.

If SS are involved because of a man, you sack the man off and stay the hell away

From your posts yesterday you are clearly still with this guy so I can understand why social services might be concerned.

I've also just read the post from yesterday with your name change fail that basically says you ARE still with him so it would be correct that SS are involved.
I hope you do get away from him but don't get mad at people who say it's correct that SS do their jobs properly just because you don't want to hear it

Bluesmum98 I honestly think IWishItWasSummer was saying IF you stayed with an abusive partner THEN ss would be right to take a (your) child away but only IF you stayed, not in your current position. SS will take children away if the mother refuses to leave a violent, abusive partner so I think everyone is trying to point out that you have made brilliant steps to get away from this relationship and please stay strong and don’t go back as then you do run the risk.
Keep working with your sw and make sure you take care of yourself.

Yeah sorry you sound a bit up in the air, that person never said you should have your baby removed they said if you are still with a violent person then they should remove the baby which I'm pretty sure 100% of normal people would feel the same... Unless your saying that a baby should stay with the mum even if she is bringing it into a relationship of abuse? ?,

Now obviously the comment wasn't directed at you as you have now said he is an ex (even though you say partner so a it confusing there)

And at the end of the day SS want what is best for the child so if you are doing what they say /ask then it should be fine.

a comment like that isn't helpful

It may not be helpful but it’s the truth. Children have the right to be protected, you have the right to leave and if you can’t do that then you will be failing your child. If you don’t leave then yes, I hope social work receive your child into care as at least that innocent baby may have a chance in life living without abuse.

Also anyone who stays with an abusive partner doesn't deserve an innocent child. Poor kids being messed up in this world... I've seen a lot as a fosterer and it breaks your heart.