Op, I hope you’re ok this morning.
I think you can understand people’s concern. Firstly you were telling everyone how much you loved this man, would always pick him, were jealous of his ex, how he was cheating on you with her, how he smoked weed all day, took money and didn’t repay it, then less than twenty four hours later you proclaim to not be with him.
You start a thread telling us social services are involved and you’re worried they will remove your child. That they got involved because he was hitting you and the police were called, then you tell us they didn’t know any of this and you told them. It’s all over the place.
I don’t understand why this man would rely on you, or what for, that also seems contradictory, and more likely you rely on him, emotionally. Maybe you’re scared to go it alone, or mistakenly feel you love him.
However as you keep changing the story, it’s hard for anyone to be able to comment accurately other than to answer the questions posed.
Firstly if a man is violent towards you, cheating on you, and is fundamentally a stoned skint loser, then it is best not to try and continue in the relationship. Your future self will thank you,
Secondly when it’s so severe that social services need to get involved as they are concerned about the safety of your unborn child, be it from concern about your own ability to cope with a child, through to the fact the father is unstable, it is best to work with them and do as they request.
Not doing so could result in them removing your child. Potentially permanently. Something you would regret for the rest of your life, something you’d never get over.
It’s common to desperately think you’re in love with someone who treats you terribly, to rely on them when facing single parenthood, even more common when very young, if you couple that in with potentially other issues with yourself that maybe you’re not revealing, and a much older man, then it’s a disaster waiting to happen.
One dat you’ll look back and think oh god what was I thinking, but right now you need to try to work with social services, do what they ask, be honest with them, get the help you need, and try to get yourself to a healthy place mentally to be able to cope with your new baby,
I honestly wish you the best of luck. Please keep posting here. Yes some times people will tell you the brutal truth, and it will not be what you want to hear, but the people posting can give you the support I suspect you’re missing in real life.