Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows....

[Avocuddles]

Hi,

Starting a thread for ladies in early pregnancy after one or more miscarriages or stillbirths. A safe place to let off steam and hopefully grow healthy rainbows together......

Hi ladies, I'm also guilty as charged for testing yesterday 'just in case' 🤦🏻‍♀️

This is a non-branded cheapie, and I was either 4+5 or 4+6 yesterday!

I have a CB digital I'm going to do on Tuesday just to see if it's 3+ weeks then. Then no more testing for me!

@Avocuddles thank you I will call around and see what they say! I’m the same @SunStruck did a digital yesterday which was 3+ so feel like It’s going to be the longest wait ever to know more!!

@waitingforrainbows @SunStruck I have one digital left - think I'll wait until Wednesday or Thursday as don't want to go too early and still see a 2-3 which will just send me off buying more of the bloody expensive things!

I think there's no denying that as of this point in time we are all pregnant!

I have known since a week before Christmas lol! I originally thought I was 2 weeks further than I was so feel like I’ve known forever!! I’m desperate to tell my work & family but don’t want to say anything until my 12 week scan so it’s been such a long process lol!

@avocuddles haha yes, definitely all pregnant! 🤣🤣

I'm so tired today! Slept 8 hours solidly but still couldn't keep my eyes open at work. Also need a wee constantly! It's so annoying.

How are you ladies holding up? Any more symptoms?

@Avocuddles we are quite close geographically. I know you already have your early scan scheduled but if you're looking for somewhere following that, I can recommend 'precious glimpse' in Roundhay. They're only £30 for an early scan - it's a lovely little place and the woman was so lovely and compassionate when we had our bad news. I'd like to go back there and have a more positive experience!

Dilemma - I work on an inpatient unit (mental health) and we have to do restraint training every year... to do a 'top up' course is only 2 days but if you haven't done a course in over 14 months you need to do the whole 5 days... I'm booked in on a 2 day course when I'd be 9+6 / 10 weeks... this is the very last course available within my time frame - if I miss it, I'd have to do the 5 days... I already have my rota organised around this training course... oh, and I shouldn't be doing this training if I'm pregnant...

My dilemma is - i don't really want to cancel the course now. It's still early days, I'd have to tell someone the reason why I couldn't do it and things might change.. I wouldn't want to do the whole 5 day course again if I didn't have to... but I feel guilty knowing that our rotas are already done and I might be causing a lot of disruption if I were to cancel at the last minute.... any advice?!!

@didslysquiddlydoo thank you very much for the recommendation, if I don't get offered another NHS scan between 7 and 12 weeks then I'll give them a go. I'm in north Leeds, just a bit further west round the ring road so roundhay would be handy!
If I were you I think I'd keep the course booking in for now, as and when you cancel I'm sure they'll understand. Hopefully it'll be after maternity leave when you next do the course!

@SunStruck it felt like I was weeing constantly last night, must have been around 8 times between 6pm and midnight! I felt a bit weird last night, possibly queasy but not certain. I've never had morning sickness before so think part of me is desperately hoping that it strikes this time round!

Well I think my baby has a dislike to dairy seeing as I had a creamy pasta on Friday night & have been ill with cramps & vomiting since at least I’m still pregnant lol!

@didslysquiddlydoo I'm booked in for my mapa in the first week of Feb. The training is not very intense and it's all very controlled. In regards to movement and body positions in pregnancy the advice from second trimester is to not lie on your front or back for long periods of time. So if you feel uncomfortable doing the restraint on the floor but don't want to mention your pregnancy make up a dodgy knee. The trainers are usually understanding. Although I was always advised to mention my pregnancies from early one in case there's ever a situation where you may have to restrain and the team don't know you're pregnant and either rely on you and it puts them at risk or you put yourself at risk. It's why I'm speaking to my boss tonight.

I've been shattered all week, slept 10 hrs on Thursday! but appear to have insomnia that's just appeared over the last week where I'm waking in the middle of the night and can't sleep. I've heard of pregnancy insomnia but never experienced it before.

Ooh I’m in Leeds too so will check out precious glimpse! £30 is a bargain! Will try and hold out till 8-9 weeks as I saw that the percentage of a successful pregnancy after seeing a heartbeat goes up to 98%! With my last miscarriage we went to miracle inside but they weren’t very sympathetic (just told me to come back in a week but I was certain of my dates) and it was £50!
How is everyone working out how many weeks they are this early? Just going by the first day of your last period? Because I have pcos so my cycles are slightly irregular so the calculators are all giving me different dates!

@HighHopes20 I've gone by LMP but have short cycles so did a slight adjustment. But I know when I ovulated to.
Do you know when you ovulated? Or when you DTD. Then work out LMP as being 2 weeks before that

@HighHopes20 I originally went from the date of my LMP but I had just came off the pill so I must of ovulated differently because it wasn’t until I went for an early scan that I was 2 weeks less than I thought I was. So I thought I was 8 weeks but my scan showed 6 weeks xx

@HighHopes20 my cycles can be anything from 32 to 60+ days so LMP definitely isn't accurate for me even on a short cycle! We weren't TTC last cycle as we were waiting to start ovulation induction, however we DTD when I had a relatively strong line on a cheapie ovulation test and here we are..... If I ovulated that day I'm 4 + 6, or 4 + 5 if it was the following day. On the basis of LMP I'd be 6 weeks but that's definitely not the case!
Your experience at Miracle Inside sounds exactly like mine at Window To The Womb. Fingers crossed our paths might be crossing at the maternity unit in the coming months!

@waitingforrainbows can't believe that especially from a private clinic.

I'll let you all know what their approach is when I see the midwife this week.

I think keeping busy is the key. I work part time from home tutoring and I have a two year old so I'm trying to keep busy and not dwell on the potential negatives. I'm such an optimistic person that I'm already imagining life with two little ones and then every so often the realistic brain kicks in and tries to hold back the excitement.

@Avocuddles it's so unfair that it's a postcode lottery on how they treat us. I'm going to go in hard (which isn't like me). I had a horrific experience from staff at the epu last time which ended in a formal complaint. I'm almost embarrassed to say that, as I love the nhs and am in awe of how these professionals have to work in such stretched conditions. But my experience was so poor that I had to feedback so that the next woman wouldn't have to go through all this.

So hopefully I'll get a more positive experience after last time?🤷‍♀️

@HighHopes20 @Avocuddles your experiences are similar to mine at the epu of my local hospital too. When I returned a few weeks later to confirm the MMC (after seeking out a private scan elsewhere because they told me everything was perfect) they were very apologetic... 😞

@Avocuddles yes, that's the best way to look at it; a different pregnancy. My scan is next Monday so it long to wait now. We're not wanting to find out the gender, even before our first MC we agreed not to find out. And now because of the IVF there's been no happy surprises, so we like the idea of not knowing the gender until baby is here. My only thought on the scan are - is the baby healthy.

@avocadoincident thank you, we do survive through quite a lot. And MC occurs so much more than people realise. Now that people know about our pregnancy, I'm very open to talking about the MCs & IVF, because I think people should be more aware of how common it actually is.

@Avocuddles That’s a lovely thought that we might unknowingly bump into each other with our future bumps! 😊
I feel like I need something to take my mind off overthinking every twinge and cramp. Does anyone have any hobbies?
I’m ok in the day because my son is a massive distraction but when he’s in bed and we’re watching tv I zone in on the cramps and think the worst!

@HighHopes20 I love to crochet. It's very very easy when you get the hang of it. When I first started I felt like I'd never be able to do it and now I can do it with my eyes shut, watching tv and with a few wines...well the wine has stopped now of course!

I like to make all my babies blankets which is a nice easy project.

@RunWild we also don't want to find out the sex. I love a surprise.

@Avocuddles @RunWild you guys amaze me. 9 months is way too long and way to impatient. Of course priority is health, but I would feel more prepared knowing the gender. I currently have 10bin bags of clothes I've sorted of both gender kids and desperate to lose half asap lol.

@avocadoincident I admire me who crochet. People have tried to teach me throughout my career as it's a common hobby to kill time in our mental health hospital. But I just can't pick it up. On my previous 2 pregnancies patients have crocheted me baby blankets and I truly treasure them as something special

Hello all, congratulations to you and hoping for the smoothest possible pregnancies for you all.

I'm 36, mum to an 11 year old, previous missed mc at 12 weeks, ectopic in 2018, and 2 chemicals since, possibly more I got to the point I refused to test unless I was over a week late.

We got our positive test on Friday, unexpectedly as I believed I was midcycle. Digital test showed 2-3 weeks.

The thing that has been niggling away at me is, my ectopic went the same way, light 'period' then positive test mid cycle. The difference being it was spotting that caused me to test, whereas now it was just feeling very pregnant that caused me to test. After some initial worrying I started to think positive, no spotting, no cramping.

Then I wake today with slightly reduced symptoms and the fear takes hold again.

It doesn't help that dd is off school ill so I've had all day to overthink

After promising myself I'd hold out a couple of weeks to be sure before I called epu, I called today and they have be booked in for Thursday.

The best possible outcome is either late conception caused a little period but all is OK.... Or ovulated super super early and have strong hormone.

I can't help but fear it's too similar to last time in terms of timing, but praying with all I have that everything will be OK.

If all is OK, I've guessed I'm between 26th Sept up to first couple of days of October, hopefully in a few weeks we will know!

Hi ladies currently 11+1 after a loss about 18 months ago after a year of trying before then, been a long journey!

1st midwife appt is on wednesday and I am bricking it! Cannot relax at all. Any tips?

Also, tips for breast pain? I'm on agony EVERY DAY!

@LouiseD2018
Welcome! I’ve got another option for you...What you thought was your period could have been implantation bleeding? I had that with my son and thought I must be miscarrying again but it all worked out ok! Hope your EPU appointment goes well on Thursday x