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BFP - Anyone else due February 2020?

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hannibanan1 · 23/05/2019 09:39

Hello ladies,

Early days, due my period today and had a BFP since DPO11. It is progressing and my period hasn't arrived so I'm hoping this is a sticky baby! Anyone else recently this week got their BFP? Be nice to have a little group going x

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tisonlymeagain · 18/06/2019 07:28

@Allhallowseve that's correct - it's 1-2 weeks since conception.

@HavelockVetinari Sorry to hear that, hope everything is ok

ronniemipperton · 18/06/2019 07:45

So sorry @HavelockVetinari, keeping everything crossed for you.

Doris19 · 18/06/2019 08:19

@HavelockVetinari so sorry to read this, I'm thinking of you too. Hope you can get to the EPU quickly.

@Allhallowseve I got a 1-2 weeks a few days before AF was due and also stupidly retested 3 days after AF was due and it was still 1-2 weeks, I was expecting it to say 2-3 as well. After a lot of googling however, I don't think this is uncommon as the tests have a wide range of hcg and I do have a long cycle. If you tested on your AF date 1-2 weeks sounds right though.

ImMeantToBeWorking · 18/06/2019 11:43

@Lovemartina2012 it seems my plan to take pregnacare in the evening has worked for two days in a row. Long may it continue. The cramps at 5 or 6am each morning were too much to take for me!

Sorry to hear that @havelockVetinari - try get to a doc/clinic to see what is going on!

Chichichi · 18/06/2019 12:43

I'm sorry @HavelockVetinari but am keeping 🤞for you.

My clearblue also said 1-2 weeks @Allhallowseve and that was about 2 days after period was due (although cycles are a bit erratic). I then checked a few days later and it went to 2-3 weeks.

I'm really struggling to limit my caffeine intake argh I remember this was really difficult last time. I drink about 5-6 cups tea a day. Have swapped to decaf.

HavelockVetinari · 18/06/2019 12:50

Thanks folks. Bleeding seems to be slowing down, I'm lying down hoping it's just a bleed rather than a full-on miscarriage Sad

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 12:57

I was originally due 28th jan had a scan last week and they put me back to 11th feb xx

Charm23 · 18/06/2019 13:46

I had a call yesterday asking me to come in today for my first midwife appointment so I've just got back from there. I'm feeling really good because the midwife I didn't like from my last pregnancy has left the practice and also, the midwife I saw today booked me in for an early scan tomorrow morning! I'm a bit nervous but kinda excited too! My booking in appointment is on 28th June.

@HavelockVetinari Rest up, I hope it's nothing serious. Fingers crossed for you

@WombatStewForTea Nice scan pic! Glad you got to see the hb :) Hopefully I will get to see mine tomorrow!

gizmosslave · 18/06/2019 14:02

I’ve got an early scan tomorrow now, a bit nervous!

ImMeantToBeWorking · 18/06/2019 15:11

@Chichichi the caffeine is such a killer.

I had gone back on the cigs a few months before my BFP, the second I got my BFP I have not had one since. I miss them, I crave them all the time, but I have not and will not give in. DP not allowed smoke in the house or the car when I am in it.

Caffeine on the other hand I cannot live without, I am limiting the amount I am having. Swapping to a smaller cup, taking tea instead of coffee etc. But it is so fricking hard!

@Charm23 thats great that you were brought in so fast! Have you history of MC or anything? I was told I would not be called until well into my second trimester! Sad

@gizmosslave best of luck tomorrow!!

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 15:22

So I had an early private scan last Friday for no reason other than to be assured everything is okay, I am 8 weeks but the scan told me I was showing at 6 weeks, there was a healthy sack and healthy yolk but no fetal pole or heartbeat but she said that was normal for what she dated me at (5weeks 5 days) I'm assuming I just ovulated late and that's why my dates are 2 weeks out!!
But ever since the scan my symptoms seems to have gone and I'm absolutely paranoid something bad is going to happen I'm having awful dreams every night that I'm having a miscarriage and I just can't help but think something is wrong !!
Am I going totally crazy !!??
I'm booked in to see the midwife Monday and another scan a week on Friday where she will see if baby has grown, it's all I can think about I can't stop worrying and getting upset !!!

Any advice !? I know it's just a waiting game now but I honestly feel I'm going mad xx

Charm23 · 18/06/2019 15:47

@gizmosslave I've got one tomorrow too, what time is yours?

@ImMeantToBeWorking Yeah they seem to do things quick around here! I had a mc back in December at 8 weeks. I told her I was fine and that I was just going with the flow because there's nothing I can do about it if it does happen again. Told her about my issue with previous midwife and I mentioned how I had to have early scans last pregnancy due to lots of spotting/bleeding and she said "Well we could be naughty and I could ring the EPU to see if I can get you in... you have had a previous mc and some spotting so we have reason to" and so she did and they had space tomorrow morning 10am :) She was so lovely and I'm so grateful because she didn't need to do that.

You were told you wouldn't be seen until 2nd trimester?? Surely you don't mean booking in? Are you in the UK? Thats so strange!

@SamRwl Aww that sucks. I remember being put back with my last pregnancy after an early scan and hating having to see the same info on my pregnancy app again! I'm half expecting the same tomorrow when I go in. Fingers crossed!
I know it's hard to not panic but it really is the best thing you can do. I've had a week of feeling rough and today I feel a bit better but I'm just accepting it and not thinking too much into things. My mum always says "If you can't change it, don't worry about it". If something is to happen, stressing won't change it, it would only make it worse. Maybe every time you have a negative thought, force yourself to think of baby names? :D

Speaking of baby names, I know it's early days but does anyone have a shortlist or chosen names? :)

Bettythecat · 18/06/2019 16:00

@SamRwl is it possible you could have got your dates wrong? When I had my mmc earlier this year she asked me if I could have got my dates wrong and that's why she was only seeing the sac, yolk and tiny fetal pole but as I had been tracking ovulation I knew it wasn't possible that I had got my dates wrong by two weeks. I had to go back ten days later for a follow up scan but there had been no growth. By that point I wasn't surprised as I had done a lot of grieving in the interim and knew there would be no growth. It's such a hard thing to go through.

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 16:11

@Bettythecat bless you I'm so sorry. That's what I'm thinking will happen at the next scan if I'm honest, do you mind my asking what happened next ? Did you bleed !?
It is possible with dates because I didn't track ovulation at all, and I didn't get my BFP until 8 days after AF was due I just can't see how I've lost 2 weeks somewhere xx

Bettythecat · 18/06/2019 16:19

When you have a missed miscarriage (what it's called when the baby stops developing) you basically have three options. You can either wait it out to miscarry naturally (I.e bleed) but this can take many weeks- I didn't even get any spotting until around 3 weeks after it was detected on a scan, you can take pills to bring on the miscarriage or you can have a small operation. I decided to have the operation as then it is removed and you have a bit more certainty and closure. I still bled for about ten days afterwards though. Do you know when your last period was so that you can start counting from then? What length are your cycles normally? If you know that then it might help you to work our when you are likely to have ovulated. X

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 16:28

@Bettythecat oh bless you ❤️
My last period was 23rd April which puts me at 8 weeks today, she said at the scan that I must have just ovulated late as she put me at 6 weeks today, I've been nervous since getting my first positive so I did test weekly on a digital and the hcg has increased, I just keep thinking if I'm 8 weeks and the baby hasn't grown for 2 weeks that's why she's putting me at 6, I have another scan a week on Friday but it seems like a lifetime away xx

BFP - Anyone else due February 2020?
Bettythecat · 18/06/2019 16:42

@SamRwl It's really hard to know without a lot more information on your cycle. Most women ovulate between days 13-20 (day 1 being the first day of your period) but it's possible to ovulate later than that I think but if that's something that happens to you then you would probably know about it as you would have a long cycle. Is your next scan private or NHS? Do you know if you can self refer to an Early Pregnancy Unit in your area or would you have to go via the GP? I don't really have any reassurance to offer you other than to say I know how awful it is to have to wait and I know how anxious you must feel. Just try to take each day as it comes and take deep breaths and focus on them when you start to panic.

tisonlymeagain · 18/06/2019 16:44

@SamRwl it definitely sounds like you ovulated later which is why you got your BFP so late after AF was "due". I got my first line when I was 9dpo so when you thought AF was due, you could have just been a few days past ovulation. Keep the faith!

gizmosslave · 18/06/2019 16:46

@Charm23 at 11:40!

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 16:50

@Bettythecat it's a private one £79 a time 🙈🙈 my cycles are usually 28 days so I've no idea if it was just crazy this month !! Thank you so much for the advice xx

ImMeantToBeWorking · 18/06/2019 17:02

@Charm23 the GP just said that the hosp wouldn't contact me until I was "well into my second trimester" maybe he ment for the scan, I never clarified with him, maybe I should have.

Sure nothing I can do now, I will hear from them when I hear from them! From reading the HSE website (I am in Ireland) it say I will be brought in between 8weeks and 10weeks for booking in appointment so who knows!!

Sorry to hear about your last MC. It is not easy! Fingers crossed this one sticks for you.

@SamRwl I hope everything goes well for you.

hazandduck · 18/06/2019 17:07

Ah @SamRwl sorry you have this uncertainty. My first pregnancy I had a private scan when I should’ve been 8 weeks and it only showed as 5+5 miraculously we saw a heartbeat and she said I must’ve ovulated later than I thought after coming off the pill. Then at what should’ve been 11 weeks I did miscarry so it took a long time but from that first scan I had a gut feeling it was going wrong. I really hope it’s not the case for you and sending you support and strength, this interim between scans is awful and stressful x

SamRwl · 18/06/2019 18:08

@hazandduck thank you so much, I'm so sorry for you're loss❤️
Guess I'll just have to wait for the next scan a week on Friday, I see the midwife Monday so I'll explain all to her see if she can help at all
I will let you know how I get on xx

InOmniaParatus13 · 18/06/2019 19:18

Evening ladies!
@HavelockVetinari I hope you’re okay and that the bleed has stopped!

Ugh nausea has kicked my butt big time today, not complaining as hopefully it’s a good sign for my scan Monday, just not used to feeling so rubbish and having to commute haha. There was a woman on the bus eating kfc which really didn’t help either, my god the smell haha.
Hope everyone has had a good day :)

SuzieQ10 · 18/06/2019 21:36

Why do I need a wee every 5mins, already!? I thought this didn't happen until about half way through.
Only 5w4d, I'm peeing non stop 🙈