Having a girl but disappointed

[Neverbroken]

Whilst I’m grateful for a healthy baby I really wanted a boy a first. I have since I was a child.

Ridiculous

Why?

I think this is a very unwise post, @Neverbroken . . .

This can be a normal feeling you have ur heart set on something then it turns out to be different once u start buying and gettin ready for her u won't have this feeling no more and when u have her ur be besotted by her don't worry about the negative comments people are just rude

It's certainly a very odd post without offering any kind of explanation.

Can't really offer any advice without any kind of explanation as to why you feel this way

Boy or girl, other than genitals is there actually a difference?

They both cry, poo and eat.

Did your parents feel the same?

You can't help how you feel OP but I am sure this is a much longer for baby and ultimately it's the baby's health that is the most important thing

Longed*

I understand how you feel. I found out I was having a boy today and was disappointed. The lack of support and judgements just make it harder. Give yourself a bit of time to grieve for the boy you won't have. Be kind to yourself. These feelings are totally normal and I'm sure they will pass, I'm giving myself a bit of time to feel sad and then I'm sure I'll get used to the idea. Best of luck x

Don't worry op! The excitement will come as you start getting prepared for your lovely dd! And I promise you that when she's here, you'll look at her and think she's perfect, you won't want to change her for the world! Congratulations!

As on as she is born you’ll wonder why you have been so silly and you will love your little girl so much and regret thinking this way, give it time.

It’s just always what I imagined/pictured, being quite honest I don’t even know why
@redpandafluff why is it unwise?
@mommybear1 definitely a much longed for baby. Thank you @Nicecupofcoco

Your poor child. A disappointment to her parents before she's even born.

Some children just never stand a chance.

I think you need to get things into perspective. Hospital made a mistake with my dates (first pregnancy) and did the anomaly scan at 16 weeks, I found out I was having a boy, I was disappointed too, always imagined I’d have a girl. Then at 20 weeks had another scan as hospital said 20 weeks is when they should check and found out he had a condition that meant the pregnancy couldn’t continue and had to give birth knowing he wouldn’t survive.

Your baby is healthy and that’s what counts

I am currently very early pregnant but have had three miscarriages before and still don't have a child. I am desperate for a child and just hope this baby sticks. Just be grateful you're having a baby!

After what you've been through with your ex abusing you and causing your last miscarriage

I'd have thought you'd just be grateful to be having a healthy baby

Shocking....

Oh not ex I guess your still with him

Op look up gender disappointment. It is normal and ok to be have some disappointment. People post about it all the time. It’s real. Don’t pay attention to flamers. You are not a bad person for feeling this way. You are probably better to confide the truth than stuffing it all in. However, I bet when you get that baby you will firget all about the gender and just see a ‘baby’ - your baby who you will love with all your heart. Good luck x

OP, I felt overwhelming relief when I discovered I was having a DD, I imagine I would’ve felt similarly to how your feeling now if they hadn’t been the case. Gender disappointment is the term you need to search.

I desperately wanted a daughter and my firstborn was a girl. When I found out I was pg with a son the 2nd time, I remember feeling disconcerted and I suppose, disappointed. I knew nothing of baby boys. However, once DS arrived, I was thrilled. Don't worry, OP.

Once your beautiful baby is here and in your arms, all this won't matter. Their gender will be the last thing on your mind

Lots of people feel mild disapointment at not getting the boy or girl they wanted or expected. It's not that uncommon in real life. The part of your post I picked up on was that you wanted a boy "first". Presumably that means you also expected a girl second. To have a boy then a girl only happens for roughly 25% of couples so it was never a likely scenario. I think any order and combination of genders can be wonderful, but if you're looking for pluses of a girl "first" then I think little girls tend to be particularly excited about babies so make lovely older siblings. You probably think most commenters here don't understand you so maybe logical reasoning isn't going to make you feel better. Just trust that this will be the perfect baby for you and it might take her arrival for you to appreciate that. Wishing you well with your pregnancy.