Having a girl but disappointed

[Neverbroken]

Whilst I’m grateful for a healthy baby I really wanted a boy a first. I have since I was a child.

I do get it to a degree. I always imagined having a daughter, it was just me and my mum growing up and we're really close so I always imagined it would be the same if I had a daughter. Didn't find out before with Ds and when he was born it couldn't have been further from my mind. He was my baby and that love and relief he was here safe and well was overwhelming. I wouldn't change him for the world.

The reality of motherhood is so far removed from what I imagined and Ds's sex doesn't even play a part in that.
We're expecting our second and think we'll find out this time. Everyone keeps saying "I bet you hope it's a girl this time", but you know what I really don't care at all this time. In fact if I got to pick which of course I don't) I think I'd go with another boy.

@Neverbroken I don't know your history other than what's been rudely thrown in your face on this thread, I just wanted to wish you a healthy happy pregnancy and a happy life with your DD. Please don't let others rudeness get you down.

@Tinekittie2 that’s exactly how I feel ❤️

@NotReadyForThisX2 congratulations on your second! Wishing you a healthy & Happy pregnancy x

@shesaidnofuckthat Thank you! I couldn’t believe the audacity of that person very lowdown move but like I said I won’t dwell on that ❤️

@Neverbroken I can relate. I'm 27 weeks with my first, a little boy. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I dreamt of a baby girl, I researched all the nub theory's and stuff. When I found out it's a boy I was upset )not going to lie) I cried for 2 days but now I'm happier than ever and can't wait to meet him! Don't worry once baby is in your arms you'll love her endless xx

What a weird post. There are loads of people who would just be grateful to even get pregnant and don't care at all about the sex of the baby.

And all of those people are not the OPs problem.

There are loads of people who would be grateful for any scrap of food they would receive. So maybe all those people complaining about the UK benefits system should just be grateful.

“What a weird post. There are loads of people who would just be grateful to even get pregnant and don't care at all about the sex of the baby.”

Who said I’m not grateful? I am grateful, you can have more than one feeling about something you know. I think it’s the gratitude of me being able to get pregnant and focusing on the other positives that allows me to look past the slew of people who have come here to be negative Nancy’s.

I’m sorry guys I didn’t feel disappointment at all, not even for a fleeting moment at not getting what I’d imagined. Do you all feel better?

Absolute bandwagon this post has become.

What a horrible thing to say. I'm not expecting the angry little troll who wrote this to read this, but for anyone else who has come here for a bit of reassurance at a very vulnerable and emotional time. Not everyone will react like this cretin and some of the judgemental posters above. Being disappointed is normal, you're not a bad person and the likelihood is your child will never, ever know and grow up feeling loved just as they are. Similarly you will likely look back in time and wonder what you worried about. Please don't let this fester, speak to an open minded person, maybe give Mumsnet a body swerve for a while and give yourself the time to process this.

@Leemarina this thread is two years old.

Yes, I know @DungeonKeeper, hence my suggesting the OP and the trolls might not see it, I'm posting for people who may have searched the question, like me, and seen the absolute cretins posting horrible things. I felt compelled to add a little balance into the mix. You saw it too, eh? So others might. Why the sarcastic little face? What does that do for you? Make you feel a bit superior? How's that going for you?

@DungeonKeeper was just about to say the same!

But you've seen it too @peacefulspirit, so maybe it's still relevant and, as per my experience, this post might come up high on Google search results. Maybe another woman in need of a bit of support will see it too, make her feel like she isn't alone. Instead she's seeing two women trying to make themselves feel good by putting me down. I'm genuinely wondering what it is about you that makes you want to post back to me negatively. Why are you on Mumsnet if not to support other women? Interesting.