Should you expect your in laws to help with buying baby stuff?

[Peonyblush1]

Hi all, I’m 31 weeks today and still have a lot of the big stuff to buy for baby we’re kind of waiting for the baby shower to see what other friends and family will be getting us.

My mum and I have done most of shopping we’ve bought all the clothes and small bits and she’s buying my pushchair which is Expensive!

My in-laws have just bought two blankets and a few slogan vests.
I still have the cot, bouncer, car seat base etc to buy ..
We can afford these of course but I feel like they’re not bothering at all, it’s their first grandchild and they have a lot of money (but they’re tight) lol.

I just don’t think it’s fair that my mum is buying one of the most expensive items and they’re not bothering at all or asking us if we need anything :/
I always mention to my MIL that I still need to buy this and that but she still doesn’t seem to ask or anything ..

I don’t know if I’m expecting too much but I just thought they’d be more helpful because they always help other family members and strangers but not their own children .. bizarre?

My MIL offered to buy us a pram buy we declined as I would have felt cheeky having a little old dear shell out money when we could afford it ourselves.

It’s not the norm for families to buy your baby stuff. You buy what you need for your baby

I honestly don’t know anyone who’s family has not bought them a thing for their baby. Small or big!

Awww see this is why people hate baby showers as there's the select few that throw them to just get gifts!!

I'm having my baby shower all being well next month for my first baby, I haven't been able to see my close friends much due to covid and I want to have a lovely afternoon with them playing silly games and eating cake and I honestly don't give an f if they bring a gift or not!

If people want to buy stuff that's great and very kind but it should never ever be expected, for any life event or occasion..but I have a feeling this has already been mentioned by PPs 🥴

Oh this is an old thread!! I didn't even notice.

@BettyReeceHello you are so aggrieved by this you decided to resurrect a 2 and a half year old thread? 😅

Haven't read the other comments but you're expecting too much. Doesn't matter how much your in laws have, you chose to have a baby so you pay for it, if anyone else offers or gets something it is a nice bonus. I feel the same towards weddings and women who expect daddy to pay for it.

Just realised it is a zombie thread

I didn’t indeed haha! And looks what I’ve done. Oppsie lol

I mean did 🙈

@sel2223 I did indeed. And look what I’ve done!! Oppsie 🙈 im new to this so I didn’t realise lol!

@Peonyblush1 yikes so many cringey replies on this one. I wouldn't say you're being spoilt or entitled. I think it completely depends on how your relationship is with your family on both sides whether you will be expecting/accepting much help. We were lucky to be offered early on by both grandparents that they would buy our cot and nursery furniture. We were also offered by baby's great grandma on my side that she would buy the pram but didn't accept and bought ourselves. I think it depends a lot on whether it's the first grandchild too as probably not something grandparents could do multiple times over lol. What pram did your mum get you?

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