Just want to give birth now - blah!

[m4rdybum]

39 weeks today and I'm so ready to have this baby now.

I've been quite lucky in that I've had an easy enough pregnancy (morning sickness manageable, if a bit pants; no aches and pains until about 30 weeks etc.) so thank my lucky stars for that, but these past couple of weeks, I'm just done.

Can't remember the last good night's sleep I had, hips hurt so much. Turning over in bed requires the same effort as moving a small family of hippos, and my back frequently feels like it's breaking.

I've had no noticeable signs of labour starting any time soon, which is getting to me, as my induction date at 41 weeks looms ever closer for a predicted 9.9lb baby.

And now the festive period is over, I'm bored on my maternity leave. Everything is done in the house and I am forcing myself out and about so I don't just sit and eat. Plus, I have a DH (who is lovely btw) whose clearly having a moment of 'holy shit, I'm having in baby in 2 weeks or less' and a MIL (who is equally lovely) who won't let me so much as pick up a feather.

Sorry for the rant- there's no point to it. And breathe.

@soydora - how frustrating for you. Have you got a date to be induced?

Yes, Monday. So at least the end is in sight! I’m just so tired as I have strong Braxton Hicks which keep me awake most of the night, every night, and I know from experience that tiredness is only going to get worse when the baby is born, so I’m just so frustrated! I wanted to be vaguely rested and on good form before giving birth!
DD1 goes back to school after the holidays on Monday too and I really wanted a couple of days with her at home with the baby before she had to go back.
Minor in the grand scheme of things but it’s just adding to my general pissed-off-ness!

Oh gosh! That sounds so tough... you’re amazing! ❤️ Please try and keep us updated on Monday (if possible!!!)

Still pregnant too!
Sweep has definitely done something. Midwife had removed plug which I still keep getting mucus each time I go to the loo.
I feel so achy and sore in my hips and lower back but nothing seems to feel remotely close to a contraction.
I'm so over emotional and ready to meet baby now. 😭

That's sounding good @SadCupcake I have a sweep Monday and I'm hoping they manage to do something!!

@Curlypop I'm a first timer so I'm just sitting around waiting for something to happen. Any suggestions to help move this along? X

I feel like this. At 29 weeks 😂 Roll on baby

Fraid I'm no help. Went to 42 weeks with first and was induced. I'm sat on ball trying to encourage this one to come at least on time!!

I have a sweep planned, but not until a week on Monday when I'll be 40+3. I was initially going to refuse it, but think I'll give it a try now.

I just wish I had started losing my plug, even in smaller amounts - just so I felt something was happening.

@SoyDora we’ll be getting induced on the same day. Stay in touch won’t you 😁
I’m going in at 9am. I hope it’s all gets going nice and fast.

Yes!!!! I’m still flipping pregnant!!!!!
2nd sweep has done nada.
Have been losing loads more ‘stuff’ since. Even though I already lost everything.
Have been for a long walk today which has resulted in more cramps, nothing regular, and awful backache. But it’s pretty much calmed down again and now I’m bouncing on my ball.
Oh the frustration!!!!

How are you feeling about it MagicalCreatures? I’ve got to be in for 8.30am. More stressed that my mum will be able to get the DC to school and pre school appropriately dressed and with everything they need 😂.
Cramps and backache here too but not leading anywhere. A night of curry and ball bouncing for me!

Just had a super spicy Chinese from the takeaway - asked them to make it labour inducing Going to bounce on my ball later on this evening.

What's everyone's ball bouncing techniques? I try to gyrate my hips and bounce from side to side.

@SoyDora I’m gutted that induction is where I’ve ended up. I really wanted a spontaneous labour. Its my first baby and just hoped that I’d get to experience it the natural way.
Also I was gonna try my hardest to avoid an epidural but I’ve read so much about induction being more painful and women ending up needing it.

Does anyone else just feel really low about the fact that it feels like there’s something wrong with our bodies?
For me, i feel like there’s something wrong with me. Like why can’t my body just do what it’s meant to do when everyone I know who’s had babies recently have gone the natural way. It’s really getting me down 😩

Yes I know what you mean, I’ve had two spontaneous, straightforward labours with just gas and air and now feel like this one is doomed to be complicated and difficult. Don’t understand why I won’t just go into labour! Combined with the fact that I had severe sickness until 20 weeks with this one when I had minimal symptoms with my first two...

I feel the same was induced with my first and was so hopeful my body would know what to do this time. I feel like a failure, even though I know that’s not true and really unhelpful!

I haven’t booked in an induction yet - mw offered me a sweep tomorrow, which I’ll take and see how I feel from there.

Im only 36+5 and so ready for this baby to be here! Midwife appointment on Thursday and was told she's very low and engaged. I keep getting Braxton Hicks and everything is a monumental effort, how am I going to last another 3 weeks+!?

I'm really hoping not to be induced again. I think unless baby is distressed I won't accept one. Going into labour naturally has to be better for baby and us? It's got to happen at some point!

I've got to ring up in the morning on Wednesday and see if they have a bed so they can induce me but as I'll only be 7 days over, they said they might not be able to so I'll have to ring every morning.. until they have availability.

Kinda hoping I can kickstart labour before then.. would really like to avoid an induction but want baby out so badly now that I think I'd take whatever!

Can I join please? It's my due date today, it's my first but I was so sure she'd be here by now. In a way I feel like I've gone full circle and just accepted that I'll be pregnant forever...hopefully I won't though! Also if one more person messages me saying 'any news?!'...

Anyone else feel like their bum is slowly falling out when they're on their ball?

@peaches1991 oh honey join the club. I know what you mean by the texts.. I've turned my notifications off 😂

@m4rdybum I don't have a ball I've improvised with my stool and a squishy pillow - I'm desperate to get into labour and just said to my husband 'you have no choice - we are having sex tonight - this baby is getting evicted' - his face was a picture 😂😂

Yes I feel like an absolute failure. That’s the only way I can describe it.
And like I’m letting everyone down.
My family are incredible and have all been so excited about this baby. That I now feel like I’m letting them all down and they’ve exhausted the excitement of waiting for him to come. It’s my fault coz clearly my body is just crap!!!
Sorry for the rant. Getting pretty hormonal and emotional now. Baby has been wriggling like a wrestler tonight. It’s obvious he’s fed up of being in there too. There’s just no room left and it’s made me feel so Ill and tired. X

@MagicalCreatures please don't feel like that, you are so far from a failure having carried a new life for 9 months inside you, nurtured, nourished and protected it. Due dates are so inaccurate anyway as they're treated the same for everyone regardless of how long your cycle is. So in reality you may not even be due until what you believe to be 40+12! Don't let other people put pressure on you. If your family are great I'm sure they wouldn't want you to be feeling like this. Also, if you're stressing out, your baby will pick up on it and not feel a safe time to be born. The best thing you can do (imho) is to relax, have some me time and do some things that make you feel calm and happy. Take care and know that you're not on your own xx

I’m only 36+2 but I’m so over this pregnancy. My other two were late but the pregnancies were relatively easy. This one has been hard from about 10 weeks with so many emotional roller coasters and so many bloody hospital visits and I’m uncomfortable and sore and tired and I want the baby out but also don’t feel ready for number 3 and am just feeling like a wreck.

The any news texts are really annoying. I ignore a lot of them only really reply to my nana who’s on holiday at the moment.
My mum calls me 3-5 times a day just to check up on me. It’s becoming really draining now :(