Pregnancy 12 weeks + post IVF/infertility - General chat and support Thread 2

[Janefx40]

We've run out of room so let's start again.

New people welcome. The group aims to support those who are pregnant post difficulty.

All are welcome - we are aimed at 12 week plus as those early weeks are a different kind of roller coaster and another group exists for support then. However you are welcome here too if you want to join.

Some of us have been here a while and nearly ready to pop. Others already had their babies.

Welcome one and all xxx

@Liverpool19 she definitely has days and nights mixed up! I probably just feel this way due to tiredness and worrying that I’m doing something wrong. Need to keep going though.
Thanks for support xx

People are raving about the Lucy wolfesheep baby sleep book at the moment. It might be worth a purchase. Hoping you have a better night tonight x

beherenow my niece had hers mixed up and we had to keep her awake during the day. That was hard work trying to keep a new born up 😂 but it worked after a couple of days. Your not doing anything wrong at all! Xx

@Liverpool19 a couple of days isn’t bad! We had a better night. She woke every 2.5 hours but slept between feeds. Breast and a bottle. She’s so hungry at night! 😅

Have a nice Easter! Xx

@BeHereNowx32 hope the last few days have continued with Sofia sleeping. I'm sure you are doing a fab job. Every baby is different so what works for one person may not for another. Sylvie has never been such a hungry baby (she never really cluster fed) which has helped her sleep.

Sylvie is breastfed and was mix fed in the early weeks. We do have a rough feeding and sleep routine and I think that has helped her sleep longer periods at night. It is based on a book - I have attached the page with the times on. We don't necessarily use those times - we just start when she wakes and feed every 3 hours. If she's hungry in between she gets fed so we don't ignore her but try to give full feeds at roughly the right time and do bath at a regular time too.

She doesn't usually sleep through but has rarely woken more than once since we started. But as I said that could just be luck.

As I said every baby is different and you have to work with what you have. What we do may not work for you at all.

Good luck x

@Janefx40 thank you. Yesterday was a bad day for me. Came to the decision to stop breastfeeding but just couldn’t stop crying about it. I’m so torn at what to do. I love being able to do it when things are calm in the house, but can’t keep up with all the feeds.
Last night Sofia slept really well. Fed from me a couple of times and one bottle at night....
I do feel more positive today, but again, not fully happy with switching to formula... but I’m not feeding her as much from me tbh.

Sounds like you’re in a good routine with Sylvie xx

@beherenowx32 please don’t beat yourself up over this. I did when I tried and it didn’t work and I ended up solely bottle feeding after two weeks. However a lovely midwife made me realise how irrelevant it was when she said just think of all you’ve been to get here, I want you to be able to enjoy your baby and your desire to breastfeed is taking away all of the enjoyment at the moment so yes we do say breast is beat but said she had had twins. One of them had breastfed and one wouldn’t and she said there was no difference between the pair years on.

It’s a very hard decision but hopefully one that will show a huge improvement in sleep for you xxx

@Barcelo18 I know, and I do agree. I have nothing against formula at all. Have been offering her more bottles, but give in and breastfeed when I’m getting I’ll! Good to hear everyone’s feeding experiences xx

just had our 6 week check with a GP, who lectured me about how breast is best, and to put Sofia in a bedroom, on her own. Leave her to cry to sleep train her! 😠 luckily our health visiter was a lot more understanding! Xx

That seems a bit much @BeHereNowx32 I'm pretty sure I've read the cry it out strategy isn't much use until 4-6 months minimum and even then it can be later to be useful. I'm glad your health worker is understanding. I'm just approaching 37 weeks and excited to meet my little guy. Are there any other ladies close to term? X

How is everyone doing? Have we had any more babies on this group yet ?

Our little squish arrived Sunday! We had a bit of a hectic time in hospital but considering I think if went well. I was induced because of pre eclampsia then had a natural labour. Unfortunately baby's heart rate was dropping so they were anxious to have him out quickly and I ended up with surgery to make some repairs and on high dependency unit for the first night which was tough going. Briefly spiked a fever so ended up being treated for sepsis but finally home and enjoying lots of cuddles whilst working on a name!

@felicityheather Congratulations lovely. Sorry you had hard time in hospital, I hope you feeling much better soon ♥️

Ah lovely news @felicityheather and so glad that you are home and can start to get to know your little bundle of joy xx

Congratulations @felicityheather!!! Hope you have an easy time from now on

I am currently 29+3 and it is absolutely flying by. I finish work in 4 weeks (including a weeks leave in that!) and then have 4 weeks leave and start my maternity leave at 38 weeks. This baby will be here before I know it!!!!

Congrats @felicityheather amazing news. Enjoy those first precious weeks and good luck choosing a name. Xxx