Pregnancy 12 weeks + post IVF/infertility - General chat and support Thread 2

[Janefx40]

We've run out of room so let's start again.

New people welcome. The group aims to support those who are pregnant post difficulty.

All are welcome - we are aimed at 12 week plus as those early weeks are a different kind of roller coaster and another group exists for support then. However you are welcome here too if you want to join.

Some of us have been here a while and nearly ready to pop. Others already had their babies.

Welcome one and all xxx

@BeHereNowx32 hang on there, it will pass. I was in tears for weeks for no reason whatsoever and was freaking out why. Message if you feel 💩💩

Think hormones are starting to settle down today, and breastfeeding is going sooo much better (still has a bottle every now and again). But did anyone else feel super sad when it was time for the midwife to stop visiting? The health visiter has taken over now and I just keep thinking that I was then keep our midwife. She was so lovely

Hope everyone else still doing ok xx

I want to keep midwife*

Glad you're feeling better @BeHereNowx32. Sounds like you had a lovely midwife!

beherenow yes!! I was so sad when my midwife stopped coming to see me. She’s was really lovely. Glad your feeling better and breastfeeding is going well. X

@Liverpool19 I cried earlier. 😅 like I’ve lost a friend haha. The health visiter seemed nice enough...
Xx

Hello. How is everyone? Have we had any more babies on here? How old are everyone’s babies now. My lo is 18 weeks old today and coming on in leaps and bounds and it’s hard to believe just how quickly he has grown in such a short space of time x

@Barcelo18 wow 18 weeks! They change so quick! Our little girl is now 4 weeks old 🙀 not sure I will get used to the sleepless nights. Lol how are you?

Who has tried the Sleepyhead? Was thinking about getting one to see if it will help at night. 😴 x

Ah four weeks already. Honestly it won’t be long before your little one is sleeping through and then you’ll miss those cuddles in the early hours. My lo started sleeping through from about 14 weeks and tends to sleep from 7 until 5/6 in the morning although he doesn’t sleep much during the day but I’ll take that for a good nights sleep.

We have the sleepy head but only use it for the daytime, we had been using it on a night until our health visitor advised us against.

@Barcelo18 thank you. I know they aren’t recommended... same with the prep machine (we combi feed). I’m not keen on using that. But my parents bought it for us, and my DH will always use it.
Baby did sleep from 1:30-5. Which was good. Then I was up with her for 3 hours, and up again 2 hours later.

Good to hear you’re doing well xx

Hey 👋🏼
@BeHereNowx32 sleepyhead is not a miracle but it did help us. I used it for about a month at night time and then decided to try and teach her to sleep just in her cot. She still sleeps in a sleepyhead at day time. I bought it for 30£ second hand though. Not sure it’s worth 200£. As for sleeping in it at night-mothercare and everyone else says Don’t do it. But original sleepyhead website says No problem at all. Don’t know why would it be a problem

Hi @Aliona19 thank you!
I know someone who said I could try their new sleepyhead out first. I do worry about safety (and the price! Lol). Hope you’re well x

@BeHereNowx32 I was worried about safety too. Always overthinking, but I don’t see how it can be unsafe. Was worried about her pressing her face against side or something, but she can not reach it, so not sure why.
We r ok thanks. Flew home 3 weeks ago to meet grandma 😁 my country very strict with baby checks (like at 1 month they do heart ultrasound, head ultrasound etc), so we saw paediatrician and got 100 things to check 🤦🏻‍♀️ But not major. She is 5.5 and sleeping still a disaster 😅

Hi everyone!! Hope you are all ok, Jake is 5 months next week and it’s going so fast!
He’s slept through from 7 weeks sleeping 9pm until 6/7 sometimes. Some days it’s 7pm until 6 but it depends when his last bottle is. Apart from the odd couple of times when he hasn’t been well.

We use the sleepy head all the time as he is a wriggler so once he’s in his own room at 6 months and I don’t have to hear the arms being flung round the cot I will take it away 😂 we also use the prep machine it’s one of the best things we’ve got.

Xx

@Liverpool19 time really is going fast! Lovely that your little one sleeps all night. Please pass on any advice 😅 our Sofia sleeps all day then is literally awake all night. She is 5 weeks old now and is combination fed (which takes ages at night time!) I remember Jake is ff, wonder if that helps with sleep.
It’s so stressful!

Good to hear from you x

@Liverpool19 🤣 Lucky lady
@BeHereNowx32 It will change 🤣 I thought this newborn stage will never end and Vicky will never sleep at night. And we had to stay up all night 😣😣 I feel for you mama. But 5 weeks, u r very close to better times 😆 hang on there

@Aliona19 oh, I hope so! Even a few hours at a time! We are starting a little bedtime routine now. Wishful thinking 😂 x

beherenow I think formula fed babies do sleep better as we know how much food they are having. All my friends babies are breastfed and they didn’t sleep until around 6 months 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hang in there!! X

Hmmmmm my DS was formula fed and he didn't sleep through until he was 4!!!!

Runs away as fast as pregnant legs will carry me

Oh wow buttonmoooon I don’t think I could cope 😂 your brave having another 😂 I hope this one sleeps for you. X

My little one is 19 weeks now, is formula fed and has been sleeping through since about 14 weeks. He’s such a little character now. I just love waking up to hear him talking away next to me in the morning 💙

Even if Sofia slept a few hours between feeds, I could cope! Last night she was awake from 11pm until 6am. 😐 is that normal?! Lol

Little worried that I’m on the verge of pnd, but then it could be the lack of sleep. I have my 6 week check coming up, so will mention it if feeling I can x

@beherenowx32 have you spoken with your health visitor about Sofia being awake so long through the night? It does seem an awfully long time for her to be awake. I am
Sure I read somewhere that babies should sleep about an hour and a half after waking up? Does she sleep through the day then?

I’d also mention your feelings to your health visitor as my dr at my six week check wanted us in and out of the room as quickly as possible.

The lack of sleep can’t be helping with how you are feeling though. My heart goes out to you. My little one hardly sleeps during the day but i would rather it be that way than the night time. I really do feel for you x

@Barcelo18 thank you. She sleeps loads during the day! I’m trying to nap when she does. Doesn’t usually happen though. I will speak to the health visiter. But maybe baby just has days and nights mixed up! Xx

oh beherenow please speak to someone if you fell like that DM if you need to talk also. Does she have her night and day mixed up? My friend is having trouble with her little girl sleeping also xx