Pregnancy 12 weeks + post IVF/infertility - General chat and support Thread 2

[Janefx40]

We've run out of room so let's start again.

New people welcome. The group aims to support those who are pregnant post difficulty.

All are welcome - we are aimed at 12 week plus as those early weeks are a different kind of roller coaster and another group exists for support then. However you are welcome here too if you want to join.

Some of us have been here a while and nearly ready to pop. Others already had their babies.

Welcome one and all xxx

Not sure if this thread is on the go, but I’ve had my baby!
I’m staying in hospital for the night, while DH has had to go home. Feeling exhausted but all going well so far xx

Congratulations!

Yay congrats!!!

@BeHereNowx32 have PM'd you. So excited about your baby xxx

@BeHereNowx32 congratulations! Exhausted but happy and in love 😁 that’s new normal ❤️❤️

Congrats @BeHereNowx32

Congratulations beherenow hope you and both well and labour wasn’t too bad!! Enjoy every second!

Jake is starting to get his bottom tooth. Can see the little white bit in his gum! 4 months old this week and getting a tooth. It goes so fast!

Hope everyone is well.

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Thank you all. I hated labour. It was so awful. But love this little baby that came from it. Just settling st home and trying out breastfeeding. Hope everyone else doing ok too xx

@liverpool19 I know what you mean. My lo is 14 weeks old and has changed so much in such a short time. I now know what people mean when they say they aren’t babies for long.

Hope everyone and their bumps and babies are doing fine x

After baby sleeping pretty much all night on her first night in hospital, baby will now only sleep in our arms. And I can’t let her cry it out, it makes me too upset! We are just going to take turns tonight doing this. Need to get some advice from midwife! If anyone has tips, let me know! She wants to suck to sleep.. xx

beherenow have you tried a dummy this may help with the sucking. Jakes first two nights where really unsettled. Then he went in his Moses basket and was fine. We now use a sleepy head and it’s the best thing ever. I’ve formula fed from the beginning so I’m not sure if that’s helped him settle quicker. 9 out of 10 times I can put him down and he’ll go off pretty quick on his own. X

@Liverpool19 I am breastfeeding just now. Midwife came today and showed me how to latch properly, and explain how often. She has been a little more settled after. But mainly wants cuddles. And I’m just going to pick her up for skin to skin whenever she is unsettled.
Not sure I will carry on with breastfeeding yet, as it’s so hard, but i will for tonight.
Thanks for advice tho. Will try make her feel more secure by tucking blankets around her... xx

@BeHereNowx32 hey. Me and other half took turns for first 3 weeks every single night as little one would only sleep in our hands no matter what. Then I bought sleepyhead and it got better.
As for breastfeeding, ofcourse whatever you decide, but it’s hard first 2 weeks or so. If you pass this mark-it will be easy 😘

@Aliona19 thank you. She is feeding and sleeping better (the last few hours lol), but I’m finding breastfeeding so draining. Not sure if I can carry on. I think my actual milk is starting to come in now. Feel like my body just needs to recover!
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@BeHereNowx32 I know, breastfeeding takes a lot. 4,5 month and I am still waking up ever 2/3 hours to feed. Some nights even every 1 hour. But I feel like if I have milk-I should do it. Not going to last forever. Plus for me it’s money and convenience.
And first weeks it was a blur as she only slept on us, so some days I felt like I couldn’t do it anymore. It gets better 😍 how r you feeling apart from tired 😅 did I miss the name?

@Aliona19 oh wow. You’re doing well with feeding then. I’m still waiting on milk coming in properly, and it’s painful.

Sorry, didn’t say. Her name is Sofia. She was 6lb 10oz when born and looks like her mummy 💗

@BeHereNowx32 haha at least one of the babies looks like mummy 🤣🤣 all this hard work paid off.
Yeah painful, but it will pass. First 2 weeks I was walking topless as even clothes was hurting me. Now u can actually feel baby on a boob and you don’t have this feeling of full boob when it hurts. So if u can hang on a little-it will be good after. If not, ah well, as long as it’s ok for u xx

beherenow do what you feel is best. I didn’t breastfeed as I didn’t want too. However all of my friends did and I seen how draining it was on them so well done!! Swaddling is a good idea. Jake loves to be all cosy. Sofia is a gorgeous name.
It gets easier as the weeks go by. X

@Aliona19 @Liverpool19 midwife suggested topping her up with formula as she has lost a little too much weight. And I feel so relieved that we can do that. She loves the bottle. Will try combination feeding for now. But if she is happy with bottle I’ll do that.

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If it makes your baby happy and takes the pressure off you then why not. Jake loves his bottle and is coming on great. My friend does combination feeding and that helped her. Only you know what is best. X

@Liverpool19 thank you. Combination would be good. I’ve noticed how different different I feel after breastfeeding her compared to just using the bottle. I feel so ill, and basically depressed with the hormones. And I’m trying to recover from childbirth. My body isn’t coping. I’m sure it’s all normal, but it’s worrying.

Sounds like you’re all doing an amazing job xx

beherenow you don’t want to make yourself ill, we’ve been through a lot to get where we are this is the time to enjoy it. Everyday you learn something else and everyday gets a little easier. You get to know what you both like. Your doing amazing too.

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@Liverpool19 midwife cane showed proper attachment- so giving it one more day 🤞
Thank you for your support. I couldn’t have imagined that the first days were so hard! XX

Sounds like you're doing amazingly @BeHereNowx32. Just do what's best for you and your family.

I'm finally 30 weeks and things are getting a little tricky. Having twice weekly bp profiling at the hospital which is an hour from my work and invariably lasts 4-6 hours for some reason. Lots of visual disturbances but no signs of pre-eclampsia yet. Now they've got excited about my heart because I have pre existing conditions and my pulse is a little high so got cardiology appointments all week and 24 hour trackers etc... thankfully baby and I are both fine but finding all this investigation a little stressful trying to balance with work.... they keep threatening to admit me until labour then sending me home every time... part of me wishes they would sign me off work so it's one less thing to stress about it but on the other hand I'm feeling fine most of the time (except when I can't see!) and why shouldn't I be at work?!

@felicityheather thank you. Feel like I’m in tears all the time. But midwife will be visiting a bit more often.

Definitely just take time off work if you feel like it will help! I pushed myself and worried about going off work too early, and now I look back it’s when you really need to look after yourself. I didn’t realise that my mind and body would struggle as much as it has... and I’m glad I did rest before, just wish I didn’t stress about it at the time xx