Due March 2019

[Bozley47]

I'm 10-11DPO and just had BFP on a digital. I know it's incredibly early but looking at a due date March 3rd 2019!

SO queasy today, could not face coffee or eggs for breakfast. I find that eating does help with the nausea, it's just hard to want to eat in the first place.

I’ve been doing the waking early thing too! It’s so unlike me but i am wise awake at 7 and there’s no snoozing. My DP isn’t quite on the same page 😂

My first appointment to book in with midwife isn’t til 2nd August so feel like we need to wait a while until it’s real - i’m in scotland so not sure if things work differently with appointments vs other parts of the UK? I haven’t even seen my GP as they just gave me the number for the midwife centre!

Bit scared to be joining you ladies and jinxing things but seems we all feel the same.
I'm 4+1 today do due on March 2nd.
I have two sons aged 9&11 so really feel like I'm starting from scratch again and I'm a fair bit older than last time.
I don't remember feeling so exhausted with my boys! I'm totally shattered.

Fingers crossed for healthy pregnancies 🤞
I live in South Wales, anyone near by?

Hi everyone!!!

I’m due March 3rd.... my 3rd baby so a big surprise! Sinking in slowly but quite over the moon! I’ve also been testing like mad and did a digital one this morning and also been watching the lines get darker! Felt stupidly sick all of last week... I’ve been an absolute bitch as well!! Ooopsy. So lovely to say hi to you all!

Thanks @hamandpease @RedRobin7 I will try to convince him that is a sensible price! I am in London so everything is expensive here, but I'm sure when I see everyone else getting an 8 week scan I won't want to wait until 12 weeks.

Welcome newcomers - @sejohn I also have quite a bit age gap (7 years) and feel like I'm starting over again!

My nausea actually seems to have got better but I still only fancy savoury foods, can't stand anything sweet. I'm also finding I get full quicker which is bizarre - I think it's because I'm quite bloated so it feels really uncomfortable if I eat too much.

Hi all! Is this going to be the March Babybus thread? I've got a lot of catching up to do reading the comments but I wanted to introduce myself.

Just tested at BFP yesterday and today. Very excited, ovulation was about the 9th June and due early March. Worried it might not stick as my first little egg didn't nest down properly for whatever reason and lost it very early as a period. Going to try to keep it on the down low for a few weeks until things settle. Hubby and I trying to not get too excited.

I feel as sick as the proverbial parrot and have done for several days already.

Hi @goatlady and @frankiefumbles. I know, it's nerve racking. I've had a couple of miscarriages and while I'm getting my head round being pregnant, I'm not quite there with believing there'll be a baby at the end of it (whereas OH is in total 'we're having a baby!' mode). I'm so dreading any more heartache. I won't tell many people til I'm at least 12 weeks, but I think when I'm a bit further on (8 weeks?) I'll tell a few close friends. I'm going to need them to cover for me during wedding/bbq season, and if I have a miscarriage I'll really need the support too.

Anyway, it all seems good right now, in that I am pretty nauseous (it does seem to fade by about 3pm), sleepy, and today I woke up at a new record of 6.15. THANKS, BABY!
I don't mind really - I read a book for an hour which was really nice.

I know this might sound callous but I have no intention of telling anyone other than parents and very close family on either side, and having had the debacle of that....whatever it was....last time...I have to say I feel really indifferent because I kind of feel it may not happen anyway. I've got some travelling planned in August and I'd really rather try to cover things up a bit until then so I don't have to deal with the "oh you shouldn't ride your bike" as they said last time! As long as I feel comfortable I'll do it.

Re support, yes. It's hugely helpful having people around you can talk to, but I think this time we aren't going to say anything to anyone until at least the first scan (which I will be having done early along with the extra tests as my OH is "mature" so we are more at risk of abnormalities). I may change my mind!

That's not callous. It's pragmatic, and self-protective. I've also never reached the stage of pregnancy where I tell people, so I have no idea what a heap of judgement that might unleash. Definitely not planning to tell my parents or in-laws until as late as decently possible; they're lovely people and will be delighted but I feel a bit claustrophobic just thinking about it right now.

OTOH I will really need the friends who can be sympathetic to my status as a pregnant person without loading me with unsought advice, judgement or expectation.

Bless...you definitely need to get at least one friend on board so you can run through the stress of it all. Ideally a girl friend who will be sympathetic but not a gossip. Sorry to hear about the miscarriages...it's tough. I don't know what happened to mine last time but I had got quite attached to my little bundle of cells and had the full whack of symptoms. Thankfully for me it was very early but I just...I made the mistake of telling my parents as soon as I did the test because I was so over the moon and I felt like a bit let down because I hadn't managed to keep the thing. That of course is very silly but a natural thought process. I know some of these threads aren't keen on talking about when it doesn't work but I think it's quite important for those going through it to know they aren't alone.

I keep checking my Flo app as though it's somehow going to tell me something more. I feel quite numb actually and I just can't imagine how I'm going to get through to 9 weeks! What will be will be.

@frankiefumbles my husband is pretty old... (well, 53) does that mean we're more at risk for abnormalities?

Well. I'm not a doctor or even self proclaimed expert. But I've read some research that says older men's sperm (my hubby is 51) can sometimes have more "genetic mutations" than the sperm of younger men. I don't want to scare monger. My OH isn't bothered by it, he's a doctor, he thinks because he's fit and healthy it isn't an issue.

What I have read about is that often when you have a couple with a younger woman and an older man you might be slightly more prone to have a couple of false starts (as I did last time) which is perhaps due to it being a kind of...imperfect conception that your body doesn't want to hold on to. Certainly I think that was the case for me last time.

But I don't want this to sound depressing because I appreciate everyone is nervous about their little bundle of cells and everyone has got a story as to how they got to this point. I don't want to end up upsetting people! As was suggested on the previous "baby bus" thread I was on, some of the more negative/scare monger-y type topics might be best discussed on a separate topic. I don't know. I guess it's up to everyone on the thread as to whether it's okay to talk about stuff like this or whether it's potentially triggering to people.

Oh okay thanks @frankiefumbles - just wondered as you'd mentioned it. Hope all is okay for all of us and we all have nice healthy sticky beans 😀

I told my parents and my sister at the weekend - it was lovely to be able to enjoy the news with them, and we all got a bit emotional! It has helped it feel more real in a way. I'm very much hoping we all have sticky beans (haha!), but I know I would want them to know what had happened if not. I'm drawing the line there for the mo (DH wants to tell his parents now, so after that!). I can see that my running buddy might notice a change in me quickest though after my run on Sunday left me struggling! We blamed it on the sun and hayfever, but soon enough I'll no doubt run out of excuses! I'll try to make it to at least 8weeks before sharing it wider - that seems to be a bit of a milestone.

Hoping everyone is feeling alright in the heat this week... can't imagine what that would be like with a 38 week old bump! X

I also told my mum at the weekend and have given up trying to keep it a secret now as she can't keep her mouth shut! Will be telling my dad this week and DP has told his parents as well. I am just too excited not to tell people and am trying to think positive rather than worry about what could happen. I understand why some people may want to keep it a secret though especially if you've had previous losses.

I'm having the worst day at work as I've had to stop my migraine medication now I'm pregnant, and I've got a blinding headache right now. I want to work until close to my due date but it's going to be tough at this rate. At least when we are due the weather won't be so hot!

We told our parents at the weekend and they were over the moon. We gave them a little box with newborn boots in them and asked them to open them. Both couldn't believe it. Got a call from my GP today and my 1st appointment with the midwife has been booked for the end of July.
#itsgettingreal

Sorry if my earlier posts about my MC offended anyone!

@Velcro88 That's lovely you got to tell your parents and sister. We may tell mine this Sunday (Niece's 1st bday) or the following (dads bday). My mum will be annoyed we didn't tell her straight away like last time! A week and a bit later isn't that late 🙈

I mentioned in another thread that my office was 31 degrees today so I was kicking off and then left and worked from home. There are heavily pregnant ladies on the floor so I was surprised they lasted longer there than I did. They have their own little oven as it is!

@mostimproved I suffer from awful migraines with aura so I know it's really difficult getting a migraine and not being able to treat it. Drs say "oh it's fine to take paracetamol" 🙄 Doesn't even touch it!! During my last pregnancy I did get a lot of tension headaches but only 3 migraines (all within 2 weeks) so I did actually feel like there was an improvement!

@Olivia2019 Oh that's so lovely! That's very quick with your appointment being arranged. Did you have to see your dr or was it all over the phone? I have my doctors appointment on Thursday and then they'll send my details off to the community midwives who will then contact me! So long winded!

Personally I don't think it's that inappropriate to talk about miscarriage and things going wrong in this thread - especially in the first trimester we are all walking with the possibility of it, and many of us have already had experience of it. I think it's part and parcel of this stage, but I totally get why people might find it upsetting, or want to keep the thread optimistic and forward-looking.

Solidarity to everyone who's lost a pregnancy, and here's to happy outcomes in the future.

Okay re MC talk 👍 just didn't want to be out of line :)

I'm not planning to get a Dr appointment until a fortnight passes. I feel like it's a bit early otherwise? I've only just "missed" my period by one day, believe I ovulated on 9th... somewhat comically Flo (the app) reckons I'm on week 5 day 2 already. My how it goes ;) that is of course counting from LMP I guess

I so want to shout it from the rooftops but trying very hard not to! I’m seeing 2 of my closest friends tomorrow eve and can see it coming out to them, (the minute I refuse wine they are going to be suspicious...not sure what that says about me..!) I think I may also have to tell work sooner than I’d like, as I sometimes work in some high risk / aggressive situations so they need to risk plan. But feels weird telling work before family? Also, and I know this is ridiculous, but I’m worried saying it out loud will jinx it. I practically whispered to the poor doctor receptionist on the phone today!

@frankiefumbles I should have said that was just my 2p. I reckon if people don't want to talk about MC here, I understand why and we don't have to.

I'm so desperate to tell people too! I know what you mean @puravida about how weird it is to tell work before loved ones. I think I'm going to have to say something quietly to a particular client - we are doing an event at an oyster/champagne bar, I will be very visible, I will not be able to partake in any of it. I'll be about 9 weeks by then.

Also my grandfather is really ill and isn't likely to last much longer - I wish I could tell him, but he and my grandmother are not really capable of keeping it quiet, so if I told them I'd definitely need to be ready to tell everybody, which I'm scared to do in case of losing it. I lost my other grandfather in April and it's so sad that he missed this baby.

We told lots of people early the last time round. My sister said it was the longest pregnancy ever cos they knew so early on! But it's hard to keep quiet. Not sure we'll be able to keep quiet this time....

@ladycarlotta im sorry to hear about your loss. That’s difficult with your grandparents, as I can imagine how much the news would mean to them- it’s so tricky isn’t it! My Nan would be exactly the same if I said anything now - her hairdresser, neighbours, perhaps her favourite Tesco check out lady would all know by the end of the week!

@puravida your comment about whispering made me laugh!!! I was on the phone at work today with my hand over my mouth I practically crawled under the desk!