Due January 2019 (2nd thread)

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Hello
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Thanks @InDreamland :-)

@SarahPow - welcome! I really fancy a steak now you have mentioned it. Although the thought is somewhat ruined as I wouldn't be able to have it cooked blue!!

SarahPow - WTF?! Sorry no idea where that came from @LouisePow

@Si1ver the scan is private. Not had my NHS one through yet. Midwife put me at 10+6 but scan will confirm dating. She's coming to my house Saturday to do all booking in.
To be honest there's been so much heartache in our family recently we all needed a nice bit of news! So grabbing it with two hands and trying to enjoy it as much as I can. Anxiety is something I struggle with but I've found strength from somewhere. Sharing it all with you ladies! We can do this 💃🏼

Steak is my favourite but it's just not the same if it's not pink in the middle!! That's has to be the thing that I'm missing most so far!

I love steak but I like it either rare or blue depending on the cut, had it well done when I was a kid and hated it so not tried since BFP

I’m so tired. Every night sleeping just seems to become harder and harder. Went to bed at 10 last night, managed to drop off somewhere between 2-3am, and even then it was broken. I’m normally an extremely heavy sleeper, so this is completely new territory for me. Is this one of those first trimester things, or does this carry on throughout the entire pregnancy?

@buttercup I'm also not sleeping well. Lucky to get a couple of hours straight without waking up. I couldn't get comfortable lastnight or last few weeks actually. Are you working today?

Finally told my parents and sister last night, they're thrilled. They're under strict instructions though not to mention to a single person apart from my BIL and he also has to keep it schtum.

I was wide awake at 4am😩 so tired.

I only sleep comfortably on one side at the moment and every time I turn I seem to wake up. I feel so tired though needing the fan on at night as getting really warm.

@purplesmiler I'm the same. Bought a v shaped pillow last weekend as I used to sleep on my front, which I can't do anymore, and can't seem to sleep on my side without some support.

I'm also waking several times in the night despite being really tired. Also have the fan on as it's way too hot, think DH is silently happy that I've finally joined him in the excessively hot club so that he can use fans or have the windows open without worrying about me getting cold lol

@InDreamland I bet it felt great telling them. I immediately told my parents and quite a few people know now. I need to be able to talk to my closest friends and family, keeping secrets isn’t good for me, so I’ve had to remind myself that telling people won’t make anything bad happen. It can only be a good thing for me.

I’m actually not working at the minute, I’ve been signed off for a few weeks by my dr. Really struggling with anxiety. I have a pre existing mental illness and it’s getting progressively worse every week. So I’m not at work while I wait for my counselling to start. Trying to stay active and positive, persuade myself to shower daily and go outside etc. Paranoid that all of this will put me on some sort of social services record, but I don’t really have any option, I have to get help.

@sexnotgender I woke at 4am yesterday and that was me wide awake! It's the worst feeling ever when you know you can go back to sleep for at least another couple hours yet you are wide awake! I ended up sleeping really well last night for the first time in ages, hope this is the start of my normal sleep pattern resuming! I'm 11+1

Ha ha its ok sarahpow louisepow same thing

Yeah ive been having my steak just the slightest pink but its all im wanting to eat. Trying to up the veg abit now but its not gping down to well. I need meat lol.

@Buttercup I hope you get well enough again quickly. Yes it was such a relief to tell them, not telling anyone else now until after 12 week scan but won't be doing any big social media announcement, will just tell friends I really want to know and colleagues, in-laws will be told too (hubby happy for them to wait as it was about giving me the support I need from my family in first trimester)........news will soon spread as people talk to eachother.

I'm so exhausted today. Struggled to keep it together in a 2 hour meeting this morning, think I managed to come across as totally fine but thought I was gonna faint I've been so lightheaded since I got into the office .........so I'm now on my way home to avoid the rush hour tube crush so I don't faint on the train. Will do some work from home instead.

The light headed ness is awful! I know that I have naturally extremely low blood pressure and that’s all it is, but it takes it out of you. Can’t imagine having that while having to take the tube, especially in summer. I’ve stocked up on kids smoothie and juice cartons and they seem to help when it’s really bad, maybe they could help you?

I'm another suffering with light headedness, it's actually worse than the nausea.

In terms of food I'm bland bland bland. I usually follow a low carb diet but I've done nothing but eat beige food for the last couple weeks.

Haha @LouisePow you are like Phoebe in Friends - "The baby needs meat!"

Sorry to all those not sleeping, I had a bit of that but not too bad now thank goodness (toddler wakeups not withstanding anyway). I do however wake up DESPERATE for a wee at least once, often twice a night... very annoying.

Has anyone on the thread had twelve week scan yet (can't work it out tired but assume some must, or be getting close)? I can't wait, it seems a million miles away. I don't even have the date yet!!

Also, bit ahead of things but what are people's plans for finding out the sex (or not)?

I'm really hating the light headedness. Just awful in the office and the tube.

Strangely I'm not doing too bad with food. Eating fine, some food doesn't taste as good as it used to.

Bit worried, earlier this year had a scan and showed i had fibroids. If they're still there then pregnancy will be high risk. Now it's making more anxious.

@changedmaname my 12 week scan is booked in for Friday 13th July. We've not decided yet if we will find out sex. Think some hospitals won't tell you anyway so depends on which area you're in.

@sexnotgender I feel like pregnancy turns your diet upside down. I’m vegetarian 90% of the time normally, purely because I prefer veg to meat. Now? I’m having to stop myself eating Big Macs every day, and I just about manage some garden peas with my dinners of chicken dippers and chips. Am still enjoying fruit though, getting through a pack of strawberries every week.

@Changed my scan is the first week of July, when I’ll be 13 weeks and a few days. Going to attempt to get it moved forward just by a couple of days so I’m further away from the 14 week mark (concerned about missing the date for testing in case I’m further along than that). My DM has offered to pay for a private scan for me, not sure if I’m going to take her up on it yet, purely because if anything is wrong, I’d want to be in a hospital when I find out.

RE gender I’m going to find out straight away. Absolutely desperate for it to be a girl, already referring to it as ‘she/her’, if it’s a boy I need to get used to it! I do believe in raising them gender neutral, so it doesn’t really matter either way, but I would love to have a house full of women (me, baby girl, my female dog vs my DH haha). What about you?

Unless I have a massive change of heart we won't be finding out. We didn't with No.1 and it was just the most magical moment finding out when he was born, I so want that again. I'm convinced that we'll have another boy anyway!

We don't want to know until bubs is born. Nice to get a surprise!

I want to know, I'm so impatient!

It's such a personal thing isn't it? I found the first time that wanting to know definitely helped with the pushing!!

Ladies, I'm in such a mess this evening. Slept for about 1.5 hours after finishing work. DH had to make dinner and clean up after. I'm so tired amd I think I'm just feeling really emotional. Getting myself all worked up over breaking the news to the in-laws since I told my parents and sister last night (which was perfect halt surgical moment). DH is being really supportive but I'm so worked up. Telling SIL isn't an issue as we really get on well, think we're just generally on the same wavelength and even DH says he can see how well we get on. Agreed we'd tell FIL after 12 week scan (MIL passed away years ago) as DH and SIL don't particularly have a good relationship with him anyway and so keep him at arms length and just put up with him when they have to. Biggest issue I'm getting all worked up over is his girlfriend who simply put is horrible. Rude, patronising and condescending and quite frankly since the last time she upset me (in front of my family which my mum clocked) I've avoided her for my own sanity. I just don't want her involved in any of the close intimate special family moments like hearing news of the pregnancy or first visits after baby is born if we're blessed with a successful pregnancy. From witnessing the questions and comments she's made to SIL when she was pregnant I just don't want to put up with it. Why am I so worked up when DH promised to protect me from her? My head is all over the place. I'm also just really anxious sunbathing is going to go wrong with this pregnancy and it's going to end in tears.