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More cake for more babies... BFP after MC

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Cakelaur · 06/06/2018 18:49

Here we go ladies...

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clairehr · 26/07/2018 07:23

Hope everything goes ok @hayleyfx sending lots of positivity your way x

HidCat · 26/07/2018 09:11

Good luck today @hayleyfx . xxx

leanne9312 · 26/07/2018 17:52

@hayleyfx hope your ok, thinking of you xx

Patienceofatoddler · 26/07/2018 20:03

I keep checking back hope your ok @hayleyfx

SpongeBobGrannyPants · 26/07/2018 20:56

Sending love hayley xx

Alicejj8x · 27/07/2018 07:20

@hayleyfx sending positive thoughts x

maxiflump1 · 27/07/2018 10:42

12 week scan today: one happy healthy jumping bean!! Due date 8 Feb! Was absolutely petrified there was going to be no heartbeat again but told the sonographer how anxious I was and she found it after about 4 seconds! And relax....!

HidCat · 27/07/2018 14:21

@maxiflump1 what a fab picture, congratulations!

hayleyfx · 27/07/2018 18:15

Hi ladies, sorry for being AWOL but had a hectic couple days. Our baby has been diagnosed with Encephalocele, which is similar to spina bifida but happens on the brain. The skull hasn’t properly developed and some of the brain tissue is growing outside of the head. The chance of survival is 1 in 5 - however they think I would miscarry before the birth anyway. Sadly I have to have a termination, I feel devastated and heartbroken but it’s not fair to bring this baby into the world (if it even made it). We were told that if, by some miracle, the baby survived then it would be severely mentally and physically disabled from the neck down. It’s the worst case scenario. It will be a week or two before I can have the termination but after it, I get to hold the baby and say goodbye. Which makes me feel a bit better. We’ve decided that my body needs a break after this and we also need a bloody holiday! Feeling so rubbish but beyond thankful for my amazing partner. I just love him so much, he’s told me that tonight he’s buying me all my favourite chocolates and sweets then we’re coming home and I’m getting a hot bath and a massage haha. We’ll be okay, as long as we have each other. Just want to say a huge thank you for all the support you ladies have given me, it means so much and really does help ❤️ I wish you all the best of luck in your pregnancies 💕

Patienceofatoddler · 27/07/2018 18:26

@hayleyfx I am so sorry for your news and what you are and have to go through over the next few weeks. Your OH sounds amazing and I really don't have any words to say which seem right.

You certainly deserve a good holiday and as you say a chance to recover mentally and physically - both of you Thanks

Athers666 · 27/07/2018 18:52

@hayleyfx I'm so so sorry. So glad that you have a loving and supportive partner and can help each other through this. Just so unfair that this has happened. I wish you all the best and I know that no words can make it better in any way xxx

SpongeBobGrannyPants · 27/07/2018 19:57

I'm so very sorry to hear this @hayleyfx.

Please continue to chat to us on here if you have any questions over the following weeks. My situation was slightly different with dc3 as baby had died already inutero but I imagine the process and delivery may be similar from those I know who've had TFMR in second trimester. There are others on this thread who will relate to some of the questions you may have regarding delivery and the time afterwards.

Know that you and your baby are in my thoughts, it's truly devastating and my heart goes out to you - and your dp too xx

SpongeBobGrannyPants · 27/07/2018 20:03

Others on this thread who will also relate, that should have said x

HidCat · 27/07/2018 20:47

@hayleyfx I'm so sorry, I know there is nothing that can be said to heal your pain but I really am sorry that you're having to do this. Lots of love to you and your partner. xxx

leanne9312 · 27/07/2018 22:04

@hayleyfx I'm so sorry , your such a strong person still thinking about the positives of such a bad situation, I hope everything goes as well as it can and that you recover quickly and smoothly ❤️❤️❤️

Beck1988 · 27/07/2018 22:31

@hayleyfx so sorry to hear your news. 😢💔

peachesarenom · 27/07/2018 23:06

I'm so sorry hayleyfx thank goodness for your OH. Take your time, I hope it all goes as smoothly as it can. Lots of love xxx

hayleyfx · 28/07/2018 08:55

Thank you all so much for the support and your kind words. I wish you all the best of luck in the rest of your pregnancies ❤️

@SpongeBobGrannyPants thank you so much for the advice. I’m so sorry you had to go through something similar, it’s awful. I’m really grateful that I can still come here for advice from you all and I’ll stick around over the next couple weeks as the support truly does help 💕

SpongeBobGrannyPants · 28/07/2018 21:17

It's the saddest thing, but do keep talking. Everyone deals with it differently but there won't be any judgement from me.

The miscarriage association have some useful literature on second trimester losses regards preparing for the delivery and all the decisions about how you want to remember your baby. Did you get those leaflets from the hospital? I think a lot of it applies to your situation too so I can easily share a link to the online version if you'd like.

rdm10 · 28/07/2018 21:37

@hayleyfx I’m so very sorry to hear your news. Life is just so cruel sometimes. I’m in total awe of how positive you sound, what a wonderful woman you are. Take care of yourself and let that lovely DH of yours spoil you. We are all here for you x

SpongeBobGrannyPants · 29/07/2018 11:54

@Cakelaur sorry to be a pest, I sent you a PM about the Dec 18 Fb group, was wondering if you could add me if you're on it? I never check my DMs on here as it doesn't let you on the app, so thought I should say that I've sent you one!

Beck1988 · 29/07/2018 12:55

Oh god had a scare this morning! After intercourse(sorry tmi) I had bright red blood! Then a lil later had like a clot/tissue passed whe on The toilet. Phoned the midwife an she has just been out to see me. Baby's heartbeat is great 140bpm an bleeding seems to be easing off now! Friday can't come quick enough for my 20week scan! Baby kicking away like mad now! X

Cakelaur · 29/07/2018 13:48

@SpongeBobGrannyPants that's for the heads up. I never check my pm's hahaha! I had like 6 since the beginning of the year! 🙈 have a look out you should be being added now. Xx

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Cakelaur · 29/07/2018 13:50

@Beck1988 how scary babe!! Hopefully it's all fine and just a bit of cervix irritation!

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Athers666 · 29/07/2018 17:39

20 week scan on Wednesday! Getting so nervous. Can feel the baby moving daily now but still feel terrified and sort of dreading it!

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