TTC graduates! Shiny new chat over here...

[KitKat30]

Thread number 3 ladies... good grief we can chat!!!

Happy birthday for yesterday Babymad! And hellooo to everyone I havent mentioned...

June
Pink Butterfly C-section 18/06/07 (GIRL)

July
Bodkin Due 15/07/07
Chooster Due 22/07/07 (BOY)
Firststar Due 26/07/07

Aug
Conkertree Due 01/08/07
Babymad Due 03/08/07
KitKat Due 29/08/07 (BOY)

Sept
Fettle due 29/09/07 (BOY)
Greedy due 30/09/07

Oct
Honeyapple Due 27/10/07

Jan
Mum2Sam Due 16/01/08
MrsMcJnr Due 15/01/08
Seaside Due 20/01/08 (not sure if i am really allowed to put that on here yet!!!)

Well done KikKat

I'm one of 3 too (eldest of 3 girls ) I always wanted 4 though. DH is one of 2, he has an older sister, by 10 months! At this rate I'd be happy with 1 if only I'd started earlier but then that's just the way the cookie crumbled!

Welcome Seaside - my temps have been holding at 36.8c the last few days so I've been happy (coverline is 36.25c) I'll see how I feel beyond Monday after my scan, I have to say I didn't like it earlier in the week when my temp dropped to 36.5c. How are you feeling? I feel a little bit sick this morning but that may be because I have my review in 5 mins with Boss from Hell ugggh!

ooooouuuuuuu shiny!

Hey Kitkat - thought I'd pop over to join you!

Welcome seaside!!! I remember your name from when I've been lurking on the ttc threads looking for bfp news. Very very excited for you ... Like some of the other ladies, I stopped temping a few days after bfp as I got a dip which scared me a bit and of course it turned out to be nothing. Nice to get some new blood on here... I think we may have scared off the last two newcomers

I take my hat off to you who are thinking of having more than 3 LO's! Like Bodders I think this will be it for us. DH and I are both only children so for us having 2 kids is mind-blowing!!!

Hope you had a nice night out Bodkin! We always get my MIL to babysit as she just lives close by and doesn't really have a social life . Sorry that was mean... she seems to love doing it but DS is always in bed before we go out.

Sooo, you dont think you are ever mean to me Greedy! You said I had a deformed fanny Surely thats a bit on the mean side

Anyway, must share with you that I was a total arse last night. I had been uncomfortable and bored at work yesterday and so was really excited to get home... But DH still hadn't fed DS when I got in who was in the middle of a paddy on the floor and told me and DH that we weren't his friends . Then DH and I ended up having a row, and I ended up crying.... Then I went upstairs and DH had spent all day sorting out the rooms upstairs to had had got the baby's room finished. He wanted it to be a nice surprise but instead I had a snotty nose and wobbly chin and a tantruming DS. I felt like a total donkey...

Good luck in your review MrsMc!!! Wow, didn't know that about your DH - so they were born 10 months apart . That must have been a surprise...

Phew! I was getting lonely!

Chooster - your post made me smile... life just wouldn't be the same if you weren't allowed to act like a donkey from time to time! What makes it worse is when you know you're being a complete arse, but you can't stop yourself anyway... it's what makes us so damn special! Just be extra nice to your DH tonight... Fri night take away maybe?

MrsMcJ - I am 1 of 2 (youngest), and DH is 1 of 3 (overlooked middle child...), but I kind of think we'd both be happy with just one LO....

Chooster - what were your experiences of being an only child?

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I feel much better today Firststar and Kitkat - thanks for making me feel better girls. Yes, just hormomes really and DH and I are rubbish at arguing. One of always mis-interprets what the other is trying to say which just makes it worse - Also DH is a sulker rather than a shouter which annoys me! . The air is cleared now though and the rooms look great!!

My experience of being an only child has been positive Kitkat, although I guess there are always pro's and cons to everything. I was always really close to my mum growing up and she was more of a friend that a parent - in fact she was rubbish at being strict with me. She would let me bunk off school as long I asked nicely - I guess she thought politeness was more important than education . Mind you, I think she was over-compensating as we moved every 2-3 yrs so I went to loads of schools, some I didn't like much.

I think as long as the parents are interested and take an active part in their childrens lives then I dont think its a bad thing growing up on your own. The strange thing is that its only now we are older that my DH and I have said we wished we had brothers / sisters, especially when we see how close some of our friends are to their siblings. Its one of the reasons we knew we wanted to have 2 children, because otherwise my DS's extended family would be practically non-existant - i.e he'll never have any aunts / uncles or cousins etc... Anyway, that was a long answer to your question, but I'd always say to people never worry if, for one reason or another, you end up with one child. Your family is just as complete as any other family and it has its own positives.

kitkat - i bet once you have one baby you wont be able to stop! my freind i used to work was adamant she was never having ANY...........and now she has 3!!!

fettle - you made me cry AGAIN!

choosterchops - you donkey!

my 2 have been beautiful today except for a wobbly 5 mins when they wanted to go in the park and i said no (we had just been to the other park round the corner so i wasn't really being mean). anyway........they both kicked off at the same time and someone i vaguely knew was just ahead of us on the path. i was hugely embaressed and did a VERY bad thing..................i am only admitting it to you girls on here so that one of you can hopefully make me feel better about it.....................i grabbed ds's arm and told him to be quiet, but i grabbed it really roughly and squeezed a bit too hard as i was talking to him............do you know what i mean? i knew i was being mean but i was desperate for them both to shut up and just did it without really thinking.................obviously i shouldn't have and it completely back fired cos he then started yelling "you hurt my arm mummy and you aren't saying sorry" i now feel like stella from eastenders! someone else please tell me you have doen similar in the heat of the moment.......please.......

by the way bodders, re babysitters - we have always had family or friends in the past but just recently have started using a proper babysitter. only used her twice. first time we didnt tell them and second time we did! but second time my dd woke up! we are using her again tomorrow when we go to a party actually! i always worry when we leave them!

Gosh isn't this new thread gorgeous! Spun from the highest quality waffle there is!!! I mean I loved the old one, but it just got soooo last season, darling....

Babysitting was fine - DD had obviously forgotton all about it and slept like a log, in fact , she did a 13 hour stint!!! Then fell asleep again in the car this afternoon!

Greedy - I know exactly what you mean about the arm-grabbing - in fact did the very same myself the other day - but more as a life-preserving measure! DD was throwing a tantrum on the pavement right next to a really busy road, and I was concerned that she was just going to do something really stupid (especially as she was trying to bite the tarmac at the time) so I had to bring "VERY SCARY MUMMY" out the bag. She only comes out in emergencies though

Will finish this in a moment - gotta get tea ready...

wow bodders! that must be some gourmet tea! only logged on to check if anyone else was as evil as me........glad to see you are bodders! i felt terrible afterwards and the terrible thing is that if they had both been screaming at home i would have just put them calmly in their rooms and ignored them for a few minutes. but because it was in public and everyone could hear them and i (for some stupid reason) really care about what other people think of me, thats why i resorted to the arm grabbing/squeezing.

just watched eastenders and cried buckets.........it was so dramatic tonight!

have a great weekend all!

greedy - just watching Eastenders now on Skyplus!! Was watching last night's hustle while it was on!! I love SkyPlus!!!

I'm sure you're not an evil Mum - Ii've screamed at DD at times when she's only beena little bit bad, just because I'm at the end of my tether with her and I feel awful about it afterwards - so you are not alone!

I'm the 3rd youngest of 4 and DH is the youngest of 2. Thought long and hard about having another one after DD - took 2 years to conceive her and then with my complications while pg with her, it took a year after she was born to even consider having another one. Then over the 2 years to get to where I am now, I changed my mind umpteen times. We love DD so much that we often thought that we just couldn't share her with anyone, but we also then thought that she would love to have siblings when she is older. Now I'm past the point of no return, she's so excited about having a little brother, i'm so pleased we are having another one. I really can't wait to have another ickle baby again and watch it grow as we've watched DD over the past 3 years. I love them both so much.

[not sure I can watch anymore Eastenders Greeds - do they all get out alive?!?]

Have a great weekend everyone!
xxx

Wasn't really a gourmet tea at all - quiche-out-the-box, but then went to a friends private view of her paintings which was great - DD had a fine time as loads of other kids to play with.

That's the thing isn't it, its when you have no other means of disciplining that you feel at your most exasperated. normally I would send DD to her room and that would do the trick, or threaten to put her in the pushchair, but on that day I didn't have the pushchair and was at my wits end!

Fettle - just wanted to say that I was crying big fat tears as I read your post - it was very sweet, and big hugs to you. It really hit a chord with me. Difficult to put it in to words really, just get very choked up thinking about how different it is all going to be and how i'm going to miss it just being me and my little chum pottering about together. Looking forward to it as well of course, but you can't help but feel a bit sad about moving on to the next stage.

Aww Chooster - don't be so hard on yourself. Sounds perfectly reasonable behaviour to me

MrsMc [shock) at 10 months between your DH and his sister. I'm wincing just thinking about it....

Firsty - sorry, thickie question, but what is Anti-D? Also I am now really intrigued about you and your DH (nosey emoticon) - how come you didn't get together when you could have done? You can tell me to bog off if you like, I am not normally this nosey in real life!

Kitkat - I thought I only wanted one as well (especially after I had DD) but then suddenly I got all broody again and thought, well, we've got a spare room, why not

Seaside - congratulations! please stick around - all the other new people keep disappearing! And us old timers will be out of here in a few weeks, so definitely need some fresh faces!

Hi everyone else. Hope you all have good weekends

Crossed with you there Fettle. Makes it all the more exciting that you are having a boy then, in a way, so that it will be a totally different relationship and DD will always be your very special girl.

Bodkin - thanks you've made me feel better that it is ok to be excited but a little sad too about how things are going to change. You are right though by having a boy, DD and I will always have our special Mother-daughter relationship, even when we have a beautiful little extra one to join our family!!

By the way - Eastenders was too much for this emotional pg woman!! Poor DH's hand lost circulation!!!

xxx

Hi everyone - thanks so much for welcoming me onto the thread - don't worry I will stick around longterm if all works out well - although have to say I think I will be a bit wary until I reach 12 weeks and get confirmation it is really there IYKWIM!!

greedy - don't worry about you harsh mum moment. I know I am not a mum yet but I am sure it happens to everyone (I know its not the same but I have thwacked my dogs when they have been naughty on a walk and I feel so bad afterwards and they are only animals - well they are my furry babies !!)

I am an only child too and loved it - it was fab and I have an amazing relationship with my parents. I always thought I only wanted one myself but I have to say since it has taken me ages to get pg I now feel like I want a brood if that makes sense? - always want what you can't have - that's me - spoilt only child LOL Talking of which I refused my first glass of wine at dinner tonight - wow 9 months seems like a long time and its sods law that as soon as you can't have it you really fancy it!

I am a little bit worried about the fact that I have my most stressful work period all year coming up end June/ early July when I will be in the crucial 8-12 week point - I guess at least the business will help take my mind of it all? I am contemplating paying for a scan at 8 weeks - is that mad/stupid/pathetic?

It still feels too good to be true and I am already having mad vivid dreams abot pregnancy and telling people and it all being wrong etc - crazy I know

Hope everyone has a great weekend

hello seaside! i know that you will stick around cos you already know some of us dont you?!

i just wanted to say to fettle and bodders that i felt the same when pg with no.2. i was so worried that i loved my ds so much i could never possibly love another child as much, and i felt bad that i wouldn't be able to spend as much quality time with him. but, to be honest, i found because you are FORCED to sit down and feed new baby and because you are on maternity leave anyway, that even though it is hectic with the two of them you actually DO still get to spend lots of time with them. especially for you two cos yours are so much older than mine was, you will be able to have lovely chats while you feed the baby and they will be able to help you out with nappy changing etc. they are going to LOVE it.......you just wait and see...............and so will you!
as for not being able to love no.2 as much, well..........that worry just disappears as soon as they are born.

when i watch my two play together now, i am so so so so glad that they have each other to play with and i really feel for kids who dont have siblings (although listening to lots of you, you didn't seem to suffer too much!) also it makes my life so much easier, cos they just entertain each other and giggle constantly! (almost!)

ok gotta go see my 9 o'clock patient!
t'ra!

Quick Crash!!

Mrs McJ - When did you get a BFP?? How did I miss that! Congratulations.
Know how anxious you will be about it, but have everything crossed for you sweetie. Think positive thoughts and try to enjoy it.

Have been a bit lax on MN recently. Just started ML, so can finally devote more time to it

Congratulations to you all you TTC'ers obviously
Pg brain is mush and only semi functional...

The first weeks are thrilling and scary in equal measure. Hope you all have fab, healthy pregnancies

Hi all,

Its so hard to keep up with this thread! I'd forgotten what chatterboxes you ladies are

Hi Fettle - I'd written about my decision not to fly on the other thread. Thanks for all your ideas and suggestions though hun

Seaside - I know exactly how you feel. I'm really nervous about the whole getting to 12wks. I had my first scan last week to check my beabie had made it down my tubes this time and it was all good news . First hurdle crossed....now onto the next. Got to go back in 2wks for second scan. Do you feel well? Any nausea etc

Anyone know anyhting about cysts? I have a cyst 3cm in size apparently. I'm almost glad they found this as I was getting worried about the cramps I'm feeling.

Evening all - hope you all had good Saturdays?

PinkyE - I'm glad you've made a decision that you are happy with - best to feel relaxed about it all. I know after my 2 mc, that I was quite glad that because of timing I wasn't going to fly anywhere until after 12 weeks - I really didn't want to risk it. but that is yours and mines decision for ourselves - I'm sure plenty of women fly in early pg and have absolutely no problems - Greedy went to St Lucia early on and I'm still really really of that!!!!

Seaside if you don't get a scan date through quite early and you are worrying, I would have considered paying for a scan privately. My 12 week scan was nearer 13 weeks in the end, but luckily, I'd had some spotting around 7 weeks, so had a scan then to reassure me all was ok. Otherwise, I think I would have gone mad before 13 weeks came around!

Greedy - thanks for the reassurance that it is normal to feel like this. TBH, DD will be coming out of full-time nursery in Aug when I go on Mat leave, so we will have more time together before this LO is born and then she'll only be in nursery in the mornings, so we will have more time together than we currently do. Also you are right, at least I hope so, that she will be very helpful! how long the novelty lasts, we shall see? Have to see how you get on Bodkin, with your DD and LO!

Hope everyone else is doing well - have to go cook DH's supper now - only been to a 3-yr party today, but we are all shattered. Think it's all the sitting drinking tea, while the children run around screaming for 3 hours!!!

take care all
xxx

ps Seaside - I just inhaled DH's G&T for about 5 mins, before having a tiny tiny sip - I so miss drinking!! Although I've had a few very small glasses of wine now I'm well past 14 weeks, I'm avoiding the hard stuff and I could do with a Gin tonight!!!

That was a party for 3 year olds - not a 3 year party - as that would really explain why we were so tired!! OBviously!!
xxx

Just having a last minute late night mooch to see what the goss is. Too knackered to write anything sensible, but I just saw this competition and thought i'd mention it to the due in late August/September ladies (I think that is KitKat, Fettle and Greedy?) It's here . Mind you, Kittykat, you'd have to keep your legs crossed for a couple of weeks, and Fettle and Greedy, you'd have to be shagging loads and eating a lot of curry to hit the jackpot!!!

Off to bed now. g'night zzzz

Quiet on here today - anyone around now?

Feeling like a really grumpy pregnant lady and want to be in a better mood before DH comes home.

He's been playing cricket since 11am and isn't likely to be back before 8pm. Just put a really really upset DD to bed who wanted daddy - never seen her quite so upset about daddy being away - she practially cried herself to sleep holding onto my hand (and remember she is quite used to it, he's often away with work, sometimes for months on end), but I think this time as it is not work related, she can't understand why he couldn't come home with us, when we left at 5pm. We'd only gone to watch for a couple of hours - don't think she'd quite realised quite how dull watching cricket is!!! [she'll learn - !]

I know i'm a cricket-widow and I can cope with it, but I don't know what the equivalent is for DC? There were some poor young boys there in tears as Mummy was taking them back to school and they didn't understand why daddy couldn't take them. Such a selfish sport on families really - all day. I know I shouldn't complain, as DH is really very good otherwise and this is the only time he is really away and does so much for us, but when I just rung to see how they are getting on they were not nearly there yet and then said he would be staying for a drink afterwards. He says he couldn't just leave - but if he wanted to, surely he could just leave. Help - I sound awful - so for the sake of a peaceful Sunday evening, when he finally comes home, I thought I outpour everything to you all!

But I've gone on a bit too long I think!
xxx

Now I feel really bad - he just texted to say that they had just finished and they have lost! At least, I feel better for having vented my feelings to you guys, who will ignore me and glaze your eyes over - well at least I know Greedy will!!!

Have a good week everyone!
xxx