Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

Poor you. It is very very stressful

I spotted at 8 weeks with DS. It was fine

When did you have your last scan?

MrsMcJnr - you can be as negative as you like on here! It's for the highs and the lows of pg, remember... Are you booked in for your next scan yet? If so, try and focus on that date, but if you're worried, I would go back to the EPU and they might be able to identify the source of the bleeding to confirm that it is nothing sinister... I would quite seriously consider going to your EPU as I am sure that being stressed about the possibility of a m/c is not good for either you or the baby...

Agree with mumpbump

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Mrs McJ - also agree with mumpbump and would like to add that I had spotting with ds and they never did find out the cause - said it could be abrasion of the cervix but inconclusive. Pls try to relax hun - do you feel any pain? I agree though - this pg lark is so flippin stressful Are you going to contact your dr/epu?

Mumpbump - sorry I forgot to say about your little boy. I'm sure he will be fine at nursery and will enjoy your cuddles when you collect him I know what you mean about looking forward to spending more time with him after the baby. Are you taking him out of nursery or reducing the number of days he goes? If all goes well with this one I have been wondering what to do. Ds starts school next year but if baby born Jan I was thinking maybe it would be nice to reduce his hours at nursery or take him out a few months before school starts. Mind you, I think he would be a bit bored as he likes going to nursery.

Juicy - hope you get your homebirth and avoid the dreaded induction.

Sorry x posts. Firststar, hope the next 7 weeks go quickly for you. The end stage drags doesn't it. Have you got everything ready? It's an exciting time

Thinking of you Mrs Mc - I know how you feel - it is so worrying but try and be positive. I think it would reassure you to go back to the EPU and have another scan. That's what they're there for. I'm taking comfort from the fact that so many people have had bleeding and everything's been fine but I also know what a worry it is. Let us know how you get on if you do go to the EPU

VV thanks, last scan was yesterday, all was fine (but that?s what is scaring me to death, last time we had a scan on the Fri, all was fine and then we lost her over the weekend) I know positive thinking helps so much but I?m finding it hard.

Thanks Mumpbump I?m not booked in for another scan. I have my booking in next Weds with MW and suspect that my dating scan will be sometime in next 6 weeks (we are going on holiday in 2) I?ll see how things go today and if they don?t calm down, I?ll call the EPU.

Firsty thanks hon

Thanks Plummy ? no pain but I keep imagining things! Noticing every twinge ? as you do!

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Firststar - 7 weeks!! It doesn't seem that long ago that you were still heading for the third trimester, despite me thinking it was earlier than it was!!! Unreal!

Plummy - we're going to leave ds in nursery for two days a week because he likes it, it's sociable and we want him to have some continuity when the new baby arrives. Plus, it will give me a break and some time alone with Bubba!

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Yes I was thinking two days would be good if we can afford it when I'm on mat leave. He goes 3 days at the moment. I really think it's important to have time alone with the baby especially as the time flies and before I know it I'll be back at work and someone else will be looking after my children I am feeling very hormonal at the moment

Hello everybody.
Won't be able to catch up completely but wanted to check in and say hi.

Daisy -- congratulations and thanks for letting us know, Bumperlicious. I agree it's a beautiful name for a beautiful new being.

Plummy -- congrats to your scan.

Firststar -- oh, no how unfair! There you are happy with your 8 week scan and now this. I can't add to what others have said. You have the right to be anxious and feel low, because it is distressing. Remember, when we met on the limbo thread? I was bleeding for three solid weeks and everything turned out fine... As for the good and bad thoughts: I beleive it's good to have positive thoughts, but I do not think we do really harm when we are distressed. There is just this element beyond our control where we cannot influence the outcome either way and that's why it's so stressful.... I am thinking of you and really, really hope, it's just implantation.

Juicy -- so close to having LO in your arms!
Hope things work out as you wish and you have the birth (exprience) your hoped for. All the best!

Hi, im using my under cover name at the moment as im too scared to tell anyone that i got my BFP yesterday . Well, thats actually a lie. Ive been testing since cd 23(ish) and getting very, very fain + and then yesterday i got my BFP.

I had a mc not too long ago and im absolutly terrified of it happening again. How do i get through this and stop myself from going insane?

I'll be booking in for a private early scan but which week should i book it for?

Ive got so many things going through my head at the moment. Ive never been so scared in my life. Although im scared im also finding it hard to beleive that i am actually pregnant.

Aaarghh. It really pisses me of that my MC and EP are preventing me from enjoying being pregnant.

Im talking my PG vitamins. Is there anything else that i should do?
xx

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Hi Harvey --
welcome and congratulations! It's very unfair that when we finally get that wanted BFP, we immidiately get scared. But we have all been through this and together we somehow get through it. Post here and vent all your anxieties and hopes. I am sure you will get lots of support.

I assume that your pregnancy vitamins include Folic Acid?!

As for scans. Maybe you should see your GP and he/she will refer you to the EPU for an early NHS scan given your history?

If you want to exclude another EP, you might want to schedule a scan at 6 weeks, so that they can confirm that the pregnany is in the womb. There is a chance that you won't see the heartbeat that early (although I saw one at 6+0). By 8 weeks once can normally see a heartbeat, so that is a common ealry scan date. I would discuss the best timing with the GP and/or the private clinic if you go for a private scan.

Hi just wanted to say hello to MrsMc just popped back over here for a look in and glad to see you have had you BFP. - Sorry to hear about the spotting at the moment but fingers crossed all will be well.

I will be 32 weeks on Saturday and the relaisation that this baby will be here soon has began to hit me. I had some spotting too during the early stages which was very similar to the mc and scared the life out of me. Must admit it was quite late in the pregnancy before I began to relax and beleive it was happening hence why we have nothing ready yet !!!!

Harveysaunt - I went for an early scan with this pregnancy at 8 weeks as this was recommended as a good time to be able to pick up the heartbeat which we did on our little jelly bean - he's not so little now there are some 4d scan pictures of him on my profile.

Congratulations, Harvey, and welcome. Have to run out of the door in a minute to pick ds up from nursery, but I second everything that both Firststar and Glimmer have said... If you have had an EP already, worth getting a scan sooner rather than later, otherwise, I personally waited until 8 weeks to maximise the chance of seeing a hb. But I didn't test until I was about 6 weeks 'cos I was so scared about what the result would be...

Have a good evening everyone and "speak" tomorrow!

Thank you for the welcome

glimmer - yes my PG vitamins do contain folic acid. Ive been taking folic acid tablets for a while now too. The vitamins are only cheap ones ASDA'S own brand but they seem to have everything in.

It will be very difficult for me to get a NHS scan as my GP is a complete idiot. Last time even though he knew of my EP history, he wouldnt send me for one. He said that i didnt need one as i had no pain, bleeding or other EP symptoms. Ive got an appt with him tomorrow so ill see what he says. Is there any way of getting a early scan without going through my GP? There isnt a EPU in my area and the only thing that i can think of is to go private, but to be honest i havnt really got the money.

The only way that i got a early one last time was by saying that i had alot of pain on one side. I had a slight ache but i wouldnt have called it pain. I felt really bad for doing this and dont really want to do it again.

Hey everyone, still not being posting because of headaches and overtiredness, hope you are all okay.
MrsMc - congrats on your scan! That's fab news!
OOh And I can't believe I missed Daisy's new arrival!
EJT - Sorry to hear that you are still having work troubles, I hope you are still keep records of everything, it sounds to me like they are not treating you very fairly.
Hello to everyone else!

harvey - congrats on your bfp. Re. your scan, could you see a different gp or is there only one at the practice? If only him, maybe you could tell him if he refuses you the right to an early scan to exclude ep you will make a complaint to the General Medical Council.

Hi everyone, i seem to miss you all!
Haverysaunt - welcome to the thread and congratulations on your bfp, it such a scary time at the moment for you and i would jut echo the other and push for that early scan. I had a missed M/C at 10 weeks so this time round i was going to push for an early scan but had a bleed at 6 weeks so went to the epu anyway! All was fine but as reasurrance i also had scans at 8,10,12,13 and 15and 22 -it seem to be the only way to keep sane! ( 3 of them where NHS) - hang in there, i know its hard but the next 12 weeks will fly by!
MRSMC - I didnt know you got your BFP - congratulations ( or i may have done and pg brain had forgottern!) - I know its a worry time with the spotting but as ive just said i have had it and all was fine, its a Brilliant thing to see the heartbeat at 8 week!!
Dasiy - congratulations on your little girl , cant wait to here the full story ,so pleased she has arrived sfaley in your arms at last!
Firststar - how are you, you must be nearly there now (or not far) - Im 29 weeks now and all of a sudden konw that it will be here before i know it!

Sorry for5 anyone that i have missed and hope that you are all well!!

Harveysaunt - also forgot to mention that ep can have no symptoms sometimes. Some women haven't a clue until they suddenly get terrible pain due to tube damage. It is very irresponsible of your gp to deny you this reassurance and I am pretty sure you could sue if anything untoward were to happen (not that it will of course - i'm sure you will have an uneventful pg but you know what I mean).

Harvey - if your GP refuses to give you an early scan, talk directly to the Practice Manager and insist that you want a different doctor. Mention what plummy just said about ep sometimes having no symptoms until the damage is done and the mere whiff of a negligence suit should get them jumping. I think it would be appalling for your GP to refuse to refer you, given your history so you should definitely take a hard line, if necessary. Hopefully, he'll be more co-operative this time around...

Back later to catch up properly!