Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

Mad4girls...Babybond have a centre in Uppingham, which doesn't look too far away from where you are if you can get someone to give you a lift...or there are busses?

Link to website HERE

Furrymummy....scared and apprehensive about sums it up...

I'll be holding my LO in less than 2 days...yikes.

I'll make sure DH lets you all know!

morning
woke up earaly this morning (5 am) feeling very down as still didnt feel sick (and dint go to sleep till after 2 so shattered and still no sickness and i always feel worse when tired)lat there for ages just prodding my boobs as realised they didnt hurt anymore,(which made me cry)as was sure that soemthing is wrong, i just have this gut feeling.

anyway got up at 7 and had terrible cramps all morning, really in lots of pain, thought it might ease when walking girls to school but just felt worse, my friend said to ring my MW so i have, she thinks its down to muscles streching and a fibroid i have, but has givenme strict instructions to go straight to bedrest, and said if gets worse or any bleeding, dizzyness or pain passing water i need to ring gp straight away. im not sure if thats what i wanted to hear but i cant really argue with her(just wanted reasurrance, and a hug really, but there are no easy answers i guess)

well im going to go back to bed an try to have a couple of hours and see how i feel then, managed to eat a little breakfast and drinkin plenty as dont need to feel dehydrated on topn of all of this, just wanted to say thanx for your replies and support ad will try to get on here again tonight to update

thanx again

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Hi Mad4girls.
Sorry to hear of your distress. I lost most pg symptoms around week 13 -- no ms any more, no sore boobs and was worried, too (although also happy, since I didn't enjoy being sick). As somebody said, the placenta takes over around that time and this is why women feel in general much better (I think the HGC actually goes down after the placenta takes over and that's what is believed to make women sick). I also had a lot of cramps around that time (I never worried about those, since I had none with mc).
So to me it seems that none of your symptoms suggest something has gone wrong (I am no expert however).
But the fact that you are worried and think something has gone wrong is what counts. It sounds to me that a scan would give you a lot of reassurance. If I were you I would ring GP, ask to be called back, and tell them how worried you are. If they do not offer you a scan but you would be willing to pay for one, ask the GP if he can point you to the next clinic, that offers private scans. He might then realise how much you need some reassurance right now. I really hope things will be fine for you. Let us know how you fare.

Daisbump, Daisybump, Daisybump -- our mantra for the next 48 hours. We will think of you excitedly. Hope everything goes exactly as you wish. And you will hold your little bundle in your arms in lass than a day. It's quite emotional, the first 'Graduate' after I joined. ..

Cazzy -- congrats to your scan! So very glad that everything is fine!

Cheers ladies . Had my pre-theatre assessment today so am all set for tomorrow. I've asked one of the ladies on my AN thread to post here and let you know and will catch up at the end of the week (hoping to be home on Thursday)

Mad4girls {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} to you and I hope that all is well. I know there's nothing anyone can say at the moment to make you feel any better, but please try and rest as much as possible. Thinking of you!

Right....off to have tea and let DH loose with the razor . He better do as I ask and not anything clever like a brazilian down there!!

Just a quick post to wish Daisy luck tomorrow!!! Hope it all goes smoothly for you hun and looking forward to news!

Mad4girls - try not to worry too much hun if you can, I know every one keeps saying it but all pgs are different. None of my pgs have been the same certainly! Please try and relax and contact your GP/MW for some reassurance too. Big {{{hugs}}} xxx

hello ladies

feelin alot better now amzing what soiv think i just me sleep does hey, and no more pain so feeling more positve think i worked myslef up into a bit of a state this monring but thanx for everyones kind words.

just been looking at private scans on google like you suggested and really chuffed to find there is a private clinic in derby only about 3 miles from where we live, i vaguely know the area and have seen it on the map so know just where it is

now just considering what to do now as just over 4 wks till my next scan at hopsital, oh and mananged to get my next ante natal appt booked for 2 wks (mw been on holiday apperntly)

trouble is the clinic im looking at only really do bonding scans ie between 20-34 wks but do have good options by way of price 2d scan with pics and dvd £50 all the way up to £150 with 4d scans sexing and dvd and cd rom etc

so i guess now i just have to convincve dp we NEED one

on an even better note i can smell the cottage pie for tea and making me feel realy quesy (hoorah my sickness is still here) i may come to regret saying that but dont care never felt so happy to feel sick

thanx again girls

ps good luck tomrrow daisy hope to read your birth story soon

Hello everyone - I have recommended this thread by someone on the TTC your first baby thread, can I join in?

I had a mc at the beginning of february, at about six weeks after one month of TTC and just got a positive test result on Thursday. (Wahey!) four months later. BUT I am far too nervous to join an AN thread (I've tried, twice!) and we are planning to not tell anyone for a while.

Feeling a lot more positive about this pregnancy, the lines were definitely there, last time they were a bit weedy and didn't get stronger.

Anyway. Looking forward to meeting you all!

Very quickly ....
Daisy - thinking of you for tomorrow! Very excited for you!

mad4girls - thinking of you too ...

bella - welcome - this thread has been a lifesaver for me - I have told people on this thread things I would never say in rl, as everybody thinks that once you get pg again, you are suddenly magically 'over' your mc! Here's hoping this is a long and boring stay for you!

Back at work today after the holidays - on crutches - my pelvis has become suddenly very unstable - I rue following the physio's advice to go swimming!
On a positive note, it's been agreed that I don't do cover lessons and can go to lessons late to keep out of the crush in the corridors!
Am absolutely exhausted from school today - will be going to bed very early - no BB for me tonight!

love to everybody I haven't mentioned!

Hello all

Sorry don't have time to catch up properly - just wanted to say good luck to Daisy for tomorrow. how exciting to be there finally! Can't wait to hear the update from Mr Daisy!

Ejt - I agree with you re swimming, pelvis and physios! Went to see mine on Friday, she advised swimming, so I went on Saturday. It was great, no pain for 45 mins, but I could hardly pull myself out of the water, I was so tired afterwards! Then we stupidly went shopping, so I was on my feet for the rest of the day and the pain now is almost unbearable, particularly at night! Only 16-17 weeks left for us!!!! Glad school sound as if they are being more understanding at the moment.

Hello everyone else - i'm sorry, I only managed to scan the first couple of posts. Supper to cook now and then some work to do. Getting promoted this close to maternity leave is probably not the most sensible thing to have done, but needs must and work needs doing!!

BTW, Glimmer, before I forget - my DH is more in love with my bump than my boobs at teh moment - I find it very disconcerting, having him talking to lower than my boobs - been used to that for last 11 years, but even lower!! Hope all is going well, having DH over with you at last!

take care all
xxx

Hi everybody and an special welcome to BellaBear.

Fettle talking to your boobs for 11 years - what a cute husband you have!!!

MrsMcJ -- am thinking of you intensely. Hope the news will be good!

Daisybump thinking of you maybe you have your little bundle already?!

Thanks for your welcome! I haven't read the whole thread (it's massive! And no. 6!) so I look forward to getting to know you all.

It is still early days, but I am finding it very hard to keep it a secret, as I am normally the kind of person who tells everybody everything about myself. So far I have told my dh (ovbiously), my GP's receptionist, because I had to cancel a smear test so I booked to see the doctor instead, a random stranger who I was chatting to and found out she was a GP so bombarded her with questions, and my headteacher as I had to get him to sign my form to give me time for the GP appointment, and I didn't need to tell him why but he was very sympathetic when I had my mc, so I thought I would. Oh and my Pilates instructor so I didn't do anything potentially dangerous during my class.I want to tell my Head of Dept as well.

Everyone knows I am TTC but since the mc people have help off asking me about it.

Did you all tell everyone straight away? I think I want to wait for three months. I feel, stupidly, that it would be tempting fate to tell people too early. Is that silly?

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Morning all! Feel very excited for Daisy today and hope it all goes smoothly!
Mad4Girls, glad you are feeling bit better today hun, is horrible when you have a day of complete panic - I think we all get them! Nice that you have a private scanning place nearby though, my nearest is about 20 miles away - Not too bad I know but I don't think I'd manage to convince DH to have one!
BellaBear, hi and welcome! Congrats too! IKWYM about jinxing it by telling people, I have told very few people this time although I found out yesterday that a friend I told in confidence has told another friend who I specifically asked her not to tell! The friend she told has a bit of a big mouth and has already gone round telling people so now we need to work out who she might tell who might be offended that we didn't tell them so we can let them know, wanted to keep it quiet for a couple more weeks really just to get past the 'danger' bit. Anyway, sorry for waffling but I hope your pg is very boring and smooth!
MrsMcJnr, good luck this morning with your scan hun, hope you see that HB and the news is all good!
Hi everyone else I haven't mentioned

Afternoon all! Have to be really quick as I have loads to do today, but wanted to say...

Daisy - hope that all is going well and that you might even be holding your lo by now! Makes me feel a bit emotional...

Bella - congratulations and welcome! We told my family pretty much immediately, but waited until after our 12 week scan to tell friends and I have only confirmed that I'm pg to people at work after my 22 week scan...

MrsMcJnr - hoping to hear from you with some good news later today!

Will post again later to catch up properly...

EJT and Fettle so sorry to hear about your SPD.
It sounds but I am glad you have the crutches now, EJT, to defend yourself in the hallways of the school...(I have this vivid vision of life-sabors in front of me)

Mad4girls glad you are feeling bit better today.

Bellabear -- about telling or not telling, it's an individual decision. I personally didn't want to tell people, because I wanted to avoid having to tell them if it didn't work out. I have to admit I had my issues with how my friends reacted to my mc. (None of them had one and thought I should get over it faster.) But then if would be akward if I needed their support. So that's the downside. Actually I am 17 weeks today (yeah!!) and haven't told anybody yet except DP and my mother (and then professionals like MW, GP and Yoga teacher). If I have the urge to share the news I tell it to complete strangers. I think I am a little weired but it works for me. My goal is not to tell anybody until after the 20 weeks scan, but it gets increasigly difficult to hide my bump. Luckily boobs have grown enormous and in combination with wide clothes have the required tent effect....

morning ladies
feelin loadsbeter today almost feel as though a weight has been lifted no idea why. was sick this morning which makes me happpy in a weird way.also still feelin quesy now so hoping thats a goodsign as well as my boob throbbin last night.

think i got a bit emotional yesterday must be hormones as i cried at doctor who at weekend as well(how sad is that) one seemed

bellabear- i also didnt want many people to know at first and im normally a big blabber mouth, but didnt tell close family and 2 dd's till about 2 wks ago(im 14wks today) but everyone seemed please excited etc.

beckle-with regards to tellin ppl i also had the same experience when telling a friend (my bf)she told someone whom i specifcally asked her not to and everyone at dd's school new within days, i wasnt impressed and even had a row with her on MN about it and we havent spoken since which is a shame as we had been friends for years, but i was realy hurt and she couldnt see why.

firststar-looks like you were right about symptoms coming and going, think i needed someone to give me a talking to, as i was getting a bit over emotional, so please feel free to boot me in the backside if i get hysterical

Hi all, just popping in from the due in June thread to let you know that Daisybump (aka daisysgotsausagefeet!) had baby Emily Isabelle at 11.32 this morning, weighing 7lb 6oz, and according to DH mum & baby are well!

Ladies hello! Having a crazy, busy day so can?t catch up now but I hope you are all well and I?ll do what I can to catch up later.

Just wanted to let you know that we saw a little gumy bear this morning on the scan with a madly flickering heartbeat which is apparently very strong CRL was 14mm and we are apparently now measuring 7+6 (would be 8 weeks today based on LMP) we were so happy we felt like we can breathe after holding out breaths for so long! We got a little pic too, can?t see a thing really and DH has banned me from showing anyone (he?s embarrassed ) but I know what?s there! Bloods are fine too. More from me later!

Wow MrsMc, so pleased for you! xxx

Mrs Mc - so pleased for you