Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

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All the best for your scan today cazzybabs...it'll be a relief when its over.

Plummymummy, we saw a heartbeat at 6+3, but then when I had my dating scan at 12 weeks they brought my date forward by 8 days so I was probably 7+4.....I ovulate early (at about 7 days) so that would make sense!

Cazzy - hope all goes well for you. Dh was absolutely bricking himself when we had our 8 week scan. Fortunately, he missed the trauma of the 12 week scan as he was abroad for work... I felt that I was going a bit crazy directly before my scan, so you have my sympathies and we will all, I'm sure, be thinking of you this afternoon!

VV - likewise, this is such a scary, scary time for all of us who are pg after a m/c. I know this might sound a bit wierd, but I found closing my eyes and concentrating on breathing slowly helped calm me down a bit and restore my equilibrium. Sounds rather new age, I know, but I think once you start panicking, all your fears tend to take over so it is important to try to keep calm. Just concentrate on counting down the days until 19th June and remember that with every day that goes past without anything happening, there is a greater chance that things will be okay.

Iwillbe - Hiya, glad you are okay. Hope your MW appt goes well today. I have to say that the MWs here didn't treat me any differently after m/c than they did before, appts and things were still at the same times. Only thing different was an early scan this time but only because I have had a couple of missed m/c.
ScaredtoBelieve - hope your scan went well!
MrsMc - You are so good with your diet! I was trying quite hard to be good but now I have given up and just seem to eat what I can get down! Hopefully the nausea will disappear soon enough and I will be able to stock up on all the fresh stuff I have been missing! at your MWs! It always amazes me how different treatment is around the country, here we see a MW straight away for height, weight and BMI, then booking in at 9 weeks. Mind you, other than scans you don't see them again until 28 weeks!
Uki - Glad your feeling organised, it really helps! Very at you feeling baby moving. Am looking forward to that bit as I find it very reassuring! I agree it is hard and when you book in going through previous m/c. MW decided with me that I had had 2 m/c last year (the docs had not been sure if 2nd was remainder of 1st or a new one), it is horrile to see that in writing.
Mumpbump - Is really nice to start getting some stuff in! I am looking forward to that bit. Was in Mothercare the other day and asked about getting a carrycot and carseat to fit my pushchair but they have recently changed the clips (as in the last couple of months) and the new stuff doesn't fit! That means I will have to have my new baby (all being well) facing away from me in the buggy! Not happy. Mind you, have seen a lovely carseat I love in pink or blue, DH says will wait til babe born (just to make sure get the right colour) and he will go buy it the same day!
Plummy - With my first pg I had a scan at 6+3 and saw a HB, TBH there was not much else there other than the HB! I find it amazing how much they grow in a couple of days because I had one at 6+6 this time and there was a little tadpole there as well as a HB! Are you going to have an early scan this time hun?
Firstar - Glad you feeling better today, lucky you with a DH who makes you rest!
Cazzybabs - good luck with your scan today! We all worry on scan day, is a strange mixture of excitement and fear I find. Am sure you will be fine, all your symptoms are good - fingers crossed and let us know how you get on!
VV - I don't find that DH's are too good at this sort of stuff, mine certainly isn't. Don't be too hard on him, he is probably worrying too. No symptoms doesn't mean m/c, I have had days with no symptoms (and yes I have panicked) and everyone on here has told me that with fluctuating hormones you may feel worse one day than another. It might be worth you speaking to your MW though to help put your mind at ease, am sure you will be fine. It is difficult after m/c to believe that it will ever go right but it can and it does.

Hallo to everyone - good news - everything looks fine. Saw heartbeat (really fast) and beanie has grown as it should so they've put me at 8+3 now. No explanation for bleeding so it's just been put down to one of those things. Have another scan in 2 weeks (consultant advised fortnightly scans because of PCOS) - feeling so relieved and now just need to keep positive. Thanks for all your good luck wishes. Wishing everyone else lots of luck - am off for weekend now - it's our 1st wedding anniversary on Sunday (hopefully now we can enjoy it) xx

Brilliant - lucky you (sort of) having fortnightly scans! Two weeks is a manageable amount of time... Hope you have a fab day on Sunday - anything special planned?

Hello Ladies hope everyone is well. I?m having a scary day I was exhausted last night after meetings all day and went to bed truly knackered. DH is away on a Stag and normally I can?t sleep but I slept like a log last night. Woke up when my alarm went off feeling really rough and exhausted and with a stuffy nose. Temped and got an alarming 36.0. A drop by 8c from yesterday. Well, I freaked. Also tried other method of temping (just in case sleeping with my mouth open due to a stuffy nose made my temp low clutching at straws) temp was a more respectable 36.7 but still v scared. Dropping temps can be a sign of MC as they often mean that the progesterone levels are dropping. I tried to reason with myself that it could be for many reasons but decided to stay at home and go back to sleep. Temped again when I got up at 9. same low temp I otherwise just feel sick and tired but that could well be my nerves now! There is no point trying to get medical reassurance as they think it is nonsense at my GP and the EPU. Just wanted to tell someone ? lots of work to do but just cannot concentrate

Will now try and catch up with you

Brilliant ScaredtoBelieve! So glad your scan went well, I should imagine it will be v reassuring to have the extra scans!

MrsMc - poor you hun, could your temp have dropped due to the fact you are feeling poorly? Don't know if that would have an effect, feeling under the weather is probably not helping your worry either. I don't know much about temping but would it be normal for it to fluctuate a bit? I know the hormones do so that might make sense? Sorry if am not much help, here, have a virtual {{{hug}}} and take it easy.

Oh Mrs McJ - it could be anything. It could've dropped before and you wouldn't have noticed. Do try not to worry. It would be better to arrange for a scan (fabricate a symptom) for reassurance than worry yourself sick - oh forgot you have one coming up don't you - could you bring it forward? Try to take it easy over weekend (if you're not working). I can imagine just how you feel, but remember - your scan was very positive. Keep telling yourself that hun. Maybe you are coming down with something?

It's probably a cold/viral thing affecting your temp. Take it easy and avoid work if need be. I know that is easier said than done but follow your instincts anyway xx

Hello Uki I was hoping you?d be around today do you think my temp drop could be to do with my meds? Sorry how are you? How exciting about the baby moving about I can imagine you had a lot of mixed feelings yesterday, sending a huge hus. I don?t have a booking in appointment yet but I got an appointment through today for 5/7 with the Consultant Obstetrician (specializes in thromophilia pgs apparently ) hope that was a good omen for me.

HotChoc ? it?ll take more than a great scan to make us send caution to the wind I guess! keep well hon!

Mumpbump ? my scan is on Tuesday morning ? very scary! I?m at home and was going to have lunch al fresco but here come the clouds ? exciting buying those things! I got 3 v comfy bras at Bravissimo yesterday I got measured up and got a bit of a shock 34G! I was 32E ? hey ho, I did think they were bigger than before! 2 of them are underwired!! Apparently if properly fitted they are fine The rigid Doreen is going back!

Hello Plummy

Firsty ? I will if she hasn?t been in touch before my scan and it all goes well. Was just about to chase her last time when things went wrong Glad you are doing better.

Cazzybabs fingers crossed that it goes very, very well at the scan hon I understand the whole preparing yourself for the worst scenario though ? it?s what we?ll all do now after our experiences isn?t it?

VV ? sorry to hear you are having a bad day. I know how you feel. Its not possible to think yourself into a MC so don?t add that worry to your list, of course you know that. Talk to us, we are here for you

Beckle ? you would have been proud of me last night I wanted Chinese but my conscience told me that baby wanted chicken and lettuce in lovely healthy brown bread

Scaredtobelieve that?s wonderful! I am so pleased for you! Keep positive and congratulations for Sunday its my 1st wedding anniversary tomorrow but DH is away on a Stag. Isn?t it funny? Because of all the baby stuff we?ve been through, the wedding seems a long time ago but when I think of the day and how I felt it feels like yesterday

Thanks Beckle ? needed that hug. I guess if I feel cold and had no DH to warm me last night, it could have made a difference but it was such a big drop, that?s what got me so scared. You are right, feeling crap doesn?t help. The temps do fluctuate a bit in pg (and I believe when the placenta takes over around 10 weeks, they drop as the progesterone from the old follicle is no longer needed)

Thanks Plummy ? definitely not dropped before though by anything like this much, I take my BBT religiously every morning. Scan?s on Tuesday and I guess if I am about to MC in the meantime, an earlier scan would just lull me into a false sense of security (which is what happened last time ) I?ll try to keep my wits about me You are right about work, it feels so secondary at the mo but I do have to do it at some point.

I bet you share a lot of body heat from DH so it probably does make quite a difference him not being there. My bed is freezing without DH in it - my own personal radiator! When is he back from Stag do? Is he away for your Anniversary?

BTW, that msg was for you MrsMc!

he comes back on Sunday night Beckle so I'm alone for our anniversary!

Hope he treats you when he gets back then! I think I would be sulking a bit if not!

MrsMcJnr - I should have thought it quite possible for the medication to affect your body temperature. If the medical profession doesn't believe in temping, they'd never think to tell you about it. If you take your temperature every day, did you find that your temperature dropped before your m/c? It might or might not mean anything so try to put it out of your mind and get out and about over the weekend. Sorry to hear your dh isn't around for your anniversary! Sod's law dictates that they're away when you need them...

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Ok you were all right - it was fine. Saw one beautiful baby. Had the right number of arms, legs, heads etc. Saw its heart beating. It gave dd1 a wave - she was amaazed espcially beause she didn't know anything about it until we saw it moving. God I want to go back and see it all over again. It was like a dream!

Anyway my due date has changed by a few days and am now due the 30th Nov, which makes me 14 weeks today!

Now just the 20 week scan to get through...good luck to everyone else....

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Beckle ? my DH gets off so lightly with me!

Mumpbump ? that is a good point, it could well be to do with my meds (that also might be why I am feeling odd today ? they did warn me on Monday that I might think I am tired when in fact it?s to do with my blood levels) last time round, I stopped temping on cd35 but then started MC on cd63 so I don?t know what my temp did. I guess I carried on this time so that I could see any warning signs but now I?m wondering if it?s worth the stress, if there is nothing I can do to stop it, do I really even want a warning that it might happen? Off to London this weekend to see my family

Thanks Firsty

Cazzybabs ? that?s lovely congratulations!!

Hi everybody. Very busy with move hence only a short to everybody.

So glad to hear about the good scan results Mumpbump and Scared.

Plummy -- I saw HB at 6+0 and am very sure about my dates.

MrsMcJ. I have never temped, so have no experience, but totally understand that you are worried. I am very sorry DH is not here right now to distract you until Tuesday. Please, post here! What helped me during the waiting time was to rent movies and series ('friends' and 'sex and the city'...) and watch a lot of TV. It was just like leaving my own existence behind for a while.

Mumto3 -- I am very, very sorry to hear about your mcs. When was your last one? I assume recently?! Let us know how you fare and when you are ready TTC again. Do you want to try right away or wait until you had further tests? It is such a horrible time, let us knoe when you need support.

DH is now here. I think he likes my bumpo better than

Oops. Hit the 'post' button too soon.
Picked up DH yesterday. He is completely in love with bump and bump-cause and I am a little jealous of my own belly... It's nice to have him back but so far my 'personal service' idea
has gone the wrong way around and I serve him, not he me... It's early days so and I should give him time to ajust to the new situation...

Thanks....it feels so good to have it behind me!

Very pleased for you, Cazzybabs! Not long really until your 20 week scan.

MrsMcJnr - at least visiting your family will provide you with a bit of a distraction and before you know it, you'll wake up and it will be Tuesday morning...

Glimmer - how wonderful that your dh is in love with your bump which is, of course, a reflection on you and the whole idea of having a child together! Sounds like you will have a devoted father in due course which is very helpful in terms of support levels and getting a hand with the baby when it arrives. Dh is like this and although he grumbles when he has to get up at 06:00 with ds after only making it to bed at midnight, he also says he loves having the quiet time in the morning with him.