Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

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Evening all!

Karlou - welcome - here's to a long and uneventful stay for you this time around - another one of us from the october thread!

MrsMc - mackays do some lovely tunic tops - there's a shop near me in Penarth - but they have a shopping online facility too.

hotchoc - hope the stabbing pains sort themselves out soon!

Physio was interesting yesterday. She gave me exercises to help me fight off the SPD, but told me that as soon as it gets too bad, to contact her for crutches. She's shown me the best position to sleep in - 2 pillows under my head (only usually sleep on 1 low one), 1 under my trunk to support my spine and bump, and 2 between my legs. She said I'd got the right idea with the beanbag, but that it's not providing enough support.
The coccyx problem is another thing though - it's probably caused by my pelvic floor muscles being too tight (!!!!! ) - but she can't do anything about it until after I've delivered. Feel better in that she can do something about it - even if it's not right now - but am going to be condemned to another 6 months or so of excruciating pain when I sit.

Glad I've got to today - it's half term next week, and I'm not going anywhere - ds & I are going to plodge!

happy bank holiday weekend!

Hi All

Feel bad I've not been in to check up on everyone recently - really busy at work and shattered by the time I get home. Finally got my promotion confirmed today - all signed up to start next Friday! although i'm already doing most of the work. Feel a bit of fraud as I'll only be in the job 3 months before I go off on Mat leave, but they know the situation!

anyway, Ejt - glad physio was useful - hopefully you won't have to get back in contact for crutches. I'm pretty amazed by my system - phone MW on Tues to ask for referral and was called yesterday morning by physio and got an appointment for next fri morning! hopefully they'll be as helpful as yours has been!

Have to go DD wants me.

take care all
xxx

Evening everyone. Just popped in to say hello

Feeling little bit better today, went out with friends against better judgement, result was that I spent most of the evening not eating my food and vomiting in the toilet friends were lovely, and DH came and picked me up and took me home, left my car at my friends, so will have to pick it up sometime this weekend.
But it's a nice day today and am catching up on my washing.
Has anyone got anything special planned for the weekend?

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HI all,
Its been a while since I posted - our flat is in a real state with builders in so I couldnt get to the computer for the past week.
Anyway I now have great news - yesterday was my viability scan (you may remember I had a scan at 6 weeks and they saw no fetal pole so they gave me an appointment for 2 weeks away). And we saw a baby!!!!
A little jelly bean just 17mm long but with a nice strong heartbeat, which we got to listen to. That was absolutely amazing! And we got a picture to take away with us.
So now our litttle jelly bean is starting to be real. He is still making his mummy feel horribly nauseous all the time. I am at approx 8 weeks but they will scan me again in 2 weeks to have a proper dating scan.
So wanted to share my happy news - obviously I dont feel out of the woods yet, but I am now officially past the date of my last m/c so feeling much better.
Thanks to all for support!

KB75 - that's fantastic news!!! So pleased for you!. Keeping everything crossed, that you continue to feel nauseous and awful, just as you should !!!

Hope everyone is enjoying their weekends - rain has just started here, but at least we got out and about today and had a picnic, so made the most of the weather.

take care all
xxx

KB75...that's fantastic news.....

Don't go disappearing on us though...we'll keep you motivated and hopeful throughout.

Haven't had a chance to catch up prpoerly, but I have noticed a few new names cropping up over the last few days. Welcome and I hope things are going OK for you all. This thread is a lifesaver and has got me through some pretty low moments.

I'll catch up soon, but watch this space....I've been getting quite strong BH contractions over the last few days and they seem to be building up to a more regular and painful pattern since yesterday. I'm 38 weeks tomorrow, but am convinced that this is going to be a slow burner....but the bags are waiting at the bottom of the stair just in case.

I'll keep you posted

KB75 - wonderful news! So pleased for you

Feeling somewhat better, but not 100%. Least I'm not throwing up lots..

Afternoon all ...

KB75 - great news about your scan - really for you!

fettle - lovely to hear that you've officially got your promotion! Do you get a pay rise? That would be lovely - just in time for it to make a bit of difference to your maternity pay!

daisy - love the name change!

I have had a very scary 36 hours. As I was peeling myself out of bed yesterday to go and have my waxing done early (dh plays cricket on a saturday afternoon), I went to the loo, and when I wiped, there was fresh, red blood absolutely everywhere. I'm afraid to say I completely freaked out. dh had gone swimming with ds, so I phoned to leave a message on his phone for him to come home quickly, then phoned the hospital.
The staff were very reassuring, but told me to make my way to the assessment unit as soon as I could. We got there about 930. The assessment unit isn't just for women having bleeds and scary stuff - it's also where you go in to see if you're enough in labour to go up to the delivery suite, so around me I had 3 ladies - all in the early stages of labour ... it was so cruel! Midwife came eventually (felt like hours - it was probably only 15 minutes or so), and did a check of baby - the relief I felt when they heard the heartbeat was immense.
I then had a wait until 1pm (!) until one of the doctors was free to come down to the assessment unit to see me (they had 15 deliveries on the unit in 12 hours, I found out subsequently!).
She gave me an internal - but the bleeding had come from inside my uterus - it wasn't a straightforward cervical bleed. So, I was admitted for observation.
Stayed in hospital overnight, came home about midday. They still don't know what caused me to bleed so heavily, but have 2 major theories:
1 - the placenta is lying over my cervix, and finally got fed up with all the bizarre contractions (not so likely as far as I'm concerned - the scan I had last Tuesday seemed as though it was up away from cervix)
2 - as the placenta is at the front of my uterus, it had had some sort of trauma (like one of the kids at school bumping into me), and had come away a bit / torn ... this seems more likely - but a whole lot more scary!

I've got to go back for a scan on Wednesday to check if there are any clots on the placenta - and to check that all is fine.
After that, I may have to go to my gp and ask to be signed off work until July - I know I was crashed into on Friday by a child - not maliciously, rather accidentally - and I just don't want to take the risk of losing this one from something preventable.

Am now very very tired - and a bit down - didn't sleep too well last night - and have got some serious thinking to do.

Oh well, I thought at 22 weeks, I'd left the knicker-checking more or less behind - there's me, back to it with a vengeance!

love to all ... enjoy the weather

Can anyone tell me how they knew they had an incomplete erpc i had one done 4 weeks ago and am still lightly bleeding im on antibiotics incase its an infection but ive got no pain,fever or nasty smells did preg test and is negative now. Does it just last this long even if they tell you should be about 2 weeks?

sorry to hear of your loss.

The bleeding after my erpc lasted about 7 weeks. It's not uncommon for it to last that long.

If you have pain, smelly discharge or are just concerned, take yourself off to see your gp.

hth - take care of yourself.

Axmxy - Firstly - I'm really sorry for your loss - nothing prepares you for mc. I hope you are getting lots of support.

Anyway, I had an ERCP for my 1st mc - no bleeding for 3 days, then it started with again. Quite bad pain, then lots of blood for about 3 hours, then gentle spotting, then more pain and more heavy bleeding (I assume my womb was contracting trying to remove what was left!!). I went to 8 different doctors on emergency appointments over the course of what must have been about 6-7 weeks - before a locum decided enough was a enough and sent me for a rescan where they found some products remaining! Emergency ERCP the next day and no more bleeding whatsoever!

I had no infection, I was put on 3 courses of antibiotics just in case, but I had no symptoms whatsoever of an infection.

I would ask for a rescan if you are still bleeding after 2-3 weeks - it really shouldn't last longer than 5 days. Don't wait as long as I did - if you can face the EPU again, it really would be best to know it is all over - I wasted 12 weeks, when I could have been TTC again!

Happily though after another mc, I'm now 22 weeks pg, so it hasn't affected anything!

take care
xxxx

Ejt - you poor poor girl - how absolutely awful. I too assumed that now we are past 20 weeks, that knicker checker could stop. How utterly frightening for you. I'm glad all is ok now - I think you are right to think about what to do. Shame they don't know exactly what caused it as it is easier to know how best to avoid it.

Take care of yourself and try and keep relaxing. Only 2 weeks, before our little ones have at least a chance of life outside - ideally we want them in for much much longer though.

Daisy - how you getting on? Can't believe you are so so close now!

Hope everyone is having fun, wet weekends!! We went for a look around IKEA and John Lewis for furniture for our new house and new baby's room - just looking mind at the moment, but we still spent £150 on stuff we sort of needed! Oops! Thanks for your congratulations, Ejt - comes with a 10% payrise, which will be very handy on mat leave - feel a bit of fraud accepting a promotion 3 months before going off, but they knew I was pg even before they offered it to me! Should be very flattered, which I am and also think they are trying to ensure I go back next year, which I haven't really thought about yet!!

take care all.
xxx

Hope all ok ejt - try and take it easy over the bh weekend.

AxMxy - v sorry to hear about your m/c. I didn't have an erpc but I know women who have and their bleeding has lasted for a few weeks. I m/c and my bleeding lasted that long too, though was not heavy in the last week. Hope it stops soon.

Ejt, so sorry to hear about the bleeding - that is so scary. I am sure time will drag until Wednesday when you have your next scan. Take care of yourself and do whatever is necessary to keep the baby safe and sound in there!

Ejt, i hope you're OK . Sounds very scary indeed, but we're here if you need to talk! Can you give up work sooner rather than later....if you give up the earliest you can, then it's only another six weeks to go. Good luck with your next scan anyway. My SIL has had some similar problems with her twin pregnancy (she's also a teacher) but after bleeds every four to five weeks she had a scan and they found a clot behind the placenta which is bleeding if it gets knocked. She's not had anything since 19 weeks though and is giving up work at th earliest opportunity.

Axmxy...sorry to hear about your loss...i bled for about 4 weeks after my MC but I didn't have an erpc...it does sound like its gone on a bit long. I hope you are doing OK and if you need some support this thread is great. Good luck for the future

How are you feeling Daisy?

EJT - what a fright you have had, how are you feeling now? Sounds like baby's okay, but cna understand why you are worried.
I thought I would stop worrying once I saw heart beat, nut the anxiety has kicked in again. Then I sat and thought, well when will I stop worrying. I came to the conclusion you NEVER stop worrying about your baby, even when he/she has babies of their own...

Anyone got advice for my friend, saw her today to pick my car up she's 23 weeks, having trouble sleeping (can't get comfy!) and now has swollen ankles! What advice can you ladies give?

Furrymummy...not much she can do woith the sleeping, excpt surround herself with pillow and make sure her bump is supported by one. I kind of lie in the recovery position with a pillow under my knee andbump. Lying on your left hand side is better for optimum baby positioning.

Swollen ankle, especially when its hot are horrible...Best thing is to lie down with feet higher than hips to let any fluid drain...avoid tea and coffee and drink lots of water to keep your system flushed. Massagin from ankle to the back of knees helps to drain the fluid away as well.

Nothing happening with me.....other than false/pre-labour. I read a thread on here the other day and one woman had this for 19 days efore the real thing hit. Thankfully I won't havethat long as my c-section is only 8 days away!!

EJT....I hope you're doing OK

I had swollen ankles at that stage and I used to lie on the sofa on my back and rest my legs on the wall so they were above my head. It did work but was slightly inconvenient! The massage idea sounds more practical!

Hello ladies - thankyou for all your good wishes - made me feel a bit teary (mind you, at the moment, most things make me feel teary!)

fettle - I'd been having the same thought - willing the babe to hold on in there for another 2 weeks - she's a real wriggler, and this doesn't seem to have bothered her one bit!

Daisy - it does me good to hear that I'm not the only one this has happened to - I'm beginning to think of myself as being a bit of a health & safety issue ... the problem with being in work is that the corridors in school are extremely narrow - I keep out of them as much as possible between lesson changeovers - but if, like on Friday, I'm put on a tutorial cover, then I have to be out there when it's really busy. I think the only way around it is to make sure that if I do go into work after the holiday, that I don't do any cover basically.

hmmmm - looking forward to the conversation with dephead (not!)

Have a good afternoon all! Hope the rains stays away (it's sunny and warm here at the moment)

Does anyone mind if I join in?

I'm about 8 weeks pg and had a mc 2 years ago. feeling really scared about this one and just wanted to talk.

Hope your all ok

Welcome Jenswish - offload your anxieties here, we've all been through it!

Thanks for advice shall pass onto friend, I've already suggested about feet elevation, she doesn't drink tea or coffee but I'll tell her to tell her DH to get the massage oils out! She'll be well pleased with that