Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

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I thought that this one sounded really good!

Beckled - the first few weeks are horrendous. I remember having dreams where I miscarried this lo. It was awful... I was lucky in a way that I didn't test until I was almost 6 weeks pg so missed quite a bit of worrying and then got an early scan at 8 weeks for reassurance. As plummymummy says, have you got any early scan booked in? If not, although it is an abuse of the system, can you contact your EPU and tell them you're getting cramps to get an early scan? To my mind, mental anguish is a valid reason for getting a scan, but unfortunately doesn't seem to be recognised by the NHS!

Yes, I agree. Say what you need to in order to put your mind at rest. The reason why some epus have a walk-in service is because research shows that m/c rates are lower if women have access to early scans for reassurance. That in itself is reason enough why you should not have to fabricate symptoms but unfortunately it's the age old postcode lottery scenario.

Ha...my poorly DS is now jumping all over the front room and giggling his head off....poorly . Every time I threaten to send him to school, he has a massive and sudden relapse. I'm not sure how much is his poorliness and how much is becuase he knows things aren't right with me...bless him. We're having a lovely time watching videos and snuggling up!

good news about MrsMcJr....

Ouch mumpbump....DS caught me off guard a few times and boy did it smart, but thankfully the LO is well cushioned in there!

Beckle...its what we're here for. We've all been thorough it and can appreciate where you are coming from. My symptoms disappeared at about 9-10 weeks so I paid for a private scan as I was convinced I'd lost another baby, but all was well and the MS came back with a vengeance a few days later and didn't leave until after 20 weeks!! different hormones cause different symptoms so try not to worry too much.

And feel free to moan away

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Ah, thank you all for your kind messages, I am just a bit of a wreck at the moment - I am sure I will be fine in a couple of weeks! I have already had an early scan due to a couple of missed m/cs and baby was fine and HB was seen. I don't think NHS will give me another until 10-12 weeks (did discuss fears with MW yesterday), I have considered getting a private scan but I know I will only start panicking again a day or so later. My consultant did not think that regular scans were needed (he obviously underestimates my capacity for worry!).
Bless your DS Daisy! They definitely know when something is up with you, how lovely to spend the day snuggling with him!

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Beckle - I think being pg after having had a m/c is one of the scariest things I have ever had to go through. Right up until my 12 week scan, I was really very nervous and I didn't really start to relax until quite recently when I could feel the baby move and its movements were quite strong. It is such a difficult time to get through, but we are all rooting for you and this lo so you are getting LOADS of positive vibes, if that helps... Good idea to have a little pampering session. Always picks me up!

Hey ladies hope you are all well. Sorry I have been AWOL for a few days, busy weekend! I had my scan yesterday. We saw a gest sac and yolk in the right place but no HB or fetal pole. I was measuring 5+2 which I think is about right based on OV (would have been 5+6 based on last AF) so the Consultant started me on my Clexane injections and so far I have administered 2 myself and they are not too bad! Have to go back weekly for blood tests and have a re-scan on 5/6 when I should be 7+3/8 to check for viability, fingers crossed!

Now I?ll try and catch up with you ?

MrsMcJr....we were worried about you. Glad things are OK and that the scn was positive. No pole or HB at this stage is perfectly normal so good that you're not stressing about that! fingers are crossed for all of you at the moment!

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Yay MrsMc! That sounds good. Glad yr getting the hang of the injections

Beckle - ditto what everyone else has said - vent away. I certainly felt exactly the same as you (and I found my nausea kind of came and went, then came and went again) Tis all v worrying though - I also convinced myself that my boobs got less hard and tender which I took as another ominous sign. And when I did go for early scans, it really annoyed me that other pg women were laughing and relaxed in the waiting room - I felt like shouting 'why are you so happy? You might find out there's nothing there or its all gone wrong' Arrgghh! Hang in there. I think the first few months are the worst. It does get easier.

Belated hello and welcome to plummy and I willbe. And hello to everyone else. Mumpbump - ouch! dh poked me in the stomach last night. He'd gone up to bed first, when I got in he jabbed me quite sharp then told me off for waking him up, reminding me how early he'd got to be up in the morning! He had no recolection of this this morning

Very pleased for you, MrsMcJnr! Fingers crossed for the next scan...

Great news mrs mcj Hoping all will be ok for next scan.

Thank you all for thinking of me and for your good wishes for yesterday , sorry it took me until today to report in and I?m sorry if I got you worried but we had house guests last night and I was shattered!

Ejb ? glad to hear you had a good holiday in spite of the weather

Firsty ? hope you are not feeling too shattered at work I do feel like I am in good hands with the team at the hospital when I came back from the EPU, the haematology drs were all smiles and congratulations and were talking to me about labour and breast feeding, I know the EPU see the worst of cases but it was so nice to feel that my consultant had faith in my baby?s chances. That said, my risk of MC will diminished after 20 weeks and that is a hell of a long time away 1st September I think!!

Iwillbe congratulations you!! I have been worried about you, you just disappeared! It seemed to do the trick though. How are you feeling? It?s SO good to be on a pg thread with you

Mumpbump how exciting to be moving into the maternity wear! Trying to decide if I?ll need maternity swimwear for my hols in 5 weeks, I normally wear a bikini (always think brown flab is better than white) but I?m not so sure I can get away with it, it seems that the jabs are going to leave a bruise every day and I?ll be looking horrible by then

PLP ? glad things went well in the end at your scan but must have been scary for you.

Hey Plummy hope your confidence is growing.

Glimmer ? hope the MW appointment goes well

Daisy ? so glad you are getting the help you need now

Ejt ? hope things go well today

Fettleandbluemini ? sorry to hear about the SPD ouch!

Hey Rubles thank you for thinking of me.

Beckle ? sorry to hear you are struggling, sending hugs. It is hard but you have to keep reminding yourself that this is a new pregnancy, a new chance and it has every hope of success.

After all my bring it on comments about MS, I was sick as a dog on Sunday! We?d been at a wedding on Sat, got to bed late at PILs house, slept badly, woke up late and then had to wait an hour for any food, by then I felt very dizzy and then I felt as if I had a terrible hangover, I was violently sick and had to lie down for most of the afternoon. Thankfully, it seems to have abated. Do you think it was MS or a bug?

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Thanks hon you are always so nice to me! Not smokey at all up here by the way, Scottish smoking ban is bliss in my opinion!!!

Mrs Mcjnr-glad to hear it was all ok and that the Clexane is going well-I can't believe that I've been injecting it for over two months now!
Have they given you any other advice at all?

Very quick - today's visit to the antenatal clinic turned into a real marathon .... my appointment was at 2, the queue to book in was out of the door, so I didn't even get to the front of that until 2.45 - and after waiting to see consultant, I didn't get out of there until 545pm!!!

Anyway, all is fine ... we're having a girl!! In total shock - all of dh's family in his generation are all boys!

She was bouncing around in there, and the sonographer had real problems getting her to be still to take the measurements. There's discrepancy over my dates - they've gone and filled in the dates without referring to me! I shall be jumping up and down about that!

Anyway, saw the consultant - have stressed that I want to go for a vbac - he's totally in agreement - I've also stressed that I don't want CEFM, as I need to be able to move around to keep my pelvis happy. After all the sitting around this afternoon, I can hardly walk.
My hopes of going for a homebirth have gone out of the window though - with my history of haemorrage, it'd not be a good idea.
I've also told him that I have absolutely no intention of agreeing to induction this time around - he read my notes from when ds was born, and agreed that it wouldn't be a good idea anyway (took 4 days!!)

Very happy, very tired, very sore.

Have a physio appointment for Thursday - can't be too soon!

Anyway, night all, off to have a shower, then bed.

A little girl - how lovely . Would love a pink one (but hastily adds don't mind what sex so long as LO healthy and happy).

MrsMJ - keep a fruit / muesli bar in your bag at all times. It will help to stop you getting nauseus(sp).

Glad all is going well so far. Just take it one scan at a time. It does get easier. xx

Hi JuicyLucy.....and here was I crowing about being the grand dame of this thread, but I forgot you're due in May aren't you? Been keeping an eye on you lot...good luck and all!

wow ejt...a pink one.....congratulations!

Hi Daisy, still a week to go before my due date. Pod has decided there's not enough room in there for him anymore so is trying to redesign the shape of my ribcage! Never thought I would say it, but roll on labour!!

How are you doing Daisy?

Morning all! Great news, Ejt, but what a nightmare day for you... Our hospital is generally really quick. Whenever I have gone with ds, I am in and out of A&E (okay, they prioritise him, I know) within about 40 minutes. Did have to wait about an hour for my NF scan though, but nothing in that order!

MrsMcJnr - pleased to hear that you got a positive scan. Can't imagine what injecting is like - I can't stand needles - but if it works, that's all that counts... Fingers crossed for the next few weeks!

Not feeling too bad today, despite ds waking me up 4 times in the night. I have told dh he has to go back in his own room at the start of June, once the au pair has gone. I am leaving early today to pick him up from nursery as the au pair wanted the evening off so looking forward to spending some extra time with him. Might go to the park on the way home!

Obviously, I'm picking ds up from nursery, not dh!