Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

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I thought that this one sounded really good!

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Hello all. Do you mind if I join. Pg after two m/cs last year and very nervous. Only 4+3 and have known for a week now so found out very early. Lost last two around 6-7 weeks so hoping to get to that stage at least before going for a scan. I remember uki, firststar and mumpbump from previous ttc threads and know MrsMcJ from the april/may ttc threads. Look forward to getting to know everyone else

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Hi plummymummy! Good to see you again and so pleased for you!!! As Firststar says, those early weeks are so nerve-wracking, but I think the people on here are a great support. And of course, it's nice to have the "old-timers" around like Daisy and Firststar which just prove that it can all be okay, despite past experience... Anyway, here's hoping all goes well this time around.

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Hi everybody and welcome to the newbies!
It's great to have a new generations of TTC graduates coming in! There is nothing I can add to what has been said: the first weeks are especially nerve wracking and I would have never made it without MN.

Iwillbepg... -- maybe time for a name change? what about Iampg...

PLP -- what a scare! Phew, that it was false alarm.

Will be seing MW for the first time on Wed. Have mixed feeling but hope so much we can find HB for reassurance. Haven't bought the doppler after all....

who are you calling old timer...cheeky . Actually I'm 38 so an old timer in more ways than one, LOL.

Hi Iwillbepg and plummymummy.....I joined this thread when I was about 5 wks as well, and it's been a lifesaver on more than one occasion. It feels weird to be the grand old lady now....elective c-section 2 weeks tomorrow, but I've been getting the odd contraction and some pinkish discharge (and it feels odd that I'm not worried about it!!)
Fingers crossed for you both, and please use this thread as and when you feel the need. We've all been there and know how scary it can be and also how difficult it can be to talk your fears through with people in RL.

Finally went to see the doc today about my hormonal rollercoaster and he's put me on prozac and referred me to the mother and baby unit for AND/PND at my local hospital. I should've been there months ago, but at least now I'm getting some help for the depression. DH has been great and practically frogmarched me through the door, and insisted to the doc that I get some sort of counselling as well as the drugs to treat the underlying causes and not just the symptoms.
If any of you feel iffy in any way with moodswings etc, please speak to someone and don't just bottle it all up. Take it from me that it won't go away by itself....
......OK, emotional pep talk over with, I'd better get off and feed my two hungry boys!

hello everybody [waves] ... just popping in to say hello & welcome to our 2 new bods ... here's to a boring and uneventful pg for you both!

This thread has been a real lifesaver for me - I have said things on here that I would never have been able to say to anybody in rl ...

News from today - I have my physio referral - or at least, it will be in the physio's office by the time I call for my appointment tomorrow!

Also have my scan tomorrow - so if the mw I saw today (not the usual, long and boring story) has been as 'diligent' (how do you do sarcastic emoticon?) as the usual one, then I can jump up and down (gently), and get it written there and then, and then take it with me to the appointment.

Off out tonight to say goodbye to our French assistant - not going to be out late (famous last words!)

love to all!

Hi Plummy and hello again Iwillbe!!

Great to have some new people on the thread - as everyone has said - I wouldn't have coped without everyone on here during the first few weeks, particularly passing milestones. So we will all be there for you both too - just say whatever you feel you need to - someone on here will have felt the same as you, that's for sure!

My SPD has definitely returned, so I'm off to GP in the morning to get a referral to physio - not seeing MW for another 3.5 weeks and didnt' really want to wait that long to get into teh system.

hope everyone else is doing ok

take care
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Hi all and thanks for the lovely welcomes and supportive words. Looks like I have some SPD buddies - horrible isn't it. Had it from 12 weeks with ds and am already getting the twinges that tell me it's almost certain. Firststar, I find the epu more helpful than the gp so I am holding off for the 7 week scan, though I may book in with the midwife. All gps can do is refer you to epu but I can do that myself so no need to bother them. I do feel different this pg compared with those when I m/c. My boobs are very tender and tingly and I have an enormous appetite. Not as bloated either. Daisy - only just joined the thread so don't know what you've been through but I am v pleased that your dh is insisting you get counselling as well as ads. ADs are helpful but psychological interventions are more likely to help you regain strenth, confidence and good self-esteem, so that when you stop the pills you will be able to cope better. I take my hat off to you coping with depression, two boys and a pregnancy. I only have 1 ds and it's hard work.

Ooh welcome Plummymummy. I think you just about joined the ttc thread around the time I was leaving.
And I remember you too Iwillbepg as your previous incarnation desperate2be from the ttc threads. Congratulations!

I wonder how MrsMc got on today - I thought she was having a scan wasn't she?

LOL plummymummy....only one DS...the other "hungry boy" was my DH

PMSL Daisy - in that case I've got two also. Still bloody hard work

I hope she is celebrating a good scan and that is why she hasn't posted.

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I've not got SPD, but my sacro-iliac joint is shot to pieces and giving me lots of grief. I can't stand around for too long (good excuse for not ironing ) and I just can't get comfy in bed. I'm OK for an hour or so, then have to change position (which takes some doing, the size of me now!)
I did manage to get three whole hours sleep in one stretch last night, followed by a further two hours, so feel like I could climb a mountain today....but I won't!

Where are you MrsMcJr?......I hope everything is OK!

I only appear calm on here firststar....my DH and DS wouldn't agree

DS off school today and DH gone back to Lincolnshire till Thursday, so I'm trying to be sane and rational. DS has a chest infection, so we're going to have a duvet day and watch discovery channel and movies all day on the sofa! The housework can wait another few days!!

Ejt...i was reading the thread about MILs yesterday...I am bloody at some of the things yours has come out with......I think I would've slapped mine if she'd been that insensitive!

Morning all Also wondering about Mrs McJnr. Hope all ok. Firststar the epu is not near where I live now but it is near work so I could always go if there was a problem. I have decided to go to the one near me now (which does need dr referral)simply so that I don't need to negotiate rush hour traffic with ds at 7am in the morning. Have appt at dr next thursday and will get referral for the local epu for the following week by which time I will be 7 weeks. Time is going soooooo slowly. I am going to paint ds's room today, that should take my mind of things for a few hours Daisy, sorry to hear about you sacro-iliac thingy (sounds very painful). Your duvet day sounds divine though. Had one with ds yesterday too as he was recovering from an infection.

Morning all! Bad start to the day today. First, ds sat down hard directly on my bump in bed this morning, followed by tweaking my nipple really hard and they are SOOO sensitive at the moment... Then, I realised I had nothing to wear for work due to being too knackered to do the washing at the weekend and I'm still a bit too small it turns out for my maternity stuff, despite being pretty much out of ordinary clothes. So not a happy bunny today...

Daisy - I think the difficulty is in deciding that what you're going through is more than the normal ups and downs of pg. I am glad that you have got some help though as I definitely agree that early intervention is the best way to go... Can't believe you will be holding your lo in 2 weeks at the latest!

I have been fortunate enough not to experience spd so far. Sounds bluddi awful! I'd probably wind up off work as I have a 30 minute walk from London Bridge station to my office. Can't see myself doing that if in agony! Best of luck with the physio everyone!!

Did a quick search for MrsMcJnr and there is nothing which is surprising. Fingers crossed we hear from her with some good news soon!

Ouch! Right on your bump Boys are so rough like that. Ds keeps headbutting my stomach or running into me at full pelt. I tell him off but he's only 2 and he forgets five mins later. He's still lovely though Re. SPD - last time I didn't find physio helpful. This time I will try osteopathy as I have heard that in some cases it goes away completely.

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Yes I just need to stay focused and every friday is a milestone for me as it signifies another week gone. I sort of wish I hadn't found out so early but I suppose it's good that I did so I could stop drinking and watch what I eat etc. Great news about Mrs McJ - yay

Thanks for letting us know, firststar! Was a bit worried that the silence was a bad omen...

Hi all, hope you all okay. Welcome Plummy and IWillBe! I remember you IWillBe from the TTC after m/c thread, glad you got your BFP! (you too Plummy!).
I seem to be struggling a bit at the mo with feelings of gloom, every symptom that changes is a bad sign for me and I just keep convincing myself I am going to lose this LO even though I desperatly want it! I even dreamed the other night that I came on MN and told you all I had lost it - horrid. Boobs are not as hard as they were and nausea seems to be less each day, (don't seem to have any today) am only 8+5 and got nausea with DSs until around 15 weeks (although it didn't start until 8-9 weeks, very early for nausea with this one and last one). Sorry to re-appear after days away and just moan, had to let it out - RL friends must be getting fed up of my miserableness!
On plus side I had MW booking in appt at home yesterday and they decided to keep me under MW led care as I don't usually have many probs after 16 weeks or so (touch wood).

Hi beckle and thanks. The nausea may just be fading because you got it earlier iyswim. With ds I got it around 7 weeks and it lasted til about 10 but it returned once or twice after that eg if I had to get up really early or if I ate something that didn't agree with me. This time I have been feeling nausea ever so slightly and more in form of acid at back of mouth than full nausea. It varies from day to day. Try not to worry too much - I think it's more of a worry if all your symptoms go. Are you having reassurance scans?