Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

Afternoon all - have come home early from work as I have no lesson now, and I have been given to come home and 'rest' ... well, speaking to my mn friends is really de-stressing for me ... I was meaning to make a start on my reports - don't think I'll manage it now!

rubles - you put my thoughts on the nuchal scan exactly - it's as though you were reading my thoughts - but I have to admit that you put them so much more eloquently than I could ever manage!

fettle - HURRAY!!!!! about scan - and about promotion ... the drinks are on you (if you get the pay rise, that is!

purple - I'm thinking of you today - I'm so glad that your scan went well, but I can totally understand that today is difficult for you. Good luck at the doctors.
your scan was very turtle-like!
I'm an evening and weekend girl too mostly!

KB75 - I really hope that this is the start of a long an uneventful stay for you. I'm thinking of you, and would just reassure you that there is nothing you can do ... feel free to rant away - we've all been in the limbo position, and it's just horrible!

Cupcake - thinking of you. Glimmer put my feelings so much more eloquently than me - I would just echo her and wish you well in your talking and thinking about whatto do now.

becklespeckle - hi!

fingernails - good luck for tomorrow

daisy - you have a date - a real date !!

Well, not much to add from me ... except that I've just been in touch with the midwives about my lack of physio appointment. A colleague of mine at work is about 17 weeks pregnant, her referral was put through 2 weeks ago, and she was seen on Monday. Mine was put through on 16th April (!), and I've heard nothing. The midwife I spoke to gave me the direct number for the obstetric physio, and told me to leave a voice mail on her phone - as that was the way I was most likely to get some sense! A bit actually ... I'm in agony now with my pelvis - think I'm developing sciatica to go with the spd and coccyx pain - literally can't move without severe pain! I'm walking like someone about to give birth (you know, the oh-so-elegant waddle!)

Baby is tapdancing this afternoon - keeps making me jump.

Happy Wednesday to everybody I haven't mentioned ....

Hey Glimmer I know, I am (mostly) taking things each day as they come MW sounds interesting but so important to like him! happy house hunting!

Firsty I know!! she just gave me a knowing smile when I talked about the support I got on the web! I can see what you mean about the EPU and sitting as far away as you can.

Daisy ? the hospital unit move sounds like a good plan PMSL about you and the make up bag, that?s the kind of thing I get side tracked by too!! get it packed! so exciting!

Hey Ejt ? that exhaustion is hitting me hard too, especially round the eyes, constantly tired and heavy!

Fettleandbluemini still smiling for you!

PLP glad you got through that date ok I didn?t ask what site it was, didn?t dare! Hope the Consultant?s appointment went well.

KB75 ? hello sorry about the MC, especially on holiday, it must have been awful! were you far along? Your story sounds similar to mine, I MCd in March too and am 5+1 along now I had a 40 day cycle and an AF in between though. Sorry about the bleeding and the inconclusive scan, been there, it?s horrible waiting but personally, I found it easier to believe it would be fine but expect the worst rather than make myself miserable believing the worst if that makes sense. At the end of the day, you need to find a way to get through the time between now and then in the best way that you can. Sending you hugs, we?re here for you .

Furry ? lovely! Poor you with the sore tummy.

Cupcake I am so sorry, I just don?t know what to suggest as I have no experience. Really hope someone else can help

Hey Mumpbump

No more time to catch up but I?ll be back later

MrsMcJr...I did start packing but realised the bag I bought specially isn't blooming big enough...so sitting here twiddling fingers and drummming on desk waiting for Mothercare to deliver pram etc (promised it would be here by six) so I can get baby changing bag to pack baby's stuff in....thereby freeing up more space for my wee luxuries....like make-up abg!

Fingernails -- will be thinking of you tomorrow!

EJT -- let us know how you are doing with the physio appointment. It really sounds you should have one, the sooner the better. Am also interested in it because I think I might develop SPD myself. I can hardly get up once I lie down because my hip (mostly butt) seems to come apart. Have long tendence, so could be a candidate. And I am only 14 weeks! (Am happy though, since pain seems to be a hormone-induced symptom, ...)

MrsMcJnr -- Ilove your use of and

Beckle -- sorry to hear you are having a down day (sounds pg to me...). Hold off for a while but if you really get very anxious, you can consider a private scan. But try and wait for a while (Haha, the blind giving advice to the seing...)

hi everyone, just a quick one to say good news furry mummy, know exactly how your felt at the scan, think my sonographer was not sure what to do with me either!!

to all those waiting anxiously, i am with you and know how torturous it is. stickwith it, there's no other way.

thanks for all the info about neuchal and so on, will leave it for a while and digest options later, still enjoying the good bits.

hotchoc

Cupcake, I'm so sorry to hear your news - I really don't have any advice as I've never been in that situation, I'm afraid. I do know that DH and I decided that we wouldn't risk the amnio should any test have shown a high risk of DS, as I wouldn't have risked the mc risk having had 2 already. In the end, we decided to not to have any triple tests as we knew that we wouldnt' proceed any further, so there was no point knowing. I hope you are getting lots of advice from people who had DS children - but as someone has already said, there is still a chance that it will be all ok. I really feel for you, and hope that whatever decision you make is the right one for all of you. Take care.xxx

EJT & glimmer so sorry to hear you are both in pain - there is nothing worse. I had really bad SPD with my last pg and am getting the early twinges now. I hope you manage to sort out a physio appointment, although I have to say that I found mine a complete waste of time last time around. They gave me a support belt to wear that made things more painful and some exercises, which may have made a difference if I'd started them early enough, but by the time my appointment came through I only had about 8 weeks left of pg!!

Rubles, you are right - spooky, or maybe we've discussed it previously! I'm 5'11 and DH is 6'4. My 2 brothers are 6'7 and 6'6, so there are definite tall genes running through both families so I'm not really convinced by my scan dates based on length of body and length of femur, considering that DD is on the 99th centile for her height and age! I'm sticking with later in Sept!

Daisy - how exciting - 3 weeks to go. Can't remember - have you already got DC? I don't envy you the decision, if you go into spontaneous labour. With DD, I was almost forced into an epidural, but I said that I at least wanted to experience a real contraction and then decide if I couldn't cope - glad I did, as I ended up coping very admirably. but then I was induced so DD came very very quickly (once they finally managed to break my waters after 3 days!!) as they had my drip turned up too high!

How you doing, MrsMc? You sound very positive and feeling differently about this pg. I wonder if your doctor posts on here - I know there are parenting websites, but this is the best. Perhaps you ought to check out the due in June and July threads and see if any of them sound familiar!!!

hello everyone else - sorry not to have mentioned you all personally - I'm starving and have to go eat!

hugs to all.
xxx

Thank you everyone for your messages - I feel really supported already!

Cupcake, I am so sorry - as this is my first (well, second try anyway) I cant advise but I hope you get lots of support from MN.

Furrymummy, I loved seeing the picture of your scan. So cute! I so hope thats what mine looks like in 9 days time. How far along are you in that scan?

Mine was an internal scan and they saw the sac, but no clear fetus. So I dont know what that means. Surely they should have seen something in the sac if there is any hope?

Hi KB75...try to keep positive....I take it you've not had any more bleeding? I was always told that's a good sign

Fettle, I've got a DS who will be five next Friday....he wants the baby to come on his birthday, bless him, so she can come to his party ....but it'll be 11 days later at the latest.....oops could have done better on the timing couldn't I?

Keep an eye on the birth announcements anyway as the consultant said I might not even make it to the 5th!

Cupcake - I know how hard this decision is - I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum my first pg attempt and was terrified of mc the second time around. Don't know if this helps at all, but just to share my experience with the amnio (mind you, I am in the states...)

I was given the option of an amnio with this pregnancy because over here they consider me to be of "advanced maternal age" (I'm 35!). My dh and I discussed it and eventually decided to do it for several reasons:

1. we realistically had no idea how we would deal with a diagnosis of DS unless actually confronted with it
2. I am somewhat anal and wanted to know regardless so at least I could prepare
3. Here in the states the medical professionals are revising the % chance of miscarriage because it is felt that the 2% mc rate is outdated and my doctor told me that (usually) most mcs that happen after an amnio are the result of either a less than competent practitioner or a pregnancy that would have most likely miscarried anyway
4. My own doctor has three children and, knowing the risks, elected to go have an amnio each time and was fine

Like I said, I don't know if this is helpful or not. And I'm not recommending having an amnio or not, it just seemd the right course of action for me. I did do the amnio and it wasn't nearly as bad as I had thought. And I am now 31.5 weeks and counting

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Blimey Firststar, that was monumental.

MrsMc, I keep trying to remember to say that I did a yoga class with someone that I 'recognised' off MN. She said some things about herself which reminded me of a poster and I managed to work out who she was and I was right. I didn't let her know I had worked her out because I am not sure I want to loose my anonymity or make her feel like she had a stalker.

Daisy ? hope the pram and big bag arrived!

Glimmer ? how are you? Sorry you suspect SPD.

HotChoc ? hello

Fettleandbluemini ? I don?t think I?d be allowed an epidural even if I wanted one due to the drugs I?ll be on, don?t want one anyway though ? well, that?s what I?m saying now.

KB75 ? sometimes the yolk in the sac is too small to see even with an internal. Try to have faith, it will help to get you through. How are you feeling now?

Jendos it was really good of you to share that with us. I?m glad all is going well for you

Firsty ? 4 weeks! Wow!

Rubles that?s amazing about you spotting a fellow MNetter at Yoga!

I?m not going to see much on Monday am I ladies? There?s no point even hoping to see the HB, I just wouldn?t at 5+6 would I? do you think they?ll let me have another scan in a few weeks to reassure me on viability?

Afternoon all! Feeling a bit flaked out and going to go to the doctor's to get checked out for anaemia. Probably just the natural consequence of being pg with a toddler who is crying in his sleep a couple of times a night, but better to get checked, I figure... Sorry not to post properly, but I will catch up one day when my energy levels are a bit better...

MrsMcJnr - don't think you have any chance of seeing a hb before 7 or 8 weeks, but no reason not to ask for an early viability scan...

Cupcake - hope you get a good result tomorrow - please let us know how you get on... Thinking of you.

Firststar - what a post!!

Hello to everyone else...

Hi everybody.
I am always impressed by how some of you reply to verybody individually. This is absolutely lovely. Sorry not to do the same, but I love you anyway...

I am doing fine, waiting for booking appoitnment with MW next week. Hope to hear HB. Will ask about SPD. It not a problem yet, just want to know if there is any exercises I can do. I decribed DH how I get up these days (roll myself out of bed and let myslef fall on all fours, then Sumo-wrestler position for 2 minutes and then standing up followed by erradic kangoroo-hooping) and I believe he is reconsidering whether or not to move here :-) ...
And I found house! It's tiny (a 10ft wide Victorian house) but very comfy and I secured it today.

MrsMcJnr, Mumpbump -- there is a possibility of seing a HB after 5.5 weeks, defo at 6 if you know your dates exactly. I guess it's wiser to wait a little longer, rather than go
and have to be rescaned because it was to early, but well, I have lost all wisdom...

Firststar -- can't beleive you have only 10 weeks to go! I can vividly remember your BFP!

Glimmer - pleased to hear you have found a "nest" to use your nesting instinct on... How lovely that everything seems to be falling into place for you!

Thanks, Firststar. I can't believe how much has been going on for me in the last year. I really had a lot of ups and downs. I hope the up-time will continue -- at least until bubs it born
(certainly welcome longer, too :-)).

Evening all ... just popping in to say hi - not in tonight - going to the Ascension Day sung mass at church - then bed.

However, must just have a rant!!

Am - have had a message from the obstetric physio who works at our local hospital - and she hasn't actually received my physio referral! She also has spaces to see women at the moment - and there is no waiting list!
She has appointments next Wednesday, and has suggested that I phone my midwife and request a referral which I can bring with me when I come for an appointment.
I'm to ring her back next Tuesday as she's no in now until then, and we can book an appointment for next Wednesday or Thursday.

Have just rung to surgery to make an appointment with the midwife for next Monday - I'm going to sit with her and request (rather forcibly) hat she writes it while I sit there.

Am tamping!!

Have a good evening all!

I feel your ejt...you wonder sometimes don't you. I know loads of people who have had this sort of thing happen to them. At least it's halfway to being sorted now.

Yay...got the pram and cot today so had to build it up and then cart the big teddy around the house

The mental health nurse was lovely and she listened whilst I talked through a lot of stuff..when I look back there's been a lot going on over the last 2.5 years and there have been too many big life events one after the other. she said that any one of them would make some people struggle, but to have gone through several....it made me feel slightly better about things. We also talked about some of my worries about the baby, ie BF successfully, managing bith children etc which has made me feel a bit more positive as well.

And you guys have been great . some of the stuff I say on here I just can't talk about with RL friends and family. They all assume that now I'm pregnant again I'm over the MCs, and I think unless they've been in the same situation it's difficult to see why it still matters.

Anyway.....don't want to knock Firstar off the throne for Queen of the Long Post.....off to admire my pram and fervently wish for this LO to arrive soon and safe!

Dear all
Just a quick one to say the scan was v. good - small person curled up and fast asleep with tiny hands tucked under his/her chin. Can't quite believe it!
Thanks again for everyone's support - it is really good to feel that we are all in similiar boats if not the same and that people understand what it's like.
xxxx

Hi all
Just checking in at the end of another long and nauseating day at work. Obviously so early on in the might-or-might-not-be pregnancy I am not talking about it at work yet so I can only check the site in the evenings.

And it is so nice to see all the messages posted during the day and all the support everyone is giving everyone - just like a big warm hug.

No news from me today and I am considering no news to be good news. Still feeling constantly ill and no bleeding.

Fingernails, happy to hear that you have had a positive scan!! Wonderful news.

Sleep well everyone, I am off to my now-usual early bedtime.

fingernails....collective sigh of relief being breathed now. Glad all is well and that you can relax a bit and start to enjoy your pregnancy.

KB75...Still keeping everything crossed for you...and thanks for keeping us updated, it gets quite worrying when someone disappears off the board

for fingernails. Love the idea of the baby being peacefully asleep. That'll change once it's here!!

KB75 - pleased to hear you're feeling rotten, iykwim! My mother always quotes the old saying that a sick pg is a safe pg and going to bed superearly must be a sign of the demands the growing baby is placing on your body. Fingers crossed...

FYI, Cupcake got positive results today in case you haven't seen her other thread.

Sorry - positive as in the baby does not have DS, not as in it tested positive for DS...

Hello all! fingernails, glad your scan was lovely, baby asleep, bless!
KB75 glad you're still with us, keeping everything crossed for you!
Daisy you must be getting excited now! You are right about people expecting you to be over m/c because you are pg again but in reality I don't think you are ever really 'over' it.
Ejt, not surprised you are , I would be fuming! Hope you get it sorted.
Glimmer, glad you found a little house, it sounds lovely and cosy! I like houses with a bit of character!
MrsMcJnr, I think they can detect a heartbeat from 6-7 weeks, my scan last week was at 6+6 and we saw HB. I have had a scan (with a previous pg) and seen one at 6+2. I would ask for another scan a week or so after Monday's one, they can only say no! Anything that reassures us is good. How are you getting on with a dress for the wedding tomorrow?
Mumpbump, sorry you feeling flaked out, I do think its par for the course in early pg! My DSs have been up a lot in the night lately, it does exhaust you! Hopefully some iron will perk you up (dark choc v good for iron if you can stomach it!).
Cupcake hope appt goes well today, let us know how you get on hun.
Hi to everyone else! Am feeling a little better than earlier in the week, a bit more positive - I seem to swing from optomistic to convinced its over. Am hoping that will calm down once hormones do! For the last couple of nights I haven't been able to eat hot food, have to wait for it to go cold, that is a classic early pg thing for me so am hoping it means things are progressing okay.