Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

I do wonder what percentage of women now get a private scan before their first NHS one? It's so, so common among women (including those with no 'reason' to think anything would be wrong) if you read the threads here - I guess pregnancies have got longer as testing got earlier. I think it's so widespread that if we weren't in this age of cuts and NHS pressure there might be calls for all women to get 'viability' scans at 8 weeks and then a second scan for nuchal fold etc. at 12 weeks, which seems to be standard practice in the US - but obviously that's never going to happen with the current funding issues with maternity services.

Hello! I've been staying offline a bit trying to stay sane. Welcome and congratulations to everyone.

It's lovely to see you here GrumpySquirrel, what exciting news!!

I'm 9.5 weeks and still just waiting in the limbo zone. I've also got super fluctuating symptoms. My DH is being a legend taking our DC in the mornings as I haven't been able to get up before 8:30 without puking. I still feel super shitty and down. There's nothing else to do but just keep going through the first trimester of doom!

I decided that whatever happens this is our last try, as I don't want to go through another mc. It is nice to have certainty, even if it might mean moving on without a much-wanted second child in the new year.

Nothing from the NHS about the dreaded 12 week scan. I've got a ton of travel in Jan so I hope it comes soon.

AKP79 glad you got some space from your MIL!!

Lovely to see the new babies Mammabear congratulations. Brilliant to see everyone's pregnancies progress to viability and beyond. Hope you all have a beautiful Christmas with plenty of

Hello ladies, im new to this thread but in the June antenatal group and thought id introduce myself after lurking for a while. Im a mum to 3 children aged 12 5 & 3.
I had a late loss in June this year, i was 21w 6d pregnant, baby girl had multiple anomalies, losing her has completely broken me and its still extremely fresh in my mind 💔 Im pregnant again (some might say im foolish but i see this baby as a blessing) im 15w 4d and due june 7th, this baby could share my birthday or even our Angel babys birthday, june will be a very bittersweet month for us.
Ive got a scan coming up on Wednesday which im really anxious about but grateful that we are being looked after.
I will stop wittering on now
Cant wait to get chatting with you all x

Hi all. I’ve been quiet as feeling rotten with morning sickness. It’s taken me by surprise as I didn’t have it in my previous pregnancies (both successful and mc). Obviously I’m grateful for it, though I’ll be terrified if it goes. But it is grim. Highlight being vomiting into a plastic bag on the park and ride bus on Saturday.
I’ve got a private scan tomorrow eve and booking in Friday. Our hospital have started doing the private scans, which is good as if something is wrong I’m in their system and don’t need to visit epau. Wish me luck.

Mammabear - massive congratulations. What gorgeous babies, I’m so pleased you’re back home now.

Welcome to the new folk, Hetty and Foxtrot and missbrightside and lovely to see you again, Grumpy, I remeber you! Is Flatwhite pregnant also? Wonderful! Congrats on your BFPs.

So sorry about the fall, Juniper, glad it’s all ok now.

Brenna I’m very envious of your retreat! Haven’t done one since school. Hope you’ve come back feeling all centred and calm for Christmas!

Lisa your worries are familiar. Hope you’re doing ok. I haven’t had sex or mastrubated, it’s on my list of things that have possible contributed to my previous mcs. It’s irrational and the list is pretty long and restricting. I also think that a pregnancy that can’t withstand an orgasm probably isn’t going to make it anyway.

For anyone suffering UTIs in pregnancy I can really recommend taking a probiotic like acidophilus. I haven’t had a uti since starting on them 5 years ago.

Oh and I've had zero sex since BFP. Just too scared and DH feels the same. Yay post-mc pregnancy joy

Hiya! I think my ms is getting slightly worse, but still no actual vomming yet.

Had a bad night last night worrying, so in Tesco I bought one of those clear blue digitalis tests. I did the test and it came up 3+ which was reassuring (i’m 5+6 today) with my first 3 mc they didn’t go further than 2-3. But then I googled and found loads of people that got 3+ and then miscarried. Why did I google it?????

I tried to distract myself by making pavlova for the last day at work before Xmas, which completely failed, i’m baking it in a cake tin in some hope it might be salvageable!!

We haven’t had sex or anything since we found out, either, too tired and too scared. Glad we’re not the only ones being irrational!!

Just place marking on here, I don't wanna loose the thread. Trying to stay off mn as much as possible until I've had my scan on Friday, my anxiety is horrendous. Hopefully I'll be back on soon to report on a healthy bean 😣🤞 xx

I meant to ask last time, what is the new business in Mogul? I am in awe of you starting something at this time.

Good luck on wednesday Lisa, Friday Bluee and in January Grumpy

Hi and welcome Missbright. I am sorry about your loss. Congratulations on your new pregnancy though. I hope this one ends better.

I am both glad and sorry about your sickness Grey. I hope it is keeping you reassured.

I am glad you are sick too LifeofPies. Long may it continue. I am lovely and relaxed now. Ready fro christmas even if I have hardly done any prep.

Step away from google Hetty. No good lies there. Jsut enjoy the difference between this and your other pregnancies.

32 week growth scan today. Baby is head down and engaged (which explains the sore pelvis and bladder) and weighs about 4lb 2oz, which is at about the 75th centile. So definitely no growth restriction. Its abdominal circumference is just above the 95th centile, so they are going to do the dreaded Glucose Tolerance Test next week to see if I have gestational diabetes. I am so glad baby is turned and engaged. We are on the right road.

We are still having sex, we didn’t so much earlier on but I think because baby is 31 weeks and feels a bit more established and ‘safe’ we feel ok... no science behind any of this by the way!! It helps me relax and feel less anxious 👍

brenna that retreat sounds amazing, I love Scotland (I lived there for a few years in the highlands) and really miss it. I’d love time to contemplate and take time to pray properly. Il see if my church has any links to a retreat, possibly when baby arrives and I need a break (I’m sure DH would agree to it 😂)
My business is a baby toiletries company for families who are outdoorsy. I’ve designed and am producing the products abroad to then sell in the UK (online and in stores).
m.facebook.com/ToddleBornWild/?ref=bookmarks This explains it better than I can! I’ve got so much to do before baby arrives as I’m hoping to launch in spring 🙈

It’s good baby is head down, 31 weeks here and I’m feeling kicks (or what I think are kicks) all over the shop so no idea what position he’s in!

tiger everything crossed for you hope to hear good news soon. And to pies as well for your scan

Haven’t been on thread for months and months but reached 36 weeks today after 6 previous losses and I just can’t wait to have baby in my arms now

Hi there everybody. Hope you don’t mind Me joining in and saying hello! I’m 6 weeks today, following an mc in July at about 7/8 weeks. I’ve always had anxiety and last time it send me a bit mad, terrified of everything harming the baby, super anxious and terrified about not being able to cope (that was my first pregnancy), but this time I have been surprisingly chilled out. I’m 39 so am aware that the odds of mc are increased but so far I’m feeling pretty philosophical about everything. I’ll be getting an 8 week scan at my EPU at the beginning of Jan and just hoping for a heartbeat. My boobs are painful, yesterday I was feeling nauseous and I could fall asleep at the drop of a hat at any point during the day, so the symptoms seem to be there. Let’s just hope they stay! (Odd to wish for nausea, but there we go!) Anyway, good luck everyone, and here’s to healthy happy pregnancies and strength to get through the tough times

Helloo ladies I can finally join you again! It's been so long that it isn't even the same people on here who were on it last time (August 2016 I believe).

Anyway it seems we have a little teeny weeny Christmas miracle. 4+1 today (anywhere from 13-16dpo, not sure exactly when I ovulated) with a super strong line. Previously I've miscarried twice at 5+4 so if I make it to new year I'll be very very happy.

Haven't told DH yet. I think I might wrap up the test in a box and tell him I've got an early Christmas present for him...

Woo hoo @BertieBotts so happy for you!!!! I'm 4+3 so at a very similar stage! What a lovely Christmas present 💝

Ooh Grumpy we are so close! Yay :)

Congratulation Bertie I remember you from the TTC threads. Wonderful news!

As for sex during pregnancy. Erm ....not once and I'm 22 weeks. My DH has mentioned it a couple of times and I do feel guilty about it but luckily he's not put any pressure on me and he knows that I'm anxious about baby.

Lisa I had morning sickness like that all the way through with DS. I was only ever actually sick once. It's mainly nausea as I understand and not that many women actually puke lots - it's just that for those who do it's quite obvious, so you notice it more.

Hi Bertie. Great to see you in here. I remember you form the TTC threads way back before I gave up and stopped going on them. Fingers crossed this is the full miracle for you this time.

So close Issy.

Hi and welcome Yikes best of luck with this one.

So nice to see you over here, bertie! Welcome missbright and yikes.

Having major wobble about scan tomorrow - what do people think? Is it a stupid idea to have another one, just a week after the last? It feels like tempting fate somehow. I wanted it to try and dampen down my anxiety over Christmas, but would it be better to put off any bad news until after Christmas is over? What would other people do?

Sorry that I keep coming and asking all these questions - I've been feeling v needy!

Haven’t posted in a while but still reading everyone’s updates with interest. Welcome and congrats to everyone who’s joined recently!

I only got sick once or twice when pregnant with DS and again this time lisa; I always assumed that nausea was what morning sickness was.
I was too scared to have sex the first few weeks but DH has very high sex drive so back to a few times a week; just very carefully

Have been feeling pretty rubbish the last few days, just really run down. Can’t wait for the few days off around Christmas. Have my 12w scan on Friday and really nervous that i’ll get bad news and have to deal with that over Christmas. Irrational I know. It’s been a pretty awful year tbh and just can’t wait until it’s over!

Cross-posted there lisa sorry. Think you’re going to be thinking about it anyway, so I’d say go for the scan if you can afford it

Realistically, I'm going to be devastated if it's bad news. I've been trying to keep my hopes in check, but this is the furthest we've ever got and it's hard not to start hoping that after three false starts this might be it. But I'm going to be devastated whenever it happens, and I think I'd rather know ASAP, even if it does fuck up Christmas - my last miscarriage was missed, and it did somehow feel worse knowing that I'd been walking around not knowing.

I think I pretty much have to go to the scan - I think you're right I'll keep thinking about it, thought, and I'll be hit with a huge wave of regret tomorrow afternoon when it's too late if I don't. Just praying for good news, and trying to remind myself that I can't avoid bad news if it's coming - the very most I can do is put it off a little.

Thanks so much for listening to me and for your advice - and wishing you the absolute best for Thursday, foxtrot, and to you on Friday thought.

I would go to the scan @LisaSimpsonsbff - I think it would be harder to find out after. Good news will be a good pre-Christmas present and might let you enjoy the next week (I know the effect won't last forever, but still). Bad news will be devastating but maybe better now than after Christmas.

I'm so hungry I've just joked to DH that I'll bankrupt us with food costs.

Currently cooking dinner while scoffing cheese straw things and then drinking loads of iced tea because my mouth is so dry from the straws!