October 2004 - Moose massive, part 3

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Does anyone want to come and play here? There's loads of space!

Sooz - The Cooler looks good. And can't wait for Shrek 2. Actually that's what I want to see most, clips look great. THANKS for the hug. Made nice tears come out. You're lovely. You're all lovely. In our overlapping moosey lives, it's my turn for a curry tonight, and when dp gets home I will ask for a large hug.

You know, it did occur to me today to look for somewhere in Soho that did walk in massages, like the back rub place in Neal's Yard. Looking for a walk in massage in Soho would be like looking for hay in a haystack, obviously! But I don't think they do mooses as a rule.

Sooz again, are you tempted to get one of those modern conveniences that lets you do a small or large flush depending on your... deposit? Have fun on your hen night.

Bibi - good luck in John Lewis.
Turtle - glad you had a lovely listen to db. And to Bean via piglit - thank you, I am at one with the Goddess now. And a glass of slightly vinegary claret. Going to watch ToTP now, like a young thing.

Tootifroots - our walk is about half a mile. Or perhaps more. It does involve a big hill.

Email me, anyway, and we'll do a sarf lunnon rekkie one of these days?

Morning gals,

Sneaking onto MN before I have to go on a training course - booooooo!
John Lewis was lovely, although bad for the old Mastercard. Ended up coming home with a load of cute rompers from there and Gymborie, a great dragon activity toy and some boring stuff like breast pads.
Did't make it to cinema in the end, by the time we'd got round all the shops, DH was virtually carrying me due to achy back and pelvis. Good job too as he would have chosen something loud and manly to watch and I wouldn't have been able to have a little sleep. Last time we went, I got v uncomfortable and ended up virtually horizontal on my seat, snoozing through Harry Potter. I don't find my attentiosn span is very ... um ... YKWIM!

Sooz, did you find a suitable loo?

We also didn't have the curry as I was asleep by 7:30 - but Dh has porents evenings tonight so maybe I'll get one in for when he finally gets home! Mmmmmmm

Glad you had a good shop Bibi.

I a grim weekend. DD seems to have given up napping and watching TV (ie: respite) and taken up being hyper, whingey and totally contrary. This coincided with/caused a huge wave of self-pity in me. I hate the fact that looking so obviously pregnant puts me up for such public scrutiny. If I was saying 'hey, look at me, what do you think of what I look like today?' it would be OK to get comments. Sorry - old ground. Just have to say it again.

DP and I have been falling in and out all weekend. I've been whingeing too. Everything is winding me up, including the f-ing poo stripes he leaves in the loo. CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF YOU'RE AN ADULT!!!!!!! do you know what I mean? I just don't feel like I've had the acknowledgement I need that things are hard for me at the moment. Not only is DD acting up, but I'm tired and 6ms pregnant, and feeling scared that I'm going to lose the work identity I've been building up since dd was born, which gives me more satisfaction than I've had in my whole career (when dd was born I started writing comedy for television, and after a long slog, things are going really well). I know everything will be OK. That I will get my groove back and continue to produce better and better material. But I want HIM TO TELL ME IT TOO! OR INSTEAD. OR SOMETHING.I want him to make it better. I know he could, but he won't because he's feeling stressed with dd and impending baby too, and I'm probably just not being nice nice enough in his eyes to deserve the support I need.

Also, toaster has broken and timer on boiler. Good. Great. Thanks. Alot.

I would feel so much worse without you lot. Thank you for being here.

Arriving late on this thread - hope you all had a good weekend.
DH hurried me through a nursery goods shop with undue haste on Saturday - I was only looking at the prams, honest! We might get a new baby car seat as ours was handed down from my SIL, but don't actually need anything. If we have a boy, I'm sure the family will rush out and buy blue clothes for him, if it's a girl we're OK!
The DDs seem to have spent the weekend fighting and this got us both down a bit. I know we're not the Waltons, but sometimes we feel more like the shouty families on Wife Swap.
We are going to Tenby next week to a caravan, so I am looking forward to that.

Sorry to hear that things were so poop at the weekend Toots. I think as db-day approaches we are getting nervous. Our neighbour said to me last night "not long to go now then?" and I replied (in a really nervous and anxious tone) "Oh yes, loads of time - 3 months in fact. 13 and a half weeks but it could be 15 and a half I go 2 weeks overdue. So, ages to go actually. All the time in the world..." What a blithering idiot.

Morning gorgeous ones. I'm hating being at work now, so in attempt to cheer myself up feel I should share my list of consoling things to note:

We're another Monday closer to finishing work.
Our hormone fragility is such that we do not have to feel bad about being crabby about stuff.
We look really funny naked (at least I do - not sure how consoling that is, but it is funny!).
Gorgeously good for us fruit is in season (nectarines, apricots, cherries, strawbs, rasps...).
It's been proven that chocolate makes our unborn babies happier.
And we have MN!

Toots sorry to hear you had such a pants weekend. Men are from Mars! don't forget that. I honestly think sometimes that they are a million miles away from us and all it will take is a big hug and a few kind words to make our hearts swell.

Being pregnant is hard - much harder than I though it would ever be. Roll on October, Piglit it will be here before we know it. I feel like it's ages still too but dreamt last night it was Oct.

My back is aching today, anyone else suffering with sore back and really struggling to get comfortable in bed. I think I woke every hour rolling (grunting while I do it) around trying to find a good position. Oh and the constant weeing is back! FIVE times last night - what's up with that!!

Sooz right back at ya!! Positive thinking - best way to be. Think I may go and get stuck into some of that fruit. Am working from home on Mondays (can't you tell) so I can wander into the kitchen when I please

My weekend was manic, as expected. The family barbecue wasn't as stessful as I imagined it would be; but shopping for it was.

DH, DS and me 'popped' into busy Tesco after visiting a couple of bathroom places on Saturday morning (we've got all the catalogues - still not much closer to chosing although I do like the optional flush thingy you speak of Toots). Then DS's pretty good mood deteriorated rapidly such that I had to haul him out kicking, yelling, hitting and trying to bite me (this is new) leaving DH at checkout. We get home and I burst into tears at it all - eventually get a 'sorry mummy' and lots of hugs from both DH and DS, but good grief! Spent the afternoon chilling in front of the telly and the hen's night was a much needed change of scenery... although I had to leave early as I just couldn't cope with everyone smoking around me.

Then lovely DH gave me a lie in on Sunday morning and all was fine again!

Hi ladies (and esp. Allyco - how are you? hope you are ok).

Feel human again now I have read all of your messages and seen that hey, we are all having a mixed time of it. My bag is dsd, her mum and money, (always a heady mix!!) plus not sleeping again. Have been awake since 5 and a mixture of being exhausted, tearful, wobbly on my feet (literally) meant that I have stayed at home today. I'm the martyred sort that goes in unless they possibly can't... and today I just couldn't. Moose R&R for me today and no mistake.

I have huge respect for those of you who already have children, I can only sit and wonder how you are managing. As you guess, I'm a bit of a tired and emotional Bean today. Thanks for the list Sooz - I need to keep my perspective and remember what's good (and there is lot ).

xx

poor you Bean... nothing's worse than lying awake.. you never know whether to keep trying or hang it and just get up.

Can't remember Bean, but are you doing yoga? I found with my last pg that the deep breathing (in for 4 counts and out for 8) really helped me relax and occasionally sleep..?

Thanks Sooz. I am doing yoga but deep breathing when not sleeping is not something I have done - will remember for next time!

Hope everyone else is ok

Poor Beanie

I sympathize having a DSD (not that I have one), that must be tough, I hope you can get some sleep, that is upsetting alone, nevermind having a thousand other things to deal with. Wish I had some expert advice on sleeping but I too am struggling.

I did get a really good pilates dvd for pg woman, I enjoyed it and it might be good thing to do in the evening to help you relax, same with Yoga. Try not to sleep to much during the day no matter how exhausted you feel then you might sleep better tonight. Good luck!!

Bean, you can borrow my toddler if you like, that might help exhaust you enough to sleep past five am? Have a lovely day today anyway.

Hey I'd just ignore the poo stripes as well - we have them at the moment because DS is potty training, his poos seem particularly sticky and I can't be bothered dragging the loo brush out of the cupboard to clean off the loo (well hidden to stop DS using it as weapon). Now is the time (in the 3rd trimester) to embrace your inner slut.

Having said that, DH has invited home his ex-boss for dinner tonight, so I guess I'll have to clean the loo while DS naps...

I have started going to bed at 9. That way if I wake at 5 I don't feel too bad because I've had a decent amount of sleep. Why is it that I nearly nod off again about 5 minutes before the alarm goes off??

Tis the law of insomnia Piglit. And a crap one it is too.

Thanks Turtle and Flo (although I may have to politely decline your offer!).

LOL at "ppo stripes". Am going to try to introduce them into a conversation at work tomorrow. With a bit of luck, I'll be sent straight home again.....

Hi - I must say it is reassuring to hear that not everyone is blooming, although of course I which we all were. DD seems to spent all weekend and today testing boundaries. It´s days like today when I wonder how on earth I will cope with two. I just keep telling myself there are thousands of people coping with 2 if not more children so it can´t be too bad, can it?
Does anyone else feel as if their bump has had a real growth spurt in the last week or two? I´m really beginning to feel like a whale and there´s still 3 months to go.

Yes Huppa, huge growth spurt this end.

Thanks for all kind words. Bean, so sorry you can't get your zzzzzz's - it's an abomination.

Love to all for a nice afternoon and evening.

You too Toots - don't let the hormones get you down!

Tonight is the last of the 3 'refresher' NCT classes I'm doing, and this one partners are invited to... it's DH's opportunity to realise that yes, we ARE going to have another baby. Sometimes his head is so filled with house renovations ("what bathroom suite do you like darling?" I honestly think it hasn't really sunk in!! We haven't even had a decent 'names' conversation yet! oh well! If the NCT ladies' knitted uterus (!!!) doesn't wake him up to it, nothing will!

Good luck with the zzzz's tonight piglit and bean.

how did that rogue wink get in there?

Knitted uterus?! That sounds fab! Can I have one? Good luck with the class. I had a rouge wink the other day, I think it is something to do with brackets? Not sure though.

Huppa, I'm expecting no 1 and don't know how I will manage... and have two friends who are both ok with two but expecting no 3 and aren't sure how they will manage and so on. I have no advice whatsoever on this one!
My dad is one of 9 and dp one of 7 - ye god, how did THAT work?!!

Hello again,

What a nice way to spend my free time - ready MN and realising I'm not alone
Course finished early and I bunked off home at 2pm, so have been lying on sofa gleefully watching my tummy jerk up and down.

LOL at "poo stripes" Toots, sorry you're having a bad day, but we all know how it is. I went to DH's school fundraiser Fri night and because he spent the night doing teacher stuff (as is his job), I had a total hissy fit when we got home. Feeling unloved and convinced he didn't fancy me anymore, I accused him of planning to leave me and run off with another teacher from his school (he's the only man and rest of staff seem to be young, pretty, non-pg types) ! Don't know where these crazy ideas come from, as we've (ususally) got a v loving realtionship and no hint of either of us running off, but hormones can turn the most innocent of things into sinister stuff when they want to . After a lot of wailing from me and a lot more gentle reassurance from him, we went to bed happy again. It's so draining though, having all these mad emotions all the time, isn't it? Enough bot me anyway...
Awww Bean I wish I had a remedy to make you sleep, can't imagine how crappy you must be feeling, but you did the right thing not to go into work today. And as for you who already have babies, are you mad, or do you just have the patience of a saint and the boundless energy of a toddler? Hats off to you guys!
My bump has had a huge growth spurt lately too - people don't do well at hiding their surprise when I say I've got 3 months to go (at least!)
Goodness help me when I'm 9 months, will I have to wear a rucksack weighed down with bricks just to keep upright?

What is a knitted uterus? Bibi, I feel huge too, went for a walk up the high street and saw my reflection in shop window and thought who is that huge woman and to my horror - it was defintely me!! For some reason I don't seem to look as big in my bedroom mirror. Maybe it's one of those skinny mirrors

Felt exhausted after my 20 minute journey around M&S and had to come home.

Has anyone else completely run out of steam? I couldnt' imagine trying to do any exercise now as she eats a chocolate eclaire

I don't think I had much steam to being with, so I'm well and truly scraping the barrel now! A morning jaunt round Cribbs Causeway sent me to my bed by 7:30 on Saturday evening (pic meant to be yawn)

I think shop windows give off "fat" reflections, we aren't that big really. Tip to self and other mooses: avoid totally flat shoes, they only exaggerate the waddle I'm developing. I got a nice pair of low-heeled mules from M&S on Sat, which help me get about with a tiny bit more grace, but I think if they actually sold real, live mules for me to ride instead of wear, I'd get one And if it was good enought for the virgin mary, it's good enough for me!