October 2004 - Moose massive, part 3

[beansprout]

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Hi everyone

Actually did some work this am instead of mumsnetting so I am feeling virtuous. Toast for second breakfast too, rather than Danish! I have to report that I had terrible stretchmarks, and my tummy has never been the same since DS - helped by no exercise I'm afraid (my pelvic floor has never been the same either). Also took me at least 6mths to lose pre-pregnancy weight despite BF, final push was bout of vomiting and diarrhoea! This sounds terrible doesn't it, the rest of you sound much more committed!

Sooz how is potty training going? DS can do a pee on the potty if asked but NEVER asks to go and consequently has a couple of accidents a day - somehow I thought we'd be further along by now .

Have a nice holiday Turtle - we are off to Cornwall at end of July.

Flo/Turtle - it took me about 6m to lost the weight too (my boobs were too huge and uncomfy to contemplate exercise before that).

Flo - DS and I haven't started potty training yet. He has shown interest in the potty but only ever at bath-time (and hasn't done many standup wees in the loo since the first one). Also, he just refuses to tell us when he's done a poo (and even when he has done one, say's 'no mummy, no poo'. So, I'm going to wait until I'm at home with him before we start. I finish work in 2 weeks, so will try to give it a whirl then. It seems to me that boys just don't mind having a smelly bum!! (Like that should come as a surprise?!)

Flo, Miffy and Sooz I really admire you doing this all over again and having little ones at home/nursery/potty training!! Tell me....did you forget what it was like being pregnant??

did anyone see Super Nanny last night on channel 4? that terrified the life out of me!

No stretch marks at the moment but I know that these things aren't over until the fat lady's waters have broken....

What was "Supernanny" about? (assumes crash brace position in case it was really, really scary!)

it was about couples who are having problems with their children, this particular couple had a troublesome two year old (aren't they all)? Any way this little boy did seem like a terror.

Super Nanny explained all the things they were doing wrong and how to right it. I found it quite interesting. I think I am going to be a strict parent but you just don't know do you.

It's on next Wednesday at 9.00 on Channel 4.

Sorry Sooz it was Miffy who was potty training! Too far down the thread to check. Yes I watched Supernanny (more like shouty nanny!) Charlie was actually way out there on the extremes, although I did recognise some of the characteristics of stroppy toddler. Something to look forward to for you lot, esp if you have a boy! I am actually hoping for that mythical peaceful laidback second baby girl - my sister has one of these and I want one too!!! I did leave a relatively big gap between no 1 and no 2 - partly because I have found DS to be at the particularly lively end of the spectrum...

Actually I am a bit fed up with being pregnant today - esp as I stood in the queue at the post office. Also why is it everytime I eat it feels like it's "stuck"? Any tips for dealing with what feels like chronic over-eating? Chicken pie for lunch which may have been a mistake...

Thanks Turtle - I just found a strand on the Chat section too. I have watched "Little Angels" to death and am fascinated by anything that looks at "how to deal with the little horrors" at the moment! Will deffo watch next week.

Hope you aren't feeling too tired Turtle...?

Me too Bean, I wonder how these people cope with such nasty children, then I laugh and think God that could be me one day then I feel completely terrified and bit hysterical.

Flo she did do a lot of shouting (at the parents, which I thought was mean)

I just can't get excited about work today - it's obvious I know. Want to be on holiday NOW.

Also got the familiar comment yesterday "are you sure there is only one baby in there" I decided to say in a very serious tone, "I think I would know"!! Poor guy didn't expect that!! he he

Turtle, to those comments I have taken to "do you think so?" in a polite but surprised, because, "hey, what would they know?" sort of way.
Same again when they say "have you really got 3 months to go?".

I vary this sometimes with a "well, that's what the midwife says" comment with a silent "unless you think you know better of course?" type look.

The day before a holiday is just to be got through - hope it goes quickly!

Great news about the maternity leave Bean, and that you've had some good news for a change
Wish I could afoord a year off, but I know I'd never come back if that was the case.

V tired today after Boo kicked my insides all night long, and I had a late night. I am obsessed with 24 and we've just rented series 2 (which i've not seen) so I watched 5 hours straight off last night - didn't get to bed until midnight and then Boo showed his/her annoyance at eing kept up past his/her bedtime. Never mind, better enjoy TV now while I've got the chance!

Hi all - glad to hear you´ve had some good news at last beansprout.
Db kept me awake all night as well Bibiboo - not usually a problem so was a bit surprised he kicked me all night. Just hope he´s not planning to be awake nights when he´s born.
Don´t really know what to suggest on dealing with the comments. Maybe you could try to look at it positively in that everyone thinks you´re blooming and are going to produce a strong, healthy baby. I had a friend who everyone said looked very small for her dates and she ended up being paranoid that there was something wrong with the baby, so it works both ways. I think people just don´t realise what emotional creatures we are at this stage and don´t really mean to be offensive.

I asked midwife yesterday, virtually before I'd even got through the doo, was I the right size for my dates. The baby is perfectly sized apparently, so now I can go and tell people who comment about how big I am that the baby professionals told me I am normal and to show their views where the sun don't shine

Morning laydeez. I hope you are well and rested.

I have a new slant on the inappropriate/rude/ignorant comments. Dh and I were at a dinner party last night, there were 5 couples including us, all of whom had children. When the cheese came round I declined (some lovely gooey brie and some scrummy looking smelly stilton). My host said "Why not? You love cheese."
Me: "Yes, but it's unpasturised and pg women aren't supposed to eat unpasturised cheese"
Host: "Well, I did when pg with all of mine. Have some"
Me: "No thanks, I won't"
3 other guests: "How ridiculous. I've never heard of that. That's stupid. Have some etc etc"
Me: "No, really, I won't thanks."
Etc etc

Anyway this went on and on until I eventually snapped "My midwife has told me not to eat unpasturised cheese because of the risk of listeria which is very dangerous for pg women. If I get listeria it can cause serious complications and stillbirth. So, if it's all the same with you I won't take that risk with my baby's health" One of the other guests piped up "Quite right too". Anyway, it all looks stupid written down but I was really cross that I was being badgered into eating something I didn't/couldn't eat. Of course, they probably all think I was just being pg hormonal moose. I wonder if they would say to a vegetarian "Oh, go on, have some meat - it won't do any harm".

Piglit,

I get that too! Mainly from MIL and her friends. I'm not saying they were bad mothers, but when I refuse a glass of wine at dinner/ a McFlurry at McDonalds or a dippy egg at breakfast I get the "oh one won't hurt" and "I drank that/ate that through all my pregnancies and my boys are fine" etc etc. Like you're going to go "oh well in that case, bring it on!"
It makes me very that they just can't accept your choices as a mother and leave you to it. I'd rather be over cautious thank you very much, but the bullying for want of a better word is just not on. Grrrrr.

As you can tell, my mood and week has not improved. I am bunking off day2 of my course today as baby kicked me all night - for the first time ever it's been strong enough to keep me awake, so i'm being nice to myself, staying at home and playing with my new baby mobile - one of those black and white infant-stimulating jobbies. Can't see the attraction myself,but I'm hoping Boo will be entertained for hours with it!

Bibiboo - that sounds like a great plan. Enjoy your day (and don't forget that daytime tv is good for pg women)

that should have been "shove" not "show" their views.

I am bored today and no-one is playing! Hello out there....??? Everyone okay?

Anyone else notice their boobs seem smaller now the bump is established. I had quite large ones before pg and although they grew to start with, their size is now overshadowed by the bump, making them look ever so neat and small. Weird.

Am going out to post cds I've flogged on Ebay - yay! Loadsa money for me and then I'm going to watch DH's sports day.

How are the rest of the meeses today?

Sorry it's getting you so down Bibi... not sure I'm in quite the right mood to cheer you up as i've had a really emotional week too.

Didn't go into work on Monday - worked from home again. Then in the post got my blood test results showing I'm anaemic and now have to take iron tabs... I guess the lack of iron explains why I've been so weary. But not looking forward to the on-set of constipation which is likely to commence owing to iron tabs...

Then had a conversation with my sis which really pissed me off.

And fed up with feeling so uncomfy in my limited wardrobe of moose attire.

God, I'm a grouch! Sorry ladies.

At least my skin has cleared up (6 months in and finally she begins to bloom!)

Thank you for making me giggle about your boob thing, Bibi!

I wish I could say the same. Mine still look hooge and I have nipples like saucers. Are yours still leaking at all? Mine are okay. It's just my bladder!!! Suddenly find myself showing a consumer interest in those ads for incontinence...

Oh hooray - incontinence AND constipation.

Sooz, have you heard the old wives tale about skin/looks? A baby girl steals her mother's look apparently, so if you look haggard and gross, you've got a little lady on the way ... if there's any truth in that I'm have girl triplets!!!

We all seem to be having a rough time in one way or another these last 2 weeks. Although, no matter how sorry I feel for myself, reading about other Meese probs really put mine in perspective!

I too am fed up of wearing the same clothes all the time and my work/social wardrobes merging into one, but I'm loathe to spend more money when I know I won't want to see the darn things ever again after October. I have a v posh wedding to go to at the end of August when I'll be 33wks. Part of me wants to go wild and buy a fabulously posh maternity outfit/dress to compensate for feeling like a bit wobbly weeble, the other part of me knows money is already tight and I will regret it terribly after I've worn it for all of 6 hours. I know I won't get the chance to wear it again between then and the birth, and I can't find anything reasonably priced that looks good enough. Still, if that's the worst worry I've got, then I'm one lucky lady, right?

More 24 for me tonight - I am addicted, but it beats watching programmes about poorly babies and hard births!

Hi all. Just deleted my post by mistake. Grrr. Piglit - cheese thing sounds really stressful and undermining.

Bibi- enjoy your day of rest.

I've just been making fig leaves out of green bin bags for 'Mystery Costume' quiz round. Hurrah! I'm going on a hen weekend. Facials, massages and hot tubs beckon. Yummy, yummy, yummy. Haven't done a scrap of work today. In fact hardly done a stroke all week. Bad girl. Ever so tired today.

I have heard that one but was equally spotty with DS last time.

Wedding thing sounds like a dilemma - I'm sure I have heard of a maternity dress 'exchange' that do posh frocks for hire. I've no idea where they are or even whether I'm just inventing it (and if I am, what a great idea!). Try googling and see what comes up. Definitly worth treating yourself to something for it though and I'm thinking a beeeauutiful pair of shoes and/or a handbag. And you can wear post pg.

Really pleased for bean and your pay result. I'm taking the full year and will then delightedly give work the 'big middle finger' at the end of it - in the nicest possible way of course!

Have found maternity exchange on google thanks, will check it out now. What a cracking idea

In true Beansprout style I am happy to go round to the house of anyone who gives us meece a hard time and shove soft (and hard) cheese up their bottoms. Grrrr. What is WRONG with these people?

Bibi and Toots - sorry you are both tired but sounds like you have very wise plans for yourselves. Hope you feel rested soon.

Ok here despite an incredibly stressed dp (dsd is being a nightmare at the moment, ran away from her mums in the middle of the night and has disowned her dad....) and way too much work, I am feeling ok. Did lose it last night though when I got home to a major household bill, but then again, I was due a good hormonally induced sob...
I have major plans for some chocolate this afternoon... how bad can it be?!