October 2004 - Moose massive, part 3

[beansprout]

Does anyone want to come and play here? There's loads of space!

Okay, I give up! I want to finish work NOW.

Foolishly thought I could work until 38 weeks, cut that back to 37 weeks, but as of today (34+4)I want to leave work and sit at home all day. And can't because only 2 of us in office anyway until I go on leave.

Could this be my body telling me I am going to go early?

Oh and there's bl**dy football on all night tonight and dh has staked his claim on the tv - great. May nip round friends house and guzzle wine a chocs, oh, can't even do that....boooooooo! Ideas for a nice night? Boiler is on blink so even a long bath is out of question.
We only have 1 tv by the way.

Bibi - go to friends, go directly to friends. Eat chocolate and drink wine (is everyone else drinking? I've been enjoying a couple of glasses a couple of times a week - bring it on I say). Get friend drunk then ask her to massage your feet! What true friend wouldn't? If work is impossible, see GP about sick note. Otherwise, just try and stay in the moment, some days will be better than others. Poor you.

I have spent most of today gorging on MN childbirth, feeding and parenting threads. Very cross with self as have so much work to be getting on with.

Have ordered tens machine, homeopathic birth kit and am going to get birth ball from Argos tonight. With all that to play with in labour, simply won't have time for any pain

Toots, I think I will. Will buy jumbo tin of chocs on way to friend's house and a mini bottle of champers as a treat - that way I won't feel so bad about having a 'proper' drink as it will feel like a celebration
I love your idea about the too busy playing for pain - am goin to get myself some labour distractions too. Am hoping Thierry Henry will agree to my request for some entertainment (although would I want him to see me in THAT state?!)

Ooh, Thierry Henri - now I'm not a football fan at all but that is one player I do recognise!

If there's football on I may have to tackle the chaos which will be the nursery!

I have 3 1/2 days left in work as I finish next Thursday - am taking 2 weeks leave and then starting maternity leave. So I will be 34 weeks - so much for my plans of working on til 2 weeks before my EDD.

Hope you feel better soon Bibi. Beansprout, your colleagues sound as tactful as mine. Came close to assaulting a couple of them on Monday. Took the DDs for new shoes last week and had a barrage of comments from the assistants about how huge I am - could have done with one of those slogan T-shirts!

Va va voom....

Bibi - I do sympathise. I am finishing on Friday at 36+2 and it really is time to stop now, esp now the Beanster is grooving on down(wards).

Same here Turtle - I'm sure I used to be perfectly efficient at something as simple as going to the toilet. Wouldn't wish it on anyone but have to say I am relieved that it takes someone else 4 attempts to squeeze out a few drops (and that includes the rocking backwards and forwards trick). Oh happy days!

Have been in meetings today so have avoided the more stupid of my colleagues . But tomorrow they will give me presents so I will be 2 faced and graciously accept their gifts!! Heh heh.

Toots, where did you order the TENS machine from? I am keen to try that out also. Did you for the first one?

Bibi definitely go for some champers it's the best thing to drink whilst pg in my books anyway.

Bibi, good girl, have a lovely evening.
Bean, you could be.. just a little bit disappointed at the presents? How passive aggressive would that be? Miaow.

Turtle, yes, I used one last time and am pretty sure they A Good Thing. Gone for neurotrac labour machine on www.tens.co.uk.

Am going to have a good old glug of red wine myself tonight.

Can recomend alcohol in pregnancy and tens machine for labour without reservation.

Hi all - been a while since I posted on this thread (which was introducing myself) so sorry for not supporting you all.
I am having a bit of a difficult time with in-laws at the moment and wondered if any of you are facing the same?
DH & I only seem to argue about it so wondered if this reaction from MIL in particular was normal??

For years (DH & I have been together for 11 years) MIL has been on and on at us to have children, but as we constantly explained to her we would have them when the time was right for us. Well obvioulsy it is now!! But ever since we announced the fab news the in-laws have become ever more distant and don't even talk about the baby when they ring - they live over 2 hours drive away.
They came to see us a couple of weeks ago and hardly mentioned the baby - except to ask when it was due!
By the way this will be their first grandchild.

Sorry to off load, but I am frustrated by it and also worried that they won't be involved when the baby is born and ds/dd will miss out on one set of grandparents.

Bellie, I'm sorry to hear this, that sounds like a real shame. All I know is that, for a whole range of reasons, people have different reactions. You know you are very preg. and as far as we are concerned, this is all happening RIGHT NOW and not just in October, but for them, it may not become real until your db is actually here. This is pure speculation but there could be all sorts of reasons. Sometimes people don't get excited until they feel assured that everything is ok, and for some people that isn't until the baby is actually here.

For various reasons, dp's family are just not interested (and there are a LOT of them!) but hey, I am and I can't waste too much time wishing they were different (frankly).

I have just had (deep breath) a long chat with the insensitive colleague who upset me the other day and he was mortified when I told him how I really felt and has apologised profusely.

Thanks beansprout - sorry that your in-laws are not more enthusiastic too.
I think you are right - the pregnancy is an exciting time for me & dh but maybe not everyone is thinking the same way. Let's hope that it changes for both us once db arrives.

Well done for talking to your colleague at work - always hard to face people head on!

Bellie, if it makes you feel less alone, my gran (who raised me) was in total denial about my baby when I first told her. I was still her little girl (even though am 25). But all of a sudden, she came round to the idea and is now excitedly buying itty bitty things every week.
People just take their time over big news, so maybe your in laws need to get used tot he idea they are finally having the grandchild they wanted - maybe they don't quite believe it yet?! Anyway, I'm sure they will be madly in love with db when he/she comes.

Bean, well done to speak to colleague, award yourself a bag of chocolate money and wear at least one coin around your neck as a medal of your bravery - hope you both feel better about it now

Bellie - I think Bean has a good point, once the little bubster arrives they will be over the moon

pregnancy is so hard and I wish people could remember to be a bit more tactful and realise it is such a BIG deal.

by the way, didn't get a seat home on the tube last night from work!! 15 bloody stops in this heat and not one person got up!! There is NO mistaking that I am 34 weeks pregnant. By the time I got home I burst into tears cause I thought I was gonna wet myself

today is the last day I will ever have to get the tube home from work and this fills me with great joy, I am also going to leave early so I get a seat damn it!!

Toots thanks for the info on TENS machine, will get on top of that now.

wILL WE HEAR FROM YOU NOW tURTLE? dO YOU HAVE ACCESS AT HOME? Ooops, caps lock on.

Shove your tummy in someones face tonight and groan a lot to anyone who will listen about having a weak bladder. Maybe some rude, inconsiderate bstrd will decide to be nice and give you their seat. People make me so sometimes!

damn machine just crashed!! Yes indeed I will keep in touch from home!!

Bibi thanks for the encouragement on the tube. I WILL ask for a seat if no-one gets up. Am actaully leaving soon!! Yippee

Toots thanks for info on TENS machine will do that now.

Thanks for your messages - I think you may be right they will be interested once I have given birth.
I can't believe that you had to stand Turtle - this nation has no respect for pregnant ladies at all .
You could always pretend to be having labour pains - I bet they would move away then

Yay to Turtle's last day!!!

It's my last day at work today and we went to a workshop on birth last night inc. vid of someone giving birth. Dp actually cried when the baby came out (bless).

As from 5pm today I will be a full time moose. I know I'm supposed to be chuffed and relieved but I actually feel a bit weird. Am viewing things as having a few weeks off before I start my new job! How is everyone else? Turtle - what are you up to today?!

Yay to beansprouts last day!

We also saw the birthing video last night and DH words were 'it all looks straigforward then'! Lets hope he's right!!

Well done Turtle and beansprout to have worked this long. Enjoy the next few weeks. Try to relax as much as possible because you´re sure going to need a lot of energy in the next few months.
For those of you meeting up on Monday - have a great time and let us know all about it.
I´m so looking forward to the weekend. Dh has just left with dd for a weekend in Bavaria, so I´ve got peace and quiet and the chance to shop in peace. I could have gone aswell, but 5 hours each way in the car and then sleeping on a mattress on the floor just didn´t seem that appealing.
Hope you all have a great weekend.

Just seen consultant who says everythings fine come back when you're in labour, quite a relief to know i've probably got 4+ weeks rather than the 2 the midwife was threatening. Just going off to eat the cake I bought in the farmers market.

Congrats to those now officially off work! Have a lovely weekend (and weeks ahead). I've got far too much work to do at the moment, so can't play for long - my fault for not working hard enough over August. BTW anybody else want to sign up to meet-up on Monday???

Huppa, I can't spend more than an hour or so in the car without squirming in agony!

Huppa, I'm sure you'll miss them, but won't this weekend be bliss!!!! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.

Florence, I'm really looking forward to Monday. I just wish we could all be there.

Love to everyone for a comfortable (see how things develop - wouldn't have felt the need to say that a month ago) weekend.

Bean, enjoy your time off before beanie arrives. Am v jealous of you all finishing now. Only 8 and a half working days left for me though.