October 2004 - Moose massive, part 3

[beansprout]

Does anyone want to come and play here? There's loads of space!

eyelash - glad you got it on prescription, as my friend who has the same group of midwives as me was recommended it. Her GP wouldn't prescribe it! So she is taking iron tablets, with all the lovely associated side effects. 3 sachets a day sounds a lot - were you feeling really low? Poor you.

Cerys - I sympathise with your DD1 moment. Dp works next door with a colleague who is very flouncy and hair tossy etc and just generally oh so bloody full of life and hey, lovely and fun to be around. Then I go waddling in....
I can't think of a way of slipping into the conversation that "ha, he still fancies me lots and loves me very much you shallow, sad cow" without it sounding a) pointed, and b) just a tad defensive. What to do eh?!

Cerys - I sympathise with your DD1 moment. Dp works next door with a colleague who is very flouncy and hair tossy etc and just generally oh so bloody full of life and hey, lovely and fun to be around. Then I go waddling in....
I can't think of a way of slipping into the conversation that "ha, he still fancies me lots and loves me very much you shallow, sad cow" without it sounding a) pointed, and b) just a tad defensive. What to do eh?!

Hello laydeez. Hope that you are all well. I can't belive it's almost 7 weeks to go - . Apart from my painful pelvis and pubic bone (I'm having chiro/osteo every week) things are going ok. I don't use the pc anything like as much as I used to - it was always much easier at work

Beansprout - I haven't had numb bump but I have had itchy bump/stretched-to-the-limit bump and numb legs.

I've been trying to have a rest every afternoon for half an hour or so and I've managed it occasionally. However, I always feel guilty when I do it so it hasn't been the success I thought it would be.

I've also started to read the back bits of my books about the birth and managed to terrify myself. Is anyone else doing NCT classes? Mine don't start until 35 or 36 weeks - hopefully they'll make the whole thing less scary!

Bean, I have a numb patch on my bump too - up under my left boob, tickles sometimes from the inside and when I scratch it, it feels all numb - MW said it was baby's head pressing on a nerve and making it tingly/numb. So rejoice! We're not weirdos after all (I was beginning to think I was the only pg moose who has had this).

I can't say I'm too impressed with the Himalayan Musk - looked lovely on the dulux website in the "designed to the hilt" room - I even coloured the sofa and curtains in the same colour as mine to make it authentic - but I've only managed one corner of the room so far, maybe it'll dry a nicer colour . Spent the rest of the day ordering dh around, getting him to move all dining room stuff into kitchen and then all livingroom stuff into dining room so I could then order him to sand the paintwork, wash the windows and paint out the cranberry band that was running around the room. By the way, Dulux Once is a load of cak. Should be renamed "Dulux Twice, if you're lucky"

Apart from the paiting fiasco I'm okay - no women eyeing my man up - kept him indoors all day, and I have chocolate in the fridge so all's well in Bibi's house. Hope you're all sorted for chocolate supplies now ...

Piglit -what advice have you been given re sore pelvis? My hips and upper legs are agony when I walk, my midwife is on holiday, I spoke to another one on the phone who suggested not going up and down stairs except at the start and end of the day (how unrealistic?)she also suggested osteopath so i'm going tommorow. My GP was even more clueless - don't fancy another 8 weeks of this.

Piglit - am very much relying on the "by the end you just want it OUT!" theory re the birth. Have had a taste of this today, been feeling thoroughly fed up and then I think of all the horrible nightmares I have about something going wrong and berate myself for feeling even fed up for a second ('bad, ungrateful Bean". And so it goes on....

Totally agree about Dulux Once Bibi - it's just thick paint. Have found watering it down for a second coat is quite good, but that rather defeats the point. I too have been caught out by that computer thing. I thought I was going to have the hall from heaven, but it's just cak!

I haven't had a great deal of advice about hip/pelvis/pubic bone pain tbh. Midwife kind of shrugged her shoulders a bit and said I should expect it (not sure that I agree with that. I can't even walk when it's bad - i.e. every time I stand up from sitting down - although it does loosen up after 5 minutes of struggling around). I don't bother with GPs generally but might give mine a go if it doesn't improve soon. My wonderful chiro tells me that the bones may be rubbing together and that is the reason for the intense pain. I'm going to her every week now. I think I'll make a bit more fuss next time I see the midwife. Stairs are also a problem for me too - that's why I hardly ever get on the pc now - I can't face the stairs to get up to the pc more than once every few days. I would also recommend a pillow between your knees at night - I do find that helps (when I don't kick it out of the bed).

Anyway, I hope all meeses are feeling ok today. I get the impression that we're all a bit fed up and feeling down. Sending everyone good and happy vibes.....

Piglit, sounds like ongoing SPD to me...can I be any help?xxxxx

Funnily enough MI, I was thinking about you the other day as I was gritting my teeth in agony (in the nicest possible way...!) I'm going to read up again on all that stuff you kindly sent me and when I see the m/w next week I'll be fully informed. I wondered about asking to see the head midwife/consultant at the hospital to talk it through. There is no way that I could lie on my back or even sit down to give birth (IYKWIM) as the pain from my pelvis/pubic bone would be too much.

Thanks for your help and advice as always. xx

Get in touch directly if you need to. I know it's a total nightmare explaining SPD to the professionals - I got thoroughly stumped by it all - but sounds like you urgently need specialist physio (yeah, right, in your dreams...)

Hi everyone. Have had people to stay so access to computer limited. Back at work today - trying to concentrate! Had the results of my blood tests back and I am low on iron but otherwise OK. Only eight weeks to go and I am onto fortnightly check-ups - I still think this pregnancy hasn't really sunk in. My little sister has just had her baby - a little girl, called Scarlett Ava (sounds a bit like a bird species to me unfortunately!). Have yet to hear the gory details though.

Piglit/Geogtech, sorry to hear about pelvis pain, Geogtech it does sound a bit like SPD for you as well.

DS got into involved discussion with DH over umbilical cords and baby care last night. He claims he has looked after at least 2 babies so far, and is looking forward to this one, although he still squawks with jealousy whenever I hold another baby.

BTW, Cerys, your story reminded me - DH took DS to park the other day and got given the phone number of a Brazilian mummy - ostensibly in case I wanted to join her mum and baby massage group....

hello ladies, sorry to hear that some of you are in such pain and also not getting much support from GPs etc.
I am feeling a bit less knackered - don't know if the Spatone is starting to work, but whatever it is, I hope it lasts.

Re painting - DH has finished open plan living and dining room and got a third of the way up the stairs. Then he ran out of paint. Went to B and Q and the whole range had been taken off the shelves due to some fault or other. The staff member we spoke to said it should be back in a couple of weeks, but maybe that was because he'd seen the look on our faces and wanted us to leave ASAP! So we currently have an interesting, two-tone effect on the wall going up the stairs - somehow I don't see it catching on!
Got a gorgeous pram off eBay this morning for baby - it is in lovely condition. I got it because I don't think DD2 will give up her pushchair (which is a 2 in 1), but when we opened the parcel she squeaked with excitement and said "my buggy! mine!" Oh dear..

Sorry to hear about those of you in pain, that sounds horrible. Not for the first time I wish we had magic wands, but I hope you are all getting the support you need.

Have been having post-birth flip out the last few days i.e. "I won't be able to cope", and then I remind myself that the birth is also looming.... this is not a great combination of thoughts, has to be said!!

PIGLIT!!!

so you are ont his thread - aha will llok outt for you now fellow salisbsuryer

have my swaering in on sept 20th so lok out for me skulking around the court

Feel a bit better since I saw osteopath yestaday, she says it was unlikely to be SPD as all the pain is at the back of the pelvis and in the legs but my pelvis is wrongly aligned. hopefully she is right, I'm going back next week. I have finally ordered a buggy, my only baby preparation so far. DS has his operation re-scheduled for Saturday, hopefully it will happen this time!
Off to get ready for local mumsnet meetup!

Oh Piglit, that sounds awful. Had no idea you were in such pain, you poor thing.

Beansprout, Have also been panicking about how will I cope???? Do you know what I realised? I might not. I might not cope. There, I've said it. For a while I might cope badly or not cope, and I might need baling out and there will be tears, and there will be shouting and feeling miserable, I might regret having another baby, dd might say she hates me, and I will forget to buy any milk when I go to sainsbury's. Then, possibly even without the aid of medication it will improve. So.......BRING IT ON!!!!! Feel the Fear, because you can bet your by golly girl, you are doing it anyway!!!!!!!!!

Re coping, I have warned DH that the first six months will probably be hell. In fact, I am planning to spend a month in NZ early next year with my parents to give DH a break and hopefully to give me a bit of a break as well. Dreading sleep deprivation, BF woes, DS jealousy, DH jealousy - the lot! I am hoping I will be more chilled out second time round, and that maybe DD-to-be will be a laid-back second baby rather than the highly sociable but exhausting DS I got last time - but I also know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel and fellow mooses we will make it! Also I think I will be much more prepared to buy in help - babysitters, nursery and childminder - to give me and DH a break.

Flo and Toots!! Thank you so much, you have said what I really needed to hear! My neighbour is currently "not coping" and has gone to her mums which has scared me. But hey, she is getting support and at some point, it will start to get better. I need to accept that not coping might be an option rather than being scared that it might happen. Does that make sense? You have both really, really helped something in my thinking - thank you! (I suspect I sound a bit mad, but hey!)

Goegteach - best wishes for Saturday for ds, will be thinking of you.

Hi everyone. Well I´m also in panic mode at the moment, but have accepted the first 6 months will be a nightmare and that has somehow made me feel a bit calmer. It really does get easier. Last time I remember thinking there would never be an end to the sleepless nights and suddenly you reach a point when you look back and it all seemed so long ago and in reality is such a short time in our lives.
Sorry for all of you in pain - it must be such a nightmare.
DH did an accupuncture course at the weekend and so spent yesterday sticking needles in me to give me more energy. Unfortunately we went for a coffee just before this, so I´m not sure if it was the caffine or the accupunture that produced the desired effect. There were also 6 midwives on the course so he found out some points to help in the build up to labour. Not sure I want to be his first guinea pig though.
Florenceuk - can really relate to worries about jealous dd and I´m hoping next one is sleepiest baby ever.
Geotech - good luck for Saturday.

Piglit, I've come back to this thread because I'm really outraged at the treatment you're getting. You really do need to have your 'abduction gap' or whatever it's called (the distance you can get your knees apart without pain) checked out. It's appalling. I'm VERY cross on your behalf.

And can I reassure everyone with older kids that I panicked big time about that one, and my daughter has adored her little sister unstintingly since the minute she was born.

Beansprout - really chuffed to have helped

hello fellow mooses I am back! I have been having entire house decorated and office was out of action this week!

Well I have been signed off work from GP because of my back, I am in a lot of pain most of the time but I have come to dread sleeping now because that really sets it off. I saw a physio twice this week who has informed me she can't do much more until baby is born as it's the baby who is causing the problem - GREAT!!

Saw GP in the beginning of the week who has informed me I am having a BIG baby - well no kidding I look like I am about to burst!! my measurements were almost 3 cm over so I have to go back in two weeks, she is talking about sending me off for a scan to check exactly how big this baby is. HELP!!

She talked about inducing me early. For those of you who had big babies - Toots - was there ever talk about induction?

Piglit I can really relate to your pain, there are times that I limp I am in so much pain with my back, I think the baby is pressing on all kind of nerves, I wake up feeling crippled most mornings and even though I am not working and would LOVE to lye in, I can't because of the pain. I have 9 weeks left - hurray

Sorry to be such a winge bag!! good news is I am off to Italy on Saturday for a week and will eat A LOT of pasta and hang out in the swimming pool most of the day.

Yay - Turtle has returned!! Sorry to hear you are in pain too. It sounds utterly miserable.
When is your scan likely to be? I keep being told Beanie is big but my size is ok for dates. The birth is daunting as it is, without this?! Would you be happy if they wanted to induce you? Have a FAB time in Italy btw!

Had an idiot at work tell me a really awful, awful birth story today. He was actually asked to stop by a colleague, but pressed on to the bitter end. He set me back about 3 weeks in terms of how prepared I feel. Just as I was getting my head round it, I feel all nervous again. Thanks mate! I just took even more comfort from Toots/Geogteach's comments which now stand in my mind as "what will be will be". Thanks fellow meece!

Lovely moose vibes to all the meece in pain and discomfort xx

Bean, just ignore the gory birth stories. Horrible that people can be so tactless though. Think serene thoughts - you're going for an independent birth centre aren't you? They will be wonderful.

Turtle, have a gelato for me! Where in Italy are you going?

BTW, my food cravings are not chocolate (although chocolate biscuits are acceptable) but carbohydrates (Danish pastries for second breakfasts and afternoon teas) and icecream - what do others long for?