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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

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oliversmummy26 · 26/04/2017 12:53

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NoParticularPattern · 21/06/2017 21:47

peach I really hope all is ok come Friday. I have everything crossed for you. Like Charlie says it could be the heat and an irritable cervix? I feel like I'm clutching at straws for you but I'm not- the odds really are in your favour so fingers crossed all is ok!

Miami81 · 21/06/2017 22:46

Peach
I have everything crossed for you. It may not help you, but I have had all the bleeding in this pregnancy. Spotting at 5 weeks, brown blood at 6 and again at 7. Full period cramps (or at least that's what it felt like) and red blood at 8. Even a small clot or two. And as of last Tuesday everything was still ok, am now 13+3 and it seems to have finally settled down.
There is so much happening inside at the moment that as the girls say it can take very little to cause a small bleed.
Stay hydrated. Try and keep distracted and Friday will come quicker then you think.

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peachgreen · 22/06/2017 06:55

Oh ladies you're all so lovely. I don't know what I'd do without you. Thank you. Flowers The dizziness definitely could be the heat, or just the normal increased blood flow stuff - and it went off a bit after I ate so I'm less worried about that now. I have had brown bleeding before in this pregnancy - at 6+5 - and everything was fine but they couldn't see a cause, though they didn't do an internal inspection so I guess it could be my cervix. Though I haven't had sex in a few days and it doesn't seem to have been connected previously. I know logically it's probably nothing and basically everyone I know has had some bleeding in their successful pregnancy but it just brings back such horrid memories of last time. And now I'm back to symptom-spotting. I was so happy to be sick last night! But then I had a night of miscarriage nightmares and a horrible 10 minutes of cramps which I was convinced was it. Argh. Why can't this be easy?!

peachgreen · 22/06/2017 06:56

Utter I'd have to go to A&E for the walk-in EPU and given I know it's not ectopic and there's nothing they could do even if I was miscarrying I wouldn't want to do that. So I'll just have to wait it out until tomorrow. Tbh I'm very grateful they referred me as they could have made me wait until booking in.

WLMcI · 22/06/2017 08:13

Welcome and congratulations mogulfield! Also congrats on the good scan news, yellow!

CharlieWeasley I felt the same through the whole first trimester, up to my 12 week scan. It was like my mind was saying "well we know how this goes, so don't get too attached" and I couldn't be the least bit happy. It was worst at the point where I had the MC last time, and then again before the scan. I kind of took on Kimmy Schmidt's mantra: "a person can stand just about anything for 10 seconds, then you start on a new 10 seconds." Get through 1 day at a time; every day is a day closer to baby being absolutely fine! I won't claim that I'm anxiety-free now, but with that scan in my past and a slight baby bump it's a lot easier to be positive and I hope you'll find that too! X

peachgreen · 22/06/2017 09:18

Urgh, just had a short but sharp period of cramping... Getting very very anxious. :(

Brenna24 · 22/06/2017 09:33

Hello all. Do you mind if I join you. Glad to see you in here Miami. I will go and look back in a bit and see which other names I recognise. Please feel free to fill me in anyone else.

I haven't been around on the TTC after miscarriage boards for a long time as life just got a bit too hard for a while to talk about it, but I am cautiously poking my head around the door here now.

My stats

Name: Brenna24
Age: 39
TTC: #1, MMC at 11+3 (baby died at 8) Oct 17th 2015, 2x MC at 5 weeks Dec 24th 2015 and April 24th 2016.
TTC: for 25 months

I had the standard tests for autoimmune, blood clotting, anti-cardiolipin etc at the recurrent miscarriage clinic last June. All came back fine. No Karyotying of either myself of DH as they don't do that. Advised to save products of next miscarriage and bring those in for karyotying (helpful!).

Stuggled to conceive again although regular severe miscarriage like pains at roughly 10 dpo some months were making me think that I was conceiving, just rejecting them during implantation.

Last November DDog died and I got told I was being made redundant in the same week. I decided to take matters into my own hands and in February I spent my redundancy payment on going to Prof Quenby's clinic in coventry and another clinic, Life Fertility Care in Leamington Spa, and get testing done to find out what was going on.

The result of which is that high levels of NK cells were found in my uterus and I was told I would need to take prednisolone if I got pregnant again to try and prevent rejection. The other clinic I was a little more sceptical of - the focus on natural fertility and birth control and hormone problems in women and were maybe a little airy fairy for my scientists mind. However they said they could see signs that although my hormone levels were okish (on the lower end of the scale but still above minimum) they didn't feel like that was enough for me. I had two round of progesterone from ovulation to period 1which didn't help then this month I injected HCG at days 3, 5 and 7 post ovulation to try and up both my progesterone and 17-oestradiol. The result of which is that I am not 6+3 weeks pregnant. It has taken me 12 days to accept this to the point where I feel like joining in here and declaring myself tentatively pregnant. I am far from out of the woods yet and had a bit of cramping last week that scared me but the clinic have measured my progesterone levels and are happy with them and I am sick and sore boobed up to the nines. Still very cautious as I had a good heartbeat and growth with my first pregnancy at 6+6 and 7+6 (scanned because of bleeding) and the baby died a day or two after the last scan at 8 or 8+1, so I have a long way to go yet. But today I am pregnant and resting hard. I have had 12 days of steroids and extra progesterone and have had no bleeding to date.

Brenna24 · 22/06/2017 09:38

Just read back to the last page. Peach I get dizziness as a symptom of pregnancy, so I hope it is just that. I understand The Fear though. anything that feels less than 100% sick, sore boobed and utterly normal is terrifying and any blood is going to turn me into a crazy lunatic. I have been on constant knicker watch for the last 12 days even though I tell myself that looking so hard for it is just looking for trouble. Big unmumsnetty hugs from me.

AmyB1986 · 22/06/2017 09:56

Hi @Brenna24 so glad to see you here! Don't know if you remember me from the ttc thread? Disappeared for a while.
Congratulations and hope you have a smooth pregnancy.

@peachgreen I hope things settle for you. I experienced a lot of dizziness with all of my pregnancies in the beginning, it was one of my first symptoms and carried on until way past the 12 week mark.

23 weeks today, I think baby girl is transverse. Having a lot of kicks in my side rather than low down.
So glad the weather has cooled off a bit. Yesterday I felt horrendous after work with the heat.
I've also started to let myself believe that this baby will be in my arms in 17 weeks time and has bought a Moses basket which I'm going to collect with DM today. First and only thing I've bought and I'm really nervous to go and collect it. I think if DM wasn't going with me I may have cried all the way there and back, already feeling emotional!

Hope everyone has a good day xx

TheLegendOfBeans · 22/06/2017 10:01

Brenna I think I recognise your name from the TTC thread and I'm happy to see you here.

AmyB we are almost due date twins; I'm 23+1 now...

...and feel shite. I've got what might be s tummy bug, the weather here is still kicking and I'm happy, so happy to feel him wriggling about but feeling tiny hands lucky dipping round your abdomen when feeling pukey is a bit Confused

I can't believe that by the time Halloween is here I'll have a wee baby. Daring to say that out loud now x

mogulfield · 22/06/2017 17:03

brenna I think I'm about as far along as you, I'm in disbelief a bit and tentative to admit it as you are. It's why I've not called the MW yet.

The constant symptom checking is driving me crazy and I'm worried that ANYTHING will give me a miscarriage... like the fact I occasionally drink caffeine, or that I walked a lot today, or that I accidentally burnt myself on the cooker just now...
I'm also flying to France this weekend and am not a good flyer, I don't want the stress to do anything Confused
I need to chill out and remember drugs addicts/alcoholics don't always miscarry!

SayItIsntSo1 · 22/06/2017 17:20

@Brenna24 I remember you from the TTC board! So lovely to see you over here. I also had to step back from that board as I realised how much I was struggling and how much pressure I was putting on myself. It sounds like you've really been through it, I hope this is a successful pregnancy for you.

yellowfrontdoor · 22/06/2017 17:38

How are you feeling now @peachgreen ? X

Brenna24 · 22/06/2017 17:41

Hi Amy, Beans and SayIt. I remember you all. Glad to see you all here and getting through it. How far on are you now SayIt?

Oh Mogul. It is hard. I have started to refuse to fly anywhere as I just decided we didn't need any more stress. I had to in January as my mum was having an operation in France and I needed to be there for her recovery. But it was only booked late on with the understanding the DH would go alone and do it all if I ended up pregnant. Which thankfully he didn't need to. You just have to grit your teeth and remember as you said all the drug addicts/refugees fleeing across europe/women in war torn countries and try and keep a sense of perspective that nothing we do makes that big a deal. It is nice to have someone on here at about the same stage. Fingers crossed we complete the whole journey together. I am not even sure that it is anxiety that I feel right now, more a complete inability to see this as a pregnancy that will progress. Having had the MMC I know that I can't even trust my body to tell it has all gone wrong - doubly so with the extra progesterone pessaries helping to keep the pretense up. I haven't called the EPU yet as I don't want any scans too early, as I know they are pointless as they wouldn't reassure me. What will happen will happen and I just have to hope that the pills and pessaries I am shoving in ever available orifice will do their job.

peachgreen · 22/06/2017 17:45

@yellowfrontdoor The bleeding seems to have stopped (although last time it came and went), but I've had some cramping today which has been a bit unnerving. Bestie is trying to reassure me it's just the placenta bedding in and my uterus stretching. I really hope so. Scan tomorrow at 11ish. Thank you so much for checking in. Flowers

beanhunter · 22/06/2017 18:01

Everything crossed for you tomorrow peach.
My pain has disappeared which is good so feel a bit relieved about that. Felt v sick this am too which was oddly reassuring. Have spent the day trying to investigate how the heck I get referred to a midwife where we are moving in time to get 12 week scans. Suffice to say it's not simple.....

yellowfrontdoor · 22/06/2017 18:22

Will be keeping it all crossed Peach Flowers

Sweetyboo · 22/06/2017 18:27

I hope every1 doing ok.

Saz626 · 22/06/2017 19:40

I had a mc last year. First pregnancy since then and had an early scan to check everything was ok on Tuesday. Scan hasn't helped my anxiety because instead of being six weeks like I thought the doctor said I was 4-5 weeks with no visible heartbeat. I've had two blood tests 48 hours apart to check my pregnancy hormones and if they're going up, get my results tomorrow so fingers crossed they've doubled up or unfortunately could mean my pregnancy has ended 🙁

yellowfrontdoor · 22/06/2017 20:12

@Saz626 that is pretty much exactly what happened to me. I thought I was 6 weeks & I was actually 4+5, the sonographer thought she may have seen a flicker of a heartbeat. Went back yesterday & was 7 weeks exactly. Saw a lovely strong heartbeat.

I really hope you get good news Flowers

Saz626 · 22/06/2017 20:17

@yellowfrontdoor this gives me some hope. I'm in a bit of a mess tonight. Tomorrow morning can't come quick enough for me. If all is well with the bloods I've got another scan booked with epu on 3rd July where (all being well) I should be 7 weeksish. The sonographer did say that this situation is quite normal because ovulation can be different times each month etc. and that really I shouldn't have been booked in until I thought I was 7 weeks, just have to wait and see though.

Brenna24 · 22/06/2017 20:44

Everything crossed peach and saz

peachgreen · 22/06/2017 21:16

Thanks @Brenna24 and welcome. @Saz626 hope all goes well. Hand hold from me.

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