20 week scan soon, am scared baby might be a boy

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Have 3 lovely girls and am pg with 4th. I am hoping beyond hope that this baby is another girl. My scans on Tuesday and I'm making myself ill with thoughts it might be a boy.

I've been so lucky so far with getting girls, just praying its another beautiful girl. Anyone else have a gender preference?

I am really sorry that you have had such a difficult time beanie2bump, and I really hope your forth pregnancy goes well for you.
Having said that, what do you hope to achieve with your post?
I imagine that you will say, that you want the OP to have some perspective. I expect that in reality you will just make her feel really awful. Is this what you want?

perspective or to get a grip,

I just don't think our minds work like then. If so, you should be able to say to some one with depression:
"Hey, don't feel so bad, so and so has a much worse life than you", and then the depressed person would suddenly feel okay about things. Except it doesn't work like that, does it?

there are degrees of awfulness...and what some people lose sleep over, others don;t

get a grip is not helpful...

you have had a terrible terrible time, does not mean you can therefore judge everyone elses concerns as ridicolous

no overrun it does not your are right sorry !!!!!!!! i should not feel annoyed at this, and nor should others,,

i repeat....

By lulumama on Fri 09-Mar-07 12:02:05
when you are upset and anxious and concerend, you do not always worry about how expressing those concerns might affect anyone else

so , if you are in the midst of an emotional turmoil, it is not fair to be asked to be thinking of how someone else will perceive those remarks

like telling someone who is depressed, they need to get a grip, there is always someone worse off than you , doesn;t really help

this thread is going to be a circular argument.

i can understand the concerns to a degree, i.e people having a prefernece, but she is claiming it is taking over her life, not eating sleeping and so on but when a pregnant woman is claiming they are not eating etc, i think it goes beyond concerns,

no need to repeat , i can read thanks

Thanks for that Beanie2bump. I imagine you having an anxious time of it atm, when is your baby due? If you don't mind me asking

sorry, i had xposted with you

this is one of those threads that can run and run and not get anywhere..that is all

surely you can see that she need to get a focus, and that eating in pregnancy is important, ???
and that whilst there is anxiety due to the sex it is something that cannot be changed, and not eating worrying will not help

I have to agree with beanie2bump. I have been blessed to have my first child recently and he was a little boy. We are utterly distraught and heartbroken as he died shortly after birth. I was on this thread to speak to some else who has just found out they have had a miscarriage and saw this thread with the title... it hurt so badly that someone could even be this self centred and concerned about the sex, when they are being blessed with a healthy pregnancy and child. All I can say is get a grip on the fact you are having a child...understand the real meaning of being a mother and enjoy every moment of what you are being given..

well, irrational worries are part and parcel of pregnancy, and can be incredibly difficult to overcome, regardless of how small the worry seems, a lot of women suffer with ante natal depression and it is often missed,

worries don;t always just go away

I can understand beanie2bump finding it hard to totally sympathise with the OP, considering the difficulties surrounding her pregnancies.
I hope everything goes well with this pregnancy.

Beanie2bump, I am sure no one would dispute that fact. Which is probably why some of us are trying to be supportive. She is pregnant and in her own words vulnerable.
Anyway, I think I have probably said all that I can say. As Lulumam says, these threads can just run and run............

no one wants boys
we need to stick up for them
girls are de rigeur and it is wrong

rahrah1 - so sorry about ur loss, xxx

Boys are fab!

I'm sorry that you're worrying so much about this. Please just enjoy your pregnancy. For the record I have two beautiful boys and didn't care either way. But felt certain no2 was a boy and was delighted - playmates close together in age. Funnily enough everyone I knew asked if I was disappointed I wasn't having a girl [shock}] - was I no. Delighted baby was healthy absolutely- especially as an older mum.

I had two girls and was devastated when I found out that my third was going to be a boy!

I loved buying beautiful dresses and thought that boys clothes were really ugly. I thought that boys were really rough and a bit of a waste of space!!

I was so, so wrong though - he is the most lovely darling child in the world in my eyes and I've gone right off buying pretty dresses - give me dungarees any day!

It wasn't until i actually had him in my arms that I felt like that - sometimes it's great to be wrong

Someone tell me this is not for real??

Thanks beanie2bump... so sorry to hear about your first born as well... Best wishes for this pregnancy... and hope the time passes peacefully for you.. XX

sadly around 10 i would say most girls really are!

I remember a teacher - Mrs Suthers - telling my class that ' all the girls were bitches and all the boys were louts' when we were 10/11

Girls are still lovely - just a little more wry than boys.