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20 week scan soon, am scared baby might be a boy

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WantingMorePink · 09/03/2007 10:04

Have 3 lovely girls and am pg with 4th. I am hoping beyond hope that this baby is another girl. My scans on Tuesday and I'm making myself ill with thoughts it might be a boy.

I've been so lucky so far with getting girls, just praying its another beautiful girl. Anyone else have a gender preference?

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 09/03/2007 11:09

sorry if i went a bit nuts there, v harassed today.
i remember mildly wanting, possibly preferring a girl and when ds2 popped out i was bowled over.

fannyannie · 09/03/2007 11:12

It's funny - I've never met anyone in real life who - when pg hasn't admitted to me that they do have a gender preference even if only slight.....but still love the child whether or not it's their preferred gender or not.

honey2theb · 09/03/2007 11:12

Im sorry, but im just hoping that my baby is alive at my scan, whatever sex it is!

Lact8 · 09/03/2007 11:12

WMP I understand where you are coming from and people do react very strongly if you dare to say you don't want a girl/ boy.

After 2 DS's I had unexpected PG and was terrified that it would be a girl. Absolutely no rational explanation for why I felt that way. Its just that I'd always imagined myself as a mum to boys.

I was desperate to know what the sex of the baby was. I had a private scan in the end and it was a GIRL

I was honestly so shocked I couldn't talk for a day

And then I had 20 weeks to think about it and look at girls clothes and really watch friends' dds and when she was born I fell helplessly in love with her and after 15 months I am still more than slightly obsessed with her

Even said to my mum the other day, Why was I ever worried about having a girl??

Good luck with whatever your baby is!

NotanOtter · 09/03/2007 11:13

hatrick

SoupDragon · 09/03/2007 11:13

God you lot are horrible, and I don't mean the OP.

ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 11:14

There has been some support on here Soupy

nearlythree · 09/03/2007 11:16

I hope that my post was supportive ( it was meant to be)

honey2theb · 09/03/2007 11:16

I dont know if you think im being horrible, but i am sat here scared silly about my scan on Monday! I would love a girl actually, but my god i wouldnt be upset if it was a boy!

ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 11:17

Honey do you have reason to worry?

honey2theb · 09/03/2007 11:18

I have had 2 mc's, dont know if i need to worry but i am none the less

hatrick · 09/03/2007 11:20

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RanToTheHills · 09/03/2007 11:21

all the best, h2b!

ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 11:21

Fingers crossed for you on Monday then, and sending positive vibes your way.

misdee · 09/03/2007 11:21

hey i was supportive!

MellowMa · 09/03/2007 11:21

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SoupDragon · 09/03/2007 11:22

I know, CoV but the nonsupportive stuff is just nasty.

Thing is, these feelings aren't rational and they don't stop you loving the baby when they're finally here (certainly not going by previous postings on MN). I've been there. I was gutted to find out that DS2 was aboy at a growth scan just before he was born. Did it stop me loving him when he was put in my arms? Of course not. If people had made the comments made on this thread to me I think it would have finished me off TBH. Then I was pregnant with no. 3. Found out it was a girl. Was terrified that it wasn't another boy and that I had no idea what to do with a girl. I was right, she's still a complete alien at 12 months but that doesn't mean I love her.

If you've not been there, you won't understand it. Stupid comments like "just be grateful it's alive" really aren't helpful because deep down you know this but that doesn't change how you feel.

MellowMa · 09/03/2007 11:22

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hatrick · 09/03/2007 11:22

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CS1753 · 09/03/2007 11:22

Soup - I think your comment was a bit OTT, not everyone on this thread has been horrid. Quite alot have been supportive and offered suggestions/tips.

NotanOtter · 09/03/2007 11:22

i bet you have not experienced the pitying looks ao shocked hand over mouth reactions hatrick.....at least my boys look like girls!!!

mummylin2495 · 09/03/2007 11:23

i think you should just be very happy to be having a baby at all no matter what sex it is.Just pray it is healthy and be happy.Boys are lovely anyway,very loving.

lulumama · 09/03/2007 11:23

my twin sister and i have a younger brother, and we doted on him, it was not a problem..

if you are not sleeping, try writing down all your fears and concerns, however trivial, and see if that helps...

SoupDragon · 09/03/2007 11:24

No, my comment wasn't over the top becaseu if you were being supportive it's clear it doesn't apply to you.

Misdee, boy nappies are soooo much easier than girls (bar the hosepipe effect) because there aren't so many nooks and crannies to get poo out of.

hatrick · 09/03/2007 11:25

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