Bleeding, waiting for repeat scans, worried about viability etc – let’s unite in limbo!

[MrsMcJnr]

Ladies, I know there are quite a few of us in this category and I am conscious that although the lovely ladies on here are supporting us on every thread we post on, I am worried that we are spoiling their own pregnancy experience by worrying so I thought I?d set this up for those who really don?t know if things are going one way or the other. Thought it might help us to get through the days/weeks until we do know what?s going on.

For those who don?t know me (though I?m a prolific poster ) here?s me in a nutshell: Based on LMP I?m 9+4 weeks (9+1 based on suspected OV). First pregnancy (though had early termination 10 years ago). TTC for 8 cycles to get here. Got BFP 26/1. Some spotting that week so sent to EPU on 23/1 for early scan. Gestational sac seen by external scan and yolk also seen by internal scan. Measured only 11.4mm though so only 5+5/6 weeks. Was rescheduled for scan 7/3 to see if things had changed. Given 50/50 chance. Started heavy bleeding 1/3. Had emergency scan 2/3. Told sac still there and has grown. Repeat scan scheduled for 9/3. In the meantime, more heavy bleeding, clots, cramps and much anguish.

I just wish I knew what was going on! Please join me.

Calling MMK - come in MMK!

Really could use some advice and tips - can we meet elsewhere (a new thread?? or I have a new thread in the Ante Natal clubs topic called "any IVF advice") so I don't hijack MrsMcJnr's thread... I know she won't mind but i think it's a bit rude of me!

Ready - thanks for saying hi... how are you doing?

MrsMcJnr... have you left work to get some rest yet!!!

I feel a great level of 'sisterhood' coming on! Great idea to start this thread Mrs. Mc - Know what you mean about the hangover headaches - mine normally situates itself over my right eyebrow and feels like my head is about to implode! My sense of smell is not great at the best of times so can't comment on the smell of blood but I can associate with the fear. It's my constant cramps that are plaguing me most atthe moment, have a hot water bottle strapped to my stomach constantly.
It's good to know that they give the pg the best chance they can at least.

I'm the same with going to the loo.

MrsMc I would love to be positive but when they weren't at the hospital on Friday it makes it really difficult
I am going back to work tomorrow and am so worried about starting to bleed while I'm there.
I had a bleed at 10 weeks with ds and I am expecting it to be like that I had no warning and it just came gushing out luckily a scan 2 days later still showed ds wriggling about in there. I hope this happens for you MrsMcJnr
When I tell people about what has happened they keep asking if I have done another test so I gave in and did one - of course it was positive.
I just hate having all the symptoms of being pregnany too

Hey Ready - our posts crossed - sorry you're not doing too well at mo. How long have you ttc? Isn't it time to see your GP... even if you lie a wee bit about how long??

Forgot to say - I wasnt offered an internal scan or a blood test

I'm glad I'm making you feel better! This whole business is such agony!

I used to use black panty liners, so I couldn't see the bleeding. I also used to shut the loo curtains too!

Both times, the outcome was very happy, and at 45, I feel lucky!

sunshine
delighted to help, I'm a world authority on the subject!

I'm too fick to know how to start a new thread, so we can do it by e-mail or if you start a new thread, I'll follow you.

I think spontaneous ovulation is a bit of a myth ....

sorry, being nosy while ttcing and this caught my eye. just tell me to go away!

Hi MMK - if you click on "unanswered threads" above you should find my new thread as one of the top 2 or 3
THANKS - I world authority sounds JUST what i need!

Jules, so sorry to hear. Do you think you will need an ERPC or do you think it will happen naturally? MMK and MrsMcJnr, yes, it does coincide with my period, but the lines on the pg tests haven't got darker since Friday. I know it soo early and I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up .... Tested positive last Thursday for the first time (10dpo), bleeding started Sunday, more or less stopped Monday, but there are traces again today. I am fine with m/c, but am very scared about missed m/c and ectopic... I know I just have to wait a week and see, but it's good not to wait alone.

Sunshinedays Next cycle will be number 7. Not long enough really to start panicking, since I am only 28. My GP knows when I started trying because I went to see her. I feel a tad fraudulent complaining when so many people have tried for a heck of a lot longer, and experienced lots of problems. But it is still tough.
Fingers crossed for you though. I remember a post you wrote on the ttc boards once made me cry so much, and made me feel so guilty for complaining... and that was after a couple of months of trying. I so hope you get your bundle of joy!!

Glimmer - I read below you have not spoken to your gp and you are worried about ectopic. Are you in pain? Do you have any reasons to suspect ectopic?
I was in a similar situation to you - however mine, unfortunately, did not stick - but yours could. A pregnancy blood test would help doc understand (I had to have bld tests every couple of days) - this checks the pg hormones are still on the up and up.
Good luck -

Of course Ready, I didn?t want to make people sad with my story but if you think they?d like to know, of course you can tell them hon. As for you, you are in a limbo too scone and we all know what it?s like so complain all you like, I certainly did. For me, the only thing that got me through was trying something a bit different each cycle ? and keeping positive! Hang in there, it WILL happen.

Sunshine ? ask away and don?t feel you have to move unless you want to, your?s is a limbo too! Still at work but leaving on the dot of 5 ? knackered!

Jules ? just posted for you on the other thread, I am so sorry that things are the way they are. Sending you HUGE hugs.

MillyM ? one of my pussycats was permanently acting hot water bottle this weekend, she wanted to sit on me all the time, I?m sure all 3 knew I was sad as they sat a vigil round me but this one in particular wanted to be sat on me. Hoping of course that she can sense a baby, not just my sadness.

Whoops ? I know hon I started my bleed at a work do on Thurs. It felt like I?d wet myself luckily I was in black and noone saw. Tesco spare pants and super pads are now resident in my handbag ? so much for saving money on san protection when pregnant!

MMK ? you?re not to go anywhere ? I like you

Jules- I'm sorry I've only just read your post about bad news. I'm so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself chick x

Thank you for such a warm welcome! I have posted on the other thread, umm something about IVF advice in the antenatal clubs.

I try not to lecture, but always get carried away!

I too have known the AGONY of loosing a baby at different stages of pregnancy, but I also know it can work out.

Ready - sorry I made you cry! (you big softie )
I recognise that feeling you descibe meeting/seeing photos of friends with babies. I'm not someone you suffers with ... UNTIL ttc started to take sooo long!!! It is such a negative, distructive emotion. A while ago I realised I was avoiding good friends with babies because the pain was too much. I had to give myself a bit of a talking too - and MOST of the time I am very happy for anyone who manages to work out the miracle of conception.

Jules, my heart goes out to you. Get some zinc on board as soon as you can...just in case mother nature smiles upon you again, she can be very cheeky like that.

(sincere apologies if I have offended)

Hi
am 5/6 weeks found out was was pg on saturady then started bleeding went to the doc today and have got a scan at the epu unit tommorow at 12.15
i already have a dd she is 2 but have never had a miscarraige and am finding the whole thing quite weird and tramatic.
I always thought that it was woosh miscarrige v sad and there you are all finished! i never realised that they could drag on for days / weeks
Hello to everyone else i hope that your all doing ok XX

Hi sweetbean, your situation sounds almost exactly the same as mine (including the 2 year old!). I'm 7 weeks and have a scan at 1pm tomorrow after bleeding and craping. I too thought a m/c was just over and done with quickly but I am quickly realising how clueless I am on all thing pregnancy related. Hope all goes well tomorrow, let us know when you can x

Hi, I started another thread earlier. I went for a scan today and they could see a sac but nothing in it, they said it might be too early as measured 5 weeks, my doctor found the heartbeat nearly 2 weeks ago but it now seems it was my own pulse. I have taken my daughter to the doctors at tea time today ( she has chicken pox, bless her! ) and saw the same doctor, i explained what had happened and she just shrugged it off, cant believe how upset I have been and how uninterested the doctor was. I go back for another scan to check if there has been any growth. Good luck to all of you.x

hi mrsmcjnr and all others, i just thought i'd post to let you know we're all thinking of you, and of course you should post on the usual thread, a lot of people are worried for you.

of course i realise how you feel, but we're all on that thread to be there to support each other no matter what happens, but people will understand why you've started this new one, will be watching out for you, and praying, especially on wednesday x

Hi ale, read your other thread with my jaw on the floor! Can't believe a Dr could do that, but then to be so disinterested after the fact just seems cruel. Sorry if you've already answered this elsewhere, but aare you going for another scan soon?
J20 - everyone has been so lovelyand supportive, this is when mumsnet is at its best. Thank you to all

Hi, they have booked me in for another scan on 21st March, I asked if I could have the blood tests to check me hcg levels but they said there was no point and I would just have to wait.