Bleeding, waiting for repeat scans, worried about viability etc – let’s unite in limbo!

[MrsMcJnr]

Ladies, I know there are quite a few of us in this category and I am conscious that although the lovely ladies on here are supporting us on every thread we post on, I am worried that we are spoiling their own pregnancy experience by worrying so I thought I?d set this up for those who really don?t know if things are going one way or the other. Thought it might help us to get through the days/weeks until we do know what?s going on.

For those who don?t know me (though I?m a prolific poster ) here?s me in a nutshell: Based on LMP I?m 9+4 weeks (9+1 based on suspected OV). First pregnancy (though had early termination 10 years ago). TTC for 8 cycles to get here. Got BFP 26/1. Some spotting that week so sent to EPU on 23/1 for early scan. Gestational sac seen by external scan and yolk also seen by internal scan. Measured only 11.4mm though so only 5+5/6 weeks. Was rescheduled for scan 7/3 to see if things had changed. Given 50/50 chance. Started heavy bleeding 1/3. Had emergency scan 2/3. Told sac still there and has grown. Repeat scan scheduled for 9/3. In the meantime, more heavy bleeding, clots, cramps and much anguish.

I just wish I knew what was going on! Please join me.

Eaglebird ? sending you tons of positive vibes, I hope it goes really well and gives you the peace of mind you need. Might be a bit early for a HB with an external (and they might not do an internal with your bleed) but you never know hon, some people see them earlier than others. If it?s any conciliation, I could have written your post myself about the boobs (though DH says they?re still huge ) and about the knicker watching, it gets exhausting doesn?t it?

Whoops ? I hope it isn?t hon it?s awful the way we knicker watch all the time, enough to drive you round the bend. I think what Kiteflying has said is a really good point, we are so tense that we are bound to feel it somewhere in our bodies, I do know that my shoulders are round my ears with knots. I hope nothing happens hon and that you are fine, I really do. Actually, in a weird way, time is going too fast until Friday, I am really scared of the outcome and don?t really want Friday to come in some ways. Crazy hey!?

Thanks MillyM, I?ve had loads of odd texts from her today saying things like ?maybe was 2 now 1?!? maybe I shouldn?t have shared the info!! How are you today hon? Do you feel like a weight?s been lifted? bet you slept well last night!

Thanks Kiteflying ? nice of you to post for me.

MrsMc - I almost choked on some of your mil's comments, wow, I am surprised you did not just hang up the phone on her negativity. Anyway just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow, hope you get to see a little hb with your lb. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

My Mum really didn't mean it Mum03, she just has no experience of this and I think before this began if anyone told me they'd seen a sac 1.5/2wks too small at a scan and then bled for 5 days solidly with awful pains then I'd have thought it was game over too - thanks for your thoughts, I'm still hoping and praying but also trying to prepare myself for hearing what I don't want to hear too!

hi mrsmcjnr, just wondered how you were doing, holding on in there i hope. good luck at the next scan and i will look out for the results, i'm still rooting for you x hot choc x

Hi MrsMc, when I was bleeding my midwife adviced that even if I feared the worst I had to keep positive and hopeful as it is not over until the fat lady sings. I have everything crossed for you and will be thinking of you on Friday (I'm off-line until Tuesday so I'll be praying to see good news posted next week). Hang on in there.

p.s. this thread is great, I wish it had been around last Oct.

Thinking of you MRsMc, I remember early on in my first pregnancy Ibled, it's the scariest time ever, then throughout pregnancy I would be constantly checking my underwear for blood. I had to go for a scan early on, and there was no sign of a baby, but then a week later there was the heartbeat! I'll be thinking ofyou.

good luck to all, i know how awful limbo is! {{{hug}}}

MMJ - I have been sneaking peaks at your ante natal thread. I have everything crossed for you for tomorrow.

I was in a similar position to many of you a few months a go, and a few months before that. I'm now 13 weeks pregnant, so even if your scan news isn't what you wished for please don't give up hope. Good luck to all.

Hi all

Whoops how is the back ache today hon? hope that everything is ok and that you are feeling lots better.xx

Eaglebird good luck with your scan today babe am thinking of you what time is it? xx

MrsMcJn Hope is the best thing there is anything can happen if you keep a positive mind, infact they say that if you keep positive though illness like cancer you are more likely to go in to remision! The mind is a powerful thing x x

Jules99 hi hun how are you thanks for posing on my other tread xxxx

To everone else i am thinking of you all and send you all my love as always and keep everything crossed for you all xxxxx

All the littel beans out there hang on in that nice warm place and grow grow grow you know you can do it !!!!!!!!!!

My back ache seems to have settled a bit nothing happened over night either

Hope those with scans today get some good news will be thinking of you

Thinking of you all
Sxx

Hey Hotchoc ? thanks for posting hon, I?m ok, very scared that tomorrow is Friday and that I?ll be having the scan and hopefully hearing what the hell is going on. How are you coping with it all hon? Are you ok? You?ve been in my thoughts.

Thanks Gillian73 ? I know that hope?s important

Hello Loopy the knicker checking becomes like an obsessive compulsive disorder doesn?t it? So glad things went well for you, I hope my outcome is good I really do. Did you ever find out what caused your bleeds?

Jules, thanks you made me cry I really hope you are ok hon; you?ve been through so much. How do you feel physically? I?ve been thinking of you.

Eaglebird, fingers crossed for you today, thinking of you.

Thanks for posting Lissie ? how are you feeling? Better? Are you still in pain?

Flossam ? thanks hon, I know we?ll all get through this one way or the other but positive thinking and hope certainly seems to help.

Whoops ? glad to hear the back is better (mine?s not ) and that nothing else has happened. Hang in there. Is it Tues you go back?

Sweetbean ? thank you! willing my beanie to grow (like her Daddy does when he talks to her every night )

I?ve been trying to prepare myself for tomorrow and have 4 scenarios I think could happen, I wanted to share them to see if you think there are more/less and most importantly to make sure that I ask the right questions in each scenario or insist on the right procedures:

1. All is fine, a bigger sac is seen, they hopefully see the yolk, the fetal pole and the heartbeat and we are told we have a viable pregnancy and are out of the dark (this of course is my dream outcome). We are given an EDD. What happens next?
2. The sac is still there, it is bigger or the same. They cannot see any more with external or internal scan (though would see yolk I guess as did last time on internal) and tell me I?ll have to come back in 2 weeks for a rescan. Do I insist on an examination to see if cervix is closed? Do I insist on blood tests to check HCG levels? Chances of it being blighted ovum? How long can recalls go on for? My chances?
3. There is nothing there, I have miscarried and it?s all gone. I ask when it is safe to try again and what likely happened and how can I avoid it in future? How long will hormones still make me feel pregnant for?
4. The sac or some of other POC are still there (though would probably still be bleeding if this was the case apparently) but miscarriage is inevitable. Do I see what happens naturally or have a D&C? Does the latter improve your chances of conceiving again quicker?

Don?t get me wrong, I am full of hope and am not resigned in any way but want to make sure that I get the info I need!

Thanks Sunshinedays

thinking of you tomorrow mrsmc hope all is well

MMJ - think it is impossible to advise... are you going to take your list of possible outcomes with you tomorrow? It might remind you of what to ask.

Just to give your hope a little boost - while I was in NZ my SIL told me about her pg with their now lively/spirited/wonderful 6 yrs old. She concieved naturally after 6 yrs ttc. At 4.5months she woke with v.painful cramps, ran to the loo and out came an enormous clot and blood. Rushed into hospital, the hospital assigned her a counseller to help her deal with the grief, her DH was so distraught he actually gathered the clot & held a small funeral that night. It was around Christmas and short staffing meant they said she should go for the D&C without a scan. My SIL insisted on a scan - and incredibly, when they did a heartbeat was found. Astonishing.

Thanks Sunshinedays

Thanks Firststar it?s at 10am, don?t laugh at me but I?ve tried to imagine all possible outcomes and the questions I should be asking. Would you mind having a look and telling me what you think? they are here

I really hope you scan goes well It?s a worry financially isn?t it the thought of being on less money and how you?d cope. We are planning to move abroad in Oct/Nov anyway so it may be that I can work part time when I get there but we?ll see ? money is going to be very tight and so much is up in the air for us at the mo.

whoops, wrong thread!

how are you feeling sweetbean?

Mrs M, my heart goes out to you, I have been there, (was an Olympic knicker checker too. I'm praying so hard, and crossing everthing, so I'll probably faint soon...

xx

Hi. I was offline yesterday and so much has happened! Eaglebird -- I am thinking of you!
MrsMcJn -- all the best for tomorrow! I really really hope you'll get option 1!
I will have my first scan in two weeks.
I know now 7 days that I am pg and out of the 7 I have been bleeding 5. Hormones
seem to be going up (based on home pg-test
only, but get results faster and lines stronger). Wont go to GP since I have developed post-traumatic stress syndrome to last year's misscarriage related events. I am in treatment for the latter and have finally crafted yesterday my complaint letters to the NHS.Hello to everybody else.
Jules and Sweetbean I am thinking of you.

Glimmer - I am so sorry to hear you has such an awful time with the NHS previously. To suffer that much it must have been terrible . Thinking of you.

Thanks MMK

Hey Glimmer ? sorry you have to wait so long for the scan hon and that you?ve had such a worrying start to the pregnancy, it really spoils your enjoyment, I know. That?s great about the tests though ? hope they keep getting stronger

MrsMcJnr I'm not sure where to leave my message, so I've done a couple. All the very best for tomorrow, here's hoping you get some well deserved good news about your bean. Thinking of you. Ready x

PS. I read those things your Mum said Mother's hey, who'd have 'em . Bless you. (hug)

MrsMcJnr - sorry to hear about your hard time (and everyone else on here too ), this was me last year, waiting and wondering - it's so hard and heartbreaking. Definitely take your list with you and ask loads of questions. If they want to scan you again then I would ask for quantative HCG blood tests too (that was the first thing they did for me, gave me bad news but only a few days wait). If scan shows bad news but something still there then I would advise going for the D&C. I was booked for one in August but as I had started to pass v large clots, epu said it sounded as tho it was over but would not re-scan me to check, I decided not to have op, was told to do a pg test 2 weeks after bleeding stopped to make sure it was over... it wasn't and I ended up having to have op 2 months later, it felt like I had lost it all over again. With regards to conceiving again after a D&C, I also had to have one a few years ago after a different m/c and after a couple of months I got a regular cycle (unheard of for me!) and fell very quickly. No such luck this time but body went through more so prob needs longer to settle.
Will be thinking of you tomorrow - hope you get outcome 1 xxx