Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Hello

Does anyone on here have any known issues re repeated mc? I ask cos I am a little bit pg (nearly 5w) and scared shitless! I have a balanced translocation; my mc odds are about 60%. In addition, I have a small chance of carrying a child with multiple / profound disabilities to term. I have 1 dd, 21 months who has a chromosome abnormality as a result of all this. This is my 5th pg. Praying that this is my golden egg and doing my best not to think about it whilst humming kay sera sera but am struggling.

If I make it as far as 11 weeks I am having CVS. The worst case scenario would be getting to this stage and finding out the baby is 'unbalanced'. I really don't want that choice... I feel like I'm almost willing a mc to happen now rather than that. Waahhh but I need to be positive?! Er.. anyone else in similar state?

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Hi ejb. I similarly don't have any experience of anything like your situation. Both of my m/c were most probably just bad luck according to my doctor. Fingers crossed that this one works out okay for you and many congratulations!!

ejb1976

I am in no where near the same situation as you but I can totally understand the whole trying not to think about it while not being able to get it out your head. It really can become very consuming.

I have had two consecutive m/c in the last year and I am coming up to my 'worry dates'. So I may be on this thread more oftern from now. The paranoia has well and truly set in. I have two weeks to get passed the first date and then a very anxious 8 weeks in the middle (terrified!!) So the anxiety, uncertaintanty and general stress (hidden till now) is beginning to show. I have been told I have a 50/50 chance of keeping any baby. But no reason for the m/c has been found after numerous tests.

Well done, congratulations and best of luck my thoughts are with you.

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aw - ta for yr nice messages ladies. Sorry to hear off all the cack you've gone through. Wishing you all lots of 'stickyness' for yr little beans. I guess its just an anxious time and there is no getting away from that.

Cupcake - did you post a thread elsewhere about whether or not to tell people about pg?

Yes, still a family discussion. DH told his Grandma last night which has calmed him down for a while so may be able to avoid it for a few weeks.

Got my early scan booked for 08:45 next Thursday!!! The doctor's receptionist even rang me to tell me that she had faxed the form across. Less than a week to go...

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Other than my DH, my mom knows (she guessed by my maggotty complexion and screaming fit in Asda when I couldn't find a parking space ).

Not going to say anything to anyone else. a friend has asked me if I come on (I had too much to drink at xmas party and told her that DH and I wanted to ttc) and I lied and said yes. If this all goes wrong, I'll prolly get v drunk again and end up telling her but for the time being, I'm trying to keep schtum.

Thank goodness the shops are full of floaty a-line stuff right now. Have started wearing that sort of stuff already (I'm SO fashion!)so it shouldn't look too suss over the next few months. Fingers crossed

I have also added to my wardrobe some carefully chosen items to try and not look so obvious. I am getting my hair done tomorrow to try and hide the limp greasy look and may even get it dyed in another attempted to put certain people off the "could she be pregnant again" topic of conversation.

I quiet like keeping it a secret. Much more fun than all those questions you get.

Have you been very sick
Do you know what it is
Will you give up work

And then there is the god given right for everyone to touch your stomach!!!! Now that really bugs me. (Hormonal rage over)

Breath and relax

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I have been for a scan last week partly because my Doc did wonder if it was twins, which says something.

Putting it bluntly my body has gone into a state of collapse. It really has

I am 8 weeks+ and can only fit into one pair of work trousers and a work skirt that I can wear comfortably. I am wearing bras a cup size bigger and starting to get the "muffin top effect" so will have to go even bigger(cracking boobs though, thats the best bit).

I have not put on any weight but I am very curvy something is making my bum and thighs expand at an alarming rate. My waist has almost gone ( can't fasten my suit jacket without it pulling) and my stomach by the end of the day has dramatically increased
( I just look fat).

If things don't change I am going to have trouble hiding this one. The maternity clothes are only a few weeks away and then it gets tricky.

Not to mention the weird eating habits, grey/green m/s moments. falling asleep at my desk any time from 9.00am onwards. All of which have been commented on over the last week.

Hi ladies, just checking in - I've been dying on the sofa really crappy - and will be going back there again quite soon!

ejb - welcome - hope you have a happy ending this time!

cupcake - twins - blimey!

mumpbump - good news about the scan.

right - off to find the sofa again ...

ejt

oh no!! I'm not having twins. I just look like I am .

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Hi guys,

I haven't had ms like this in any of my pg's, this is ridiculous!!! I'm in the typical catch 22 of feeling too sick to eat anything but feeling really sick because I'm so hungry. Then I find myself kneeling by the toilet reaching but nothings coming up! Also, I thought ms was meant to be just the one end???!!!

I'm sooooo tired but I've got to keep it together for the kids - dh is awake all night and then sleeping all day... anyways that's a whole other problem!!

Got to go back to work on Monday so I'll have to find a way of keeping this ms at bay as the toilet is miles away from my desk. My Director knows (I'm her PA) but my big boss doesn't know and I don't want to tell her just yet - she's due to drop in about 3 or 4 weeks too but she's come into work every day without fail so I'm not sure if she'll understand at all. She's too worried about the business when she is off.

Anyways, hope you're all well - great to hear you've got your scan booked mumpbump and how exciting TFT!!!

Hi all, can I join? Ive been watching this thread and others from the sidelines, so to speak, as ive just didnt want to tempt fate, IYKWIM. I posted in October but sadly m/c - 2nd one in 2006.

After a lot of hassle and miscommunication between the gp and hospital I finally got to have an early scan today. Im 7+2 and its my birthday. The best present I could have asked for was when I heard my baby's heartbeat. So here I am tentatively accepting my new found status. I have to be re-scanned in 10 days as the sonographer 'saw something' and wants to confirm or disconfirm if its twins!

Ive had a brilliant day i've prayed that we all have healthy happy los. Congratulations to us all!

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Yup, those pregnancy hormones are definitely still there - welled up at your news, monalisa - what a lovely birthday present for you!! And maybe twins!!!!!! Wow!

Had a moment of revelation today when dh pointed out that the due date is on our wedding anniversary. He said he really hopes that this one will be okay to avoid any negative associations on our anniversary.

He was asking last night what the most risky period is and I said right now so I have been told to make sure I take it easy - yeah, right - with a 12 mo ds to deal with!!! He was also asking me if my mum was going to the scan with me and I said I thought it was too early in the day for her - she doesn't get up before 09:00 - so he is saying he will come. I said he didn't have to (he's had quite a bit of time of work ill with the 'flu recently and his employers are a pretty unsympathetic lot!!) as I am sure there will be a heartbeat. I then mentioned that if there wasn't a hb, I thought I would prefer to let nature take its course rather than opt for surgical intervention. He told me he didn't want to think about the possibility that it might not be alright...

He is a sensitive bloke, even though he wouldn't admit it, but sometimes he manages to surprise me at how deeply he feels things!! I think he's very worried about how I would cope with another m/c. Bless...

Can you tell I'm loved up at the moment - pg hormones again!!!

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There seems to have been lots of activity on here since I was last able to look. T4T is on the big countdown (wow, makes me teary just writing it here - I'm definitely pregnant). New people have joined (congratulations, welcome and best of luck) and lots of us are feeling quite shitty at the moment it seems.

Mumpbump, your dh sounds like quite a sweetheart, it's nice to feel like there is someone there who is really there with you emotionally, if you get what I mean.

Purplelost princess, my dh was depressed for about 18 months/2 years before he went to someone and then I think he started taking seroxat which made such a big difference to our home life. I know how difficult it is, and it was made worse for us by the fact that I felt very disloyal telling anyone that he was depressed so hardly anyone knew and it felt like a burden I had to carry on my own. I got worried in December when his father died and I thought the black cloud was looming on the horizon ready to descend, but thankfully it didn't. I think once you've had it, it will always be lurking in the sidelines.

I have felt quite bad today. I had to get up at 4am this morning for food - had a glass of milk and some honey on toast. Then woke up at 7 am ragingly hungry. I have put on 5lbs so far (I am 8 weeks today) and like others have mentioned the water retention at the end of the day means I can't do my trousers up. What with my big wobbly tender boobs and my big bloated stomach I feel like an over ripe water melon sometimes about to pop.

ooh got to go, Hollyoaks is on

hello

we're doing ok here at T4T Towers, last-min tidying etc, and I washed babysuits and cleaned and descaled the sterilizer today... am reading a book called And Baby Makes Four... wondering how to cope with two littles. DS is still pretty poorly, but we had lunch here with some friends of us all who have a new baby and it all seemed more do-able, they had some good tips on coping... what will happen on monday seems now more like a white rabbit-in-headlights blank rather than doomy... not so long to go.

will have a little nap now.. thanks to you all for thinking of me, other people (esp DH) are now extra excited, this makes it seem more real to me, so thanks, you are great for morale

Hi all, thanks for the welcome. Hope everyone is feeling OK, or at least well rested this weekend. They are always far too short arent they?

Just a quick post cos ive just got out of bed ( I kid you not!). DD had ear infection last night and when I tols DP to take her to the walk-in clininc he just said he'd use cotton buds instead. Idiot!

Anyway we were the first at the clinic at 7am and didnt get seen by the nurse until 8.40. Huh? I dont get it! Anyway did a few bits and pieces and DP was still in bed when we got back. I was so p'd off cos house was a mess - as is becoming ususal these days!

Ive told him that i have to take it easy following the last 2 m/cs so he'll have to get in a cleaner! Apparently someone is coming to do 3 hours worth of ironing in the morning as well! Now he just needs to organise ... a cook, babysitter, someone to do the school run and on-line shopping. Im going to try and hold out doing any domestics for as long as I can - at least until after im 12 weeks! In the meantime I intend to eat and sleep healthily apart from my full time job 27 miles away!

Hi All
Time4tea-good luck for monday, so soon now can't wait to hear the good news.

monalisa-welcome, congrat's on the hb.

mump-enjoy the attention, and taking it easy.

Not much happening here, still a little paranoid, after dr's comment on making it to 14 weeks, I was only 13 when i saw him, I think I want to make an appointmnet this week and then I will stop worrying once and for all, yeah right.
Friday- was dh's birthday and last m/c due date > I think I managed ok. We had dinner out, which was nice. It definately helps to be pg again.

On a positive note our babies will be born in the year of the golden pig, a very fortunate year. babies born this year are meant to live in extreme wealth and luxury. Let's hope it rubs off.