Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Thank you ladies, I will go and sniff some lavender and drink some camomille tea and try to relax into my huge pregnant body.

I know I should be happy at least something is growing.

Congratulations to time4tea, glad everything went well

Cupcake, I am exactly the same as you. I am putting it down to water retention as I am OK-ish in the morning but come the afternoon, my stomach feels big and my waist band digs in. I keep undoing it whenever possible. Like you I have my trousers off and pyjamas on as soon as I get home, and when I lie in bed at night even thinking about putting the trousers back on makes me uncomfortable. I find I am 2 or 3 pounds heavier at the end of the day compared to the morning. Although I have actually put on fat as well, you are probably just accumulating water over the course of the day and don't need to worry about how big you'll be later on.

Fingers crossed for you, I can imagine what you are feeling. Not been in that position, but I had a missed mc in October and got pregnant again in Jan, it is very confusing, I was feeling pretty positive, but today I feel very negative, I don;t know why but I feel this one has gone the same way, maybe it is just because I am in the week I lost the last one, I just don't know, feel very tearful atm though. Must put a brave face on though, as off out to dinner in a min with the in-laws.

Congrats to TFT. lovely baby news. Rubles hope all is well.
I have not posted for ages as I have been too busy with knicker checking every second and worrying myself into an early grave. My symptoms reduced to a big fat zero in the last week and I had convinced myself it was game over.
However the good news is went to walk-in EPU this morning and saw our pulsating bean with lovely heartbeat measuring seven weeks +1 . Even DS was stunned into silence and dropped his crisps on the floor. Dates are compatible with LMP too so hopefully all growing as it should. Was told 97% chance of successful PG once there is a heartbeat which was higher than I realised. They are the kind of stats we like on this thread.
So relieved
Fingers crossed for all the other early pgs among us.

And Jules99 sounds like this could be it. I have heard of lots of people getting pg without a period after mc. If you post a thread on MC area I am sure you will get some replies from people who have. I remember reading quite a lot about it on threads there after I had my mc in Nov and did not know whether to wait for a period or not before trying again.
Good luck to you either way.

Hello, Time4Tea's DH here again. To answer the earlier question, our new son is called Torin. By the way, I think Torin was conceived the first month after our miscarriage. It's been a nervous 9 months but lots of relief now. I think T4T should be home from hospital on Thursday.

Hi everyone, haven't been on here in a while.

Torin is a lovely name, congrats to T4T and her DH.

Im 11 weeks tomorrow and Mon had another scan. Baby was jumping about and waving his/her arms at us desperately!! Even the sonographer was laughing and had to wait to do the measurements! She thought she may have woken him/her up by prodding my tummy.

Baby one day older than expected, everything fine so far. Good luck to everyone who is waiting for scan. After my mc I was sure it was going to happen again, esp with all the back pain I had early on this time. Now im so relieved!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bless you poor fettle (or blanket!), you are being so brave and strong! Thinking of you as you go through all of this - will you be having surgery?

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Morning everyone!!

T4T - love the name!! It sounds unusual - where is it from?

Taichimum - excellent news!!! I hope that I will be reporting similar news tomorrow...

Jules - so pleased to hear that it is probably a new pg. I guess it might be emotionally challenging so soon after your m/c, but I have found that it has helped me to be pg again. There is also a thread called something like success after m/c if you want to get an idea of how many people have gone on to have successful pgs. Will your doctor get you an early scan, do you think?

Edie - how lovely to see your baby waving. Ds was very active like that and it is so fascinating to watch on the scan screen!

Fettle - did I miss something? I thought you were referring to your last m/c? Hoping I didn't misunderstand...

Must go do some work so I'll just say a quick hello to everyone else who I haven't mentioned specifically!

Hello ? quickly had to clarify, that fingers-crossed I?m currently 8+2 weeks pg. I was telling Rubles about my 1st mc last Feb (very confusing ? sorry!).

I do hope you are doing ok still Rubles ? really not long til Friday, when you?ll hopefully see that everything is ok!

Thanks MrT4T ? I too conceived this pg immediately after my 2nd mc at Christmas and had heard that there is a higher chance of mc if that happens, so it is good to hear that T4T also did that ? there is hope!! Send her and Torin our love!

So, Jules, I?m with you!! Was a complete and utter shock to find out I was pg ? I?d had a negative pg test after my bleeding at New Year, so was pretty sure that this was a new pg, but still wasn?t convinced for a few weeks! It is scary, but we?ll be fine!! Good luck!

Speak later everyone ? must concentrate on work.

Sorry if I worried anyone.

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Fettle, hope I didn't misunderstand, how embarassing if I did!! I apologise, hope you can forgive me? xx

Hello

All going ok here. I have found some energy this week got back into my artwork, started new baby book, taught craft session today at ds's playgroup and took along a apple strussel cake i baked when i got up. I must have entered second trimester or something.

Still having some funny little aches but have an appointment at obs. on friday.

Jules- welcome what a dramatic time, I hope it is a new preg for you, try not to worry about concieving straight away, many women do and babes are fine.

T4T -Congrat's and love the name

Uki - what do you use for your baby books? Am thinking of trying to put one together for ds and starting one for this one. Do you just use a normal photo album or do you use a scrap book?

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It's interesting what you all say about the milestones being a difficult time. It dawned on me last night that might be why I have been so negative and verging on the hysterical this week, as this weekend will be my 9 week milestone.
I had some more spotting yesterday so today I took the day off and tossed a coin which told me to ring the EPU again. I managed to get a scan and I am glad to say the baby is 22.6mm measuring correct for 8 +5 and with a strong heartbeat. It even did some moving. I got a picture because I really regretted not having anything to look at after the last m/c, so now I have a little blob to stare at. I wish I felt more relieved than I do, but I have these negative thoughts going through my head about things just not having gone wrong YET. It is such a comfort and relief to hear of you all being as worried as me (apart from Mumpbump who deserves a prize for being so positive).

I really hope I do feel some sort of relief after the nine week point, if I get that far.

Jules - welcome, I went to your other thread to check on you, but found you here.

T4T - that name is great.

MrsFish - how are you doing? Just because you have a 'feeling' everything has gone wrong means nothing. That feeling is just your paranoia, it's not some psychic feminine intuition. Repeat after me...'I am pregnant, I am pregnant, I am pregnant. I am not bleeding, I am not bleeding, I am not bleeding' etc. etc

Fettle - I love the 'blanket' name. It gives me a clear picture of your home life these days! I too do a lot of lying down with the duvet these days - it doesn't make for very good parenting to dd. I am currently working from home lying on my side on the sofa under said duvet.

Taichimum & Edie, congratulations on your scans and seeing your little ones.

Mumpbump, good luck for tomorrow.

Hello to everyone else not specifically mentioned.

Very pleased to hear your news, Rubles... Definitely better to get the scan earlier to put your mind at rest.

For me, I think it's easier to be positive as my last m/c was very early at around 5 weeks and I didn't test to see if I was pg until I was pretty much 6 weeks so I'd already passed that milestone. And 'cos I didn't know I was pg with the first m/c, I don't know in which week I m/c. TBH, I will only start to relax properly once I get past 14 weeks, I think. But I think it is likely you will feel quite a lot of relief once you get through this week. And remember Uki's article about the risk of m/c dropping massively once you've got the all important heartbeat!!

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Where to start....

Big Congrats to Mr and Mrs T4T and welcome to the world baby Torin

Rubles...glad everything is OK...it is really fraught and frustrating around this time, but this looks like a very positive outcome and my thoughts are with you over the next few weeks. I had scans at 6, 9 (which turned out was actually 10) and 13 wks....the 6 wk cos I had a bit of spotting and self referred to the EPU, than the 10 wk cos I had ominous foreboding of things not being well and ms syptoms had all but disappeared and I couldn't wait till my dating scan...three weeks seemd like a lifetime (happy to note that this was only a temporary lull which was probably due to a drop in production of progesterone). MW couldn't find the heartbeat at my booking appointment and even though I'd had my second scan two weeks before and it isn't unusual not to hear it at 12 weeks, I still had a very fraught week till my dating scan. This meant to re-assure you all that positive things do happen, even when you may feel, as I did for much of the first trimester, that it was all going wrong. Keep positive and I'm sending lots of sticky vibes.

Taichimum...big congrats....I'll let all the ladies on the June thread know that you are OK

Jules...hope you're staying positive and my thoughts are with you. wishing you luck for your scan...you too mumpbump.

this is what happens when you don't post for ages, it takes an hour and a day to catch up.

Cupcake, don't worry about the bloating etc, it will calm down. I had to move into pg trousers at about 10 weeks, but most of it was down to water retention as I didn't put on any weight. Now, at 24+3, my bump is very sticky out, and people are always telling me how huge I am (aren't they nice!!) but I've only gained 10lbs, and most of that seems to be around my thighs, and my knees of all places!

Phew...that was an epic.

Hello also to any newbies...thoughts are with you all {smile]

Taichimum just crashing from your old due in June thread to say CONGRATULATIONS on the good news and sending loads more sticky glue your way ((((HUGS))))!!!!

Rubles, fantastic news ? this week will be hard for us both ? my next milestone is Saturday (I must not spot before then!). Makes every trip to the loo a worry and every ache and pain intensified. Particularly the backache and stomach pains I?ve had today ? but I think you are right, it is because my 9 week mark is coming up, I?m so focussing on getting past it. But as everyone says, we?ve seen a heartbeat now, so our chances are greatly increased!

Have to agree that under-blanket/duvet parenting isn?t very good for DDs? mine keeps telling me not to sleep! And comes and pushes my eyelids open and then pushes and pulls at me until I sit up! Bless her ? it is probably hard not having her ?normal? mummy around at the moment. [she gets quite cross when I?m on the computer as well, telling me to stop that now!]

Anyway, work calls
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