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Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Mumpbump · 13/02/2007 11:11

Yes, Uki. It's down to your article that I am thinking of an early scan to try to see the hb. I thought the article was really good and have referred to it, in fact, on a couple of other threads... I like to think it makes me sound like I know what I'm talking about!!

EdieMcredie · 13/02/2007 11:14

I saw a HB at only just 6 weeks on that day. This is early though. At 8 they will pick it up xx

ejt1764 · 13/02/2007 12:33

Uki - I was the same as you last time, decided not to have an early scan, then had a mmc - only detected at dating scan at 13+1 - that was horrendous I'd had sickness (not as bad as this time, but still vomiting), constipation, exhaustion - the works ... so that's why I chose to have a scan this time - and why the midwife I saw was completely in favour of it. I just couldn't cope with the thought of having to wait 3 months to find out whether I really was pg, or just carrying around another mmc.

I'm 7 weeks today (by my dates) and saw the hb yesterday - bean was lying funny and appeared smaller than my estimate to sonographer, but she didn't give me a date, just said that everything was there and normal.

The knock-on effect is also that the midwife who referred me to EPAU asked me to phone her to let her know the result of the scan. She phoned me back today, and has booked me in for my booking appointment at home on Saturday.

I know there's still a lot that can go wrong - but at least I have seen my baby, and put my mind at rest.

ejt

ejt1764 · 13/02/2007 12:34

p.s. Uki, can you post a link to that article again please? I think I missed it.

ejt

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time4tea · 13/02/2007 15:06

hello all, on the early scans, I had a missed mc, and like EJT had every symptom of a strong pg, so it was a massive shock. even if you don't see a heartbeat, they can tell by size of what is going on whether or not the baby is doing ok.

accepting we are going to be deranged with stress whatever the scans say is important for surfing the wave. A common thing on these threads is that the relief from the scans doesn't last too long and we're then worrying about the next stage.

love to all. any news directly from LissieLou, Mump? thanks for sending the flowers - very kind and thoughtful. I bet they (esp. Phil, who probably doesn't imagine the MN bond!) have found everyone's warmth comforting, even though real comfort is not really possible in such a tough situation

Mumpbump · 13/02/2007 15:16

Lissie is back home and is posting in her tea shop thread... I'll see if I can find it again - imagine it will be fairly active at the moment!

Mumpbump · 13/02/2007 15:17

here you go

How difficult was that - not!!

Mumpbump · 13/02/2007 17:16

Uki - have you had your blood test results back yet?

PurpleLostPrincess · 14/02/2007 09:49

Hello all,

I was getting dark discharge and pains yesterday and got myself in a state so I went to my GP who referred me to EPAU. They remembered me there as I m/c'd in October quite dramatically and had one before that too.

Anyways, we saw a heartbeat - yay!!!!!! I really didn't expect that outcome and they had to take the scanner off because my fat belly was wobbling where I was crying so much! (not pg belly, just flab!)

I guess this is a ray of hope and they reassured us that once a heartbeat has been seen, the chances of m/c are much lower (1 in 200). I'm now 7+4 but just need to get through the next few weeks. We're having a few problems with our marriage so I'm having to deal with lots of stress at the same time as all of this!

Knicker Watcher Member!

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firststar · 14/02/2007 10:03

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Mumpbump · 14/02/2007 10:45

Morning!!! Have been to see my doctor this morning and asked for an early scan. She had no hesitation about referring me for one, particularly after I said that I understood the m/c risk dropped significantly once a heartbeat was detected - see, Uki, I am using your article again!!!

Anyway, our au pair kindly dropped the referral form off at the hospital for me and they are happy for me to call back later today or tomorrow to sort out the scan... Feeling very excited that I will (hopefully) get to see a heartbeat some time next week!!! Must get my head together and concentrate on work...

Congrats, purplelostprincess! You must be relieved...

time4tea · 14/02/2007 10:45

hello PLP - I'm delighted that your emergency rush to EPAU had a great outcome. But sorry to hear you are having stress with your husband. Do you have children already? if so, I was reading an interesting book about getting the best out of relationships with children by Steve and Sharon Biddulph, will try to find the title and post again.

XX T4T

time4tea · 14/02/2007 11:12

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Uki · 14/02/2007 11:32

Hi
Etj-Glad the scan went well, great news. I can't find that article either right now. If anyone else saved it, could they link it. Otherwise I'll have another look later.

Mump-I haven't heard about test, they would have contacted me if bad, so no news is good. Thanks.

having tired fit right now, goodnight from over here.

Mumpbump · 14/02/2007 11:37

I saved it... Here's a link:

interesting article on statistical m/c risks in pg

Daisybump · 14/02/2007 14:02

Phew Mumpbump...bit too lon-winded and technical for my hormone soaked shrunken brain to take in.....
I had a scan at 6+3 and we saw a heartbeat which was a great re-assurance and the staff told me that seeing a heartbeat at that stage meant that our individual risk of mc was greatly reduced. But since had date moved forward by one week (I ovulate at about day 8 in my cycle) so embryo was actually 7+ weeks. emotions before were all over the place though as I was convinced there would be nothing there (I'd had some bleeding and pain). as you all know, the relief at seeing something is the most awesome experience ever. Even at 24 weeks with bubba jumping around and kicking the hell out of me on a regular basis, hearing the heartbeat at ante-natal appointments is the most magical thing in the world. Hang in there ladies...you won't be far away from hearing it yourselves.
Firstar...can't believe you are so far on already, it hardly seems any time since your first posts....have you felt any movements yet?
Congrats purple on your scan and bobbynog on your bundle of joy.
T4T...are you still here? thought you were about to pop? Hope you are doing OK hun.
Does everyone know there is a new thread...or should someone put a link to this on the old one...I'd do it, but not sure how as not really a technophobe...can't even manage to do a web link properly!

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PurpleLostPrincess · 14/02/2007 19:58

Thank you so much for your encouraging messages, this site really is amazing!

Mumpbump, hope the week flies by for you, I know how it feels to be waiting and wondering...

TFT, thank you so much for that information, I'll have a look at it. I do have two kids - DS (12) and DD (8) and they are step children to my hubby although we are quite tight and they see him as their Dad. He suffers from depression and anxiety and I think the prospect of becoming a father has been a bit overwhelming for him coupled with a bit of a breakdown at the same time! We plod on though...

I just keep thinking that there's a little person growing inside of me and holding on to that. I just hope it all goes smoothly - I'll keep you updated!

PLP xx

Katsh · 14/02/2007 20:13

Mumpbump/ Uki - thanks for the link to the article - I'd been searching earlier threads for it and hadn't been able to find it. Reading it has convinced me to try to get a scan around 7 weeks. Very helpful. Very happy for those of you who have had happy scans!

time4tea · 14/02/2007 20:35

PLP I really feel for you - I've suffered from depression before, and my mother had a really awful breakdown - both of us on good form now, but having seen it from both sides there is really nothing worse. Does your DH have a good GP? counselling with someone good can really help (as long as they are people you can feel some connection with - my counsellor completely saved my bacon - or rather showed me how to enjoy the bacon I already had and stop worrying about other stuff...) another book (sorry, my DH says I am a loon who resolves all issues using books not sure if this is a good thing or not) which I'd recommend for you both (because you need to take care of yourself and your kids while caring for DH) is called Sunbathing in the Rain by Gwyneth Lewis. There;s a great chapter for relatives.

Good luck and hang in there

Mumpbump · 15/02/2007 11:00

Morning all! Talk about pg emotions!! Rang the ultrasound department this morning and it turns out that the scan which our au pair dropped into the hospital has been lost. You can imagine that I am KICKING myself for not taking it myself, but I didn't want to be any later for work - stupid, stupid me!

Anyway, I rang the doctor to ask if they could issue a duplicate form and fax it to the ultrasound department. The receptionist told me my doctor wasn't in for the rest of the week and she wasn't sure whether another doctor could issue the form, whether they would be allowed to fax it, etc... So I rang dh to tell him that the form had been lost and wound up blubbing my eyes out on the phone! So I ended up feeling like I'd been through the emotional mill and it wasn't even 10am!!

Darling dh rang the doctors and gave them the vital piece of info that I had omitted to tell them in my upset - ie. that I'd had two consecutive m/c - and they said they were sure it wouldn't be a problem... He's my hero at the moment!!!

time4tea · 15/02/2007 11:14

those emotions are amazing, I agree exactly that it takes a small cock-up to drive you to fury (poor old DH got his ear bent for undercooking rice last week, poor fellow) but when something nice happens or someone is helpful it makes the whole universe seem like a kinder place... but yes, it is a roller-coaster. glad your DH is being your champion!

its lovely sunny weather here and to admit that this is a something I'm enjoying it (what a bad mother), DS has a cold and is loafing on the sofa, so much quieter and taking naps... can get on with packing my hospital bag . DH will be off work from tonight, so it feels really like we're in final countdown. Bub is booting around, but it seems unreal that he/she will be with us soon. Can't quite believe it.

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Mumpbump · 15/02/2007 12:28

Anything gets me going at the moment. Happy or sad... Dh is slightly bemused at it as I don't remember being this emotional when I was pg with ds, but I guess you're right that it's the additional worry now I've had two m/c. It's funny, isn't it, how you can hold it all together 90% of the time, but once you scratch the surface...

T4T - I bet I'll be crying when I see your birth announcement!!! I feel so excited for you!