Pregnancy after infertility III

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Spotting, cramping, "is my clearblue digi accurate?",* viability scans, measuring behind, measuring ahead, high hcg, low hcg, morning sickness, lack of morning sickness, anomaly scans....

That's right, folks, it's the place where scanxiety really means something, where the feeling like you're always going to be on the wrong side of statistics nevers go away, and where moments of sheer terror are par for the course ...it's pregnancy after infertility.

Join if you want to hang out with a supportive group of women across all different stages of pregnancy who can't believe they got here and are hoping like hell its all going to be ok.

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2679146-Pregnancy-after-infertility-II

*hint for newbies: it's not

Thank you everyone , knowing you guys are behind me does help.

Friends - sorry to hear about your accident, how scary for you. Following our procedure the deepest fluid levels for the twins are: 4.3cm and 2.7cm. It states this is normal
I can only believe what they're saying and kings is one of the best fetal medicine units.
Before the procedure twin 1 had 11cm and twin 2 only 1cm. X

Tiger I am so sorry for your loss. I've had two ERPC's and the procedure itself was fine. Look after both of you afterwards, and don't rush back to work. There can be a bit of a hormone crash a few days after the procedure so you may feel extra teary then. I planted a rose in the garden that flowered when the baby would have been due, and I found that healing in some ways.

Sammy glad to hear you are on the other side of it all and the fluid levels change so rapidly.

Hope everyone else is ok, just over 7 weeks here and puking is firmly here.

tiger I'm so so sorry. Thinking of you and sending much love your way.

Sammy I was so glad to hear your update. Hoping for good news at your next scan.

Welcome hedgehog - sorry to hear about what you've been through.

Blondes lovely news on your little girl!

Friends that sounds scary, sorry I don't have any knowledge on this, but hope you're OK.

MPP I'm due 15 April. I know what you mean, just need to get through this week!

Hope everyone's doing OK.

Welcome Hedgehog! These early weeks, particular after an MMC are so tough aren't they?

Sammy so pleased to hear you have been discharged and your fluid is looking better. Are you staying off work a while longer?

Tiger I would agree completely with what Second has said. Physically, after my ERPC in July, I recovered after 3 days but emotionally it took a lot longer to feel ready to return to work. Please take care of yourself and definitely don't return until you are ready. I am just so sorry you are in this situation

MPP Yes they have moved my scan to Friday. Scanxiety is in full flow. How are you getting on?

Friends God that sounds so scary! You poor thing. You must have been/be so worried. How did the accident happen? I'm glad you and baby are ok. What a relief!

Hi ladies, I've never posted anything before. I had unsuccessfully tried to get pregnant for 15 years. Unexplained infertility and husband's healthy sperm analysis. Had every treatment going including Clomid, several failed IUIs, IVF, ICSI. I took supplements, adjusted my diet, read every book for advice. I was told by specialists that I had no chance of becoming pregnant unless I did IVF again with donated eggs, even then there would only be a slim chance of success. Felt absolutely hopeless and eventually gave up. Well suddenly this year I fell pregnant naturally!!! Still can't believe it. It's the best news ever . now I am 18 weeks pregnant, have had a healthy 12 week scan but can't relax as I'm sure everything will go wrong. After 15 years of trying it's crazy but just terrifying. Anyone else in this situation feeling the same.

Grumple stealth zenZie mmp - I am thrilled - honestly didn't care what sex was - Just want to be a mummy - and actually thought I was carrying a boy lol but yes df and I are overjoyed 💓💓💓💓

Hedgehog welcome. Think we've met before. All crossed that this preg will be the one , tho the wait for the Heartbeat is worse then the 2ww

Sammy - glad all is going well with your girls and blood flow is good and wow how much the fluids have changed with the operation

Tiger much love 💐

Friends. Sorry I don't know anything about 4/2 and fluid. Hope someone else can help - the fact your cervix is shut is good

Second sunrise. There is a fab hg thread I'm on if you think sickness is more
Then morning sickness

Kiwi. Thanks

Harmony - i was ttc for 10yrs so can understand your worry and concern but how amazing to have fallen naturally - I am assuming you are 40+ - again im in a good thread for the over 40's if you are illegible to join 😁

Thank you everyone.

Rose I'm off work until Tuesday next week, but doctor did say if I'm not ready then go back and she'll sign me off longer.

That change in fluid is because they removed nearly 2 litres from twin 1 and added some to twin 2, it's not all been natural!

Today I am in agony down my left side. It's the side they did the op, but it seems to be getting worse not better. I've got a doctors appointment in an hour as just want to check that a) I shouldn't be worried about the babies, and b) my wound isn't infected or something. Xx

Thanks ladies.
Sammy, that's reassuring huge thanks. I hope all goes well today at the doctors. It's understandable that you have so much concern. I hope that they can reassure you.

Blondes. Yeah it is a positive sign isn't. Just got to try stay sane now for four weeks. I bet you're on cloud 9 with your news. I'm really pleased for you.

Rosebud, The person wasn't paying attention. We could see it happening in slow motion. It was mainly shock and panic but I also felt incredibly guilty because my reaction was to put my hands in front of my face. ( So I felt like a bad person for not automatically protecting my baby)

oh gosh, Friends sorry to hear about your accident! That must have been frightening for you, and I am glad you are ok. I don't know anything about the fluid though, so I'm no help there I'm afraid but if the person at your private scan thought it was ok, then please try not to worry too much (stupid thing to say I know).

Sammy I'm sorry to hear you're in pain today. Hopefully your doctor will be able to put your mind at rest. You should definitely take as much time off as you need. You don't need the stress of work on top of this if you're not feeling up to it.

SecondSunrise I am sorry for your losses. What a lovely idea about planting the rose. I hope that helped you [fowers] Sorry to hear about the puking!!

Kiwi Ah, so we are due a week apart! I'll be checking in tomorrow for your update about your scan. One more sleep for you, then the wait is over!

Rosebud that's irritating that they moved it to Friday! Scanxiety for Friday is also here in full flow. Time is creeping by! Hope you're ok.

Welcome Harmony and congratulations! How fantastic that it happened naturally after all that trying and waiting! I hadn't been trying anywhere near as long as that and I still can't relax, so I can't imagine how you must be feeling! :-)

Waves to everyone else :-)

Harmony Congratulations- and after such a very long time of trying! That's amazing!

Blondes congratulations on your little girl. It must make it all feel more real and exciting!

Sammy Glad you are off work and your doctor is willing to be guided by you for future time off. How did your appointment go today? Have they worked out what is causing the pain? Thinking of you x

Oh Friends That sounds so scary. Don't feel bad, it's just human instinct to put your arms up in a situation like that. Have you got a follow up appointment to check everything is ok?

MPP Mines at 11:40am on Friday. How about you?

Nausea is so much less now for me at 9+5- it's freaking me out a bit. I vomited on Monday morn but since then have felt pretty normal. However dizziness/light headedness has started. The sooner Friday comes the better.

Please may I rejoin?

Some of you may already be aware from other threads that I was going through another fresh IVF cycle as we were approaching Jovan's due date. I was in my 2ww when I popped up on this board last week and didn't mention it as I didn't want to jinx anything! I still don't want to jinx anything by coming back but now I've had a BFP (or 4, ahem) so it's official. I'm 4+2, so very very early still.

I'm having a viability scan on 14 December at my clinic but also have to be referred by my GP to the EPU as soon as possible due to my history.

Right now, I'm in a happy bubble but I'm sure the anxiety will kick in before too long. If I thought I was anxious in my last pregnancy, it pales into insignificance with how I've been feeling any time I've been thinking about a future pregnancy.

Due to my incompetent cervix, they want to monitor me through the first trimester until I have the stitch put in at 12-14wks (if I get that far of course) plus progesterone and/or bed rest! An occupational health doctor that I was referred to through work (who happened to be a gynaecologist) suggested that I might need to stop working early in the second trimester, so I'm completely prepared for this not being a normal pregnancy.

And on that point, after everything I've been through, I know more about miscarriage and stillbirth than I've ever wanted to know - and my approach to risk is completely skewed. I know too many otherwise healthy babies that didn't make it for completely preventable reasons. I'm going to be avoiding lots of things that are totally normal during pregnancy- sex, flying, caffeine etc - on top of all the usual precautions. I need to mention that now because if I ever come across as the voice of doom, please tell me to calm down!

This isn't where we thought we would be at this time, and we will never forget Jovan, but this little embie on board gives us some hope. I'm back in the happy bubble 😊

Sammy great to hear that you're home and the twins are doing better. No need to rush back to work. Hope that everything was ok at the doctors today.

Kiwi hope the baby on board badge is doing its job. I needed one v early on last time as I was sick after standing on a tube for just one stop, and once the sickness subsided, backache kicked in. (I've ordered a new one already)

Friends that must be v scary but I'm glad you and baby are ok.

Tiger hope you're doing as well as you can after the ERPC today. Take it easy.

Blueroses. I'm so pleased that you're back on this thread! Huge congratulations to you and your DH.

I wasn't around last time but I'm so sorry for the loss of Jovan. You've been through so much this year I'm not surprised you want to be cautious.

I'm really pleased that they're looking after you, you definitely deserve to be in the happy bubble.

Welcome back Blue

Lovely to have you back and sure doctors will take great care with you this time due to history

Def a stitch. TBH I THink all cervix's should be checked each scan. Takes few mins. I have mine checked due to cone biopsy 20ish years ago and have less/narrow cervix compared to others

During smears often got asked if students could have a look - I agreed. How else can they learn

Also got me used to people peering up my fanjo 😂😂

Do whatever it takes. Whether bedrest no work etc

Df won't dtd with me. He said if something hppsned to bubs he would never forgive his self

I do understand but Christ pregnant woman get horny !!!!

Thank you Friends, Blue and Blondes.

The image of those poor students... 😂

Agree that the cervix should be checked every time, and really have no idea why it's not routine. It makes me v angry.

Glad to make you smile 😬😬

Poor me. They knew what they are doing going into gynee work. And why 99% are men 😱🙄😳

Hi ladies, please may I join?

I've been on the IVF buddies thread with Blueroses. This was my second cycle of icsi after 3 years TTC. I'm currently 5 weeks 1 day so very early days and my scan is not until 19th Dec.

I had faint second lines on Sat & Sun and a much stronger line on Tues, but it still doesn't feel real. I feel happy for a few hours after a positive test, but then I just get stressed and negative, I'm trying to feel positive but I'm finding it really hard.

Blueroses So great to see you back here! As you already know, I am so so happy for you.

Welcome Custard Congratulations!

Can I ask for some advice please everyone- I am getting a dull achey sensation in my lower abdomen that is radiating into my groin. It's not painful, just uncomfortable. Anyone know what this is? Do I need to be worried?

Welcome Custard! It's really hard, I'm pretty much the same. I think sometimes for me it's a bit of a defence mechanism. Hope time goes quick for you.

Rose. I have this! it comes and goes and I generally feel it more on one side.I've had a lot of cramps/stretching feelings all the way through.

Great to see you on here Blueroses! Deep breaths. I won't be telling you off for being voice of doom - would much rather listen to the voice of hard-won experience. Sounds like we need a campaign for routine cervix measuring. But equally there's every reason to hope you (and everyone here) will have a safe and uneventful pregnancy and birth.

Welcome aboard Harmony and Custard!

Rosebud, my midwife told me not to worry about any abdominal aches and pains unless they were unusually severe. Keeping everything crossed for your scan tomorrow - hang in there lovely.

Wonderful to see you out of hospital Sammy - must be such a relief. Rest up.

Thinking of you Tiger.

Just got a voicemail from the ultrasound clinic asking me to give them a ring. The harmony results must be back. I'm quite scared - I thought they were going to send a letter so a phone call seems ominous. Wish me luck.

OK, now I feel like an idiot. Resuts from SAFE test (equivalent of Harmony) have come back as low risk. I feel like an idiot but also very, very lucky.

Welcome Custard!

Thanks Rosebud - agree that you should only worry about severe pain or cramping. There's a lot of stretching going on at the moment.

Aww bless Rebecca. Great news that the test has come back as low risk.

Hi guys

Just wanted to pop back and say our beautiful baby was born earlier this week, overdue but I avoided being induced.
Baby isn't feeding well at the moment so I do t have much time to post but I'm reading all your updates... X