Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

Ladies you know when you have a run of bad luck? Mine keeps going!! My washing machine flooded the kitchen, not once but twice, this morning. I was so close to tears! Little miss has been wriggling lots, I think she's telling me to hold it together!
The movements are so much more noticeable now, like someone said up thread, where it seems to move your whole belly. It's not quite like that yet but not far off!
I definitely have nausea back again and everything tastes strange just like I had early on. Extremely tired and I ache terribly. All the mums in the playground really seem to enjoy my misery too! (In a fun way!). Too many people commenting "oh you waddle now" aswel.... Roll on Christmas holidays

Oh Lynsey that's not good! I would have cried if that happened to me! But that's great about the movements! Can't wait to feel that.

I'm at a maths conference bec in Crewe... it's good but I'm exhausted already and we have to have dinner altogether and an evening speaker. I just want to get in to bed! Plus I look so fat in EVERYTHING! I don't seem to have a proper bump just a massively fat belly and humongous boobs!!

I'm with you Lynsey - 2016 has been the most hideous year for me so I feel like I'm on a run of bad luck myself and I'm fed up. Really looking forward to Christmas but also can't wait for this year to be over!
Dh has just gone to bed with the as diverse hump because we've fallen out over Christmas eve plans. Id be interested to know if you all think I'm being unreasonable so here goes. We will see the ils every day over Christmas and my parents a fair bit too. We ger very little family time just us three. This year it's my parents turn to host Christmas dinner so we are going to them in the afternoon. We alternate every year. Pil are popping in for breakfast to see dd. They are also away over New Year so I agreed we could do something with then Christmas eve too. I usually insist we have Christmas eve to ourselves as it is the only day we get, but I've relented this year as I'm trying to be fair as the pil feel they are missing out on Christmas day and new years day. I love my ils. They drive me crazy in the same way as my own parents but there is no ill feelings generally. Anyway. We agreed to go to tobogganing on Christmas Eve with three whole family. I can't join in as I will be almost 37 weeks so I get to sit in the cafe with my 2yo DN. Id anticipated going in the afternoon then coming home to bake cookies with dd, watch a film and do all of the traditional bed time stuff. However, they have left booking it so late that the only time slot available was 6pm, meaning we wouldn't get back until after 9pm. This is too late for my 5yo dd, plus means we can't do any of the snuggling and watching a film stuff that we always do. Plus I'd be left alone in a cafe with a cranky and tired 2yo whilst heavily pg. I said no but agreed to go for the snow play session that starts at half 4. More suited to dd anyway and means wed get back home for 6. DH has got the hump because 'Christmas is about family'. I pointed out that the activity excludes me so how is that 'family orientated'? Fil suggested a different activity and to do the Snowy stuff on a different day which I thought was a good compromise. But, that was shot down because the adults all want to do tobogganing and it HAS to be on Christmas Eve! I really don't want to keep dd up that late. She will end up grumpy and emotional as she will be so late to bed and I will be knackered as dh and I will end up having to set up the presents from Santa even later. I just don't get why we couldn't do the snowdome on a different day and go bowling on Christmas Eve. I feel really upset that dh just wants to do the fun stuff and doesn't really care that it means we miss out on our traditions or that none of it includes me. Am I being an emotional preggo?

whatser I'm with you on this one.
Family time needs to include you, your an important part of the family!! I also would be upset if I had to cancel our own little traditions to suit others. Traditions are what children grow up remembering, so I don't think your being out of order at all.

Thankfully the washing machine is fixed, order was restored and I enjoyed catching up on planet earth! I even had another bath. Is it normal to crave baths?? I can't keep away from them at the moment.

Argh! I've been admitted to hospital with dehydration and a high temperature after a sickness bug . I'm so worried about the effect on the baby.

Ladies I'm so worried! Since I found I was pregnant just over 2 weeks ago I've had awful non stop nausea. This morning I've woken up feeling absolutely fine so it's making me think the worst! Obviously the sickness was horrible but I thought it was definitely a good sign and now it's gone I feel so scared. But my early scan is not for another 9 days!!

Oh no newshoes. I really feel for you. That sickness bug spreads so quickly. When we all had it last week it was just horrendous. Your in the best place so let them look after you! Get well soon
highhopes don't panic! At this stage, your hormones come in waves so they might be on the calmer side right now, then a new surge will come and you'll feel rotten again...

whats like Lynsey I'm with you on that one - I also think it's much better to be honest, fall out now and then make it up and sort it out in a compromise everyone's OK with by Christmas eve, rather than if you'd bit your tongue and resented the disruption to your rituals. I'm making a point of setting boundaries and being assertive now so that when my baby comes I'll have managed people's expectations.

I had my 3D scan today, I'm 28+6 and was happily surprised to hear they'd estimate she's already about 3.5 lbs, she looks much cuter and chubbier than I'd thought she would at this stage and she has what look like DH's facial features, but I can see my own facial expressions and mannerisms in her movements. I'd post a picture to let you see but I'm worried I'd out myself if anyone I know in real life saw the thread as she looks too clearly like us :-) We got to watch her yawn and stretch her arms out towards us as if for a cuddle, which was gorgeous. She then went to sleep, and looked so peaceful. Definitely recommend 3D scans at this stage of pregnancy!

I feel really sick today which is making me feel better as have my scan on Tuesday. So it's reassuring me.

No whatser I agree completely. I think that an activity which excludes you that late on Xmas eve which you've relented to allow him to do is reasonable reason to be annoyed.

He needs to understand you are his family and that you've have been happier if it was earlier I. The day.

I would suggest possibly them all coming to you for lunch a snuggle in the afternoon watching films then the snow session, then perhaps letting him go and see his family and tobogganing whils you and DD have an evening to yourselves (which will be last one for a while once baby is there) before you and your DH have time to yourselves?

Sorry to everyone feeling so sick! newshoes hope you recover asap and get home for some rest!

Highhopes your symptoms will definitely come and go, how many weeks are you?? I had the exact same panic with my boobs, as soon as I fell pregnant I couldn't even touch them, then for one day they shrunk back down and didn't hurt!! I was so worried but then they came back and then went... etc. What I mean is... it's normal, don't worry!

Whatser I completely agree with you about the xmas eve thing... it should 100% include you and should not be something that adds stress especially when you'll be so heavily pregnant.

lucky that's so amazing you could see your baby so clearly!!!

I'm being paranoid again today... I'm so worried that the baby isn't growing as I'm just not feeling anything. Not even any real growing pains or anything?? My 20 week scan cannot come quick enough!!!

Thanks everyone. The ils will not change their plans. There is no compromise at all. Fil would, but I suspect this has more to do with sil insisting they 'always' go to tell snowdome on Christmas Eve and refusing to budge. Even though they don't 'always go' It's only been the last couple of years. SIL doesnt have kids though sp can be a little selfish. We haven't been before because dd was always too little to join in so I didn't see the point and we took her to the pantomime instead which she loved. Now she can join in it seemed like a good idea but not as late as they have booked it. Dh doesn't want to be without dd on Christmas Eve anymore than I do so he won't go on his own. He did apologise this morning but I am going to moan at mil next time I see her. They guilt trip us for not doing these type of things with them and then make no effort to compromise to suit us.
Anyway, I NEED I hope you feel better soon. I'm sure baby will be fine and at least the hospital can look after you. High hopes stay strong. Symptoms mean nothing I promise! Good luck for the scan Sah! And, Lucky, I'm so jealous of you getting a good look of your little one! Dh won't get a 3d scan as they freak him out!

X post jpeg. I felt the same as you in three weeks between 17 weeks and my scan. It's a horrible time. Stay positive though! It's not long now!

Hey All,
Been lurking since letting you all know about my BFP a few weeks ago!
Purple - big congrats, v v happy for you
New shoes - how are you feeling now?
Jpeg - hope the conference is going well and you can get some rest soon!
High hopes - your sickness sounds v similar to mine, can barely eat and can't cook due to smells, my OH is being very patient with me and I'm just sleeping as much as poss
Whatser - I agree with others how the plans should include you all (having already had a falling out with OH about Christmas plans!)
Lynsey - sounds awful but hope you feel better soon
Ants - so glad you got good news, such a relief
Apologies to anyone I've missed, have only ready last few pages quickly to catch up but so glad to see names here from the previous TTC thread

I'm now 8+2 in the midst of nausea, sore boobs and tiredness.
I had an early scan at 7+3 last week as I had an appointment (which had been v harde to get) at the recurrent MC clinic so wanted the scan to show all okay before I cancelled it.
The scan was great in that I got to see a healthy heartbeat and baby measuring exactly as it should for 7+3, I was so relieved about that...but sadly there is another sac with a smaller baby with less regular heartbeat that may not survive. I'm looking at the positives in that I'm grateful and happy to have a healthy one after 2 mc's - I am still holding out hope for number 2 as well but from what I've read (obvs googled a lot) even if no 2 does pass away there should be no effect on no 1 and should just be absorbed. I have also read good news stories about no 2 surviving so still got the hope there. I saw the midwife the day after the scan and she spoke as if it was still a twin pregnancy and said it was part of the reason I've had the sickness and tiredness so bad!
Got a letter for my 12 week scan too, 4 weeks tomorrow....not sure how I'll last till then, I was hoping I might get in a bit earlier due to the circumstances but nope...will see how I go but could always book another private one!

Hey ladies, just catching up and there is a lot so excuse the epic post! I've been so very ill the last few days. Woke up Friday morning being sick and just didn't stop until last night, couldn't go to work, couldn't even keep down water it was awful, was on the verge of ringing hospital. I don't know if it was just morning sickness really really bad or if I actually had a bug or something. I didn't have any other symptoms though like a temperature or diarrhoea or anything so I'm presuming pregnancy but just came out of nowhere and I've not been anything like that sick yet. Seem to be fine again today thankfully! So random.

Welcome emily and congrats! So sorry to hear what you've been through and fx for you that this is it and a healthy 9 months.

highhopes glad to hear you're doing well still except the sickness :(. Not long to go til the scan but every day goes so slow doesn't it. My scan is the 25th and I'm just counting down the days now. Feels like ages since my early scan although it was only 2 weeks ago. Please don't panic about the nausea, mine was worst (except the last 2 days lol) weeks 5-7 then got so much better overnight. I was convinced of the worst when I went for my scan as I'd felt fine for days but everything was fine. Now it comes and goes instead of constant like before.

I've been having cramps/twinges last few days too, anyone else had this? I know it's normal in the early stages and I had it early on weeks 5/6 but nothing since and now it's started up again? Hoping it's things stretching in there now I'm 11 weeks?

Congrats on the results newshoes! So sorry to hear you've been so ill, I'm sure baby will be fine though and you're in the best place now. Are you feeling any better?

lynsey you poor thing! You've really had it all thrown at you! You seem to deal with it all in your stride though, well done! I'd be crying haha. As for planet earth... I cried at that too!

Sorry to hear that mojitos, sounds horrible. Has it eased off now?

I felt okay this morning and felt worried as every other morning I've woken up feeling rough but it started in the afternoon today instead - not gone, just shifted - feels like a permanent hangover!

Great your scan is not too far away, so did you have one about 8 and then next will be around 12?

jbee yes I was sick the last time about 5pm yesterday and now fine again since! Very random. It's so strange how it varies isn't it, anything to make us worry! I had my early scan 2 weeks ago tomorrow, thought I was about 8 1/2 weeks they dated me 9+1, I'm 11 weeks exactly today and my nhs dating scan is the 25th so will be 12+5 if the first scan was right!

Had our 12 week scan almost 2 weeks ago and everything looked great. I am still in shock though, I dont think it feels real yet. OH is starting to get used to the idea and making practical plans. I'm 14+2 today so I hope out of the worst danger zone.
Started to feel ligament stretching pain very low down. Nausea gone but appetite still not 100% , otherwise I just feel a bit flat and lethargic. Mega busy next week with lots of travelling so not looking forward to that

Quick questions for those further on... when do you put together your birth plan? Is this something the midwife goes through with you? When is it discussed? And when are you told about antenatal classes? I know I've got ages to go yet but just trying to get an idea of timelines for these sorts of things!

Thanks for the kind words.

I'm feeling quite a bit better now. I've had 3 litres of intravenous fluids and some antiemetics.

Feeling completely drained. I was visiting friends in Bristol when this struck so I'm in hospital there. Who knows when I'll be in a fit state to drive home to Buckinghamshire.

On the plus side the hospital have been fab and I've been well looked after by lovely doctors and nurses.

You can write a birth plan at any point really. My midwife put on my notes that I was hoping for a water birth at my first appointment, simply because I'd mentioned it as my reason for choosing the hospital.i have. I wouldn't bother though. The best thing to do is to have an idea of what you would like in terms of pain relief and then just go with the flow. I don't know a single person whose births went to plan. It can be a source of disappointment and, in some cases, lead to feelings of depression if it doesn't happen.

Mojito I'm 11.6 and started experiencing twinges and cramps again last week once I had just hit the 11 week mark. I too hadn't had them since 5-6 weeks. Went for another early scan and all was fine, sonographer told me they are totally normal and it's just everything shifting around in there and making room.
Hope that helps to reassure u somewhat xx

Thanks everyone, I shouldn't have panicked as the nausea came back last night and I have woken up feeling queasy again.
I won't know how far along I am till my early scan next week but I think I'm somewhere between 7-9 weeks.

I'll be discharged from hospital later today and they've just done a scan to check the baby and all is well. It's such a relief. I couldn't imagine how the baby could possibly be OK after what I've been through. Our bodies are amazing!

I hope everyone else is OK today. I've got some catching up to do on the thread!

Glad to hear that new shoes and yes, it is amazing what our bodies can take at this time.

Highhopes - I had the same yesterday morning worrying I felt okay with the nausea but then it came back in the evening...and then this morning I had to pull over on the way to work to be sick - how classy must I have looked!

Mojitos - I'll be similar with you on scans - had the early one at 7+3 but then the next one isn't till 12+3, going to be a long wait (unless I cave and book another early one!)

Oooh newshoes what hospital if you don't mind me asking? I'm in bristol and worrying about the bad things I've heard about maternity services so nice to hear some positive feedback for a change! Im presuming it's maternity anyway or is it just a general department for that type of thing? So glad you're feeling better, that's alot of fluid! Are you travelling straight back or resting another day or so first?

Thanks whatser that's interesting to know and I never really thought about it like that. I do want to be in the pool for early labour if possible (I've chosen a MLU with pools) and I'm not sure what pain relief I want, planning to go with the flow and see what how I feel I'm coping when it comes to it but I am put off pethadine or whatever it's called because of the drowsiness. I know I want an active birth though and on all fours or standing to give birth preferably so hopefully I won't feel I need an epidural but not ruling it out! I guess that only leaves gas and air though?! I want delayed cord clamping but I've heard that is more standard practice now anyway?

mrspage that is very reassuring thank you!

Hope everyone is well today and glad you're reassured by the nausea highhopes bet you're not glad it's back, hope you enjoyed the brief relief haha.