Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

Highhopes I paid £100 for one that was vaginal or abdominal what ever was necessary and I was 7 weeks (I think!) and they could see a teeny baby just doing it on my tummy! I would wait as long as you think you can, maybe 9 weeks? And then do the abdominal one.

I had a reassurance scan at 8+3 (they then dated me at 8+6) and the abdominal scan was more than clear. I had a little jellybean bouncing around, how odd the way your place works them! I was told if they couldn't see anything abdominally then they'd do the other anyway.
Just a quick hint, I also searched 'special offers on baby scans' and it bought up a whole list of places that I didn't know about just from searching 'private baby scans'.
There is a place close to me that offers a scan a week for £99 from week 8 til 15. I thoughts that's brilliant. 7 scans for £99 is incredible. Quite glad I didn't know about them at the time though as I'd have driven myself mad going every week!

Thanks ladies, that's really helpful!

I took a conception indicator test last sunday and it said 3+ so going by that, the minimum I could be on 22/11 (when I'm thinking of booking the scan) is 8+2 and going by last period the maximum I could be is 10+1 so hopefully they should get a good view by then.

Wow I would've definitely been tempted by the scan a week package Lynsey !

I had trans abdominal and vaginal one at 6 weeks 5 days you could see a heartbeat through my tummy but she got a much better view and measurement vaginally.

12 week scan tomorrow I should be 13w3d by my last scan. Worried if everything thing is ok and if baby will have continued growing fast as I will miss the nucal measurement (I was measuring 4 days behind at 6w5d and 4 days ahead at 10w1d I know when ovulated as I was taking bbt and baby can't be any bigger as I was bleeding from mc up to current estimated conception date s didn't dtd)!

I agree with those asking about early scans that 8-9 weeks is the best time to go. Mine was abdominal and the little baby bean with a heartbeat was very clear straight away. We even got a 3D picture!
Highhopes Hopefully you'll be further along and then you won't have long to wait to the 12 week thresh mark!

I know there are a few teachers on the thread; have any of you told pupils yet? 24 weeks tomorrow and the scarves and big cardis are not really hiding it any more so I need to tell my class of 6 year olds before parents start giving me funny looks!

That's impressive Nasch that you've made it to 24 weeks without telling them! I'm only 16+2 and I'm already thinking how much longer can I last! I'm sure they haven't even noticed my belly! I'm think after the 20 week scan I'll tell them. I have a very very challenging tutor group and I'm hoping when they find out I'm pregnant they might calm down! What age do you teach? I think I'll try to tell my sixth formers first just as otherwise they will worry about who will teach them when I leave.

I've had lots of sort of pain very low down today... is this normal? It's not uncomfortable but it's noticeable and I've been feeling it most of the afternoon. Anyone had the same?

I told my GCSE pupils at about 14 weeks as I teach Drama so needed to rein things in a bit. The rest of the school I told after the summer when I was 20 odd weeks. I had to tell my year group as I am a Head of Year too so didnt want them to find out via other kids.

Is the pain you are feeling at the bottom of your belly? It is most likely stretching. I had it a lot in the early stages. I get it now when I need to go to the toilet and there just isnt any room left!

Thanks whatser... yes right at the bottom, almost by my pubic bone?? I'm sure it's just me getting bigger!

Jpeg They're so young I'm not sure they'd notice (6/7) I'm only really telling them so they can tell their parents before they start wondering why I'm keeping it secret! I've had a couple of looks from the older children but only in the last week and none of them have been brave enough to say anything!
Not really sure how to tell them, with them being so little I'm a bit worried by the potential questions!

My sil had the same worries and was asked how the baby got in her tummy by her ks1 class. She told them that she wished on a shooting star!
My 5 year old asked me the same thing when we told her about this baby. I told her mummy and daddy had a special cuddle. She understands mummy has a special egg and daddy has a special seed and when we want to have a baby we have a special cuddle and they mix together. I've always felt age appropriate honesty is the way to go, but I'm her parent so I can say what I like. It's much harder when you are their teacher. A few days later dd asked how I found out the baby was there so I decided to show her the pregnancy test and explain how it works. She then asked why I took the test if I didn't know the baby was there! I don't envy you, the questions are endless! My niece and dd were pretending they had a baby in their tummies the other day. They are both 5. Sil made the mistake of saying 'how did they get in there?!' and DN turned around and said 'DD is the daddy and I ate her special seed!'

Aww I love the shooting star idea!

Whatser you're right, I would do the same if/when it comes up with my own children but it's not really my place as a teacher! I'm really nervous about it!

I'm cringing at the idea of being in your postition ladies, my older kids know, but they know that quietly if u know what I mean and the little kids are 4 8 & 9 and my oldest heard kids in class talking about sex and came home asking what it was, I nearly died and told him it's not something kids should know until they are 10 lol when he got to 9 he said only 1 more year before you have to tell me everything 😬😬😬 lol
My kids are very much sheltered from grown up stuff, they aren't naieve but there's only so much grown up stuff I like to tell them, I think kids just aren't kids for long enough any more.
I can imagine you teachers being in the 'educating young minds industry' you probably don't agree with me but I suppose it each to their own xxx

I think you have to go with your gut as a parent Bec - there is no right or wrong. I'm 29 weeks today! Feeling knackered too!

Bec I think you've taken a good approach. Some children know far too much sometimes. And I do think for the age I teach it's up to the parents to decide what to tell them about such things. I don't want to tell them anything contradictory to what their parents say so hopefully we'll avoid the subject.

I told them all today. Much excitement ensued but no awkward questions so far! It was lovely how sweet they all were about it.

24 weeks today! (A mental milestone for me; feels good.)

That's so cute you teach little ones Nasch! I bet it's hard to deal with the questions though! I'm thinking I'll tell my lot in a few weeks after the 20 week scan.

Just picked up an order from mothercare of some babygros and baby towels... making me very excited!

Hi, hoping I can join late. Pregnant again and trying not to get too freaked out after having mc in September.

Hope the scan went well today McBaby.

Oh Jpeg I'm so glad you said about towels, I'm ordering DS a mattress off there & get money off and had no idea what to get with it.

Aw Nasch 24 weeks, well done on making your mental milestone.

I'm 22+1 now and my belly moves a lot more, plus nothing can go on or near the bump or baby goes kick mad. We've finalised the girl's name as well so just boys now.
My due date of my last MC was Halloween and I struggled a bit but I feel I coped well, being this pregnant helped and I read a lot of blogger's posts on MC and trying again afterwards which helped a lot.

Hope everyone had a good week & sorry if I missed anyone out. Currently eating home made apple crumble and getting ready to binge watch Gilmore Girls in bed, definitely enjoy it a bit much when OH works nights.

Morning all, just checking in to wish you all a nice weekend.
Week has been so hectic, I'm wiped out. I have a cold, 2 little ones both have it too (how I got it in the first place!) Then my 4 yr old has a viral infection and an ear infection so on antibiotics, last night was spent running back and forth to the toilet with youngest who has diarrhoea 😫 then I woke up with a terrible earache too. Glad ear infections aren't contagious otherwise would be cursing my child!
Apart from that, all is well! Baby is moving lots but can't stop panicking about movements, this pregnancy has just been such a worry. I know you all know the feeling.
I've bought all I can at moment, just the pushchair left to get and sleepsuits etc as I go along.

So onto a slightly different question (hope I'm not being too personal) but I'm wondering how everyone will be feeding baby? I have never felt comfortable with breastfeeding, I can't explain the feeling, it's just not right for me...but! I had an idea yesterday that may be a compromise? I've bought a breastfeeding pump as I'll still get the milk in, and I'm thinking of trying to express the milk to give baby via a bottle? Has anyone ever expressed milk? Do you think my idea sounds ok?! This is totally new territory as my boys were all formula fed.

I found that I had no success at all with pumping BUT I had lactation failure so that is probably why. Is there any reason why you feel you should do it differently this time? I'm all for breastfeeding, tried to do it last time, aiming to do it this time etc. But, I know ff babies are just as healthy/clever/perfect as bf babies. The main benefits of breast milk are the antibodies provided by the mother which can only be a good thing. But, ff babies can be just as healthy. I'm not overthinking any of it this time. The guilt I felt over 'failing' last time nearly sent me over the edge and I had a medically diagnosed problem. I'm not putting myself through that again. For me, bf is easier and less faff, but if I get no milk again then I'm going to confidently ff. I'm only trying a pump if bfing is successful because then I can introduce a daily bottle so dh can do a daily feed. I think your plan is brilliant because it is YOUR plan. If it is right for you then no one else gets a say. The ideal is a happy mum and a loved and nurtured baby.

Morning Lynsey aww your week sounds full on. Hope you all feel better soon.

I panic a little over movements but they've gone really active this week so haven't needed to yet.

Feeding wise, I breastfed DS up until 2 months ago & will this one as well. I've already got colustrum being produced so after 30 weeks will start freezing it.

Expressing is a good way to go if you're not comfortable with feeding. Is it electric? I've got one but never been that successful with it but need to try new breast parts for it to see if that's the issue.

There's an expressing group on Facebook my friend is a member of as she expressed for up to a year. The only thing she struggled with was expressing through the night as well as you need to keep the supply going but got used to it quickly.

I've seen a few threads on here about expressing as well.

I still can't believe it's Saturday taking DS to a firework display tonight & hoping he likes it.
Is anyone else eating for the country? I'm having smaller meals to spread it out but cannot stop.

Thank you whatser and dino.
There isn't a specific reason for wanting to do it different, I just thought it would be worth trying as I'll be producing the milk anyway and it could also cut costs of formula?! I have no idea where to start and thought I could just do it so we have enough not to need fresh formula ones needed in the night. Can you alternate between breast and formula?! I really am clueless :-/
I'm sorry if I come across as stupid, it's just not something I've ever needed to know and therefore totally clueless.
I guess I should read up some more on it now and see if it really is a possibility for us. Grrr I hate not knowing what I'm doing.

The more I read, the more I think it's too overwhelming. I don't know if I'd be able to express so many times a day with a newborn, 3 kids, a partner and house all to think about and run around after. I'm thinking the pump will end up on eBay :-/ I know what I'm doing with formula so maybe in this case, "don't try and fix what isn't broke" applies.

Lynsey I've been reading about combination feeding which is where you use a combination of breast feeding and then some formula feeds.

This is what I am hoping/planning to do so that my baby is used to having formula for one or two feeds a day, just in case I am ever not available (illness or whatever) and because I'm a musician and I'm hoping to be able to play in concerts once the baby is 5/6 months old which will mean someone else feeding him/her.

I believe advice is that in order to get your supply sorted that you should breastfeed for the first 6 weeks before introducing the occasional formula feed.

I need to read a lot more about it! I also know that I'm daft to try to 'plan' anything where this baby is concerned because it will be what it will be!

Aw Lynsey you're not coming across as stupid.
The government & NHS want more women to breastfeed but don't provide enough available information to enable decisions to be made worth confidence so it's not you.

I know you've got a lot on your plate but did you want to see if there's an antenatal breastfeeding class or breastfeeding group near you?
My local children's centre do both of these which would have people who have will have the right knowledge. Also at a breastfeeding group you might find someone who expressed.

It is hard & around the clock but don't feel guilty for FF if it's what is best for you. Happy mum is happy baby at the end of the day.

You could speak to your midwife & can point you in the right direction.

I was able to do a ton of reading on breastfeeding before DS was born & I was prepared for it to take up to 8 weeks to get right with getting supply up, checking latches & position & checking for weight gain.
I also had a photo on my phone of the sizes of babies's stomachs from newborn up to a year as well.

I was lucky in that DS latched perfectly & no issues apart from having to go dairy free at 5 weeks old.

Do what feels right for you.