Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

Great news on the scan dino but sorry that's it's a possible CS for you. I've heard the recovery is a lot quicker these days and thank god they spotted the problem now.
Welcome to even more newbies!
Nothing much to report here either, which in my opinion is the best way! I realised yesterday I'm feeling different types of movement now, like baby fidgeting around aswel as kicks. I enjoy all the movements so it's lovely they are getting stronger. Still using my doppler and noticed baby kicks at it when I do! Means my usage of it is getting less now as don't need it so much.
Midwife next week and realised it's right in the middle of half term! So do I postpone or take the kiddies?! Might have to call and check what she prefers I think...

Thanks lynsey, just a complete shock as all previous scans they were sure it was posterior.
If I have an elective, healing is easier just will have a toddler & newborn welp.

Glad you're doing okay. The flips are amazing aren't they?

My midwife doesn't mind but depends where your appointments are & if kids are easily distracted.

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35 weeks here. Keep going ladies

My placenta is anterior and low lying too dolerite. I have a scan booked in 5 weeks to see if it has moved. The bottom of my bump is less firm than the top and I can still hear the placenta low down when I use my doppler. I had an anterior placenta with dd too and she was born back to back. If mine remains low I'll update with the procedure. I really do not want a section but if that is what needs to happen then I'm going to go with it. I've hadv10 weeks to get used to the idea though as mine was found at 16 weeks. Give yourself some time. Lovely scan picture BTW x

Sorry to hear it's a change of plan for the birth you wanted dino, but good news baby's doing well! Just wanted to say I had an emergency CS with Dd (so totally different circumstances) but recovery was much better than I expected - lived on a top floor flat with no lift at the time and was able to get up and down the stairs within a couple of days of the op, and never needed anything stronger than paracetamol afterwards. Did have to get OH to do the majority of nappy changes for the first couple of weeks though (shame). Obviously didn't also have a toddler to contend with at the time though! Would genuinely consider an elective for future births, having done it once.

net good luck with your scan today. I remember you saying today was a significant day for your family because of your Dad. I hope today goes well for you and your family.

Thanks Ants, presently in the waiting room trying hard not to be a jibber in wreck. Told DH I don't want to do this and want to go home. I was when he asked why!!

Thinking of you net...

One perfect scan done and dusted. So bloody relieved. Bit of drama at the outset due to politics between a researcher who had bad luck in the taking my blood and the sonographer who needed to get on. In fairness when I said I'd had 5 miscarriages son needed them to calm things down a bit otherwise I'd be a mess they listened and we're excellent thereafter.

Scan took a while as our little tinker kept doing a head stand. Queue me doing star jumps in the patient toilet in my new heavy boots. Goodness only knows what the people in the waiting room thought, hearing that then seeing me emerge red and panting!

Slightly adjusted due date of 29th April, so now 12 w +3, slightly different from you Ants. I know you've told me before sorry, but is your scan tomorrow? Good luck x

Have texted my brother a pic and he's delighted, not least as Dad would have been too.

Sorry to hear you've had such a shock Dino, but glad to hear you're getting used to idea now. It just feels so strange when things don't work out as we envisaged isn't it?

That's great news Net .

I hope everyone else is feeling OK today.

Really nice news net!

Great news net. A lovely scan pic too.

My scan is tomorrow. Really nervous but at least by the end of tomorrow I'll know.

Aw net that's brilliant news, you must be so relieved now.
I've done the star jumps with DS before, I nearly had to yesterday but instead they tilted me almost upside down.
I'm feeling a lot better about it now as yesterday it was just all information and completely changing everything I had planned even though baby's don't do plans haha.

I'm feeling the same about a section whatser, elective seems to be easier to recover from than emergency and can be out the next day if there's no problems so trying to focus on the positives. Hope yours moves.

Thank you shrimpy, your post really helped and such a shame about the nappy changes haha. Moving asap seems to be best way.

Sorry I just saw my photo posted twice when my phone said it hadn't!

Hope everyone has a good day today. Apparently sleep is for weak this week with DS and clock is changing this weekend so more fun!

Congratulations net!
I think your being so calm dino for saying it's something that's turned your plans on its head but it's great you are going with the flow. What other choice is there really?

I realised I keep having these moments when I think "wow I'm having a baby". Then other times I almost forget. Does anyone else get that?!
We cheated for dinner tonight and ordered in and baby seemed to love it! Bouncing around.
Had a lovely chat with my partner earlier about our upcoming 4d scan, we are both as excited as each other now which is great

Great news on the scan net.

I'm 5+ 2 today, so still at the shall I pee on another stick stage. The last 10 days have just been so long!. I got the fastest strongest bfp on an IC this morning so cracked out the last CB digital but only got a 2-3. Just have to keep reminding myself how crap they are at truly telling the gestation, but I would so have loved a 3 +.
Ah well

Great news on the scan net!

Sorry it's taken me so long to catch up... dino hope you're ok after change of plans, sounds like you are being so calm about it all. I have no experience but a friend had a CS recently and recovered really quickly.

Cheating for dinner tonight too! Oven pizza! Having some veg on the side so I don't feel too guilty... may have bought some Ben and jerrys too!

Congratulations net! Moonlight, if it helps, with this pregnancy I've had the worst cramps from the get go. Had a bleed at 6 weeksish too. I'm now 26+4. We are in half term this week and supposed to be decorating the babies room. However, dh has decided that this is the week he wants to throw himself into becoming the next JK Rowling and has been working on one of three children's books he has written. I'm want to be supportive, but, so far he has spent the whole of Saturday on a writers course and then at least 5 hours per day working on his book. Today he took a couple of hours off to take dd to the cinema with me, and has now buggered off to the football. I'm fed up. He is struggling with anxiety with this pregnancy anyway and I wanted to do something to make it feel more real. I can do almost all of the decorating myself but he's banned me from doing the lining paper and I can't do the coving by myself so now I'm stuck. I hate feeling so useless. If my pregnancy was lower risk I'd just get on with it. I hate being dependent on others. If I moan I'm being unsupportive. I'm so hormonal too which doesn't help. Anyone else really tearful?

whatser I understand a little how you feel I think. We're doing up our house at the mo and I have cried several times as so tired and overwhelmed yet feel so useless! Bloody hormones! I'm used to being very hands on (knocking down walls, floor boarding etc) yet I can't even paint the woodwork at the mo coz of the fumes If I hadn't had 2 MMC and it wasn't still such early days maybe I'd be a bit less worried about all this. Sorry to hear you're having a tricky time too. Hopefully your dh will feel a bit better for having some time on his book then be ready to get stuck in!

Congrats on the scan dino good news on the baby at least but sorry things might not go as you'd hoped with the birth plan. Fx it does move though.

Thanks whatsername and I'm crying at everything already! Just got back from the cinema (the girl on the train) and I got teary and 2 of the adverts....

sah I've had bloods on a Saturday and a Sunday so I think it depends on the hospital. Mine is where all the bloods for the area are sent so the lab is open 24/7.

Congrats on the scan too net, shame about the drama but glad they sorted it out when you spoke up.

Good luck for tomorrow ants

I'm 6+5 today which is a day longer than I got last time so that's a good start. Going to book an early scan for next week. I was sick Sunday and yesterday and not today though so now I'm panicking about that... still feel sick all day long but not been sick. I've had a headache for 2 days straight too which is also worrying me but just trying to think it's generally hormone related not that they're going wrong :( Just wish I could stop worrying. I guess the stress won't be helping the headache either though.

Oh also... sorry in advance for the rant! I rang drs today to ask about the flu jab as my booking appointment isn't for another 2 weeks yet and I thought it's best to get it asap. Dr rang me back and was very relaxed about it basically said no need to worry, wait until I see the midwife and the drs don't generally get involved leave it all to them to sort out. He then said 'oh, but you're around 5 months now aren't you, they should have booked for you one by now'. So I had to explain no actually I'm not... turns out they have no record at all of my mc (despite 3 hospital trips for scans and bloods) and no record of this pg yet. Admittedly I haven't told them myself as last time they didn't want to know and just gave me number for the midwives to book direct so I skipped them this time and did that but seeing as I have already had 2 appointments with this one for bloods and a scan that's pretty shocking. If I hadn't said would they have just expected me to be heavily pregnant or had a child next time I went for whatever reason? Awful they have no record of the mc.

Stupid thing is my work gives us all a voucher for a free flu jab but when I went they asked if I was pg then said they wouldn't do it! It's the same jab surely? So now I guess I just wait 2 weeks to see midwife. Or book my voucher at another pharmacy and lie?

moonlight I had terrible headaches for a good few weeks earlier on in this pregnancy. It's horrid but totally normal. None of the side affects are that enjoyable! Although my hair was so limp in the early stages and now it's looking lovely. Shame I'm so spotty though :-/
Flu jab isn't urgent but do what feels right for you. I'm in no hurry, will have it when I'm told to!
The total lack of records is shocking and you've every right to be upset. I can only imagine the doctor was mortified. I hope such a big error will highlight the issue and get them on the ball.

I called midwife today and apparently I just go to maternity day Care and they do it. I'm sure my work will be well please with me abandoning ship for 3 hours but hey ho!
No one but my boss knows so they don't need to know why.

I booked my flu jab (and dd'a nasal one 45 mins after my midwifes app for next wed...) awkward as they are a 20 min drive away, think I need to postpone one x

Moonlight - I gather headaches are just another side effect as we adjust to HCG. I had them earlier in my pregnancy. Now at 10+6 I haven't had one for a couple of weeks.

I'm very crampy today. I've had short-lived specific crampy feelings for the past week which I've accepted as my uterus stretching but today has been more like the general ache I associate with period pain which has made me worry about MC.

Hoping I'll wake up tomorrow and find that everything's OK.

To all those in early pregnancy; with my 2nd pregnancy I had the worst pregnancy symptoms. I was being sick 4 times a day, heightened sense of smell etc. I had a missed miscarriage. My baby died at 8 weeks, we discovered this st a scan at 11 weeks and I finally miscarried at 13 weeks (forced to mc naturally by an understaffed hospital because it was Christmas). With dd and this pregnancy I've had no sickness, I bled this time, the cramps were awful in the first 12 weeks and felt like period pains. It's really hard, but try not to rely on symptoms as measure of whether things are OK. I found that taking one day at a time was the only thing that got me through. Every day I'd tell myself 'I'm 6+3 and today I am pregnant'. At 26+5 I feel like I've been pregnant forever!

Morning ladies, 13+ here, still got cramps on and off, got my first ever appointment with my surgery midwife lol wonder what she be like, nice I hope!
I was in next yesterday and bought a lovely set of girls baby grows and a not so me set of boys ones too, £34 for the 2 sets and I've got to say what a cheek they have charging that for slepsuits! Also was naughty in the baby isle in Asda but it bought me a bit of pleasure lol

The scan pics lovely Dino and I'm so confident that if you have to have a c you will be great, there's a lot of unsurity surrounding childbirth especially when you've a little one at home so I suppose you could look at the positives of being able to be prepared and know what's going on, I like having plans in place.

Moonlight that's terrible of the doctors, goes to show the complete lack of continuity between Services.

To the new ladies, the early days are so vile, knicker checking and symptom checking everyday, you've just got to take a day at a time and stay as calm as possible xxx

I've had a few arguments with the OH recently and he reckons he's stressed and I said that's absolutely fine but don't think you can take it out on me, and we had a big row, we talked and settled things now so hopefully let's see how long that lasts!
He's a funny fella tho, he loves me most when I'm asleep lol I often wake up in the middle of the nite and he's stroking my hair or kissing me back or tickling me, my mum thinks it's because when I'm asleep my big mouth of shut lol 😂😂