Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

mojitos I did hypnobirthing with DD and can recommend it. It's not actually hippy stuff which I was worried about too. It's really empowering as it teaches you about what your body is doing and what you can do to help it through breathing correctly. It helps you keep calm and focused through labour (as best you can!) The basic principle from what I remember is that the muscles in childbirth are involuntary so by relaxing, breathing in oxygen and creating endorphins you minimise pain and help things along.

Mojito - that is my plan as well at the xmas party!!
Though I am pretty rubbish at keeping a secret so have told a few people already!! Hubby not happy!!!

JPEG I'm trying to keep to my pre wedding/pregnancy diet as I am quite overweight and know the risks of being overweight whilst pregnant, that being said I haven't done a thing this week between PT last Saturday and today, got to make more effort this week to swim and gym!

Thanks dreaming I might have a look in to it when I'm further on :)

mrspage fair play to you. All I can think about come 4 o'clock is my bed! I weighed myself today and I've put on 4lbs in 2 weeks since the nausea started kicking in as eating is the only thing that helps :(!

Moonlight I'm finding it really interesting & actually, realistic.
The breathing exercises in yoga are helping as well. My midwives run a course but I need to find out the cost.
It's definitely helpful & ive checked out a few books from the library.
I'll definitely look out for the Yorkshire decaf, twinings English breakfast decaf was really good as well.

Just happy this one likes tea. DS wouldn't let me have any.

Really need a nap but DS has already had his.

Milicano Caff Free coffee is lovely. I hated announcing this pregnancy. It felt too much, too real and too scary. Did most of it via text too. I weighed myself today and I've gained just over a stone. At 26 weeks, Google says that the average gain is between 14 and 23lb so 15lb doesn't seem too bad. I've found the week really tricky. I feel so down and blue. I'm not sure if it's because it's national baby loss awareness week. Has anyone else struggled? It's made me think a lot about the baby I lost. I went out into the garden to sit with my plant for a few minutes today (we buried our baby in a planter and marked it with a plant called 'winter sun'). Anyway, the plant has started to flower. It's so beautiful. I feel so emotional about it all.

I think losing a baby makes you think so differently about announcing pregnancy. I would not put something on Facebook now, not that it's bad if people do, but I hated seeing them all after I had the MC and I just think how hard people try to conceive so I'm just going to tell people when I need to or when I'm so fat at obvious!!

I feel the same jpeg. A friend announced her pg on Facebook recently complete with scan picture and her due date which is 2 days after when I would have been due. I had a complete meltdown. I won't be announcing on Facebook either now. Just as and when I see people. I'm lucky that I know neither of my best friends are trying yet as we've talked about it and they know I am so I can be excited to tell them about it but you never know what anyone is going through. Another girl on my Facebook yesterday shared a Tommy's page about miscarriage awareness and announced she has had 2 miscarriages this year, I think that's so brave of her. With my first pregnancy I had told my manager already (she's lovely and we're quite close) and she asked if I would send an email to announce it to the whole office when I'm ready, I was like no way! I can't think of anything worse!

I don't tend to share anything on Facebook that is personal as I'm very private. I probably did share more when i was younger, but certainly not now as it makes me uncomfortable. I tend to post pictures of dd for my mum, mil and nan (who lives abroad) when we go on days out. Sometimes I post pictures of my cats being cute. Occasionally, a gloaty 'it's holiday time' post as I have a friend who is very anti teacher and I like winding him up. I never announced this pregnancy on fb. I did with dd, but my auntie suffered a mc at the same time and posted two days after saying she was going through hell having lost her baby and I felt so awful. In my first pg and before I had a mc I was so naive. I never even thought about bad things happening to me or other people. Didn't consider for a second that something might go wrong or other people might be struggling. After i upset my auntie i promised myself i wouldnt be so public next time. Then after it happened to me, I realised first hand how gut wrenching it is when you see those posts. Not that I think people shouldn't announce on fb if they want. They absolutely should - my tragedy shouldn't make them feel guilty about their blessing. I just knew it wasn't for me. This week I've posted about my mc though. I shared the video that Tommy's made about mc and I've participated in the wave of light. I haven't posted a photo of my baby's candle though as it's too private. Just my fireplace lit up as it usually is. The only reason I shared any of this stuff publically is because the only thing that has gotten me this far is having you lot to talk to. You women who know. I think we have to break the taboo and encourage people to talk. I'm mot a fb 'sharer' but I think it's important to show support to the charities working to support us I hope that other people might take comfort in knowing that I've been through it because it means they aren't alone. Thank you to you all for being there. Xxx

That's so amazingly brave of your friend moonlight I'm not sure I could be strong enough to do it. whatser I agree with everything you've said and that's so amazing you posted that... had I seen something like that when going through my MC it would have made me feel less alone.

I don't want people to think I'm. It excited about being pregnant, I'm over the moon, but I like to take every day as it comes, and I hate being the centre of attention. My MIL is so excited and so far it's all she has been talking about, she is even talking loads about the MC which I'm quite happy to not talk about. She means well and I know it's because she is excited but it's sort of driving me mad! Pregnancy is definitely a contributor I'm sure to my impatience!

I've just woken from a horrible nightmare that I was bleeding 😓 I can't remember what else was going on in it but I went to the toilet and there was blood everywhere. I've woken up really shaken but rushed to the toilet and there's nothing there. I don't want to wait wake dp up but I'm so upset.

Moonlight - exactly the same happened to me a couple of weeks ago. It's horrible. It's just our MC anxiety playing out.

I was camping in a tent when it happened to me so it was too much faff to go to the loo and check. I managed to talk myself down and go back to sleep!

Everything's been fine since then thankfully

I've been having lots of crazy dreams recently. And my new annoyance is that I'm waking up far too bloody early feeling very nauseous. I'm so tired at the moment; I really need all the sleep I can get.

Oh moonlight that sounds horrible. Like newshoes said it's just the MC anxiety playing out. I hope you get a better nights sleep tonight.

Thanks newshoes I'm feeling better now after telling myself it's just a dream and doesn't mean anything and getting a few more hours. Tomorrow will be the day I mc last time so it is right at the front of my mind.

Also, I'm the same with the nausea/hunger. I wake up feeling so sick and have to force down some food in my zombie state so I can get back to sleep.

Whatsername that's really brave of you too and well done for raising awareness. It's crazy when you think just how many people must have been through it and we gave no idea. Thank you lovely ladies for your support to me too :) I've only been here a few weeks but it's been so good to be able to share with you all and seek advice and hear positive stories.

I can associate with the bad dreams moonlight, they're horrible.

I won't announce on FB either. Last time round we put the news in Christmas cards. Actually my colleagues knew before a lot of friends as I had quite a lot of nausea.

Not too many symptoms yet. I would actually like a few more to reassure me, but don't think I felt much til 6 weeks last time only 5 today.

I had an early scan today just to reassure me. Baby was waving and kicking its legs around and measuring a few days ahead so now 10+5 not 10+1! (Same thing happened with dd1 she arrived on her original due date but i was counted as 6 days overdue). So relievec to have a happy 10 weeks scan compared to the mmc in July!

Great news Mcbaby!

Some days blossom I get tons! Like insane amounts! Other days not so much. I think it's pretty normal!

I just about survived a weekend at the inlaws... was very tough at some points!!

Loads of CM here and different consistencies. Weird!

I'm 10+4 today so another one with a similar due date.

Blossom - due date given as 9th May.

Lots of cm sometimes very thin and feels like I'm bleeding which freaks me out! Sometimes thicker like ewcm and freak out it's my plug and something has gone wrong!! All too stressful!!

But at least now I don't feel silly for getting out the maternity jeans this week! 3rd baby and looking pregnant already!

Glad your early scan went well mcbaby

I'm already getting loads of cm too, it's all like ewcm and I constantly feel like my period has started, thankfully I remember it well from my previous pregnancys too though.

We won't be announcing on fb either, we didn't last time and it was a relief that we didn't have to post a status announcing DDs stillbirth or anything. But another girl on my fb who posted statuses every day about her pregnancy (that I found difficult to deal with at the time) later went on to have a late miscarriage and had to post a status about it and she received some amazing support from people on there and she still posts about it now and obviously gets comfort from it so I guess it's just a personal choice. Il probably announce the birth on there when we have our next baby though

No... MIL knew as I had had so many problems already and she wanted to tell EVERYONE! When we told my OH's grandma she said "oh why have you done it the wrong way around?!" Because we aren't married! She wouldn't stop going on about it and asked if we would get married before the baby was born!! Uh... no!