Anyone fancy a late pregnancy misery loves company thread?

[TheInimitableMrsFanshawe]

38+1 with dc2. Completely torn between wanting this baby out RIGHT NOW and wanting to wait at least until 1 September. Uncomfortable, hot, tired, can't sleep properly, baby's movements now all uncomfortable at best and physically painful at worst.

And my in laws arrive for that weekend later today. They have been asked not to arrive before 5pm so that I have the day to use as I please without waiting in for them; I would put money on them ringing the bell hours earlier while I'm trying to nap

Well so far iv tried the following:

Took raspberry leaf tea capsules from about 34weeks - took with DD and had a quick labour can only report once baby pops out if he ever does

Nipple stimulation i get braxton hicks then nothing

Fresh pineapple just gives me a sore mouth

Oil of primrose oil both orally and internally too but still nothing even tried 2 capsules internally last night

Went into Holland and Barrett today to hunt out cleary sage oil to have a sniff but they didnt have an open bottle and the tiny bottle was £10

I feel like giving up as i can see me going until 12th then having to be induced

I don't know how you ladies with children are coping! If I had small people around me at the moment I would probably have to lock them away somewhere. I don't want to see or speak to anyone.

I've just had a massive nap and dribbled over everything within a metre radius. Needless to say sex is not on the cards and hasn't been for quite some time

Sending positive uterine vibes to those due/overdue.

I said to my midwife on Friday that I really wanted to avoid being induced. She said not to bother trying anything as it won't make any difference and the baby will come when it's ready (or when it's forced like last time!). So at the moment I am torn between trying not to think about it and wanting to try everything!

Sock if it was me, I wouldn't book anything unless I was prepared to lose the money. You know that if you book it, baby will arrive on time or early but if you don't book it, baby will be late!

Wrt movements, I've had times when I've suddenly thought that the baby has been a bit quiet, but generally it's very active. I can definitely feel it head butting my bladder and cervix!

Not pregnant but with my second I took some laxatives (really don't take this as medical advice please) but I had read about the bowel naturally emptying itself in prep for birth so I thought I would try.
It worked, probably just a coincidence as I gave birth to both mine at the same time 40+2 and 3.50 and 4.18 am. Weird. But that's what I did.
Good luck and congratulations to you all!

sock I wouldn't want to lose the money just in case. Think I'd plan something that you don't have to pay for in advance or maybe you could ask the spa if they can be flexible with the date so if you pay a deposit you can go another time?! No idea how that might work but just a thought!!

Going to try tonic water tonight as that's all I have anyway. I have also heard the only one that really is meant to help is sex. I've got a sweep booked for Thursday but I want the baby out by then because dd starts preschool Friday morning and I'm worried if I have the sweep Thursday I might then miss her starting nursery oh it's all so frustrating!!

Hi can I join? I'm 38+1 but kind of feel like due date was 1st sept because I really wanted sept rather than August (teacher). So not at all late but feeling like it should be soon as I've had that date in my head. Like you all I'm getting very achy walking about and get shooting pains up legs, fanny daggers etc! Really tired too and had a nap this afternoon. Also getting a bit worried about movements - feels very full in there!
Ds starts secondary school tomorrow and dd's into y6 so it'll be quiet when I've waved them off. Remembering having a toddler to contend with when having dd though 10 years ago! Feel a bit spoiled just lazing about.
Will drag myself to take ddog out though.
Would also love a water birth but couldn't with my other 2. Can be induced at 40 weeks but would rather avoid that.
Huge congratulations to all those with arrivals!

Course you can! The more the merrier! Or should that be misery loves company?

Welcome crepe!

I think because they say anytime from 37 weeks is full term, I've been expecting to go into labour for about the last 3 weeks. Now we're into September, I am getting impatient as just want to meet him or her!

Also as I was induced last time, I never really had a gradual build up of contractions and didn't have any time in labour at home. I am going through the "is it, isn't it" thing every time I need the loo or if baby gives me a particularly hard kick.

DH keeps asking if I feel any different or if I think labour is likely this evening. I wish I knew!

Welcome from me too crepe!

millie we haven't found out our baby's sex either - we seem to be massively in the minority for everyone I know. Am so excited to find out what/who we're having

Last time I did go into labour spontaneously but there weren't any massive signs before hand. Was a bit surprised when it all kicked off to be honest!

space haha yes to dribbling. WTF is that all about? I can't remember it from my last pregnancy. I wake up with a soaking pillow. So weird.

My DH keeps asking if I think it'll happen soon. He's making the most of the tail end of summer by trying to cycle into work. He can be home in 25 mins if he drives, probably an hour if he cycles including getting changed into his gear. I'm not happy but don't feel like I can impose a ban when 30 mins isn't that much in the grand scheme. I know they reckon subsequent labours are faster, was 20 hours with DS from 1st contraction to birth. So it's not going to be 90 mins is it?! Plus we're only 10 mins drive from hospital door to door. Thay said - I do know of someone who recently gave birth in her car outside the maternity unit, her partner had gone inside for a MW and they came out to find her holding the baby in her arms. . .

Ohidolike I think if you're more comfortable with your dh driving in then you should ask him to I'm sure he won't mind and if it makes you feel better! My dh works 45 minutes away if he is in his office but can work much further afield when he is out and about which he usually is most of the time. I've asked him to stay office based as much as he can next week as I'm nervous about it!

I guess you just never know how fast or slow your labour will be. I have also heard second time is usually quicker , I was in labour for about 22 hours with dd but I seemed to suddenly progress very fast towards the end which meant we only just got to hospital in time. I was starting to push in the lift up to the maternity unit and that's something I'm keen to avoid!

Thanks everyone who is posting on this thread you are all keeping me sane it's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way

Dilli yes everyone I know who is pregnant or recently had a baby found out the sex! I was tempted this time but we decided to go for a surprise. We didn't find out with DS either, although I had a strong feeling he was a boy. Haven't a clue this time, although leaning towards thinking it's a girl. Not really sure why. DS is desperate for a brother though!

Oh in the car?!! Eek! When I was pregnant with DS we only lived 5 mins from the hospital. Now we live quite rurally and are about 30 mins away. DH works about 35 mins away as well so am a bit anxious about him getting home from work and getting me to hospital in time. Although first labour was just over 15 hours from first contraction to DS being born so can't imagine this one will be much quicker. May be it will depend on whether I have to be induced again or not.

DH has gone to bed as he's fairly confident nothing is going to happen this evening and he'll have a long day at work tomorrow. I am eating chocolate on the sofa!

Argh you're worrying me now! Reckon dh would get to me an hour but then I've got to get someone to come and get dd too and then hospital is 30 minutes without any traffic...

Our plan is for my parents to come and collect DS if it's daytime, or pick him up from school, then they will take him to theirs so he doesn't see me in any pain. Then in the meantime DH will be on his way home from work and will take me to the hospital.

If it's night time, we will drop DS off at my parents on the way to hospital as they are only about 5 mins out the way but are closer to the hospital than us, and it will be quicker than waiting for them to get to ours.

The fact that I have a plan suggests that this baby will stay put and I'll end up being induced again!

Foxes can you ask your DH to drive this week so he can get home to you as quickly as possible? The weather isn't meant to be very good where we are anyway, mostly rain forecast here.

Sorry foxes, got your DH confused with oh's! Yes definitely ask him to stay office based. If he needs to get home during the day, the traffic will be better than at rush hour so it will be quicker than his usual commute I would have thought? Don't panic!

My parents go on holiday next week. DH parents live close by, they are great, we're incredibly lucky, and they are on standby for DS if I go into labour next week, but they just don't have the same relationship with him. My mum had DS every Monday when I was at work, and has done so while I've been off sick/ maternity. He adores them. In fact they've got him tonight so I can have a good rest. I did get randomly very tearful dropping him off, had a thought that this could be his last day as an only child. If the baby comes tonight/ tomorrow morning the next time he sees me could be after the baby's born. Then my head went into overdrive thinking what of something awful happened. . . Had a little wobble in the car. Bloody hormones!!

Oh I have been the same with DS. Keep looking at him thinking his whole life as he knows it is about to be turned upside down and he doesn't really have any idea of what's to come. I'm an only child and always wanted a sibling but I keep worrying what if they don't get on, what if he resents the new baby etc. It's making me tearful but I'm trying not to dwell on it.

I took annual leave so I had 4 weeks of his summer hols at home with him but we didn't do anywhere near as much stuff as I wanted to. I have been struggling with spd and can't walk far. We have mostly been to my parents and stayed at home. I've found it exhausting but then feel bad and like I've wasted my time with him as some days we don't seem to have done anything except watch tv. He's wanted me to play games but I can't get down on the floor or sit very comfortably so we haven't done that much either. And he's back to school tomorrow but I'm relieved and sad in equal measure, as well as feeling guilty for being relieved hormones indeed!

Iv been very teary today just thinking about how our life as 3 will change when we become 4. Dreading DD starting preschool on Wednesday as i know ill be an emotional wreck

to you all. I feel the same way about dd!

I'm up because I'm either in labour or having particularly strong BH and have no idea which! Trying to time them!

Oooh foxes u hace no idea either but iv just got up and either my waters have gone or iv just pee'd myself im thinking the latter the joys of pregnancy eh!

Im sure you can download a contraction app that will time them. Good luck

Jen it might be your waters?! Fingers crossed!

I'm still up as the contractions aren't easing off! Hope this is it but slightly freaking out...

It didnt smell like wee so hoping it is my waters. Have put a pad on an got back in bed. If it is then this is what happened with DD.

Fingers crossed for you foxes we could be labour buddies it's all a bit exciting scary

Oh wow good luck! Don't you have to go into hospital of your waters break? I have no experience as mine never broke with dd until she came out.

You dont have to i dont think. I did with DD but not 100% it is yet lol will give it 1/2 hour to see if more comes out. If it does then i know i definitely didnt wet myself lol

Good luck!