Anyone fancy a late pregnancy misery loves company thread?

[TheInimitableMrsFanshawe]

38+1 with dc2. Completely torn between wanting this baby out RIGHT NOW and wanting to wait at least until 1 September. Uncomfortable, hot, tired, can't sleep properly, baby's movements now all uncomfortable at best and physically painful at worst.

And my in laws arrive for that weekend later today. They have been asked not to arrive before 5pm so that I have the day to use as I please without waiting in for them; I would put money on them ringing the bell hours earlier while I'm trying to nap

Had a very mild cramp last night twice and that's it! Nothing compared to the BH I got with dd (had loads and she was 11 days late). I'm thinking it might have been after Id eaten pineapple! Seeing mw this morning but just routine today as I'm only 38+5.
I had such a weird dream the other night that baby dd was born with all her teeth and loads of hair and was talking! Last night I dreamt dh decided to go travelling round Australia!

I've had tons of horrible pregnancy dreams. The last one involved giving birth to a giant baby that could walk and talk and who really freaked me out. Also dreamt that I gave my baby to my sister to look after and she brought it back when it was a toddler and I suddenly realised I'd missed out on everything and we had no bond.

38+4......The insomnia is starting to really get to me. It's building up and I feel like I'm really burning the candle at both ends as I'm too uncomfortable to nap during the day. Shattered.

I have a vast variety of pillows but none work! The SPD is intolerable at night, I'm so sick of it!

My MW told me that sweeps only work 50% of the time with first babies. I think I'd still go with those odds though! Sweeps are more successful with 2nd babies as they can get their finger right inside - bleuugghh!

Am definitely having one at 40 weeks as I'm on #2 so hopefully it might work.

I never had a sweep with dd1. What are they like? The internal examination I had in early labour with dd was almost unbearable.

Morning all

I've got the midwife coming at 10.45 to do a sweep as am 40+5 today. Hoping she can actually do it, as when I had DS, they tried twice but my cervix was too posterior and his head was too low. The first one I had at home and I was nearly on the ceiling with the pain. She wasn't a very gentle midwife! The second one I had in hospital with gas and air to help me relax. That was much less painful but they still couldn't do it. Am slightly nervous about this morning. Also my DM has offered to come over this morning and "do some jobs" while the midwife is here. I don't really want anyone else in the house while she's here to be honest as I definitely won't be able to relax then! And she won't stay out of the way either, although she says she will.

Am getting really stressed out about induction too, as family members are putting pressure on me to have the baby now (as if I can control it!). DH has a football match he really wants to go to next Wednesday, DPs really want to go away but have said they'll stay until baby is here to help with DS when I'm in labour. DF has started making noises about needing to go away by next Wednesday (14th) at the latest, as they have to be back by the following Wednesday. PILs are going away a week on Saturday (17th) so have started making comments about wanting to meet the baby at least a few days before they go. DH's nan is wittering about how she will get to see the baby if PILs are away (trying to get us to agree to giving her a lift or going to see her on a certain date). I just want to tell them all to fuck off to be honest, which is quite unlike me. DH has said not to let it bother me and not to worry about it, but it's too late, I'm already stressing and worrying. Frankly just at the moment I don't give a shit about their holidays or transport arrangements. Aargh. Sorry for the rant!

Wow no pressure there then Millie!! What are you supposed to do about it? That would really piss me off!

Golden, don't worry, sweeps are fine for most people. A tiny bit uncomfortable maybe but certainly not painful and over in seconds. Then go and have sex afterwards!

Bloody hell millie id be getting really grumpy about all of that! Because the most important thing about you having a baby is your relatives and whether it's convenient for them!!
Have you asked your mum to not come until later? I'd find that really distracting!

looby and golden I've had some very odd pregnancy and non pregnancy dreams. One a few weeks ago I gave birth to a squid. But no one else thought this was unusual. Then I dropped it .
I've also had some really horrible dreams about things happening to my existing DS (4).
I guess our subconsciouses must be going bananas at the moment with all kinds of worrying.

I didn't find my sweep too bad (although it didn't do anything at all!) certainly no worse than a smear test.
DH was there when the mw did it and was so sweet afterwards, worried that I felt violated or sore and was so solicitous Actually I was totally fine! I guess most men are not used to the general amount of poking about that we get!
I've been offered a sweep at my next appointment - 39+4 - if I want it, but at the moment I'm thinking I probably will let things go for a bit longer.
I'm going for the full on natural birth (albeit in a hospital) so if labour can start on its own then I'll take that as a good omen.

millie im at the hospital now having blood pressure checked. Asked for a sweep and they agreed. Im now 41+1 and 3rd sweep so hopung this one starts me off.

Ignore everyone i know its hard everyone keeps on at me too but im just ignoring them. DH said no baby on saturday as football's on so i can sympathise with you. Your right baby will arrive when its ready. Do you know what your having? Hoping not to get to Sunday when my inductions booked for as iv heard it hurts

When i had my previous 2 sweeps they didnt hurt. 2nd was uncomfortable but not painful.

I've woken up with a tonne of energy today. Spent some time bouncing on my ball but soon gave up with that and instead went and made cookie dough, a huge batch mainly to freeze so DS and I can have fresh baked cookies regularly as a treat when baby is FINALLY here. Now we've decided to come down to our allotment and do some pottering about on it.

This next part is gross and TMI (sorry) but does anyone else have a shit tonne off watery discharge!? I have loads at the moment, often blood streaked/pinky tinged. Also loosing a lot of mucus stuff which I assume to be more of the plug.

DM decided not to come over after all, so quite relieved about that. Midwife has been but couldn't do a sweep as cervix not open. She did manage to reach it though, although it's very posterior. She said it was soft and short (about 0.5cm thick) so things are happening, just a bit slowly. Will have another go at a sweep on Monday or Tuesday and induction is booked in for next Friday, will be 40+13 then. Feeling a bit happier that something is happening at least; with DS cervix had done absolutely nothing by 12 days over!

Wanted to avoid induction if possible as I was hoping to be able to use the pool but we will see. My induction with DS wasn't too bad, a lot better than I was expecting! I'm feeling happier that I've got a latest date now though. Have also got to go in for monitoring next Thursday.

Am trying not to stress about other people and their demands for baby to arrive! Have told DPs the induction date so it's up to them what they do now; if they want to go away, they can but I'm not going to worry about it!

Good luck to all having sweeps today!

women sounds a bit like your mucus plug. Iv hot a lot of watery discharge too this time round.

millie mudwife coukdnt do my sweep either as said my cervix was too posterior which baffles me as my normal midwife said i was 1-2cm dialated at my last one and was short and soft so i have no idea whats happening. Going to contact my normal mudwife and see if she'll come and do a sweep later. Its kind of a sense of relieve when you finally get an induction date isn't it. Hoping we both go naturally before our dates tho

women having a burst of energy and losing your plug (potentially) is a real sign of things starting I think! fingers crossed!!!

Jen that sounds strange. Hope you manage to get your normal midwife to have another go! My normal midwife is on holiday next week so I will have someone different to do the sweep on Monday or Tuesday. Hope they don't tell me something disappointing. Midwife today had a good root around so going it will have done something to encourage things to get moving. We don't know if we're having a boy or a girl in answer to your earlier question

Will do some ball bouncing this evening I think and maybe try and persuade DH that we need to have a takeaway curry! Have been having some aches and pains since midwife left but I think it's just a bit sore where she had a good rummage around.

Yeah iv been having a few niggles since the midwife had a root. Iv just text my normal midwife and she's coming round later to do a proper sweep

Oh yay Jen! Fingers crossed she can have a good go!

I've just had DM on the phone to say they won't go away until after the baby is here so not to worry. I think she has had words with DF! Feeling a lot less stressed now!

Oh that is good millie its stress you d9nt need. I'm stressing for when baby is here as me and OH have fallen out with FIL and iv expressed my wishes that he isnt welcome at our house. I dont want any stress when baby arrives and wont be afraid to turn him away if he turns up.

Did you have a proper sweep with your normal midwife Jen? How did it go? That sounds rubbish with your FIL, do you think he would turn up uninvited? My PILs are going away next weekend, so at least we will have a couple of weeks without having to try and accommodate them. We get on ok but we never really hear from them unless they want something and I'm a bit fed up of having to make compromises to try to fit in with their plans when they won't do the same for us. They rarely see DS, they just aren't interested as they'd rather spend their time with SILs children. As you can tell, I'm a bit on the grumpy side today!

I have been feeling really tired this afternoon and a bit achey still. I think things are just a bit sore where the midwife had a root around. Baby is really wriggly so I can't get comfortable at all! DH has been working late all week so I am feeling a bit fed up at the moment too.

Went to antenatal clinic this afternoon, consultant was away so I saw the registrar (after 90 mins wait!) She did an examination and sweep, apparently the head is barely palpable in my abdomen but cervix only just starting to open - 2cm long, 1.5cm dilated, so there's a way to go yet. I've been given an induction date for 2 weeks from now, but I'm hoping I don't go that far!

Yeah millie my midwife has just left. She said it is posterior but can wasily stretch to 2cm so gave it a wriggle. Not expecting it to work though

Im exactly the same with PIL they dont really seem bothered with DD and never nake an effort to come and see her. Like yours they would rather spend time with SIL kids. Have no idea if FIL would turn up but iv told DH hes not welcome at all. We had a row when i was 20wks and im still waiting for an appology im a stubborn mare so wont be happy until i get one as he was in the wrong

Iv felt really tired today too but was awake at 5.45am. Mananaged a cheeky 2hr sleep this afternoon while DD played on the tablet im such a bad parent i literally couldn't keep my eyes open.

Currently sat on my ball hoping to carry on the work of the sweep while waiting for tea to cook.

Its sweep central round here at the minute. I have my fingers, toes and boobies crossed for everyone. Hoping I'll get another sweep tomorrow with my mw, I may well cling onto her leg and refuse to leave if she won't!

My PIL's are just the same, they have never ever been bothered with DH and are even less bothered with me or DS unless it suits them or they think they have something to gain. I really dislike hate them due to their treatment of DH throughout his childhood and his adult life but I make the effort to be civil for DH and DS when really id like to smack them both and tell them what I think. I don't know why I bother though as driving 20mins to see their grandson or son is too hard! Argh. Excuse the rant

I'm just having chilli for tea, hoping it works the same as curry and once DS is in bed I'm going to try another jasmine bath.

We are having Dominos for tea DH will be home later than expected so I have ordered it and it should be here about the same time as him. Have been having fanny daggers for the last couple of hours and baby is really low and appears to be head butting my cervix. Constantly feel like I need a wee but when I go, there's nothing there. I think baby's head butting my bladder as well!

Slightly alarmed that my cervix is 0.5cm thick but not dilated at all and still very posterior. Have been googling this afternoon and sounds like labour could be a way off for me. Meh. Feeling a bit more disappointed than I was earlier. Also have spent all day thinking it's Friday and have just realised (again) that it's only Thursday.

They will only do two sweeps here, how are you managing to see your midwives so often?! I can just about see mine once a week now I'm overdue!

Iv just had toad in the hole for tea cooked by DH and DD

Iv got back ache now after my sweep but think thats cos iv been sat on an uncomfy diningroom chair.

Iv not googled my cervix state yet mught do that in a bit see if labours way off for me too.

Oooh millie i hate it when you get your days mixed up especially if you think its the weekend the next day and its not ha ha

I have my own midwife as im with one to one midwifes so i can call/text her whenever i want. Its a really lovely service as you can build up a relationship with your midwife and they come to your home to do appointments and for upto 6weeks once baby arrives

women there's no such thing as TMI in the latter stages of pregnancy thay all sounds like things are heading in the right direction.

Bit of backache past 2 days for me, but not sure if it's because baby is very far down or its early labour niggles. With DS labour just seemed to happen - woke up at 3 am with strong contractions 20 secs apart every 8-10 mins increasing in tempo until I got to the golden 3 x 1 min in 10 min block. I don't know if I'm more aware of what I should be looking put for this time, and I just dismissed twinges and aches last time or if it's just going to be a very different labour. Does that make sense?

So many sweeps going on! I didn't have one with DS as he was only 2 days over, so I'll be interested to see if mine works on Tuesday (if I get to that point). I hope some of them work out for you tonight and we get some lovely new baby news on here tomorrow! We defo need to start a antenatal / newborn version of this thread!

Had my mum on the phone getting a bit upset. Her & my dad go on holiday on Saturday (my due date) & they're getting worked up they might be away when the bay is born. I'm an only child, we live 20 min drive away from other and we're very close. They had booked the holiday but only paid the deposit when I found out I was pregnant in January and they made the call to go ahead with it. I'm not cross, obviously would much rather they be here to help with DS when it does kick off and in the days afterwards (luckily we have back up for next week) but at the same time I'm fed up of the hand wringing over how bad they feel now it's so close! She said 'well if the baby isn't here in next 24 hours I hope it stays in situ until we're back' (when I'll be 9 days over!!) No thanks Mother!

*postnatal. Not antenatal.