Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Thanks Bec. I'll see how things go over the next few days. I know there isn't much to see this early on. I was wondering if anyone has had a stomach upset as part of MC symptoms. I did last time and now have them again....For those who have had more than one MC are they always the same or do they vary?

the pain you get from having an upset belly is very similar to labour pains, but on a different scale obviously, you could be cramping and that's making up go to the loo, those can be normal implantation cramps too x

My first MMC (12wks along but 6 wk embryo) was brown blood, then red blood then contractions then loss.

My 2nd was, due on, did test, 7 days later, brown blood, red blood, period pains but no cramps then loss.
3rd time was MMC (12wks along, 9+6 embryo) a medical management so it was pesseries, nothing, spotting, cervical pain (like going in to labour as you open) lots of red loss and clots, very little pain, hospital, emergency operation.
Similarities and differences, no help for you I suppose but a variation in misery x

I live in rural Wiltshire, my nearest EPU is an hour away and only opens from 7.30-9am. You sign in and wait to be seen. I have only been there once with the last MC so I don't know if they do bloods. I don't really want to take my DS with me, DP will be at work and have no family to leave him with. I don't want to dicuss what's going on with anyone else so that leaves me in a tricky position!
At the moment I can cling to hope, I worry that if I have tests it'll just dash any remaining hope I have. Does anyone else feel like that?

I really feel for you long, I wish I could do more to help you, like I've said to my MW, we are kinda in a hell of our own creation, we are so desperate to have a healthy baby that we have to go through this, a lot easier imagining it than living it.
You could try (pennies depending) ordering some FRERs from Amazon or asda along with your shopping and doing one every 3 days to see if the line gets darker?
It's obviously no full answer but if the lines does increase in intensity that is a positive thing that you can do at home until you are in a better position to go to the EPU or until hubby has a free day to have the little one?

Poor you Bec , you are very brave to carry on. I really hope your scan goes well tomorrow. No one deserves to go through all that pain again.
Last time I felt unwell for about a week before getting pink discharge. Then full on blood, cramps and clots. It was awful and I'm scared to go through it again

I have had back ache and uncomfortable cramp style pains randomly throughout so far, sometimes it's coincided with needing to go the loo for a poo lol I've also had 2 scans with heartbeat so I'm not exactly sure what the pains are other than possibly toilet or growing pains?
I have a tilted uterus and I've googled it and there's no medical explanation but lots of ladies with a similar uterine issues report pains, and ive also had (TMI ALERT!!) that sensation you get when you bleed but it's been creamy discharge🙈🙈 weird old things our bodies!
I had a bit of an anxiety overload earlier, a bit breathless and an over beaty heart, for want of a better word, I swing between feeling things should be ok and back to how do I tell people if there not and how on earth could I go through that again, today is deffo not one of my best days 😔
I just gotta get thru tonite and keep everything crossed for tomorrow, hopefully I'll see a 10wk+ baby bobbling around happily........hopefully 😔

The painy boobies at nite i think, is the wearing the bra all day and the extra weighty, heaviness of them, mine usually feel softer and more comfortable in the morning lol especially if I've let them loose thru the nite 😂

Hi everyone, just wanted to let you know I had a scan and looks ok so far. Still having spotting on and off (mostly brown) but the obstetrician isn't worried. I am though! Can't help myself. not allowing myself to get excited but I think we will start telling people now..

13+5

Well done purple, 2 weeks and a day and you can find out if it's pink or blue xxxxxx

Blossom, yes it is hell! I have back pain and weird cramp feelings, but the thing is I normally suffer with IBS and with degenerative discs in my lower spine so I have no way of knowing whether it is symptoms of my impending MC.
I had the same last time and it did end in a MC but again I have no way of knowing if it was connected. It's so hard because everything can be a symptom of MC or just a normal symptom of pregnancy. I always thought that bleeding would be end game but my sister had heavy bleeding throughout the first 12 weeks and then had a healthy baby so there is always hope ☺

Thanks blossom! :D I know, got my BFP 10 weeks to the day of mc so that was nice! How exciting for you that it all seems to be coming along. Good luck for your scan Friday, I'm sure the pain isn't related and all will be fine especially if it was only brief.

purple so glad everything was ok in your scan. Are you excited to tell people or just nervous?

Can I ask how people have got on with asking for early scans? Did you have to ask or was it offered because of previous mc? Or have some of you gone privately?

long I'm in Bristol and it sounds similar, my epu is open 8.30-12 and you just have to turn up and take a number and they call you in. They did my bloods when I had mc so I expect they will do them for you. I got the result the next day so it's not a long wait either which is good. Fx for you

Purple that is really lovely news. I know it's worrying but I think you are just going to be one of those women who spots. You deserve to feel happy and try and enjoy telling people. I'm still worried and anxious too. Someone at work asked me if I was pregnant today - I've kept it quiet but my bump is getting big there is no denying it really! So glad your obs is happy.

Congrats longsuffering.... it's so hard after a MC to feel positive at all isn't it? Just try to take every day as it comes and look after yourself. I have been prettified for this whole time (I'm 11 weeks) and still knocker check every time I go to the loo! I'm convinced that I'll still lose the baby. It's so hard but this thread is amazing!!
Also... could your GP do bloods if you're EPU is far away? I did so many pg tests at the beginning! Then had spotting and bleeding from 5-8 weeks so panicked every day... but all is ok now. Keeping my fingers x for you!

blossom I had really bad lower back pain at 7/8 weeks and thought it was a sign of MC... now I still get pain but less so but have lots of cramping quite frequently. Without bleeding I'm sure it's completely fine!

Great news purple on the scan!

Good luck to everyone else with scans etc coming up... one week tomorrow until my 12 week scan! So excited but also petrified I'll get there and I will have had a missed MC.

Hope everyone's had a good day... bake off tonight

Hi everybody. I had a MMC in June (8 weeks but lost at 6) which was, as you have all experienced, terrible. However I somehow managed to get pregnant 2 weeks after the ERPC! After a frankly awful summer where I had terrible mood swings and was all over the place due to hormones running wild I am now 12+3 weeks. We had the scan yesterday and the sonographer kept saying what a lovely baby and how perfect it all looked. However the fear doesn't go does it. I want to get excited but feel terrified I'll lose this little one too. I just want to enjoy it but don't know how.

So glad I found this thread.

Welcome paper, you've actually done the hardest part by getting to the 12week marker, well done you!
The worry will ease when you start to feel movements as that's a constant reminder than your little special is inside and happy listening to all you do xxxxx

Blossom I have had cramps on and off throughout, which have worried me top but I've now realised are IBS related and the result of constipation - oh the joys!

So pleased for you purple, excellent news. We also had a scan today, and everything is fine. Growth was spot on for 9+2 and little one even gave us some waves and wiggles! Feel all received for now, will have to see if I feel ok over the next 3 weeks til our dating scan.

Moonlight, our first scan was done by epu as a reassurance due to previous miscarriages, but they didn't want to do any further ones til 12 weeks as they found a heartbeat. 10 days later my symptoms declined so I booked a private scan. Today's scan, another 10 days later, was done by a community midwife who my midwife put me in touch with, and who has said I can go back to if it will help me feel better. Think I got very lucky indeed there though, I don't think there are many midwife's who scan.

Congrats on the scan net, I'm thinking that my pains might be ibs real stead too x

Didn't sleep a wink last nite I'm so worried for today's scan, it's also my mums birthday and she's having a tea party after school so I'm under even more pressure as if things have gone wrong again I'll have to put an even bigger brave face on today.
I can't tell you how much I hope this baby stays with me and makes our family complete 😔
I'm literally freaking out

Thinking of you xxbec wishing you lots of luck! What time is it?

2pm I think, my minds gone a bit jellyfied!
Thanks purple, means a lot xxx

Good luck Bec, I'll have my fingers crossed for you at 2pm x

Just been catching up.

Good news on the scans everyone & hope bleeding stops for you soon purple, you're getting further & further along.

Hope scan goes well Bec.

Welcome newbies, hope the worry eases for you all.
Moonlight I had a scan at 8 weeks which my midwife wanted me to have & I'd had some spotting one morning which meant my EPU did scan me early as they won't otherwise.
If you talk to midwife, they're really good at knowing the system for local EPU's.

I'm 17 weeks today & have a jelly like bump which DS calls babi as I'm trying to stop him hitting the bump.
Getting closer to 20 week scan now.
Has anyone booked in for whooping cough? I've got my anti D in December when 28 weeks so trying to work out when to have it.

Still on my house declutter & giving myself until 20 week scan to finish all the rooms. Going to use this nesting to my advantage.