Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Ah well, worth asking about a water birth but at least prepared for the maternity ward being essential rather than it being a last minute change like last time. Shame, but there it is. Cheers for responses all x

Today's good news, saw endocrine specialist today and finally been listened to and put on thyroxine.

Less good is the decline in my symptoms over the last couple of days. Husband's response, oh well, think positive, probably fine.

Want. To. Punch. Him.

...but that might be hormones!!! Gah!!!

Hi all. Just checking in.
Not had time to catch up properly but off to bed to try and get some sleep...20 week scan in the morning. I'm excited but can't shake that nervous anxiety.
I've realised now I'm at the half way mark and I know baby is in there, the new worry is how many movements I feel.
It really is never ending. Baby only gave me the odd poke today, then this evening has woken up and been bouncing around in there for a while. I do realise it's too soon for a pattern etc.
Best wishes to everyone else and will let you know how tomorrow goes

Good luck for tomorrow lynsey.

Xxx

Good luck today Lynsey!

Good luck!

Thanks ladies woken up with a nervous belly! Little one is like a jumping bean though. Appt is 10.10am.

Good Luck Lynsey!

Good luck Lyns x

Thank you!
Appt all done. Baby looks perfectly fine but they did say there is fluid around one of the kidneys and I'll need another scan at 34 weeks to check if it's gone or not.
They said it can be normal but I'm still bothered by it
Brain, heart etc is all as it should be so very happy with that.
I was desperate for confirmation of the sex today too as still can't believe that I'm having a girl but the little so and so had legs tightly together!! The lady was kind enough to type up the measurements and then quickly try again but just for good measure, baby had then crossed her legs!!
Feel so frustrated! I'm going to just have to believe baby really is a girl!
We've decided to have a 4d scan to take the boys to so hopefully she'll be more cooperative then... all the way home she was jumping around!
Has anyone else had experience with kidney fluid? Should I worry?? Grrr so frustrating as I was hoping this scan would be the one to relax me a bit.

I've got no experience of kidney fluid Lynsey but when I had DS there was a mum with a baby who had been scanned with fluid in brain & had gone by birth.
They told her it's really common anywhere in body & usually goes by birth it had.

So not your scenario but similar. When I see my friend who works in scans I'll ask her how common it is.

If they've told you not to worry & theyre not worried that's a good sign.

Glad the rest of the scan was okay, & hope the anxiety doesn't wear you down. I know it's worrying.

Thank you dino I'd appreciate that. The check up scan is about another 14 weeks away so they can't be overly worried but that doesn't help me worrying.
The lady did say its quite common so will try and remember that. Looked at notes from today and baby is measuring right in the middle of the charts so that's good too.

It's okay, she's enjoying looking at my scan photos & likes questions. We've got a scan photo of baby picking it's nose she pointed out to me haha.

If they were worried you'd have more scans booked plus a 4D possibly? So it's good sign if they're leaving it 14 weeks as means everything is growing nicely & everything where it should be.

It's these babies, they'll never let us relax haha. I bent over weird last to experience sharp pains but fine since so now paranoid for movement.

I'll let you know what she says. She's always told me that if doctors worry then you worry.

I don't feel too bad knowing we are now going to book a 4d scan and they check well being too, I just hated the idea of leaving it 14 weeks cos if something was wrong, that's a lot of time for a problem to get worse. But as we've both said, the fact they are happy to leave it that long must be cos they aren't overly concerned.
Certainly agree these babies like to keep us on our toes!
As much as she was stubborn and wouldn't move for the certain parts and measurements, she was doing a dance on the way home and been off and off kicking since!!

Thankfully the one other thing the lady was struggling to get, she did get it eventually. That was looking at the heart. Thank goodness the rest seems all perfect!

Hello ladies,
I hope you don't mind if I join you? I could really use some company to pass the time during the endless waiting!! I recognise some names on here from previous threads, which is nice.
I'm currently 16 weeks pg, lost previous pregnancy at 19 weeks (twins) so these next few weeks will be particularly tense. I have apt with midwife on tues to monitor heart beat. I'm dreading it, but at the same time it can't come soon enough if that makes sense? Problem is we had no idea anything was wrong last time. Discovered they had both passed away through a routine scan. I know the risk this time around is much reduced as its a singleton pregnancy but it's just the awareness that you never really know that keeps getting to me. Sorry to go on, it's just nice to get that off my chest with people who I know will really 'get it'. It's hard to talk to friends and family really honestly about how worrying it is as I get annoyed by the meaningless platitudes, but then I feel bad for them as I know there's nothing really to say that can help!

lynsey I hope you're ok. Take some assurance from the fact that they don't want to scan you for 14 weeks. Maybe give your midwife a call, she might be able to reassure you or give you some more information?

Welcome obsessed

Blood tests came back clear today. But I've managed to eat a little more this past few days since I've been taking rennies. It's also helping me to feel a little brighter because I've got more food in me!

My morning kid kicked off again today. Going to make a decision on him next week. Nothing was thrown today but he told his Mum that I had to leave. I only stayed half an hour before being kicked out got paid for two hours. I'm so undecided, I don't want to give up on him. He got kicked out of school and is waiting for a new school place so is a pretty damaged kid anyway. Thing is, he's considerably older and bigger than the kids I usually teach. This one is 13 and twice the size of me!

DH has finally finished the construction work in the living room so we have plans to spend the day together tomorrow! I've not had any proper time from him in a while so am looking forward to it. That said, he's been keeping everything running while I've been ill.

I wanted to cry today. DH was showing me something on his phone earlier and pulled up a message his friend sent him. Just above this message, I saw that he (dh) had text him with a picture of three superhero baby grows that we'd bought and the caption under the photo was "i'm gonna raise my boy right". Suc a sweet message for DH to text his best mate. Weirdly it meant even more that it wasn't sent to me. Felt like it was a bit of an unguarded moment. Such a sweetheart

Welcome obsessed, I'm so sorry for your loss last time, I don't know how you've managed to stay strong and try again, you are inspirational.
The naivety of a easy burden free pregnancy is something us girls will never experience again unfortunately, but there's good ears here to listen and loads of advice (useful or not rofl)
I'm crossing my fingers and toes for you that everything runs smoothly for you, have they not offered extra reassurance scans for you because of your history?

Lyns I really wouldn't worry, there were no other markers for any of problems and so if you look at it from the angle of 'what's the worst' kind of view, a kidney is not the worst thing to have issues with, you have 2! If it was the brain or the heart, then we'll, but you can live a completely normal life with just one functioning one.
I've had crappy kidneys my entire life, they have never figured out what the cause was but I've still had kids and lived. obviously this is your lovely gorgeous little baby and yes we want all the perfect pieces in the right place (ideally) but rather than giving yourself an absolute heart attack try to look at the positives,
And just to say I'm absolutely and utterly sure that when you go back the fluid will have gone, 100%.
I've had scary anatomy scans so I do know what your going through and I hope you don't think I'm being flippant in anyway, from my experience they tell you these things, you obsess (which obviously you would) then you go back and it doesn't get mentioned again!
My eldests 20wk scan they noticed an issue with his heart, then the scanner said that 95% of babies with this heart issue have downs, so you can imagine my world crashed to the floor there and then, first baby, newly married, 18years old, completely overwhelmed. we had to wait to see a consultant who informed me that the sonographer had misinformed me as the stats where actually that 5% of all happy healthy babies have this and that slightly more downs babies than 'normal' babies have it too!!!!!!
I think that they should only tell us something is wrong when they actually know it's wrong, if u know why I mean.

Hi all, hope I can join you, currently 5 weeks exactly and had a horrible MC in June this year
Got an early scan booked for 15th October when I should be 8 weeks and very hopeful to be able to hear / see a heartbeat.
Congratulations to all the ladies on here who have gotton past there personal danger point, xx

Hi all, hope I can join you, currently 5 weeks exactly and had a horrible MC in June this year
Got an early scan booked for 15th October when I should be 8 weeks and very hopeful to be able to hear / see a heartbeat.
Congratulations to all the ladies on here who have gotton past there personal danger point, xx

Welcome to the newbies! Sorry for your losses. Pregnancy is never the same after mc but you will get through it. Pleased to hear your scan went mostly really well Lynsey. If you are having a 4d scan you can get them to check again that she is a girl. I'm sure the fluid thing is nothing too concerning as they would definitely have scanned you earlier if it was. 23+1 today. 6 days away from V day. Wonder what I'll panic and worry about then?!

Thanks ladies, I'm trying not to let it bother me and it is a huge positive (hopefully) that they don't want to see me until then but feels like such a long time to be left alone to think about it too!
The 4d scan has lots of positives to it now, it's certainly not just about impatience now, it's to check health again, have family bonding time and yes can double check sex!
I dreamt last night I went for a scan and just as the woman was reassuring me we were having a girl, a little willy just popped up on screen!! I don't know why I'm letting it bother me so much, can only presume it's cos I'm so invested in a daughter now and thinking about that leaves no space for worrying about kidneys and fluid

Hi to Mrs and obsessed, and so sorry for your previous losses. Glad you found the group, only been here a short while my myself and ready feel so much better knowing that we can support each other.

Congrats Lyns on your scan, and that you've got your head around the fluid thing now. I'm sure it was a shock initially, but there's no way the NHS would suggest a 14 week gap if you or bubs were at any great risk. Perhaps your midwife could shed some light on how common this situation is, give you some context as it were?

Carrick your DH sounds adorable! Mines a techy and my daughter ended up wearing a "pooping in progress" with accompanying brown progress bar at the age of 6 months. Not quite so sweet, bit I guess the thought was there!

Welcome Mrspage xxx

net the baby grow sounds awesome Do you know the song 'batman superman spiderman'? I think it's by Rod Stewart. He played it last night and he said that's for our boy.

Has anyone picked any names? We've picked one and I'm desperate the share with someone!!

Welcome mrspage & sorry for your loss. & welcome obsessed, very sorry for your loss.

We've got our first names Carrick but struggling with middle names. We both choose a first name, one middle name each then my surname.

You must be so excited! I was so happy when DS's name was finalised.

My midwife wants me to complain to the Head Midwife about the consultant I saw not giving a biased argument on homebirths. She said she knows I would switch to hospital if I needed to so isn't worried.

I want to buy a baby gro for this one even though I have loads from DS that are gender neutral. Can't find one I like though.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.