Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Got my 10 week scan (fingers crossed!) on Thursday, should be 10+2, all the anxietys are swirling around as today was the day things stopped last time, I think I may become cautiously optimistic should this scan be positive, I daren't think that far ahead tho, I wore a jumper the first time I went and then I felt like I shud wear it again for the second scan and now I feel like if I don't wear it for a 3rd time it may well be bad luck 😔
The sonographer is gunna think this woman should stop having babies and buy herself some new clothes rofl 😂

Lynsey I remember your post.
Thanks all. I've given up on the Doppler tonight, will check again tomorrow. Luckily, after lying on the sofa for a bit I've felt some movements and definite kicks so I'm feeling more reassured. I'm wondering if it could maybe be as baby is definitely higher up now and therefore behind the podge I seem to have developed!
Just for future reference, does anyone know how early maternity units would monitor you for reduced movements? Would they just say it's too early for a pattern/regular movements? (I've not noticed a pattern really just thought it felt less!)

Bec I say go with the lucky jumper! I have a crystal necklace a friend gave me after my molar pregnancy and it's sort of become my lucky charm.

I say go with the jumper too! I'm a bit superstitious (just can't help it) if it makes you feel better then go with it!
Aw nasch glad you've felt some movements. Does always help. Mine still don't have a pattern and can sometimes seem quiet all day just to then seem like there is a party going on at bedtime in my belly!
I'm afraid I don't know when they say a pattern should start to be more noticeable, I didn't even know there should be one until recently with my boys, I just made sure I felt things regular and only remember worrying once but he'd started moving again before I decided on calling for help.
All these anxieties could literally drive us mad couldn't they x

Hello ladies! Most of you won't recognise me but I am an old face from the beginning of the year. Just wanted to let you all know that little Squish arrived safely today, not as anticipated (horrible stress to the very end) but it has made the past nine months so unbelievably worth it so please try not to let the anxiety overrun for you.
I never enjoyed a single moment of pregnancy as there was that cloud in the back of my mind, my one piece of advice would be try try try to find a little glimmer where you can as sometimes things do work out and you get your beautiful bundle of newborness

Oh bowser congrats xxx
Post us a pic when your able, and thanks for amazing news, exciting!

And ok ladies I'm wearing the jumper just in case lol
They will see you now nash, I was up on my surface polishing my widows at about 18 weeks in one pregnancy, God knows how I didn't collapse the side but where stretched I had bad pains and rang the EPU and they told me to ring the MAU, it's usually around the 20wk mark you swap from EPU to MAU, but each hosp could have their own rules xxx

Congratulations bower xxx

Congratulations Bowser! Lovely news.

Bad nights sleep: I dreamt I lost this baby. What is my brain doing to me?

Yay bowser!!! congratulations so happy for you and your family. Enjoy every precious second! Lots of love sent to you and baby xx

Congratulations bowser. Enjoy that lovely newborn smell.

Nasch bad dreams are the worst. I know its just a way of processing anxiety but it just adds to the worry. I keep dreaming about miscarrying too.

bec I'm glad I'm not the only one with weird superstitions. I can't go to a certain town as I was there the morning I miscarried. I think a lucky jumper is a good idea as the psychological effect is worth the embarrassment of looking like you only own 1 jumper.

9+1 today. The day I MC last time. Luckily I'm busy at work today and its keeping my mind off things. I now have to trek off to the woods to find my toy owl!

Congratulations, Bowser xx

Congratulations bowser !

I had a scan today I'm around 6+2 they could see something but not the heartbeat. I'm stressing about it but they didn't seem that bothered. Back in 10 days for repeat scan. They couldn't find a definite reason for the spotting but said it could be due to having s heart shaped uterus.

Thanks for the welcome ladies :). 3+5 today, this is going to be the longest week of my life waiting to get past the point when af would be due. I didn't even test til I was 13dpo last time so being less than 4 weeks seems crazy to put down!

Good luck with your scan bec

bowser congratulations! And that's so nice that you've thought to pop in and give everyone your good news :) enjoy your little bundle!

Good luck with the next scan something, 6 weeks is still very early isn't it? I'm sure I read that 7/8 weeks is more likely to see the heartbeat so try not to worry (easier said than done I know). I'll definately be booking an early scan privately once I've got past my danger point from last time. It just all seems so far away at the moment.

Anyone heard from Purple? Isn't it her 12 week scan this week? Hope you are well, Purple!

Morning ladies, hope everyone is ok

Congratulations bowser

The anxiety is eating me alive! 13+5 today whatser. I had the 12 week scan two days after I had a red bleed. All seemed ok but I'm still so worried. Not had a red bleed again but have had brown spotting. Got an appt with the obstetrician this afternoon and hoping he will scan me.

Will keep you guys posted. Thank you for asking about me!

Scans tomorrow so I'm truely terrified today, not helped by the fact I had a dream last bite I was scanned and in the belly with the baby was 3 pack man type things, and the doctor said 'it might be OK' 🙈🙈🙈

Hey purple I'm thinking about u, got everything crossed for you xxx

Hi everyone, I'm new to this thread. I have a DS who is nearly 3. This pregnancy went fine. I then had a MC in April (at 5-6 weeks) which changed everything. All I think about now is having another baby. I built up the courage to try again and my Period was due last Sunday and I now have a positive test. I did have symptoms until 2 days ago and suddenly they vanished. I now don't feel pregnant at all. I'm so worried that I'm going to miscarry again. I'm really close to my mum but haven't told her as I don't want to worry her. We've just lost her mother and it's been a very stressful time for everyone. Being pregnant never felt so lonely.

Welcome long and I feel your pain hunny, and I also know about keeping things to yourself, im very much of a believer that a problem shared is a problem doubled, unless it's to the right person, it's so hard to actually feel 'pregnant' so early, give yourself a break and hopefully as your hcg rises so will your symptoms!
It may of been a case of you having a little bug that made you feel icky and now it's passed your feeling improved....ready for the grimness to start lol
Keep your chin up and ring the EPU and tell them your pg and get in the system for some bloods, it's there to reassure us girls so use it xxxxx

Thanks Bec, I didn't realise you can get blood tests done at the EPU. I can just ring them, I don't have to be referred or anything? Last time I went re the MC I couldn't even get through on the phone, I just had to turn up at 7.30am and wait to be seen. They also said you couldn't go before 6 weeks I think.

Hi long, glad you found us, hopefully we can help and support you.

I understand what you mean about symptoms coming and going. I'm 9+2 today and even now I have the odd day where my symptoms ease up and I can't help but worry. Bex is spot on, call your EPU and insist on some support... Chances are they'll offer it anyway, they do understand the emotional rollercoaster of being pregnant after a loss.

Best wishes for your scans / appointments Bex and purple. Another scan for us today - this time by a community midwife. Apparently she trained my midwife, is about 90, anf is constantly behind in clinic but is very clever and good at scanning.... I truly hope that info is correct! Chucked up 5 blinking times yesterday, and STILL can't help but be nervous, though am slowly starting to feel less nervous the further we get along.

good luck for your scan bec and net

Welcome long. My symptoms have come and gone too and its impossible not to get down when they have gone. Its such a rollercoaster. At my EPU you have to have a referral (either GP or via A&E) but its worth a try.

Got through my personal milestone yesterday so now 1 day future with this pregnancy than last time. Met my MW today. She's lovely and I just hope that I get good news when I'm scanned and can keep going to see her! As I drove to my appointment my favourite piece of music came on the radio which I listened to a lot when PG with DS. It gave me a bit of hope. I know its ridiculous to be so superstitious but at the moment I'll cling to anything that can make me feel a bit better.

Poor you net, I bet your carrying a girl, all those extra hormones making you extra Ill!

What area are you in long?
My closest EPU is only open 12-3pm weekdays and you ring up and leave a message and the MW will ring you back and discuss the situation with you and book you in.
There is another EPU in st helier hospital but they are totally different, you have to show up at 10am and they discuss your dates and then decide on the course of action, blood/scan, dates depending.

Bloods (in case you don't already know) I think are the most appropriate for you right now as the wait to find out if everything is heading in the right direction is quicker than a scan, they take your blood then call you back after 48hourd and retest and in theory your beta hcg should have doubled give or take. Then when your levels are around the 2000 mark they will forward you for a scan as that's the supposed lowest hcg limit for seeing something on the screen. If you had a scan right now as you are early you may see a sac you may see nothing and then you will have to wait 7-10 days for the rescan, and for us that wait is horrendous. Obviously everybody's body is different and they are rough guidelines, I know friends who have seen sacs and heart beats at 5 weeks and I've had scans where nothing has been visible until 6-7, so few of us are actually in those 'normal' ranges, they are a bit pointless.
With me for instance i have a tilted uterus and unless the scanner shoves the wand right up there sometimes you can't see as much!!🙈🙈
Google your local area for EPU's and see what's available xxxx

Oh and to add, my EPU's are self referral xx