Crikey this thread is rocketing along. We've been away on a sort of mini break to Devon for a couple of days - just a Premier Inn near the beach and a day on Paignton beach with every other person in the UK or so it seemed and then a morning crabbing in Dartmouth and another beach afternoon, but it was lovely. And I come back and find about 12 more pages! 
Firstly, I'm so sorry to read your updates feline and bertie I m thinking of you and hoping it is innocuous but totally get that self preservation sense of deflation. When I started spotting at 7 weeks, I stared at the loo roll for a good minute, sighed and said "oh well". Flushed it, and just felt a bit glum and aprehensive.
tinkly I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. Will the specialists be able to give you all some more information soon about stage/treatment/prognosis? It must be an enormous shock.
lynsey whoop for only two days until your scan, not long now! I hope your quiet day has done you the power of good and WELL DONE for sodding the housework. 
Mac 
for you if you are reading. You are so right. It is incredibly hurtful, isolating and frustrating when people don't seem to get it. You can't replace a lost baby with another one. They are unique little people and the passing due date is poignant and a painful landmark in your grief. No, a new pregnancy does not "fix" your loss and your pain. I understand totally. When DD1's due date came round I was about 14 weeks pg with DD, but I was utterly devastated on the day. I booked it off of work so I didn't have to do anything but just "be". It was the weirdest thing, I woke up that morning, almost at some level expecting to wake from my horrible nightmare and find none of it had happened and I was 40 weeks pregnant. Somehow it finally hit me that day that she was never coming. She was gone. I took flowers to her grave and sat there and howled. I hated myself for being pregnant again, I felt I had betrayed her, and I just wanted her back. I really struggled tbh with having DD at the time I did and it troubled me for a long time that wanting both of them was like wishing for a square circle, it just could never be. Take your time. We are here whenever you are ready to come back, and happy to listen. I hope the due date treats you gently xx
whatser a wave to you lovely, how are you doing?
Welcome to becqui, so sorry you need us but I'm glad you've found us IYKWIM. I'm pregnant with my fourth baby - I lost DD1 to a toxoplasmosis infection at 20 weeks, then had my 5 year old DD, then lost a little boy at 13/14 weeks on New Years Eve last year to a TFMR for acrania, - he turned out also to have Edwards syndrome. I'm now just over 18 weeks and finding it very hard.
Hello to everyone else and apologies to those I have rudely failed to namecheck.