Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Congratulations Butterfly! Found a patch of WiFi to check in on you all having scans. Really thrilled for you x enjoying my holiday but finding myself worrying about everything. I need to relax!

That's wonderful news Butterfly, congratulations 🙂

Great news butterfly congratulations!!

Congrats butterfly

Everything all good here it's amazing how much baby has grown in 3 weeks! Took ages as baby would not co-operate for the NT test at all but got there in the end

Great news mac. Did they get you doing the old jump up and down a bit and wiggle your hips? I felt a right tit the time that happened to me Was the NT in the normal range?

Bless you whatser checking in on us! I hope you are having a lovely time.

We just told DD and she was ever so cute, very very excited and saying "We have to just hope that this one doesn't die but at least it's got it's brain all ok!" with her earnest little head nodding Very sweet and heart warming and a lovely new experience for us. I've never seen such shining eyes.
Then she ran around like a madcap trying to catch the flies in the living room in a glasses case... snapping it like a pair of jaws

Great news for you too macauley!! Very happy for you both x

Congrats mac!!!

lucky hope you got on ok too.

It's my first scan tomorrow - 7+1. Petrified, utterly petrified. God know what they'll discover or see. Could it be too early to see anything? My tummy is so bloated and tight but think it's the drugs I'm on. The other symptoms come and go so it's hard to tell what's going on. Argh!!!! Say a prayer for me. I couldn't do number 5! Xxx

Yeah 1.9 for nt just got to wait on bloods coming back for combined score. Your daughter is so cute butterfly.

Good luck tomorrow hopefulkate

Congratulations Butterfly and Macauley! So pleased all went well.

Kate - will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Thursday for me, regretting booking 4pm now. How will I get through the best part of the day?!

Ah funny thing, NHS scan appt letter appeared today. Appt for tomorrow afternoon at 1pm. Oh yeah, I can get time off work with 1 days notice on the last day term (teacher).
They seemed surprised when I rang up to change it!

Fab news on the scans Mac and butterfly! And good luck tomorrow Kate x

Hi ladies, thanks for thinking of me and the good luck - all went well with me too, I'm dated 12+1 now with a due date of 30th January. Good strong heart beat and midwife was so pleased with the scan she took a picture for their audit purposes. NT was 1.3 which I'm reassured is low risk, but need to wait for the blood test for a combined risk score. Such a relief and so happy, made it more real for DH too, he'd been scared to get too attached before given our history with MCs. Happy to read mac and butterfly's news too! Happy days all round :-) Good luck for yours Kate and nasch will be thinking of you xx

Yay three in a row! Congratulations lucky! what a great day for you all and for the thread.

Hands up who's praying for a good thunderstorm now?! I've been hiding away as much as possible with the house fans on constant, thank God for the lovely strong breezes too!

Ah Lucky fabulous news!! I'm so pleased for you. Happy happy days.

Thanks for the good lucks everyone. I am petrified this morning, as expected. Desperately symptom spotting to see if I still feel pregnant. Will have probably lost my mind by the time 2.30pm comes round.

xx

Congratulations on the positive scans Butterfly, Mac and Lucky, and fx for Kate and Nasch later. My 12 week scan is next Wednesday and the anxiety seems to be growing by the day, damn mc fears.

I've woken up feeling rubbish this morning, the nausea has returned and I've got a thumping headache I can't shift, have called in sick but my manager seems to be expecting me to come in this afternoon. I've barely managed to shuffle to the bathroom so far today .

lucky great news NT sounds great too.

nasch and kate wishing you both good scans today.

tinkly I wouldn't bother, she didn't manage to catch anything! Was quite entertaining to watch though. I suspect she may be busy announcing our news to her entire class today, she was still bubbling away and full of it this morning, bless her. Sort of hoping she doesn't say anything but we'll just wait and see, it doesn't seem fair to tell a 4 year old something that has excited them so much and then tell them they can't tell anyone.

I've had a play with my doppler and found the little chugging train heartbeat which is lovely. Can also pick up the placenta pulsing and my own pulse and lots of gas

My guts are refusing to settle down after yesterday, this morning was actually worse which has been grim and I feel pretty ropey it must be said. God knows what's going on in there, but I wish it would go back to normal!

There we go, probably the best pic, awkward baby in weird positions that was not going to stay still!

Is it just me or does anyone else feel a bit panicky and clautrophobic looking at scan pictures? I just think it looks horribly penned in in there and I can't even stand being in a lift! I know it's all they know and they couldn't grow anywhere else but I always feel a bit sorry for babies in utero...

Aaw mimi I'm sorry you feel so awful. I don't expect the heat is helping either! Have you taken some paracetamol? If not, please do! And get some icy water in you and a wet cold flannel on your forehead, - maybe try and sleep? I hope you're feeling a bit better soon, don't drag yourself in to work unless you feel MUCH better. You have all my sympathy re the anxiety.

Congratulations too to lucky and Mac! Yay! Good luck tomorrow hopeful x

Can I ask everyone a question please. Ok so scan went well yesterday and I'm 13 weeks but I still can't bring myself to tell people.

Does anyone else feel like this?!

I have now decided not to tell people until I have the NT result back. Then I will probably put it off till the 20 week anomaly scan.
I don't know why I feel like this and my DH said he feels the same. I just don't want a fuss and once it's out there I feel like I have no control (well I have none anyway). I know at some point it's going to be obvious, can I just get to that point lol.

Sorry you feel rubbish mimi

mac I TOTALLY understand, and feel the same. I have told a few people strictly on a need to know basis (childcare, getting meds for me and driving me to the docs when I was too ill to get there) but it's not public and I am dreading it becoming so. Rightly or wrongly it feels like a massive pressure then, like I have GOT to have a live baby now and I can't control that! Also I cannot stand being congratulated, it just feels premature. I want to say, no, please wait until the baby is here to congratulate me, all it is now is stress and uncertainty! Also people get excited for you and I'm not really mentally/emotionally in a position to get excited yet myself and I deeply resent others being excited about my baby before I am. I felt that to the end with DD's pregnancy, and obv there comes a point where it just ain't a secret any longer, and that was very hard. I skulked around in large jumpers as much as I could until it got too damn hot. I don't know if any of those reasons chime with you or if it's slightly different, but I think I understand YANBU I want to say but we are not in AIBU! There's no rush. Does anyone know at all apart from the internet ?

Hope you feel better soon mimi. You poor thing. Don't go into work unless you feel much better. There are bigger things at stake, as you know! Bugger off manager.

I am working from home this morning - I feel so wiped out. I hope this is a good sign although I couldn't sleep last night with the heat so it could be that.

Mac I think I would feel exactly the same. If I ever reach the 12 week milestone I know my anxiety will switch to the next scan, the next test and reassurance. It is entirely natural. But ultimately it is your body and your miracle so protect it and guard it with all your might if that makes you feel more secure and happy. The world can wait. xx

That's exactly how I feel! It just feels so premature and think it's then the pressure of it all. Also I'm excited in my own little post mc way which is very reserved and may not be the same as a person who hasn't had the same experiences as I have.

I have told people in a very as and when way. Close family know and good friend who has had the same experience. It's just when its out to the wider world that terrifies me .

Thanks Butterfly, awesome pic btw . I haven't had a claustrophobic feeling when seeing my first scan, more of an "OMG, there's a little person growing inside me!"

Mac fwiw I'm in two minds about whether to tell people, colleagues in particular, if we have a successful scan next week too cos I'm also concerned about getting NT results or perhaps the anomaly scan results before we share our news to the wider world. But I had a work planning meeting with colleagues that's going to generate a lot of tasks for me that I know could stress me out of they don't know I'm going on mat leave mid-january. On the otherhand I was talking to DH about being a mum last night and ended up in tears because I still can't think of myself like that. God knows what I'll be like with people cooing over me and asking me if I'm excited to be having my first baby, and me trying to not to snap back "This is my 4th, and no it's not bloody exciting, it's terrifying!". Unfortunately I doubt it'll be a secret for much longer as I have zilch stomach muscles and already have a bump

Feeling a little better, until I stand up, blurgh!

Oh yes sorry butterfly GORGEOUS picture. Must be v lovely.

Right the fear is building big-time. I have just had a shower and I swear my boobs don't feel as swollen and big as they have done before. I feel zonked and bloated but these drugs are v powerful so I can't take those symptoms seriously. Argh. What happens if there is no heartbeat, or it has grown in a funny way or it isn't even there?! I am not sure how I'd cope with bad news. There has been so much this year after 4 failed pregnancies. I have already lost so much. I couldn't face it. Oh gosh, if there is a god please please please listen to my prayers. I only want one baby. Just one healthy one, that's all. Please.
xxx