Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Good luck this afternoon Kate! I will be thinking about you!

Had a scan this morning due to the discharge - and we got to see a very regular strong little heartbeat, and they've dates me at 6 + 5! Very early but OMG that little flicker was probably the most amazing thing I've ever seen.

Hope you are all doing ok 🙂 Xx

Hurrah Lottie! Great news. I hope the discharge buggers off, or at least goes back to clear now. I make epic amounts of it in the first tri, but that wet knicker feeling is very alarming.

kate handhold & a hug for you (()) How long til you can set off? Sometimes being able to actually do something helps a bit, the waiting is awful. Everything crossed for you.

Thanks so much girls. It's at 2.30. Just at station to pick up DH then driving to the hospital. If it goes wrong, we will get through it. We have a holiday booked, exciting house plans and we love each other. This is what I keep telling myself to keep myself calm! I am sweating bricks though. Argh!!! Xxx

Thinking of you this afternoon, Kate. Hope it all goes well.

Wonderful news all round yesterday, and for Lottie today, so happy for everyone who got positive news.

Mac and Butterfly, my thoughts on 'telling people' were exactly the same. Sadly, I did not enjoy the process at all and can completely relate to the stress it brings on. People are programmed to react positively (why wouldn't they?) to the happy news and it has been hard to know what to say to people (the vast majority) who never knew I lost pregnancies when they comment on how excited etc. I must be feeling.

I insisted on waiting until after the NT results for friends and family and until this week (post 20 weeks scan) for work people so it can be done! If that is what you want to do then its an absolutely valid decision. As for it being 'out there in the wide world', I guess for me it still kind of isn't. I mean to say that there has not been (and will not be) a social media style announcement / public posting of scan photos / references to babies or pregnancies in status updates or similar. We told our immediate families, close friends and (on a need to know basis) work colleagues - as for acquaintances, people I see once in a blue moon etc etc they will either hear it on the grapevine, I'll tell them myself if / when I see them or they will find out when the baby is born. For me it is damage limitation - I decided to tell no-one personally who I wouldn't want to talk to if it all went wrong.

What is going to be easiest on you? Whatever that is, that's what you should do. It's your news to tell whenever and however you choose to tell it. Good luck with it, and every sympathy from me .

I have absolutely everything crossed for you right now hopefulkate.

The thought of putting anything on social media brings me out in a cold sweat! I've seen a lot of people put 12 week scans up but it's not something I could ever bring myself to do. We both agreed not to put anything pregnancy related up at all.

At this stage only family and very close friends will get to know. That still makes me feel slightly out my comfort zone though! mike I would love to keep it out of work till after the 20 week scan. Well they never noticed all the morning sickness so hopefully they won't notice my belly getting bigger

Each to their own! I imagine for many, getting all those comments from people far and wide brings joy, and that's lovely. A cold sweat is how I felt even telling our closest people so there is no way I would choose the Facebook way myself.

As for work, it does kind of depend what you do I suppose, along with what size you were / are and how you are expected to dress. My workplace is casual-ish and although I look enormous to me / in tight fitting clothes, I genuinely think they had no idea until I told them on Monday this week (20+4). At least that is what they claimed so its either that or they were all polite enough to say nothing, in which case I am grateful. I've been wearing lots of shift dresses and baggy shirts and have just made my peace with the fact that I have been looking overweight! If you are happy with that arrangement, don't work with anyone who is likely to out you (whether through friendship or nosiness) and won't be endangering the baby, I'd say its perfectly possible. Most people would say nothing even if they suspected.

If it's any consolation, although I didn't enjoy the process, I did feel better once the news-breaking to family and friends was out the way. It was almost like the anxiety that built up around having to have all those conversations dissipated once I'd had them.

Last time I ended up announcing on facebook when I was about 17 weeks (DD pregnancy). I only did it though because people who knew in real life kept 'outing' me in comments and I found deleting them all the time exhausting!

I'm around 6 weeks now. Getting lots of ligament pain and I had a pain across the bottom of my abdomen earlier today. Don't know if that means anything. Apart from that I don't have much in the way of symptoms.

I had a scare last week when I found I had been exposed to slapped cheek! PANIC! I texted my mum to ask her if I had it when I was little and she couldn't remember and was wondering why I was bothered about a mild illness (she doesn't know I am pg). Anyway a bloodtest confirms that I had it when I was younger.

I am probably going to have to let work know before 12 weeks because I wear a uniform and am probably going to have to ask for a maternity one.....I am dreading this. I haven't worked there long and have almost nothing to do with my 'boss' normally so have no idea how they will react.

We've got a heartbeat!!! And the little one is measuring perfectly for 7 weeks!!!! Such a bloody relief. Thanks so much for all your support and crossed fingers.. Xxxx

Hooooray! Congrats Kate! Bloody wonderful news all around 🤗

Hurray so so happy for you

YAY! So happy for you Kate this is a great week for our thread!

butterfly and Mac I'm thinking the same as you and planning not to make any wider announcements until after the 20 week scan, if then. Now I have the 12 week scan photos I'm planning to share them with the people who I'd already told anyway as and when I see them, and we'll also tell other close friends and family who we see before the 20 week mark if it gets obvious due to my rapidly changing and expanding shape/ people ask directly/ we want to. So far I haven't had to fib or directly lie to anyone and would prefer to keep it that way. I've told my manager and it's been great to have her support, and practically it also helps to be able to take time off for maternity appointments, but I'm planning not to tell the rest of my colleagues until my 20 week scan unless they ask directly or there's a reason I need to tell them. Like you said Mike it's a personal choice how we do it. Legally you could even go to 25 weeks before telling work if you really wanted, and nobody else needs to know until its obvious unless you choose to tell them.

Excellent news on the scans again! Lovely that there is so many of you at similar stages

Hope all those that want to keep things quiet a bit longer manage it without anyone guessing! Don't think I started to show until 20 weeks so it is doable. However, I had to tell work about my pregnancies straight away due to the working environment so I didn't have to think about hiding it.

So lovely to see more good news. Congratulations!

Kate - so pleased! Congratulations.

The panic is setting in for me now.
Please say a little prayer or good thought for me tomorrow everyone!

Good luck today! You will be in my thoughts! We've had a good run of news so far so I'm sure you will be fine too! 🙂

Good good luck Nasch!!!! Thinking of you. What time is it? You'll be great xxx

kate that's brilliant Was that a private scan or are you being scanned regularly as part of your care? Just wondering if you've got another one before the dating scan?

nasch wishing you lots of luck today. What time is yours?

I'm back to hospital today for my nuchal scan & bloods (bit of a cock up, long winded story though) so hoping the measurements all look ok and looking forward to having another look.

Thanks butterfly! It was on the NHS. I'm under a recurrent miscarriage clinic as I've had 4 miscarriages so they scan every two weeks. I'll have one more with them, then if we get this far, I'll have my usual dating scan as normal under our local hospital.

GOOD LUCK for today! Are you taking your DD? Xxx

Morning ladies, good luck today nasch.

Can I ask how you all deal with a bad headache at the moment? I've had a terrible one since yesterday and usually a nights sleep shifts it, not this one though. Woke up with it still there and I can't bear a whole day of it! Currently sitting with a cold flannel on my head which helps while I sit still but as soon as I move my head pounds again.

Thanks for the good wishes. Not until 4pm so I'm keeping busy until then.

I've woken up with a headache Lynsey. No good tips I'm afraid but sympathy.

I'll check in later. Eek.

Does paracetamol not help lynsey? Are we even allowed to take that?! Xxx

NoI'm not taking DD, she's still in school thankfully as they have a very strict no children in scan rooms policy here.

Oh no lynsey. I've had a fair few of those, it;s miserable. Definitely take paracetamol and make sure you're drinking enough. I find screens make them worse. Keep going with the cold compress. A fan might help?

Good thoughts for you today Nasch!

I'd like to say I've tried paracetamol but when I finally caved in and went looking for some, I have none!! Who doesn't have paracetamol in their medicine cupboard?! I can't go out as waiting in for a workman :-/

My fan has been on for so long over the last few days I'm scared it might blow up! Did keep a little one by the bed last night and actually managed to sleep through it which was an improvement. Thankfully the only screen I've needed to look at is my phone so no tvs or computer today.
Wondering if lack of fluids is an issue as still struggling with what I want/can face. I'm just sipping at things instead of guzzling like I usually would in this heat!
This is the first year I've really wanted a cooler summer and we've had the opposite the last few days. Done nothing but moan, sweat and moan some more!!

Good luck today nasch.

Hope baby co-operates for the nuchal test butterfly! Ours got very upset at being moved about by the sonographer, DH thinks baby is like me!

Shame you have no paracetamol lynsey. If it's a headache because your nose is blocked sometimes steam in the shower helps