Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

mrs I'm just catching up. I'll pm you but so pleased your me was reassuring. Like whats said it may be worth checking it out at some point but glad you don't need to worry at the mo.

Thanks for the good luck. I've been sick twice tonight but again I can't tell if it's fear or fetus. Fingers crossed. Xxx

Me = mw

Hya ladies, I thought I'd join in if that's ok.
I've 5 children and had 3 miscarriages, in between having my children.
The last time it happened was November last year and it was another MMC, I've had 2 of those and one early normal one of you like.
I've left off trying for my final baby because of the fear of it happening again as it was an extremely traumatic event last time where I had to have intervention which led me to haemorrhage and have to have emergency surgery.
My husband was very supportive and said that although he thinks we've got at least 4 too many kids as it is lol that when I was ready we could try for our last baby, I felt like last month felt like a good month and it seems I have been extremely fortunate to fall pregnant straightaway, seemingly being 22dpo (5wks + 1 day) and have been getting BFP since 11dpo.
I'm just absolutely terrified as the thought of going through the loss again is doing me in😥 Obviously when trying to turn to my common sense (which I do actually have some of, even though I have 5 kids lol) I'm trying to be positive and say, come on girl you given birth to 5 healthy children the body hasn't failed you always, I'm kinda struggling.
Would be nice to find a friend or too that can relate xxxx

Iam going to start at page 1 catch myself up on your stories x

Good luck for the scans ladies! Will be checking back throughout the day!

Welcome xxbec. Sorry to hear of your losses but well done for having 5 kids! My DH would love a big family but we're still trying to have baby number 1! I had a mmc at 12 weeks (baby measured approx 8+4) which was medically managed and horrendous, and an early natural miscarriage at 6 weeks.

Currently 8+5.

Shall we do a round up of where everyone is, I can't keep up??

Good luck to everyone with scans today.

Welcome xxbec and congrats on your BFP. Sorry for your losses. I had a MC in March and I'm struggling with being pg again because I'm so frightened!

Good idea purple... I'm 5+6

Welcome xxbec. Sorry for your losses. I'm struggling to get baby number one after 4 MCs at various stages, but with or without kids, miscarriages are the cruellest thing and I wish you every luck in this pregnancy. You'll find some friends here!

Thanks for the luck everyone. How you feeling this morning dino? It's a mad house here this morning with builders so I haven't thought about it properly yet. But I'm sure the fear is lurking round the corner!

For the round up I'm 12w2 today. Three scans down, one more today. Argh!!

Xx

Bleeding heavily this am. So time for me to bow out wishing you all healthy happy pregnancies x

So sorry feline take care of yourself.

Oh god feline I'm so very sorry. Hope you have lots of support. It's the worst thing but it will get better I promise. Lots of hugs xxx

Thanks for the lovely welcome girl is, I've spent the last hour and a half reading through the posts so I'm caught up with where you guys at at!
You have got to experience it to have any understanding of how overwhelming life ruining it can be, my first MMC was at a 12 week scan, although I had failed to grow past 5 weeks. The second MC was bleeding just after I had taken a test and although that was grim it kinda came and went and just left emotional scars. The last one was just horrendous as I had had the previous MC I rang the EPU straight away and started all the shanagins of bloods etc, various scans, lovely growth, heartbeats up until past 8 weeks then went for the Nuchal at 12+ to discover that I'd stop growing again at 9+6.
Then I was absolutely trashed at the thought of being put under for an ERPC so I took the medical management route which just went pear shaped!
I'm kinda feeling like what will be will be this time and holding myself back from rushing to the doctors and going through all that again!!
Purple you have had a mad rollercoaster ride, your posst have made me so happy seeing you through your worrisome times to your good news, so pleased for you.
And Kate my fingers are crossed for you scan today xxxx
And JPEG as we seem to be in a similar place right now I'll be keeping my eye on you xxxxx
I dared to look but I should be due around my birthday in April which would be amazing as all our other children's birthdays are within the same 4 weeks of the year an one of them is even on the same day as my husband! Wouldn't that be something if I had one on my birthday too, dare to dream eh xxx

Feline you are in my thoughts x

Sorry for your losses xxbec, it's wonderful you have 5 kids.

I'm 12 weeks exactly today.

I'm really nervous hopeful trying to eat breakfast & tidy house up so I'm distracted just seems odd doing housework before 8am.

We're hopefully announcing today if everything is okay which I hope will help my anxieties & make this one seem more real.

Got 45 minutes. Just waiting for MIL to come & then off.

So sorry feline, hope you have lots of IRL support. Good luck today Kate and Dino.

Good luck today kate and dino.
feline so very sorry to hear your bleeding...don't want to put my foot in it but bleeding in pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean the end? Is there definitely no hope? Sorry if I've missed something, trying to catch up now. Lots of hugs your way xx
Welcome to xxbec. Your in a similar position to me in the respect I have 3 kids and mc'd twice. So sorry you've had to go through it so many times. I found that the hardest thing to understand, how can I have healthy kids then suffer the heartbreak of mc.
You have the same attitude as I did at the start of this pregnancy, what will be, will be. I'm now 15+6 :-)

So sorry to hear that Feline. Take care of yourself.

Welcome Xxbec. Sorry for your losses.
I'm 13+6 with Baby 1 after a molar pregnancy last year.

Got my fingers crossed for you dino, hoping you put up a lovely pic at some point today!

Do you know what your having Lynsey?
I'm the worlds most impatient person when it comes to gender, I book privately for a 16 week gender the minute I have the 12week scan and then I always lie and say I'm 16 when I'm more 15 + lol
Im a maniac!
I used to have to travel quite far but there's now been a window to the womb open up right on my door step and I've got a feeling of all goes well I might be there best customer especially as scans are only £50 there.
My eldest is getting ready to go and pick up his GCSE results now I'm frickin poopin my pants for him!

Haha not yet. I got a bit too stressed over it so trying not to put any thought into it. I want to book a gender scan but partner refusing to go until kids back at school! That's not until the wk beginning the 5th September (my birthday!!).
£50 is great, mine will be £70. They take half of that as a deposit at booking though so kinda spreads the cost a little bit!

I am spotting today, only a tiny bit but it's making me a bit anxious because I had a couple of drops yesterday and it's increased slightly today. I am 5+1 so coming up to the time I MC last time (5+4).

If anyone has positive spotting stories please tell me :) I know it can be normal and harmless but it is hard not to worry.

So sorry feline I hope your ok. Thinking of you.

Just popped in to say good luck to today's scanners.

Sorry for this totally selfish me moment but I'm going to have to bow out the thread for a bit. My due date is coming up and I'm on my own. I'm starting to feel overwhelmed with sadness. Not helped by SIL being due any day and having to pretend I'm happy and everything is ok when I'm screaming inside I should be due now too. It's horrible how everyone assumes that just because your pregnant again you will forget about everything. Also getting the scanxiety again and decided everything is wrong. Baby also not as active as some others on the thread at the same stage as me which is increasing my anxiety. It's probably just me not recognising movement as this is my first to get to this stage.

18+3 today. Sorry just had to vent all this somewhere.

Bertie, brown blood is old blood and red blood is the only blood that you should ever really worry about.
My brown bloods from my First MMC where followed promptly by bright red fresh stuff so thats when I started knowing my body had a problem.
So many things happen to your womb and cervix during early pregnancy and a little extra shift over here or there can dislodge a little anything.
Some of my friends have literally bled through entire pregnancys, one friend had gushing haemorrhages and still went on to full term and has had a healthy baby.
Each of my 5 heathy pregnancys has been so different, also my body has been a bit used and abused mind, so maybe I'm not the norm, but I lay there last nite and had that excited feeling that I knew there was a little something down there, and I said to him/her that I support and love it already, as much as that makes me sounds like an airy fairy twat lol I found comfort in that somehow.
Yes we do know that some of our bodies have difficulty, from everyone's posts we all have had similar and different struggles, I think my advice to you would be that you need to try to trust In your body, try to breath and relax and know that whenever it will be, the baby you hold In your arms, the one who's little squinting eyes try to focus on your face and that beautiful little newborn smell that they have when you sniff their tiny heads, that will be the baby you are meant to have.
I was devasted when I had my early MC but then went on to have my little Frank, what a beauty he is, and he's nearly 4 now and I call him mummy's little pet and he's calls me his best friend and as hard as that MC was, when he was in my arms the losses kind of made sense, because he was who I was supposed to have.
Difficult words to you ladies who are still awaiting that first precious little one so I know im fortunate in speaking from a place heind sight but please trust in what I'm saying xxxxx

Yes it is red though. But it's so little I'm not sure whether to worry. Could just be nothing/irritation to cervix/whatever. Argh. So difficult to know what to think really.

I think I will be a bit gutted if I lose this one since it's due around the time I lost the last one. Plus DS was saying this morning he wishes he had a brother or sister who was 5 or 6, he doesn't want to wait until he's 9 for a sibling. I want to tell him that I'm pregnant but don't want to get him excited too early.

I feel laid back because I know given our issues, if I mc early it's likely there were problems with the baby, better early than later on, that not much I can do will actively cause mc but also that there's not much I can do to prevent one. I mean yes I've lifted some things, had sex - but I don't realistically think in our case that lifting a trolley full of shopping up some stairs is a disaster. If it's OK in there I'm not likely to shift it by accident.

It's just frustrating, mostly, not knowing what will happen.

Macauley

Macauley can I add to you that I had my due date from my MMC on the 19th of May, and the biggest hardest part was that all the girls who had announced at the same time as me all had their babies an I had nothing, then to top it off one of the girls is so unloving and kinda mwah about her baby that I was like a raging fire ball inside thinking that lovely little baby if she'd of been mine wouldn't have been put down, she's of been literally smothered with love.
We have these personal struggles and sometimes I think it's only natural human nature to not give a fuck about other people and despise them for their good luck and our seemingly shit hands we've been dealt, I just think the trick is to embrace that shitty part of us and those feelings and live them out but then to move on from then and don't let them consume you.
Your SIL may be due now at this difficult time for you but her baby will be old news when your bouncing newborn comes along!
Yours will be cute and lovely and new and hers will look like a giant lol it happened with my sister, our babies where 8 months apart and when she had hers I was like my looks about 3 off to hers and nobody really paid my baby any attention because there was a lovely new cute newborn hangin around lol

And can I also just add that please don't compare your baby with others as you could have really strong stomach muscles and only fee your bubs going mad when he or she is in a certain place, also boys and girls are different carrying aswell, like clockwork my boys where all day movers on and off and my girls where so lazy, they shifted more than kicked.
Please do your 10 kicks a day count and then if you still fee worrisome ring your midwife, she will reassure you no end and maybe even a trip to the MAU for a nice trace on the baby would be nice to put you at ease my love xxxxx

mac I hope you feel stronger soon. Your doing so well and it's totally understandable to be feeling the way you do. Remember not one of us think you are selfish and we are all here to lend an ear. If you need time out, do what you feel is right for you, we'll be right here waiting for when your ready to talk xx

You know Macauley is it deffo coming from the inside?
I know tmi ovs, that everytime I wee I wipe so hard looking for blood that I have actually have like Chaffed myself down there before and caused myself a little bit of a bleed, maybe it worth washing your hands and putting your finger inside a little and do a little sweep round, not up by the cervix just a little ways Into the canal part if you like lol and see how your finger looks when you have had a little wiggle round, if it's clear then it may be the same as I mentioned about wiping?

Bertie not Macauley sorry Xbox