Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Congratulations sophie!! So nice to see positive stories.

Ok so the obstetrician is going to see me on the 17th and may have some advice back from microbiologists on Monday so GP can get me started on antibiotics in the meantime.

I'm handing another sample in on Monday as I still feel I have the infection. My back is sore and I have a definite fever - between 37.5-38.

Do you think this is definitely infection related or could it be just a normal part of pregnancy? The temp raise I mean. Obviously it's not really high but technically anything over 37.5 is classes as a temperature.

I can't decide whether it's better to take paracetomol to bring it down or try and ride it out. My doc said if symptoms got worse then to go to out of hours.

I'll post properly in a bit. Xx

If it helps tinklypoo I did all the pelvic floor I could after DS & still do every day & now every third sneeze with this cold I pee myself a little.

(Also have milk bursting out but think that's down to breastfeeding.)

That's good news Purple & moving forwards. Not sure about temp, mines high due to cold but I know with DS even winter I didn't need much on as I felt warm constantly.

Trying to not eat the contents of my kitchen.

Midwife said I'm being referred to consultant led due to MC's but they may just see me once & discharge me. Seeing the RMC on Tuesday anyway so will see what they say.

Hope everyone has a good evening.

Just catching up properly now.

Lyndsey congratulations ! Must feel such a relief to move into next trimester

Butterfly, so sorry to hear how you are feeling. It's totally expected with what you have been through though. You are such an inspiration and I have total respect for you. And yes I am who you think I am! Sorry for not saying earlier. I was caught up in my drama re the infection.

The consultant emailed so I've just asked her re temp and she said to take paracetomol when it goes above 37.5 and drink plenty fluids. Funny that because I woke up feeling extremely thirsty this morning. I've gone off the taste of water so think I'll have dilute. Need to keep sipping.

Been invited to a party tomorrow but not up to going at the moment. Will see how I feel in the morning.

I'm 5+5 today but pretty sure I'm generally a late ovulater so will probably be behind that.

Next blood test on Monday. Just trying to get through each small milestone.

Happy weekend everyone xx

purple fizzy water might help. I can't drink still water for some reason but can drink fizzy water.

purple so pleased you are being treated. Lots of love xxx

Thank you just feel overwhelmed and who knows what the outcome will be but just got to take it a day at a time and sometimes even an hour at a time!

Congratulations Sophia! Dont leave hospital until you have feeding 100,% sorted. We ended up back in hospital due to feeding issues. Keep a close eye that he's weeing enough and enjoy your little one! x

Hugs and xxxxs to all

Happy Saturday everyone. Hope everyone is going okay x

Is becoming obsessed with germs and cleaning a pregnancy thing? Honestly can't get out of my head the idea of cleaning out the fridge and every cupboard. One step away from buying a steam cleaner.
I have zero good cravings but this compulsion to have a very clean spotless house! This is so not me not that I'm usually a mink or anything! Spent ages in the cleaning product aisle at the shop the other day

I think that is nesting . When my dd was born in ended up going through a bottle of dettol every few days!

Well when I was doing the washing up I did think about buying Milton to bleach the inside of the cups.

Haha just do it! I'm decorating the living room at the minute. Covering my nephews sticky hand prints with fresh paint is heavenly!

Hi everyone from Croatia! How are you all doing??

Having a lovely time although there is something v anxiety inducing about spending all day trotting about in a bikini!!! It makes me heightened to every bodily change or lack of. I start the day with a rounded but relatively flat tummy then by the end of the day it's swollen and rock solid. Not sure if it's the drugs or hormones causing that. I've had some days where I feel sick + ravenous all at once, others less so. Feels a long way from my next scan which is a week on Wednesday. Trying to relax and enjoy the holiday but deep down the true break or holiday I need is a break from the pain and heartache of the last year. If we have a good scan at 11 weeks that will be the equivalent of a year in Mauritius for me!! Please life give us the break we need.

Anyway sorry to be self-absorbed. Just lots of time to think I guess!!!

Xx

Well I'm back in the midst of the migraines. Started yesterday and although I took paracetamol, nothing is shifting it.
I'm usually quite lucky and a nights sleep tends to solve the problem but last time this lasted for 4 days and looks like I'm heading for the same.
Also keep waking up really hungry and that makes me feel sick so making breakfast for us all is a struggle. Got a real 'poor me' attitude today.
Now I'm at the beginning of the second trimester, I was hoping for that miracle of feeling energised and healthy again but of course, that hasn't happened!!

Hope everyone else is feeling well and enjoying the sunshine, I'm going to be spending the day doing my best to avoid it.

Morning everyone, hope everyone is well.

I doing ok thanks. Next bloods are tomorrow. See what they come back as.

Kate, my tummy is already very bloated and sticking out! It doesn't help that my stomach muscles are so weak since my op. Bet Croatia is lovely know what you mean about the real kinda break we all need. Hopefully we will get it. Are you having private scans? The NHS offered me one early scan.

Lynsey sorry to hear you have a migraine. Could you try going for acupuncture?

Does anyone know how reassuring rising HCG levels are? What are the chances of things still being wrong?

6 weeks today.

lynsey I believed that too! But 3 weeks later it is starting to lift and the sickness is every second day now and getting a little more energy.

I hope your migraine lifts they are really awful things.

purple good luck for your bloods. As you probably know, generally they should double every 48-72 hours but when they get over a few thousand that rate slows down. However as my consultant said a third of pregnancies don't follow the rule and increase at a slower rate. They are seen as a v reliable indication of a viable pregnancy before a heartbeat is detected on a scan. This is what I was told by my consultant. Fingers crossed. Xxx

lynsey that sounds so miserable. I'm not sure what to suggest but hope you get some relief soon.

lynsey I am suffering with you on team headache. Day 2 of a bastard that paracetamol is not touching, it's horrible. Much sympathy. Out of interest, does anyone know why we can't take ibuprofen? I've always found it so much more effective than paracetamol and am finding myself looking at the packet longingly. I won't take them, but I'd like to know why I can't!

Mrsunsure I've been thinking of you. How are you getting on?

purple I thought it must be you! Are you feeling better on the antibiotics? Fingers crossed your bloods tomorrow show another rise. Have they said how soon they can do an early scan? Most places I think will do from 7 weeks.

Hope baby is settling in and feeding well sophia.

mac I have fond memories of end stage nesting - I was so fixated on cleaning my kitchen that I ended up sugar soaping all the walls down and scrubbing skirting boards a week or so before DD was born. Still, the midwives are very pro any all fours cleaning etc as it's great for getting the baby properly positioned at the end. My house standards have shot up over the last couple of weeks too, constantly hoovering and wiping and I have rediscovered ironing (not done that for about 8 years!)

I had a bit of a horrible day yesterday at my parents, along with some of the extended family. DD merrily announced at lunch that "mummy has a baby in her tummy" which I really was hoping she wouldn't... cue much awkwardness as I was very cagey and didn't want to elaborate. Then my mum lept in to forcefully tell me that it "really was time I phoned my grandmother - her mum - and told her because it's making it very awkward for me!" I can't help but think, erm, how?! I mean, all you have to do is not announce that I am pregnant. What do you normally talk about when I am not pregnant ffs? Try talking about that. I just felt a bit picked on, and it just reinforces the lonely feeling that no one else understands how hard this is and how little I feel like announcing anything thank you very much. I feel very frightened and vulnerable and I'm not coping well being around people at the moment, and I'm just scared of what my or may not be happening inside my own body. There's no escape from that. My sleep has gone to pot and I am worn out and stressed and the last thing I need is family pressure to do it how other people would like.
Sometimes I feel a bit guilty and sorry for her, because let's be honest, your daughter having a baby is something that only happens a couple of times and I'm sure she'd love to talk about every little detail and rub bumps/feel movement/talk excitement etc and I feel like I take that from her by shutting down completely on them and keeping it all incredibly private. But then I think, you know what, it's not like it has gone as I hoped either, and I have definitely had the shittier end of the stick, and I just have to cope in any way I can. It's not easy is it.

Thanks ladies, I've spent all morning on the sofa and my boys are thankfully entertaining themselves quite nicely. I'm trying to keep my eyes closed and not look at much! Just got a bit bored, hence being on my phone and this post!

purple I'm not sure about prices for acupuncture? Is it expensive? Also very scared of needles so puts me off!

mac I also have good days, managed to give my kitchen a really good clean the other day and although my head started yesterday, I ignored it long enough to finally go back in the garden to mow and take the kids for a good walk. By evening I was in agony and crawled into bed praying for it to be better this morning...no such luck!!

Thank you kate. I hope you are still enjoying your holiday, I also had a hard belly in the early stages and thought that ment I'd be massive if I carried on that way but whilst I now have a visibly rounded belly, it's not anywhere near as bad or heavy.

butterfly I also have always gone for ibuprofen over anything else so I hear your frustration! I can't remember why they tell you not to take it. I can literally hear/feel the blood rushing around my head, it's horrid.
I'm sorry to hear you had a rough time of it at the family gathering, kids eh? As for your mum, I can see her excitement but obviously knowing what you've been through, it's a shame she's not more supportive for you and the want to keep it quiet. My Mum is like the secret service so I don't really know how to advise but I hope you can reach a common ground.

I think I'm quite on my own on this thread saying I felt a relief letting others know about my pregnancy, but everyone is different. I hated the secrecy and (very shallow of me) people thinking I was piling on the pounds! Those closest to me know my history so have quietly said 'congratulations' and left it at that. The others have just done the usual and wanted to know the basics, how far along and due date etc. As I don't live near any of my friends, I don't see anyone regular enough to be hounded.
What a long and confusing journey pregnancy after mc is.

I think you'll probably find someone for £30. Apparently it's really effective for migraines although I'm not speaking from personal experience!

Thanks Kate and butterfly. If the bloods tomorrow go well then I'll give the EPU a phone this week and try and book in next week. See what happens on Tuesday afternoon when I get tomorrow's blood results.

Mrs how are you getting on? I've been thinking of you.

Reading the weekend updates I'm most struck by people's resilience on this thread.

Lynsey you're not on your own with finding it a relief to tell people, I'm telling people in small manageable batches so it feels workable and not too out of control at once, but I feel a bit lighter each time I do. I'm someone who likes to be authentic and honest so not being open about something very important to me was putting a bigger strain on me than I realised I think.

I'm 14+6 today.

On a general note, can I ask when people have felt first movements in their babies? I'm wondering if that might happen soon, as my Ovia app said it might, but google says it's common not to feel anything until 25 weeks.

And congratulations Sophia, it's lovely to read ultimate success stories of babies coming at the end of the journey!

lynsey acupuncture needles don't really look like needles, they are extremely thin bits of wire essentially, they are placed on your skin in a plastic tube and the acupuncturist sort of taps the top of the tube and the needle very lightly goes into the top layer of the skin.

It's years since I last had it but I don't remember it hurting. Go for it if you think it might help. I always had reflexology at the same time whilst the needles were doing their work and that was lovely!

I felt flutters at about 12-13 weeks with this one but it is my 3rd pregnancy (I lost number 2 at 13 weeks but baby died at 8 weeks). With dd (my first) I felt flutters at 15 weeks I think.

Morning everyone, just wanted to say that I've noticed my boobs this past week have slowly got less and less sore, today they are completely normal. Also I seem to have lost the tiredness symptom and have had quite a lot of energy the past two days. The heightened sense of smell and lightheaded feeling has also gone.

I'm just keeping an open mind and preparing myself mentally.

I know symptoms come and go and I'm not looking for any advice as such, just wanted to get it out there. Thanks for listening!